posted October 12, 2017 06:13 AM
This is really interesting - I have both of these with someone. My venus conj his NN (0-1deg), his moon conj my NN (2-3deg).We are good friends (and would love to be more), we're not together at this moment in time, but could be in the future.
A lot of NN contacts depend on where you are in your own NN journey - ie where you are moving away from the SN 'habits' towards your NN 'goals'. If you've started to realise this journey yourself, you're more likely to experience the benefit of a contact in synastry as the person will 'pull' you towards the bigger picture goal.
If you're not ready on a personal level for the NN lessons and experience (remember, SN is where we feel comfortable, NN is alien at first), the contact will feel uncomfortable. Similarly, with SN contacts, they feel amazing and comfortable to begin with, but you can often get to a place where you outgrow those habits and it becomes time to move on.
So - preamble out the way. This is my experience of both of these contacts to date.
My venus on his NN feels like... People talk about this as an unrequited love or delayed love aspect and I can totally see that. I absolutely love him - but he's not ready at this moment in time to experience that. We have an incredible connection together, and love spending time together - but are often unable to do so at the moment.
There are signs though of my venus pulling him towards his destiny/bigger picture. My venus is in gemini, and he has huge problems with communicating effectively - a classic Sag SN plus sun-merc-saturn stellium trope. My one useful skill in this world is communicating - so he comes to me for help with reports, public speaking etc - on a practical and confidence level.
By contrast, as the NN with his moon on mine. I really struggle with dealing with emotions - I'm a bottler and really struggle to trust people enough to open up. Again - a classic aqua SN theme of coolness. I also have mars tightly conjunct my NN, which adds some spice ha.
This guy is the only one who is capable of calming me down when I get very stressed. Usually people inflame the situation which doesn't help as I go into a red mist and can't see clearly. Even being in the same room as him, or just walking a short distance in a moment of stress takes the heat out of the situation and I can see things clearly. This helps me deal with how I'm feeling and is a very bonding experience.
The big difference between us is that I've just had my second Nodal return, whereas he's a couple of years off his. As a result, I'm more in my NN than he is - he has some SN resolving he needs to do still before he's properly ready for the full connection.
We have other connections and aspects too, but I do feel that these two can be delineated quite nicely.
TL;DR: Venus plus NN, a very sweet, caring, loving bond. Felt first by the Venus person.
Moon plus NN, very deep, emotional connection, possibly felt first by moon person. Actually just remembered that his asteroid Union is also exactly on my NN.
Both are incredibly deep connections - but there needs to be a certain amount of readiness to experience the NN journey.