posted January 17, 2018 07:32 PM            

The only drawback I see is Mars conjunct Juno square Uranus in Scorpio. There may be moments where one of them wants to leave the relationship but It can also manifest as sexual attraction.

posted January 18, 2018 05:32 AM            

I am awaiting a complicated and convoluted back story ;-) (implied and promised!)

posted January 19, 2018 09:54 AM            

Here's their synastry (male is outside, birth times are 99% accurate):

His natal:

Her natal:

Ok so for the back story...they met on a dating website and started dating pretty much right away in June 2015. Neither of them had much luck with relationships prior to meeting. She was in a long-term on/off relationship with a much older man that was basically a waste of time. He had more shorter term relationships with women that were all wrong for him.

She is 5 years older than him, and their tastes couldn't be any more different. She is more the quieter bookworm, and he is all tattooed with an edgier past. She moved in within 6 months of dating I think. He does work A LOT. His family owns/operates a business and he travels a lot. She mainly works from and stays home. From the beginning we just thought she was an interesting choice for him because their lifestyles prior to meeting were just so DIFFERENT.

The one "flag" if you will from the very beginning was her desperation to have a child. It's almost as if as soon as they met it was full steam ahead - moving in quickly, trying for a child right away, it all seemed so fast. Again she is 5 years older than him, and turning 40 this year, so our fear is that she saw him as her "last chance" to have that stability and a child. They have unfortunately been struggling with fertility issues and so their life has been a roller coaster of emotion, including her falling into a bit of a depression because of it. Their entire lives surround this issue almost like they are drowning in it. He did end up proposing to her in the midst of all of it last April, but because of the ups and downs they never set a wedding date...until December and now they are getting married in May!

Our fear, as his friend first, is that she put so much pressure on him from the beginning, and he was thrust into all of this before he was ready. We did sense a bit of hesitation from him in December when discussing their future together, but then a few short weeks later we get a surprise message that the wedding was booked and they're barreling ahead! We think it makes HER feel better because she was probably worried that without that commitment, he would leave her for a younger woman and not have to go through these issues.

posted January 20, 2018 10:46 AM            

I can see this in the composite chart that Moon in the 5th house square Jupiter/Saturn - that screams lets rush having a baby. Sure their Moon - Moon synastry conjunction probably lead to immediate closeness but I don't think its going to last. Especially with no real DESC synastry connections. Plus that Sun conjunction Neptune is another red flag in their synastry.

Goes to show how important inter aspects are compared to just evaluating a composite chart.

posted January 23, 2018 12:59 AM            

Now to him:
His Dsc is in Virgo and his Dsc ruler Mercury is in Pisces plus square Neptune, so he definitely needs Pisces energy from his partner. She mirrors that by having Neptune conjunct her Asc and her Sun. Her Sun is conjunct his Asc ruler and square his Dsc ruler, these are strong contacts. Their Moons are conjunct in Cancer and this is really beautiful.
He has Saturn and Pluto in H7. Well, she does have Sun square Saturn and she is older than him, so the Cap requirement is met. Her Venus is in Scorpio so the Pluto/Scorpio part is also covered.

The problem I see here are their Venuses. He has a Taurus Venus opposite Saturn and she has Scorpio Venus conjunct Uranus. Both are detached but not for the same reasons. His Cap colored Venus doesn't like grandiose displays of affection, likes emotional stability and reservedness in a woman. I don't think she can give him that with her Scorpio Venus. She needs depth and bonding but will detach abruptly when she actually reaches that. Because that's what Uranus does to her Venus. She likes something only when it escapes her but feels overwhelmed when she actually has it.
They could probably have a problem with giving affection to each other down the road.

posted January 23, 2018 03:01 PM            

The fact that hers is in the 7th and his is in the 4th suggests that both are looking for that special someone.

Interestingly Chiron is in her 4th house: Some painful issues there related to upbringing or wanting a sense of stability. The square of Chiron to Jupiter in Leo could be money issues when growing up?

His Moon in 4th sextile her Chiron soothes that. As he is also longing to feel a sense of belonging. His emphasis on emotional security is quite strong.

Her 5th house ruler (Venus) is conjunct Uranus in Scorpio and square Juno in Aquarius. I don't think she minds the age gap and maybe even was drawn to him because of it. She is used to having relationships that are "out of the ordinary".

And I also suspect that adoption or some unusual child -bearing/child rearing situation will occur i.e surrogacy, adoption, manual fertilization etc.

Moon in 7th wants companionship.And when in Cancer,it can border on an overly dependent nature that doesn't know where their feelings start and those of the partner end.

Pluto in Libra in 10th suggests that she measures herself and reputation according to the kind of relationships she has with other people. So companionship/ marriage may be of extreme importance to her.

I think this once again highlights the Chiron in her 4th house in Taurus. Wanting some sort of stability and security emotionally.Wanting to belong.

And the fact that Moon in Cancer opposes Mars in Capricorn, Uranus-Venus is in smoldering Scorpio squaring Juno in Aquarius, blowing hot/cold is her love nature stamp.

So she may expect him to be the calm in her ever changing storms.

In his chart, he has the opposition of Venus in Taurus with Saturn in Scorpio which suggests that he chooses difficult partners with emotional issues(Saturn in Scorpio). This is the challenge that he sees as worthwhile towards love(Venus in Taurus).

Further emphasis to this is Pluto in Libra in 7th (serious about relationships) and Saturn in Scorpio in 7th(partners with issues relating to intimacy).

This would explain the connection between his Venus-Saturn opposition(afraid to get close) and her Venus-Uranus conjunction in Scorpio(afraid to commit)

Ironically when these two find each other, they are quick to do the very thing that was being hard to do when with other people who didn't share the positions i.e COMMIT.

His Juno in Pisces trines his Moon in Cancer. The marriage is likely to be quite emotional and full of empathy.

His Juno in Pisces squares Uranus/Jupiter in Sagittarius. In many ways,the partnership will get in the way of his freedom.

The natal Moon-Neptune opposite suggests a person who is very compassionate(Moon-Neptune opposite) but also very idealistic. Not knowing when to stop.

The added square with the Sun suggests a struggle to integrate this feeling/ compassionate nature into the identity

The feeling part of him knows of patience/ love and understanding. And he can do that .

But there is another part of him that wants to solve things quickly and is frustrated by complexity(Aries Sun).

That added Aries Mars can act to emphasize this impatience with wanting to just take action when problems arise.

I will not say "yes" or "no" as no married couple is perfect in every aspect as it takes adjustment.

posted January 24, 2018 10:08 AM            

For instance, last night, we spoke to him about plans for his bachelor party and were pitching him ideas. He flat out said, "No, she doesn't want me to have a bachelor party. Probably because she doesn't trust me..."