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Bubbles0o
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posted March 27, 2018 01:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Bubbles0o     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm getting to know an Aquarius man and I'm feeling a little wind-swept and puzzled. You all have been so wonderful in assisting me in the past. Maybe you all can give me some insight and advice

Reading about Aquarius it says they are unemotional. I realize there is an entire birth chart to take into account (sry not sure of birth time). He's January 31st 1980 and I'm March 14th 1991. But I've been doing some research and I see many women's experiences saying they declare love very quickly and fall out of love even quicker. As a Pisces I want my fairytale romance so this looks like a road to disappointment. I'm wondering how a Pisces could make it work with Aquarius given all their differences.

Here's the background:

I've spoken only a handful of times to this Aquarius man. Initially we had small talk...career, goals, past relationships. He immediately gravitated toward past relationships, how many partners I've had, etc. I wanted to see how far he would take the conversation so instead of elaborating I just answered his questions directly. He thought I was put off and changed the topic, apologized, and we said goodnight. The next night he texted me. I was a little worried he wanted a FWB although I told him I'm not looking for anything serious just friendship and if it develops from there neat-o. I chose not to respond until the next day only to tell him I was sleeping and hoped he had a good night. He responded. We did not talk again for a while. I reached out to him last night. That's when things got a little strange for me.

He was traveling for work. We text back and forth for a bit. Just small talk. He seemed a bit lonely - he does travel a lot. I let him know he was lonely but not alone because I was hanging out with him. He simply thanked me and we continued chatting. He said he really wished he could be with me instead of traveling. I told him to close his eyes and I was with him. He said he felt like crying and apologized for getting choked up. He said he was glad we were texting instead of talking. I told him I thought it was romantic that he can express his feelings. He said he's usually the tough guy. I told him the tough guys always have the biggest heart. He said he wanted to hug me so tight. I told him I knew the feeling. He told me he felt pain from being away but didn't want the feeling to end.

He said he never felt that way about anyone even when he had a physical relation. Though I don't believe him I said I did and told him our connection was different and I was glad to know him. I want to trust him but can't bring myself to do it. He was basically saying that he was falling in love for the first time. Hard to believe. He's had around 15 partners for casual sex, but only 2 short serious relationships. I on the other hand have only had 1 long term serious relationship. I'm also younger. He was born in 1980 and I in 1991. So I think if anyone's going to go head over heels it's me. Especially if Aquarius is so emotionally unavailable.

Immediately after his declaration and my response he said people are so complex, he loves this feeling, and he wants to be with me. He said he's delighted to find me. Then cut off the conversation and told me to take care. So I said thanks you as well. I was like ummm...right back at ya. lol

To my surprise 2 hours later he sent me a message apologizing for cutting off the conversation before he had fallen in love with me. He used the "l" word. My wall went WAY up. I told him it's okay he has other things to do and told him I didn't think he was falling in love. Told him infatuation or smitten - maybe but my head was screaming, "LIAR!" He said I shouldn't apologize as I am so nice and kind. He said he doesn't know what we call it he's getting used to me and he loves the feeling.

Initially, I was like this liar is trying to dupe me and thinks I need love to agree to sex. After researching other's experiences I'm not so certain. I doubt he was actually busy. Perhaps he was embarrassed by showing his emotions so he distanced himself? I feel his next response was also emotional so maybe he can't handle his emotions? Hard to read him. What do you all think. Should I give him a chance?

Honestly, I've had 1 serious relationship but it was back in high school/early twenties. Since then I met a married man I cared for deeply, he reciprocated, but I told him I couldn't sleep with him or pursue any relationship since he's married. I've met a few others but they just didn't stir any passion. This Aquarius feels like a long lost friend. We enjoy talking with each other. He's definitely more loquacious and a more active listener than the Pisces and Capricorn men I had feelings for. But I'm worried because he's going too fast. He said if I Aqua wants to be independent, Pisces wants to merge. I'd like him to know me before he gets too crazy. But then I realize he's Aqua - he develops himself into a new person practically when he explores new ideas, people, etc. So I'll always be constantly falling in love with the new him. I'm always growing and changing so I'm worried him being a Fixed sign he might not like that in the long term. Plus I'm a Pisces Sun/Moon Cancer Asc. so I think I'll smother him although I have an Aries venus and Mars/Mercury in Gemini.

If nearly falling in love and declaring the "L" word was enough for him to distance himself it makes me weary to try b/c I know one day I may care deeply and want him to smother me with affection and declarations. From what I've read and seen so far he is uncomfortable with this. But I wanted him to take it slow so I feel like I'm back and forth on this. Plus I'm not sure if I'd consider Aquas emotionally sensitive, unavailable, or just plain immature. But I have a feeling the first disagreement we have will result in him shutting down. Or if I get emotional he won't know how to handle it other than running away. Since he's fixed I'm not sure if that means it'd be forever.

Penny for your thoughts?

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waxlobster
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posted March 27, 2018 07:16 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for waxlobster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Personally, I think you’re over focussing on him….

What do *you* think? How do *you* feel? Why so much more concern with how he is feeling and what he is saying? I don’t think that’s a very good balance to start anything, you need to know who you are and what your needs are first…

I don’t trust men who are over complimentary, I’ve seen it used and work on many women (and guys). It’s amazing how many people yield and open up to another just because of a few kind, often empty, words.

It’s nice that he said those things to you, but you need to look him in the eye, check out how he looks at you, feel the vibration when he holds your hand, gauge the tenderness in his kiss. All of those things before you even *consider* believing he has genuine feelings for you, regardless of his sign….

In the meantime how about you decide whether you like him? If you do, arrange to meet up and spend time together perhaps? An emotional phone conversation is all very nice, but it’s nothing to go on in terms of figuring out if you enjoy each other’s company, see eye to eye on things, have similar humour, have physical chemistry etc. etc.

If you're not interested in more than friendship until you know him better, then great. Let him prove himself, take your time, don't be too swayed by what could be manipulation or charisma and remember trust doesn't need to come into it. Until you let somebody into your life then you then they have no power in your life anyway!

I’m Aquarius and I’m very wary of stating my feelings, and definitely close down afterwards if I go too far. When I’m safe, and loved back though I am the softest most loyal and loving creature in the world (shhhh don’t tell anyone – my man would back me up on that though ;-) ♥ )

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Bubbles0o
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posted March 30, 2018 03:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Bubbles0o     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you so much I appreciate it!

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posted April 03, 2018 09:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for waxlobster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
No problem, do please keep us informed. :-)

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Bubbles0o
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posted April 26, 2018 09:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Bubbles0o     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Update: Our conversations are never boring. We tried to video chat with each other, and he kind of was M.I.A. Since I wasn't getting clear vibes, and after reading your advice I wanted to stay guarded, I took it a bit too far and just blocked him thinking he was wasting my time. Instantly I regret it, so I unblocked him only to see he had tried to call twice a short time after. I apologized, insisting I just felt he was toying with me since we converse freely and he was M.I.A.

he basically said he was sorry to be a pain, but he's couldn't stand to lose me like he has everyone else in his life, so he doesn't see a future even as friends. I apologized, insisted fear was driving me also, and told him I reconsidered because I missed him. No response. A few weeks went by and I sent him a message to try again. No response.

So a Leo friend of a friend caught my interested and we started chatting. But his conversations are so one-sided despite insisting on liking me a lot. He is quite busy with work. But he's taking time to see me next month.

Today Mr. Aquarius sent me a message. He said he missed me. Restated his previous fear. Told me what he's been up to, and asked me how I'm doing. *sigh* I'd ask myself what to do if I weren't so confused haha. Dating is tough :P

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posted April 29, 2018 05:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lalafortunaea     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
His astro aside, he doesn't seem worth it. Pity ploys, hooks, eliciting sympathy. I'd say proceed with caution.

Next time he mentions his "fears" or tries to put a hook in you, just ask "Okay, so what are you planning to do about it?"

We can all whine until the cows come home about our problems and emotional difficulties, but attempting to better ourselves and take on more responsibility is important.

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