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Topic: How to attract this guy?
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nordicsoul Knowflake Posts: 1870 From: Registered: Oct 2010
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posted July 07, 2018 03:45 PM
did not read that part... dismiss anything i said. IP: Logged |
crystal_clear Knowflake Posts: 99 From: Registered: Mar 2017
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posted July 08, 2018 11:37 AM
quote: Originally posted by nordicsoul: did not read that part... dismiss anything i said.
No worries. It's still very valuable and it might be true after all. But it's difficult to guess the ascendant of a person after 30 since then it's very probably to have progressed ascendant to change the sign. Anyways, this thread made me realize that with 3 planets in my first house and Sun-Moon on my Asc-Dsc, we make probably huge impact on each other. Also Uranus on my MC. What I find interesting it's that it didn't hit me until 2 years ago. I wonder what has changed then. IP: Logged |
nordicsoul Knowflake Posts: 1870 From: Registered: Oct 2010
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posted July 09, 2018 11:46 AM
maybe some progression triggering the houses affectedIP: Logged |
crystal_clear Knowflake Posts: 99 From: Registered: Mar 2017
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posted July 09, 2018 03:24 PM
quote: Originally posted by nordicsoul: maybe some progression triggering the houses affected
I looked a bit at progressions from 2 years ago and actually his progressed Moon was somewhere between my Venus/Mars midpoint, Sun/Moon midpoint and natal Venus. Depending on the birth hours. I tried to think what ascendant he could have and Leo would fit because of very nice long hair. That could put my Moon on his ASC or at least in the first house. Later I should post the additional charts but still didn't make to my computer yet
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waxlobster Knowflake Posts: 719 From: Birmingham Registered: Mar 2011
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posted July 10, 2018 07:05 AM
quote: Originally posted by crystal_clear: There's something I omitted in the first post. For 14 years I am with someone else.
I'm going to remove my posts. If he is a guy who is honest and looking for a relationship genuinely then of course he's not going to hit on someone who is not even single. My advice. Break up with your partner, or at least tell him (or her) that your interest lies elsewhere. ------------------ blog: http://waxlobster.blogspot.co.uk/ My latest article summarises how the Moon works in the natal chart and how it expresses in each of the astrological signs. ♥ Also my new page is: http://facebook.com/waxyjo IP: Logged |
crystal_clear Knowflake Posts: 99 From: Registered: Mar 2017
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posted July 10, 2018 08:01 AM
quote: Originally posted by waxlobster: I'm going to remove my posts. If he is a guy who is honest and looking for a relationship genuinely then of course he's not going to hit on someone who is not even single. My advice. Break up with your partner, or at least tell him (or her) that your interest lies elsewhere.
Of course, do what feels right in your heart. Although I have never said I will pursue the affair, you don't know where my current relationship is and why am I asking this question. It's not for you to judge my motivation. IP: Logged |
nordicsoul Knowflake Posts: 1870 From: Registered: Oct 2010
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posted July 10, 2018 11:18 AM
if you have doubts about the time of birth, maybe you want to open a new thread and ask Kannon for help. he is expert in rectification and may help you to figure out the ascenant more accurately. besides, if there is a planet on the first house near the ascendant, that may make you think he is that ascendant. sun conjunct midheaven can give that impression... but if he is raising leo hair is a good key, but maybe also the body of the lyon?.... also, he must be quick to do things... fire energy makes people fast of movement. if he is slow, he is not leo...lolIP: Logged |
crystal_clear Knowflake Posts: 99 From: Registered: Mar 2017
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posted July 10, 2018 12:10 PM
quote: Originally posted by nordicsoul: if you have doubts about the time of birth, maybe you want to open a new thread and ask Kannon for help. he is expert in rectification and may help you to figure out the ascenant more accurately. besides, if there is a planet on the first house near the ascendant, that may make you think he is that ascendant. sun conjunct midheaven can give that impression... but if he is raising leo hair is a good key, but maybe also the body of the lyon?.... also, he must be quick to do things... fire energy makes people fast of movement. if he is slow, he is not leo...lol
Thant is not entirely true. I have a lot of fire and air but Pisces ASC and I am slooooooow. Plus currently progressed Taurus ASC and Sun in Capricorn which influences me as well. Same for other people. Yeah, he could pass for Leo body, not very tall for a man, but well shaped.
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hypatia238 Moderator Posts: 11009 From: Mercury novile and parallel Pluto, Pluto septile Southnode Registered: Sep 2014
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posted July 10, 2018 12:27 PM
Yep we don't know your situation and have no business judging you. Further maybe society is the one with the unrealistic expectations leading to so many failed marriages and people not measuring up to those expectations.IP: Logged |
waxlobster Knowflake Posts: 719 From: Birmingham Registered: Mar 2011
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posted July 11, 2018 09:50 AM
i'm not judging, I'm just concerned about your current partner and don't want to get involved in something that could hurt someone :-)------------------ blog: http://waxlobster.blogspot.co.uk/ My latest article summarises how the Moon works in the natal chart and how it expresses in each of the astrological signs. ♥ Also my new page is: http://facebook.com/waxyjo IP: Logged |
nordicsoul Knowflake Posts: 1870 From: Registered: Oct 2010
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posted July 11, 2018 11:37 AM
quote: Originally posted by crystal_clear: Thant is not entirely true. I have a lot of fire and air but Pisces ASC and I am slooooooow. Plus currently progressed Taurus ASC and Sun in Capricorn which influences me as well. Same for other people. Yeah, he could pass for Leo body, not very tall for a man, but well shaped.
did say LEO ascendant IP: Logged |
hypatia238 Moderator Posts: 11009 From: Mercury novile and parallel Pluto, Pluto septile Southnode Registered: Sep 2014
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posted July 11, 2018 12:42 PM
The most painful experiences of my life have led to important changes in my life and a lot of personal growth. Pain is part of life and it has a purpose, if you deal with it the right way it allows you to blossom into the person you are meant to be. The problem is that victim mentality. IP: Logged |
waxlobster Knowflake Posts: 719 From: Birmingham Registered: Mar 2011
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posted July 11, 2018 02:54 PM
Yes, humans as a race do choose to learn to grow more from pain it's true and I wouldn't change any of the experiences I have had up until now.The only regrets I have ever had are when my choices have hurt others. When people care for us we are given their heart to look after and I take that incredibly seriously. I have chosen to be a healer in this life, that is my path and I ask that others respect my views in this regard equally also! ------------------ blog: http://waxlobster.blogspot.co.uk/ My latest article summarises how the Moon works in the natal chart and how it expresses in each of the astrological signs. ♥ Also my new page is: http://facebook.com/waxyjo IP: Logged |
crystal_clear Knowflake Posts: 99 From: Registered: Mar 2017
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posted July 11, 2018 06:06 PM
quote: Originally posted by waxlobster: i'm not judging, I'm just concerned about your current partner and don't want to get involved in something that could hurt someone :-)
You don't need to be concerned. Nothing is going to happen until the current scene is cleared, one way or another. I already decided to wait until difficult transist to my Venus pass. Now there is a square from Pluto, next year from Saturn. IP: Logged |
hypatia238 Moderator Posts: 11009 From: Mercury novile and parallel Pluto, Pluto septile Southnode Registered: Sep 2014
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posted July 11, 2018 06:32 PM
I help people heal daily, I have helped A LOT of people heal and that is part of my point, pain leads to growth and you can always grow even more as a result of that healing. When you are married a person can walk away at any moment if they suspect the other is cheating or if they are unhappy for whatever reason yet so many people choose to stay in a marriage that is not meeting all their needs and not face the red flags and ignore because they are scared of change. The person that is restless stays bc the other possibly is con-dependent on them in every way making them feel they don't have a choice to just walk away so THERE are no VICTIMS, is not black and white and is not simple. Cheating is often a symptom of a systemic problem and a systemic problem means the supposedly "victim" in your eyes has probably created the situation to some extent. The person cheating is the one that gets labeled as the villain but is really a systemic problem were the "victim" is contributing equally or more to what is playing out. The problem is that this a taboo topic and people just like to examine taboo topics at a surface level and not dig deeper bc digging deeper means we have to face our demons, insecurities and fears and take responsibility for our part of the problem. IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 104263 From: From a galaxy, far, far away... Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 18, 2018 09:38 AM
Bump!IP: Logged |
crystal_clear Knowflake Posts: 99 From: Registered: Mar 2017
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posted July 22, 2018 04:49 PM
quote: Originally posted by Randall: Bump!
So we met last week, accidentally at the concert. Although he hinted he follows my event calendar, so maybe not such an accident.
I just wish there was a way to find out about his feelings without hurting anyone. Which is why I turned to astrology. IP: Logged |
crystal_clear Knowflake Posts: 99 From: Registered: Mar 2017
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posted August 12, 2018 06:00 PM
quote: Originally posted by crystal_clear: I know this is crazy but let's say I want to tailor my flirting to his taste ... What to wear, what to say etc... There is some mutual attraction already but we're both too shy so knowing each other 7 years and nothing ever happened. Here's his natal chart. And synastry. His birth hour is unknown. Just picked Jupiter on MC because of his profession. Probably wrong.
And just like that, the whole attraction of two years disappeared. What the hell happened here? IP: Logged |
waxlobster Knowflake Posts: 719 From: Birmingham Registered: Mar 2011
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posted August 15, 2018 09:31 AM
You've gone off him?Ha that is a bit bizarre. Pluto is about to apply it's last square to your Venus though, perhaps whatever this man was here to play out the real life scenario of this Pluto transit for you? That can happen with any of the long-term transits, often somebody will help to exemplify it, although they can stay in your life too. I suppose the Uranus-Mars connection in synastry can indicate a short-term electricity....
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crystal_clear Knowflake Posts: 99 From: Registered: Mar 2017
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posted August 15, 2018 10:44 AM
quote: Originally posted by waxlobster: You've gone off him?Ha that is a bit bizarre. Pluto is about to apply it's last square to your Venus though, perhaps whatever this man was here to play out the real life scenario of this Pluto transit for you? That can happen with any of the long-term transits, often somebody will help to exemplify it, although they can stay in your life too. I suppose the Uranus-Mars connection in synastry can indicate a short-term electricity....
I wouldn't call it short term. But when met 7 years ago, I definitely noticed him immediately. He is my type. It's just that I only started to feel the attraction only somewhere two years ago.
Let's see. Jupiter was squaring natal Mercury, ruler of 7th. For him it was making conjunction to Moon and square to natal Mars of Saturn, opposition to Venus. I really wish I could know if it was/is mutual. But last week somehow I realised he is not for me. And whole attraction has disappeared. IP: Logged |
waxlobster Knowflake Posts: 719 From: Birmingham Registered: Mar 2011
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posted August 17, 2018 09:10 AM
Well two years does fit in with the length of a Pluto transit. That's fascinating really.... I don't personally think that attractions can be continuous unless they are mutual. A real attraction (rather than visceral - that can be one sided) is a form of energy communication between the two parties.As I said before, he may not be the kind of guy who would pursue somebody in a relationship but it doesn't mean that the energy between you wasn't present. It's likely it was and it will all come out over time. I've always discovered attractions I've felt strongly were mutual in retrospect. Things don't get off the ground because the relationship potential may not be present, or certain elements of chemistry are missing, hence nobody feels 'right' about acting upon the energy enough to do so. When things are 'right' then it's soooo obvious and sweeps you off your feet. That's not the say all the people you meet are not important, I just am a romantic who believes in soulmates and twin flames (and settling for nothing less) ♥ ------------------ blog: http://waxlobster.blogspot.co.uk/ My latest article is about the eclipse season, focussing around August 2018 ¢¾ Also my new page is: http://facebook.com/waxyjo IP: Logged |
crystal_clear Knowflake Posts: 99 From: Registered: Mar 2017
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posted August 20, 2018 10:04 AM
quote: Originally posted by waxlobster: Well two years does fit in with the length of a Pluto transit. That's fascinating really.... I don't personally think that attractions can be continuous unless they are mutual. A real attraction (rather than visceral - that can be one sided) is a form of energy communication between the two parties.As I said before, he may not be the kind of guy who would pursue somebody in a relationship but it doesn't mean that the energy between you wasn't present. It's likely it was and it will all come out over time. I've always discovered attractions I've felt strongly were mutual in retrospect. Things don't get off the ground because the relationship potential may not be present, or certain elements of chemistry are missing, hence nobody feels 'right' about acting upon the energy enough to do so. When things are 'right' then it's soooo obvious and sweeps you off your feet. That's not the say all the people you meet are not important, I just am a romantic who believes in soulmates and twin flames (and settling for nothing less) ♥
Perhaps you're right.
I really wish I realised this sooner but given that we have a lot of squares in the synastrie, I don't think it can work out. He would be like a wet cloth on my fiery character. Which I realised now because my progressed Moon moved into Sag. When it was in Scorpio, it was making a nice trine to his stellium in Pisces. Now it's a square. Then also his progressed Moon is in Scorpio. We're just unavailable to each other emotionally. I guess it's important to have some natal Moon connections. I wish someting happened because it's rarely you can feel something like that. But I decided to let it go and let things happen if they are supposed to happen.
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crystal_clear Knowflake Posts: 99 From: Registered: Mar 2017
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posted December 02, 2018 01:48 PM
I don't know what to say here. This attraction comes back at times and it's tormenting me inside. Can any of you offer any advice? IP: Logged |