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SunAscendant
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posted July 05, 2018 03:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SunAscendant     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm super obsessed with this guy. He has a Capricorn Mars which is usually what makes me go totally crazy for a man, but other than that our synastry doesn't seem to show that really deep physical attraction I feel for him and vis versa. I met him when he was still living here in Los Angeles four years ago and like man now that he lives 8 hours away in San Francisco I'm wishing he lived down here in SoCal again, but also, I'm sort of glad he doesn't because I'm almost certain if he did we would both want to have way too much sex lol!
He's inside and I'm outside .

This could be his birth time (likely).

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posted July 05, 2018 04:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for margym0o     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Don't overthink it, it may not even be a synastrical issue. He might just have that right mix of features that makes him hot to you!

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posted July 05, 2018 04:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SunAscendant     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by margym0o:
Don't overthink it, it may not even be a synastrical issue. He might just have that right mix of features that makes him hot to you!

No he definitely is hot to me haha. Read my little paragraph and you'll see how much I gush over him. He's definitely hot to me, too hot and I don't know why since we haven't spent much time together. I'm inexplicably drawn to him and the only reason I can think of for being so drawn to him must be that of a synastry reason

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posted July 05, 2018 05:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for crystal_clear     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If the birth hours are correct, then you must notice the MC -South node and Sun- North node. The hesitation is usually on the North Node person, because South Node it's so familiar, it produces extreme familiarity and attraction. North Node too but we're usually scared of that place and of what we may be. But the Sun person is already there, they represent what we need to become in our NN.

I have NN in Gemini, for first 30+ years of my life I was **** scared of Gemini people and everything that sign has represented.

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posted July 05, 2018 07:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for TaurusVenusGirl     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You have moon conjunct neptune in 12 house. I had this with someone and l looooooooved it!

I was the moon.

I've read this is a soulmate connection.

He was and still is flawless, perfect and oh so romantic to me. The fog never faded..

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posted July 05, 2018 09:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Solar_Leo_Queen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This feels quite romantic to you even if it's not. He has Neptune on your ascendant.

His Uranus conjunct your Mars and ASC. His Mars square your Uranus. Lots of sexual attraction. You vibe very well in that department. You both find each other very exciting, yet at the same time, there is no promise of commitment or stability here. There's not a lot of significant Saturn aspects to bind you long term. This will be a rollercoaster ride. Although, with his Moon in your 12th house, you may feel that he understands and knows you more than yourself. This is even more pronounced with ASC conjunct DC. You see each other as the ideal mate. You have something he doesn't, and he has something you don't have.

Your Pluto in his 5th house may indicate obsession with romance or having sex all the time. It may not be just sex for fun though. There might be a tendency to want something more than what one can give to the other, especially on your part (Pluto).

His Sun in your 4th house makes him feel so familiar to you, even if you haven't known him for that long. You'll feel comfortable around him and may even remind you of your childhood. If your family meets him, they are sure to like him or approve of him at the very least.

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posted July 05, 2018 09:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Solar_Leo_Queen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This feels quite romantic to you even if it's not. He has Neptune on your ascendant. You might be prone to idealizing him and not seeing him for who he truly is. You will let a lot of his negative side slide because you put him on a pedestal.

His Uranus conjunct your Mars and ASC. His Mars square your Uranus. Lots of sexual attraction. You vibe very well in that department. You both find each other very exciting, yet at the same time, there is no promise of commitment or stability here. There's not a lot of significant Saturn aspects to bind you long term. This will be a rollercoaster ride. Although, with his Moon in your 12th house, you may feel that he understands and knows you more than yourself. This is even more pronounced with ASC conjunct DC. You see each other as the ideal mate. You have something he doesn't, and he has something you don't have.

Your Pluto in his 5th house may indicate obsession with romance or having sex all the time. It may not be just sex for fun though. There might be a tendency to want something more than what one can give to the other, especially on your part (Pluto).

His Sun in your 4th house makes him feel so familiar to you, even if you haven't known him for that long. You'll feel comfortable around him and may even remind you of your childhood. If your family meets him, they are sure to like him or approve of him at the very least.

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posted July 05, 2018 09:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SunAscendant     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by crystal_clear:
If the birth hours are correct, then you must notice the MC -South node and Sun- North node. The hesitation is usually on the North Node person, because South Node it's so familiar, it produces extreme familiarity and attraction. North Node too but we're usually scared of that place and of what we may be. But the Sun person is already there, they represent what we need to become in our NN.

I have NN in Gemini, for first 30+ years of my life I was **** scared of Gemini people and everything that sign has represented.


Yep birth hours are right. I totally forgot his NN is on my Sun. No wonder I'm obsessed!!! I wonder why he'd be afraid of my Taurean side. Neither of us have much Taurus except ours Suns.

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posted July 05, 2018 09:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SunAscendant     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Solar_Leo_Queen:
This feels quite romantic to you even if it's not. He has Neptune on your ascendant.

His Uranus conjunct your Mars and ASC. His Mars square your Uranus. Lots of sexual attraction. You vibe very well in that department. You both find each other very exciting, yet at the same time, there is no promise of commitment or stability here. There's not a lot of significant Saturn aspects to bind you long term. This will be a rollercoaster ride. Although, with his Moon in your 12th house, you may feel that he understands and knows you more than yourself. This is even more pronounced with ASC conjunct DC. You see each other as the ideal mate. You have something he doesn't, and he has something you don't have.

Your Pluto in his 5th house may indicate obsession with romance or having sex all the time. It may not be just sex for fun though. There might be a tendency to want something more than what one can give to the other, especially on your part (Pluto).

His Sun in your 4th house makes him feel so familiar to you, even if you haven't known him for that long. You'll feel comfortable around him and may even remind you of your childhood. If your family meets him, they are sure to like him or approve of him at the very least.


We're both mixed so I suppose that adds to the 4th house Sun overlay. If he moved back to SoCal I think I might scare him with my obsession for him >.<. Like I know for sure his personality would fit in with both my parents. His Venus conjuncts my mom's Venus and his Mercury conjunct's my dad's Moon as well as my Venus.

My own Scorpio Pluto is in my own 5th house natally and while I don't have an obsession with sex I do have an obsession to find the perfect love

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Plut0nian2
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posted July 05, 2018 11:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Plut0nian2     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This is the second post that overwhelms me and I thought I wouldn't reply because I am all over the place and I don't kniw where to start from but I don't have that much to say actually.

I initially saw the title and then the part that you say "he is on the inside and you on the outside".

I saw real quick your Mars in conjuction with his Neptune, Uranus, Juno and Moon (even though it's a loose one). I would comment that he must be mesmerized by you until I read your initial post and understood that he is Mars in Capricorn.

First of all we have some similarities..
I have Capricorn DSC with Neptune and Uranus in it (I have Juno and NN too).
Second transit Pluto which brings obsession in our 7th H matters is in conjuction with Uranus and Neptune (in my case is in conjuction with my NN). I had the same experience getting obsessed out of the blue when transit Pluto was conjucting my NN in 7th H.

You gave the answer to your question..
His Mars conjucting all those planet which happen to be in your 7th H in conjuction with transit Pluto conjucting those very same planets is the answer.

I met someone with his Mars conjucting my Neptune and Uranus for the first time, unlike Scorpio Moon I never imagined that Mars in Capricorn would be the best Mars ever. I've known any Mars sign except of two till that moment (Capricorn and Aqua) I thought Scorpio Mars was the best since I have so much water plus Mars co rules Scorpio.. Little did I know..

When I saw him I felt like I saw a man for the first time in my life. It is like he is an alpha male which is weird because he is so adorable, graceful and charming.
The way he moves, the way he walks, the way he breaths, the way he simply exists (I bet even the way he pees) is otherwordly beautiful to the point that it pains me.. It is dangerous for my poor heart.
I am hoping that when T.Pluto goes away from my NN I will get over it.
We have some other nice synastry aspects amd placements but what I am saying above has to do with Mars conjuct Neptune.
Plus this aspect males you want to merge with each other. Uranus conjuct Mars could be on and off sexual appetite / physical distance and sexual experiments. Lilith conjuction Moon is both sexy and emotional. Mats conjuctio Jupiter and your Jupiter in his 8th H definately indicate a lot of sex! Moon conjuction Mars is beautiful even though it's loose I still consider it. Venus square Mars is better than no aspect between those two planets and even though it adds friction is also give a lot of passion.
ASc opposite Mars I would like to know how this works for you because I have it too. It's supposed to add sexual attraction.

Neptune conjuct Asc and Moon show emotional understanding and connection even spiritual.
Sun opposite Pluto adds to the obsession thing and gibes depth.

You have actually many sexual aspects and quite a few emotional ones since Moons aren't unaspected. Although there are very a few Saturn aspects for such a strong Uranus in this synastry I believe that it will be on and off or a relationship with physical distance.
You can definately handle it with Neptune and Uranus in 7th H.

The only aspect that I find really bad it's the Neptune square Mercury being double whammy and both are tight. Mercury is not a love planet but communication is the key to every relationship no matter how much emotional/spiritual or whatever else connection you have. Be careful of not being clear enough or lying, misunderstandings and stuff like that. Venus conjuct Mercury and Saturn trine Mercury are helpful but I don't find them enough to cancel Neptune square Mercury aspects you have.
Also even though I haven't experience it you have Pluto square Chiron which seems very dangerous since Pluto goes deep,/Chiron is pain and wquare is a difficult aspect.

You also have:
Moon trine Sun,
Sun trine Neptune,
Venus trine Uranus,
Sun trine Jupiter

I don't know why you don't find this synasyry beautiful. I definately see sexual, emotional and a bit of spiritual connection. No synastry is going to have everything perfect.

I don't know if you are dating with that person or if you even are in a relationship but if you do I am so curious to know if Neptune conjuct Mars sex is as magic as I am imagining it.

These are your synastry aspects (below)
I post them because I personally find it helpful and less confusing seeing them like this.


** This is the second time I am writing my comment. The first one was lost and I couldn't paste it for some weird reason. English is not my mother language sorry for the typos (I'm using my phone)

EDIT: There was just one comment when I hit the reply button LOL it took me a few hours

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posted July 06, 2018 03:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SunAscendant     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Plut0nian2:
This is the second post that overwhelms me and I thought I wouldn't reply because I am all over the place and I don't kniw where to start from but I don't have that much to say actually.

I initially saw the title and then the part that you say "he is on the inside and you on the outside".

I saw real quick your Mars in conjuction with his Neptune, Uranus, Juno and Moon (even though it's a loose one). I would comment that he must be mesmerized by you until I read your initial post and understood that he is Mars in Capricorn.

First of all we have some similarities..
I have Capricorn DSC with Neptune and Uranus in it (I have Juno and NN too).
Second transit Pluto which brings obsession in our 7th H matters is in conjuction with Uranus and Neptune (in my case is in conjuction with my NN). I had the same experience getting obsessed out of the blue when transit Pluto was conjucting my NN in 7th H.

You gave the answer to your question..
His Mars conjucting all those planet which happen to be in your 7th H in conjuction with transit Pluto conjucting those very same planets is the answer.

I met someone with his Mars conjucting my Neptune and Uranus for the first time, unlike Scorpio Moon I never imagined that Mars in Capricorn would be the best Mars ever. I've known any Mars sign except of two till that moment (Capricorn and Aqua) I thought Scorpio Mars was the best since I have so much water plus Mars co rules Scorpio.. Little did I know..

When I saw him I felt like I saw a man for the first time in my life. It is like he is an alpha male which is weird because he is so adorable, graceful and charming.
The way he moves, the way he walks, the way he breaths, the way he simply exists (I bet even the way he pees) is otherwordly beautiful to the point that it pains me.. It is dangerous for my poor heart.
I am hoping that when T.Pluto goes away from my NN I will get over it.
We have some other nice synastry aspects amd placements but what I am saying above has to do with Mars conjuct Neptune.
Plus this aspect males you want to merge with each other. Uranus conjuct Mars could be on and off sexual appetite / physical distance and sexual experiments. Lilith conjuction Moon is both sexy and emotional. Mats conjuctio Jupiter and your Jupiter in his 8th H definately indicate a lot of sex! Moon conjuction Mars is beautiful even though it's loose I still consider it. Venus square Mars is better than no aspect between those two planets and even though it adds friction is also give a lot of passion.
ASc opposite Mars I would like to know how this works for you because I have it too. It's supposed to add sexual attraction.

Neptune conjuct Asc and Moon show emotional understanding and connection even spiritual.
Sun opposite Pluto adds to the obsession thing and gibes depth.

You have actually many sexual aspects and quite a few emotional ones since Moons aren't unaspected. Although there are very a few Saturn aspects for such a strong Uranus in this synastry I believe that it will be on and off or a relationship with physical distance.
You can definately handle it with Neptune and Uranus in 7th H.

The only aspect that I find really bad it's the Neptune square Mercury being double whammy and both are tight. Mercury is not a love planet but communication is the key to every relationship no matter how much emotional/spiritual or whatever else connection you have. Be careful of not being clear enough or lying, misunderstandings and stuff like that. Venus conjuct Mercury and Saturn trine Mercury are helpful but I don't find them enough to cancel Neptune square Mercury aspects you have.
Also even though I haven't experience it you have Pluto square Chiron which seems very dangerous since Pluto goes deep,/Chiron is pain and wquare is a difficult aspect.

You also have:
Moon trine Sun,
Sun trine Neptune,
Venus trine Uranus,
Sun trine Jupiter

I don't know why you don't find this synasyry beautiful. I definately see sexual, emotional and a bit of spiritual connection. No synastry is going to have everything perfect.

I don't know if you are dating with that person or if you even are in a relationship but if you do I am so curious to know if Neptune conjuct Mars sex is as magic as I am imagining it.

These are your synastry aspects (below)
I post them because I personally find it helpful and less confusing seeing them like this.


** This is the second time I am writing my comment. The first one was lost and I couldn't paste it for some weird reason. English is not my mother language sorry for the typos (I'm using my phone)

EDIT: There was just one comment when I hit the reply button LOL it took me a few hours


Wow thank you for the long reply. I truly appreciate it. I think the really big thing that hurts us is the Neptune square Mercury double whammy. We are not in a relationship because he lives 8 hours away. I actually confessed my extremely huge crush on him to him today and he said if he ever moved back to the area he would possibly date me. I went on one date with him back in 2014 before he moved away and that date was great, but since he moved away a month later nothing really happened. I've had a crush on him on and ioff (Uranus conjunct Mars synastry for sure) since 2014. I think I have stronger feelings though. I have had a few relationships where the male Capricorn Mars conjuncts my Capricorn Moon and oh my gosh I am obsessed with them, and not even just sexually.

But him, something about his smile and how nice he is and just how easygoing. When we first met he kept staring at me, he would not look away. He was with two other women but when he saw me he kept staring. I realized I couldn't stop staring either. His eyes watched me as I sat down and then he sat down. Me having Venus in Aries I wasted no time approaching him. If he hadn't moved away in 2014 I certainly believe we could have had a relationship.

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posted July 06, 2018 04:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Plut0nian2     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

How does Neptune square Mercury affects you two? In what way is the communication problematic?

According to the synastry I would agree that you are the one with the strongest feelings (imo). It sounds like a torture and I hope it's not going to be the same for me.. In my case there is also huge distance as well and other problems too.

Do you tend to have long distance/platonic relationships/relationship with unavailable people generally?

You also have Saturn in 8th H in Aqua! I just realised it!

I will ask a personal question and of course you don't have to reply if you don't want to.
Have you ever had sex? If yes could you tell me the date of your first time?
The reason I am asking this is that this paytern tends to be problematic, I've seen it so many times.

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posted July 07, 2018 04:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SunAscendant     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Plut0nian2:

How does Neptune square Mercury affects you two? In what way is the communication problematic?

According to the synastry I would agree that you are the one with the strongest feelings (imo). It sounds like a torture and I hope it's not going to be the same for me.. In my case there is also huge distance as well and other problems too.

Do you tend to have long distance/platonic relationships/relationship with unavailable people generally?

You also have Saturn in 8th H in Aqua! I just realised it!

I will ask a personal question and of course you don't have to reply if you don't want to.
Have you ever had sex? If yes could you tell me the date of your first time?
The reason I am asking this is that this paytern tends to be problematic, I've seen it so many times.


I have had sex but I waited until I was 22 which is usually considered late. I have strong feelings about sex. I don't believe in people having sex with multiple people. I believe in monogamy. I also like very boring and plain sex lol.

All of my relationships have been with people who live an hour away which is far because here in California there is a lot of traffic and driving an hour in traffic is considered annoying.

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posted July 09, 2018 06:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Plut0nian2     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by SunAscendant:
I have had sex but I waited until I was 22 which is usually considered late. I have strong feelings about sex. I don't believe in people having sex with multiple people. I believe in monogamy. I also like very boring and plain sex lol.

All of my relationships have been with people who live an hour away which is far because here in California there is a lot of traffic and driving an hour in traffic is considered annoying.


Heheh
Well 22 is considered a tiny bit late but for Aqua Saturn in 8th H it is considered too early actually.
Do you remember the month of your first time if not the whole date?
The part you say that you like plain boring sex heheh it was so cute for some weird reason

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posted July 10, 2018 08:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SunAscendant     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Plut0nian2:
Heheh
Well 22 is considered a tiny bit late but for Aqua Saturn in 8th H it is considered too early actually.
Do you remember the month of your first time if not the whole date?
The part you say that you like plain boring sex heheh it was so cute for some weird reason

I don't remember the date exactly lol. I should have written it down since I tend to dot hat when important things happen.

Haha yes I am a typical Taurus who doesn't like change or crazy wild sex lol. I guess my 8th house Aquarius Saturn is to blame. You'd think I would like sex to be a little crazy since my 8th house is Aquarius, but Saturn being there really makes me not like crazy sex because I'm always afraid I'll get accidentally pregnant even with condoms and birth control >.<

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