posted August 03, 2018 07:49 AM            

He was my friend ive known before for many years. I thought we would match because i didnt know his dark side. Of course he broke up with me BUT then we had a weird chase, him wanting me to get back, me wanting him to get back but generally nothing worked out.

After those years i got matured, i am more serious, i did better than i expected, he changed as well and he behaves more seriousely as well as mature. He hanged his appearance because he wants to be recognised in a company. BUT

i started meeting him up several weeks ago, we had a random 'match' on tinder and we started chatting , he also invited me to a party after we met randomly on a city centre.

BUT there is still a catch. Whenever ( like in the past) he invites me somewhere or makes plans, next day he changes it or says he doesnt wantto come. He is very full of himself and actually selfish but he became more mature.

I actually thought of our random meetings as of some sign to reconcile but it doesnt work.

We have an interesting composite with stellium in capricorn as well venus conj ic. BUT its including moon and actually its very -homely - its in our 4th house so it means privacy and being home-ly and marriage.

I know that he likes me deep inside his soul and doesnt want to leave me even as a friend. Always checks on me whan i am nomore available on facebook or etc. As i wouldstill mean sth for him ?

BUT in reality he doesnt want to be with me because he is focused on random women, his party and work life and other friends.
Like you know - has a mask of someone popular but deep inside wants normal home.
And i suit to normal home but i cant party like him and i am not able to be as popular as him because he does this popularity with a weird manner, very condescending manner as i hate.

So what do you think about this composite?
I just can't break thrugh his mask and when i DO he doesnt want to admit he likes me and wants to return to his bad-boy-ish state of mind.

I just want to ask why he doesnt let me go and chases me when i m gone?
Thanks.

posted August 03, 2018 09:14 AM            

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Originally posted by Orange:
What about the synastry?

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its here

posted August 03, 2018 05:05 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
His Pluto squaring your nodes is why he holds on but I feel you lack mars action in synastry and composite. I think you are better off as friends TBH.

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Yes if pluto is in the mix, fixiations.

Also I just seen two videos with one vedic and one western astrologer who talks about N.node, and how its like an eclipse etc etc, and also it makes a person obsessed. For ex natal venus conj natal n.node, obsessed about relationships. They talk about n.node as its pluto energy?! Never knew that!

posted August 04, 2018 04:13 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
His Pluto squaring your nodes is why he holds on but I feel you lack mars action in synastry and composite. I think you are better off as friends TBH.

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thank you.
so its better to stay friends not to try anything yep?

its weird i know he 'checks' on me sometimes how i am doing and etc i dont know why.

i know he had some women after me but i dont know why still he remembers me. imoved on really 1 year ago and he came back.

posted August 04, 2018 05:21 AM            

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Originally posted by myapie:
thank you.
so its better to stay friends not to try anything yep?

its weird i know he 'checks' on me sometimes how i am doing and etc i dont know why.

i know he had some women after me but i dont know why still he remembers me. imoved on really 1 year ago and he came back.

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That is not weird at all, we all do it. Checkin on people we had a history with, hell I even look up my neighboors and people I knew from 10 years ago and were just acquaintances! Its just curiocity. Humans are curious by nature, even so with people we had a history with ^^

posted August 04, 2018 07:43 AM            

You two are not as different as you think-

you are an Aries sun conjunct mercury, which gives you a Virgo/mercurial feel; and he's a Virgo sun conjunct mars, which gives him an Aries/martial feel.

Both cap moons with all those outer planets in the mix... I think there is some decent affinity there and you may both feel familiar to the other. In the composite, the 4th house energy reinforces this.

But the thing I see the most in the composite is that mars opposite Sun, which to me just spoke loudly of the identity and purpose of the relationship fighting with the desire for action. You're going in two different directions, constantly battling needs and wants. This has no other real aspects to disperse or deflect the energy.

posted August 04, 2018 07:51 AM            

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Originally posted by StoneMoon:
I agree the synastry is not compelling enough for a relationship, but I wanted to add this.

You two are not as different as you think-

you are an Aries sun conjunct mercury, which gives you a Virgo/mercurial feel; and he's a Virgo sun conjunct mars, which gives him an Aries/martial feel.

Both cap moons with all those outer planets in the mix... I think there is some decent affinity there and you may both feel familiar to the other. In the composite, the 4th house energy reinforces this.

But the thing I see the most in the composite is that mars opposite Sun, which to me just spoke loudly of the identity and purpose of the relationship fighting with the desire for action. You're going in two different directions, constantly battling needs and wants. This has no other real aspects to disperse or deflect the energy.

Yes, move on from him and find someone with better energy flow!

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yea what to do if he appears somewhere again? be friends or just ignore?

posted August 04, 2018 08:03 AM            

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Originally posted by StoneMoon:
I agree the synastry is not compelling enough for a relationship, but I wanted to add this.

You two are not as different as you think-

you are an Aries sun conjunct mercury, which gives you a Virgo/mercurial feel; and he's a Virgo sun conjunct mars, which gives him an Aries/martial feel.

Both cap moons with all those outer planets in the mix... I think there is some decent affinity there and you may both feel familiar to the other. In the composite, the 4th house energy reinforces this.

But the thing I see the most in the composite is that mars opposite Sun, which to me just spoke loudly of the identity and purpose of the relationship fighting with the desire for action. You're going in two different directions, constantly battling needs and wants. This has no other real aspects to disperse or deflect the energy.

Yes, move on from him and find someone with better energy flow!

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posted August 04, 2018 08:07 AM            

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Originally posted by Melinn:

Yes I don’t understand why but people seem to (I may be wrong) very often forget to look at the natal charts seperatly and find the similarities! For ex I as an mars conjunct moon person often attract aries moon men. Or as an moon oppo saturn person often attract saturnian people etc. With that kind of similarities you will exude the same kind of energy and vibe, its like magnets gettig attached and thats very important thing to have in relationships.

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posted August 04, 2018 08:13 AM            

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Originally posted by StoneMoon:
I think you can be friends, and just very casual ones at that. I would not engage him in getting together, and I would not give any credence to attempts on his part to get together. So be nice, be friendly, but pretty much ignore him.

You will find someone. This Pluto about to conjunct your moon may bring in someone, maybe a Scorpio type or a Plutonian man. Transits always bring in people you need to facilitate those changes you need to make in your life.

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he messed up with me a few years ago. i knew he didnt wan to be with me but wanted to 'apologise' being nice and helpful to me but in private having other women.
why? because i am NORMAL and i am a cool normal girl.

when i started to flirt with others he got jealous now, when i am bored with flirting and i am in a stagnant state likenothing is happening he is 'calm' because i dont make any innaproproate moves and he controls it.

posted August 04, 2018 01:41 PM            

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Originally posted by Nezumi:

If his tob is right then Aries is in the fifth house so maybe he is fascinated by your energy and personality, but at the same time you have to take into consideration that your Virgo is a fire void. You could be pretty intimidating to him because you are a double Aries after all.

Contrary to popular belief that we tend to sorround ourselves with people strong in our missing element I've actually met fire voids that avoid the company of fire dominant persons altogether. Even if they have an angle or some progressions that bring them into their lives it was difficult and exhausting to sustain a long-term relationship with someone so different from their basic nature. I find it interesting that you describe him as full of himself though.
Also his Venus is squared by your Saturn which could inhibit him even more than usual.

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you are the 3rdor 4th person to tell me this that he is intimidated.
he has a big mask of a bad boy but when we talk he is intimidated? i dont think so.

posted August 04, 2018 05:02 PM            

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Originally posted by myapie:
thank you.
so its better to stay friends not to try anything yep?

its weird i know he 'checks' on me sometimes how i am doing and etc i dont know why.

i know he had some women after me but i dont know why still he remembers me. imoved on really 1 year ago and he came back.

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Yes he checks on you but doesn't follow through, again mars is action and you guys don't have a strong mars influence in synastry or composite.