posted August 13, 2018 08:58 PM            

He comes with a lot of baggage though (family and past relationship issues) that are making certain parts of the relationship challenging.

I have more than once considered leaving, not because I'm unhappy with him but just because there are so many outside circumstances that are difficult.

Just wondering, based on the synastry and composite do you think it can work if we get through these challenges or should I throw in the towel?

Synastry:
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Composite:
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posted August 14, 2018 11:27 AM            

Relationships and family life is really important to blue, and with his challenging home life, I think this is really the foundation of your struggles. I see Red's Pluto and Saturn on Blue's Moon and Venus, so this really weighs on you emotionally. Also, Blue's Saturn is not making aspects to Red, which again shows me that you aren't as committed. It's like one foot in, the other out.

As a Virgo, you tend to analyze and express worry more than he does anyway. He's a Scorpio Sun Venus, so charming, but he's a guy that feels his way through life, while you observe and process through thought. This actually can be beneficial for both of you, I like the blend of earth and water for sure. And you can handle it as a Scorpio Moon and Venus. I think its less his Pluto bothering you and more his Saturn.

He's hitting your 7th house, but not your 8th and not your 8th house ruler. And he's putting Mars in your 7th, on your Neptune, which might be confusing and really pretty agitating... again troubling for a 4th house Virgo.

You're hitting his 7th with Jupiter, and the ruler is conjunct your Saturn. And you put Saturn in his 4th, which gives him incredible stability given he natally has Uranus and Neptune there. You're really helping him (or have the potential to) with his relationships and feeling a sense of security.

Anything can be worked through, for sure. But, I believe it is important to make your decision based on the now. You can hope for change, but I would not commit to a marriage based on that hope. Would you be able to be happy if nothing ever changed in the relationship and his baggage existed always as it does now?

posted August 15, 2018 08:57 AM            

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Originally posted by virgoscorpio:
I do have some minor aspects to my saturn (semi sextile to his mercury and mars). Not sure if those count?

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I am sure they do. I just think as much as you care for him, ultimately he may be falling short of what you truly need.

You do have a nice composite, with some tender aspects. But, is that enough for you?

posted August 15, 2018 12:03 PM            

I'm like your future self, telling you that when you are with the right person, you won't want to leave.

That being said, only you can answer the question with this man. IF you feel you could be happy with him, then feel good about that. And then maybe, since it's been a year, it's time for a solid discussion on how to handle these outside influences together as a team. Does he know how much they affect you?

posted August 15, 2018 01:08 PM            

He lives with his elderly parents who have a lot of health problems. The house is in very poor condition and has a mold problem, so I get allergic reactions when I go over there, but he is also allergic to my cats so it's problematic for him to come to my apartment.

I have tried to get an apartment with him, but so far he says he isn't ready for that and he thinks renting is a waste of money. He wants to buy a rental property instead and does seem to be working towards that goal.

posted August 17, 2018 03:51 PM            

the major obstacle inthis chart is that the Uranus/Saturn midpoint is conjunct to the south node. this might refer to the emotional baggage he has,but it certainly is associated with not being able to make up his mind or to being consistent in the relationship.
it tends to be a aspect of breakups.
the moon trine to mars and sextile to venus does gives a sense of support and affection overall but the Saturn/pluto midpoint is conjunct to Venus which indicates a lack of emotional commitment or an inability to from emotional intimacy. this is also likely to reflect his emotional baggage.

with moon square to Uranus and the mars/venus midpoint fairly close to Uranus, there does seem to be a spontaneous affection.

the sun/moon midpoint is square to Neptune and square to the Jupiter, Uranus midpoint which suggest the uncertainties of the relationship will never clear up and the Uranus/Jupiter square is another strong indication that a breakup is inevitable.

this just seems very muddled to me.

posted August 17, 2018 05:31 PM            

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Originally posted by virgoscorpio:
On a side note I have found that I am always attracted to people with a lot of Scorpio in their charts. I was wondering if you know why that is? I noticed that they put planets in my 6th house which is ruled by Virgo. Or maybe it's because of my Venus in Scorpio?

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posted September 05, 2018 09:35 AM            

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Originally posted by todd:
hi virgoscorp

the major obstacle inthis chart is that the Uranus/Saturn midpoint is conjunct to the south node. this might refer to the emotional baggage he has,but it certainly is associated with not being able to make up his mind or to being consistent in the relationship.
it tends to be a aspect of breakups.
the moon trine to mars and sextile to venus does gives a sense of support and affection overall but the Saturn/pluto midpoint is conjunct to Venus which indicates a lack of emotional commitment or an inability to from emotional intimacy. this is also likely to reflect his emotional baggage.

with moon square to Uranus and the mars/venus midpoint fairly close to Uranus, there does seem to be a spontaneous affection.

the sun/moon midpoint is square to Neptune and square to the Jupiter, Uranus midpoint which suggest the uncertainties of the relationship will never clear up and the Uranus/Jupiter square is another strong indication that a breakup is inevitable.

this just seems very muddled to me.

todd

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