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girlwiththerainysoul
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posted September 24, 2018 02:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for girlwiththerainysoul     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
for the first time I have become attracted to a married man

the attraction is very strong, to the point that I am losing my control around him, feeling hot, moist and trembly...it's pretty embarrassing

I have known him for about nine months now and he is sort of my boss...he could also easily be my father, but he's so damn handsome and energetic for a man his age

I developed a crush on him since the first day I met him, but lately it's growing so strong and we are both having a hard time denying it and not showing it (composite sun is conjunct moon in the 10th house)

I just want to push him to a wall, pull his pants down and s**k his c**K for hours! then have him fill me up while eating my boobs


he has already sabotaged a couple of project potentials I had with male co workers...I have noticed this just now, that all of these have been an act of jealousy and over-protectiveness of a cancer man...he's been showering me with little gifts lately, and giving me compliments that I absolutely do not deserve! (maybe it's because of his moon in leo?!)

he also gets very vindictive when he sees me talking to a guy...even though it's something absolutely work-related

his sun/mercury conjunct my venus
his mars/uranus right on my AC
my mars conjunct his venus (wider)
my moon possibly on his DC
his moon/pluto square my sun (wider)
his moon in my 1st
his venus conjunct my AC (wider/out of sign)
his venus on my SN (wider)
my sun right on his SN
his sun opposite my uranus and neptune
my jupiter right on his mars


I know that absolutely nothing can happen with him, because he is married

but how can I deal with this situation?

I cannot leave this place for another year at least, because I need the credit

I have left jobs in the past because of inappropriate advances of a boss or a colleague, but this time is different...I really adore this man and I feel an incredible amount of love and warmth just standing near him...every day that I spend around him, even if nothing personal is happening yet, it's like the most wonderful day!

to be honest, I'm right on the verge of confessing my feelings to him (hasty Aries mercury )


what do you think I should do?

I have never been in such a situation


he's a really controlling man too...I'm kinda worried that if I try to leave this place, he'll give bad raps of me to other firms to keep me here...I'm kind of stuck

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HieronymusTush
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posted September 24, 2018 03:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for HieronymusTush     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:
for the first time I have become attracted to a married man

the attraction is very strong, to the point that I am losing my control around him, feeling hot, moist and trembly...it's pretty embarrassing

I have known him for about nine months now and he is sort of my boss...he could also easily be my father, but he's so damn handsome and energetic for a man his age

I developed a crush on him since the first day I met him, but lately it's growing so strong and we are both having a hard time denying it and not showing it (composite sun is conjunct moon in the 10th house)

I just want to push him to a wall, pull his pants down and s**k his c**K for hours! then have him fill me up while eating my boobs


he has already sabotaged a couple of project potentials I had with male co workers...I have noticed this just now, that all of these have been an act of jealousy and over-protectiveness of a cancer man...he's been showering me with little gifts lately, and giving me compliments that I absolutely do not deserve! (maybe it's because of his moon in leo?!)

he also gets very vindictive when he sees me talking to a guy...even though it's something absolutely work-related

his sun/mercury conjunct my venus
his mars/uranus right on my AC
my mars conjunct his venus (wider)
my moon possibly on his DC
his moon/pluto square my sun (wider)
his moon in my 1st
his venus conjunct my AC (wider/out of sign)
his venus on my SN (wider)
my sun right on his SN
his sun opposite my uranus and neptune
my jupiter right on his mars


I know that absolutely nothing can happen with him, because he is married

but how can I deal with this situation?

I cannot leave this place for another year at least, because I need the credit

I have left jobs in the past because of inappropriate advances of a boss or a colleague, but this time is different...I really adore this man and I feel an incredible amount of love and warmth just standing near him...every day that I spend around him, even if nothing personal is happening yet, it's like the most wonderful day!

to be honest, I'm right on the verge of confessing my feelings to him (hasty Aries mercury )


what do you think I should do?

I have never been in such a situation


he's a really controlling man too...I'm kinda worried that if I try to leave this place, he'll give bad raps of me to other firms to keep me here...I'm kind of stuck


Girl, no! lol. I can't think of a worse thing than being stuck in a close unbalanced work dynamic with a controlling man. You think he'll get vindictive if you leave - don't you think he'll pull up way worse drama if you do get involved while still working together and things go south with whatever reason?

But this is probably all my Venus, Mercury in Scorpio in 10th house. I cannot bear the idea of mixing work and personal stuff, it feels like tainting two of my most sacred areas if that makes sense. But I'm not a moralist about this in any way. Everyone's best path is different

Please be safe! Hope you're able to go for what's good for you.

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girlwiththerainysoul
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posted September 24, 2018 03:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for girlwiththerainysoul     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks Tush!

I'll try my best to keep silent, and act as as normal as possible, even though it's very hard...he's got this strong intuition too, almost psychic..I think he already knows

but you're absolutely right...at least this way he won't have anything to hold against me

I have sun in the 10th...opposite pluto!...always have to deal with controlling bosses...I have a thing for them too, I must confess!

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posted September 24, 2018 03:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aries23Degrees     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Kiss him. Nothing more. Just that.

That's what I would do to ascertain whether its really love or fantasies built up in my head.

Do you have Mars/Venus in 6th?

I have Mars in Libra in 6th and have developed crushes on bosses and co-workers before. It happens.

In these situations I think its the "inappropriateness" of it all that makes it more exciting.

Just kiss him. The tension could wear out from that kiss alone. Because right now, it is getting all pent up to explosive lengths.

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hypatia238
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posted September 24, 2018 04:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hypatia238     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:

the attraction is very strong, to the point that I am losing my control around him, feeling hot, moist and trembly...it's pretty embarrassing


I had a client once, actually two, both Leo, all of a sudden it would get VERY hot in my office when they would walk in. I got through it, my strategy was to channel that by flirting with other people online and I did meet someone who distracted me for a while bc I definitely cannot act on the desire for a client without a trace of a doubt, hell no

I will read your post now but everyone here will tell you not to be with a married a man, nobody is going to say "go for it! And seize the day!" Lol

But my opinion is if he is already a cheater or looking to cheat he will go for it whether is with you or someone else and if he is not he won't anyways. I will add is hard to break up a marriage bc people who are married and cheat feel trapped in some way that is why they cheat instead of ending it.

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posted September 24, 2018 05:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for girlwiththerainysoul     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@Aries23

Oh I was so wishing for someone to tell me to go for it!... But now that I have heard it, it somehow made me certain that I can't get involved with a married man... I'm not exclusively dating anybody now, because I still haven't decided what I want...and I think it's easy for me to justify it by telling myself that I am single now and very few men can remain monogamous...so why not?....but still at the end of the day I don't want to seduce another woman's husband... I don't want that kind of karma

Maybe a sweet innocent kiss on the cheek?... But in a way that's even worse for me! It would be like torture.. He has very kissable puffy lips too... It's all so hard to resist!

To answer your question, no, I don't have venus/mars in the 6th...there I have uranus, neptune, NN trining my sun...but if you count uranus as my DC ruler, it may give some clues


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posted September 24, 2018 05:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for girlwiththerainysoul     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@hypatia

When I like someone I get so fixated on them that it becomes impossible to distract myself or simply forget about it...if he were single I would have had him months ago, before things getting so built up to the point of public embarrassment

Also I have no idea if he's a cheater...but he's not the type to be easily seduced by shallow younger pretty women either as he's constantly around them and gives them no importance

He's a really smart man, so I doubt he's a cheater

He's just become a bit obsessed with me as I have with him... Months ago when I dod something he didn't like, probably laughing with some guy colleague, he gave me a hard work punishment and made me pay for it for days

When we're alone, apart from the unbearable heat developing around us, I just ache to touch him... He's got his urges well under control though, because when he notices this, he distracts us by asking personal questions about me, then I usually excuse myself and leave his office and then go home and dream about him all day...

These days things are getting more and more intense

I think I soon need to take some time off work

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posted September 24, 2018 05:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hypatia238     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:
@hypatia

When I like someone I get so fixated on them that it becomes impossible to distract myself or simply forget about it...


I am the same but the particular situations I am talking about I was able to let go and distract after I stopped seeing them, one graduated from therapy and gave me great feedback and the other got a job and his schedule did not allow him to keep coming to sessions..the last one I felt a strong connection with so I had to try harder to let go, the first it was just attraction and after the first two sessions it was not really distracting...

But in your case you are forced to see him daily and work with him! Versus an hour weekly or biweekly...

I have never been in your position, personally just knowing someone is married makes me lose interest even if I flirt with them but I will automatically not bond with them on a deep emotional level, is not a moral thing for me actually but I am unable to get attached to them or take them seriously, it's just automatic.

Based on your feedback I guess you have to accept you will have feelings for him but can't act on them and look for another place to work once your internship is over if the feelings don't fade and he is too distracting.

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posted September 24, 2018 05:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hypatia238     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:

I think I soon need to take some time off work


Lol ohh girl I feel your pain! Is like that client I wanted badly, its torture!!! Only once did I have to experience that type of torture. But you work there as an intern, tough one. Avoid him as much as possible.

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posted September 24, 2018 06:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for girlwiththerainysoul     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I just hope for things to stay good and pure and not get ugly

Based on experience, every time I had a strong obsession it turned bloody and teary and I was practically forced to leave

This time is very critical for me because work is also involved

I guess as always I can only hope for the best and let things flow naturally

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posted September 25, 2018 07:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LunaIscariot     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Don’t do it.
Lust isn’t worth being a ****** person who lacks respect, morals or integrity and being “that woman” who goes after a taken man.
Don’t be selfish, think about his wife. How would you feel if the tables were turned? It’s also bad karma, the same thing might happen to you one day.
It’s just overall not a good idea. What do you expect to happen? He’s going to leave his wife for you? lol unlikely. If you’re already this emotionally involved it’s only going to get worse if you start sleeping with him and you will be hurt in the end.
And even if he did leave his wife, would you really want a man who would do that? He’s just going to do the same thing to you too eventually.
The fact it’s a work relationship is just another reason not to do it.

There are plenty of fish in sea, plenty of other men (around your age as well!) who aren’t married or taken who you can have just as good if not better synastry/chemistry with etc.

I am curious about your synastry and composite though, you should post it

Sounds like strong Pluto or 8th house and mars aspects are going on giving you the obsession and strong sexual attraction.

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posted September 25, 2018 08:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for StoneMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I agree, don't do it.

And with that kind of tension built up, a kiss would not stop at a kiss. Breathe deep and distract distract distract!

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posted September 25, 2018 01:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for girlwiththerainysoul     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@LunaIscariot

you repeated everything I already wrote here!...you gave me back my own words lol but thanks anyways


thank you all for sharing your pieces of advice with me!


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