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LunaIscariot
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posted September 25, 2018 08:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LunaIscariot     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This is the charts (TOB accurate for both) of my old friend and I. We stopped being friends after I rejected him and things got weird lol.
He was very attracted and interested in me and wanted a relationship, but I only liked him as a friend. I had no romantic or sexual attraction or feelings for him in that way AT ALL! Even tho he is a good looking guy. It just felt so off and weird to me to even be physically close to him lol. Like a family member but even more weird.
Zero chemistry from my side, although we were great friends and I enjoyed his company and we got along very well.

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sassaqua
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posted September 25, 2018 10:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sassaqua     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Who's who?

Are you the red?

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LunaIscariot
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posted September 25, 2018 11:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LunaIscariot     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes sorry I'm on the outside I’m red

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posted September 25, 2018 11:16 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LunaIscariot     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It's funny too because we have DW Venus mars contacts, square and trine, but nope no chemistry lol.
But with my ex we had no Venus/mars and we were insanely sexually compatible and attracted to each other. So Venus-mars contacts are not all they're hyped up to be imo.
I think the main reason I didn't like him is being he doesn't have anything in my relationship houses nor does he match the symbolism very well or really activate my rulers...

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posted September 25, 2018 12:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sassaqua     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It's annoying when the aspect lines aren't there in the chart.. Still not sure why this happens..

The Ven/Mars DW are there though yes. You'd think those outer planets would do something too - your Venus conjunct his Neptune.

Also, that you have low fire, and your Saturn Aries would "see" his Aries Mars. Maybe he's not fiery enough? There's a rapport there that you have a similar balance and you both probably feel that (feels like family). He's too similar for you.

But I think what I see is that there is a lack of Saturn aspects. There's not enough grounded commitment energy in the chart. Without it, it can make the interaction flow with congeniality, but without Saturn there is not the gritty question being asking - what are we?

I can understand his attraction with your stellium on his IC. He makes Saturn (Moon conjunct) contact to your Mercury - this gives his Moon a voice through you (Moon is preverbal). So, it's understandable why he would project, and outsource this Moon element on to you. Ie, because men tend to do that.

I can also understand that he would look up to you in a way, because of your MC on his IC.

But, yes, I'm going Saturn here. Houses placements come after the sensation of Saturn in the interaction

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posted September 25, 2018 12:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LunaIscariot     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Interesting analysis! 😊 Thank you!

His Venus is trine my sun, mars, Uranus and opp my Pluto, it actually makes a kite.
So having his Venus aspected quite a bit helps.

I'm only attracted to guys with strong Scorpio or Pluto placements, Leo, cancer and Virgo in that order.
He doesn't have any of that haha
In all my crushes or guys I've ever liked/loved there was always a strong Leo or Scorpio going on in their chart, or both! Like with my ex, I was literally obsessed with him. Horrible toxic relationship though with zero compatibility lol! Thank god it's over
This guy I actually met through my ex, he was one of his best friends, we would all hangout together and when we broke up he wanted to date me

Just realized my mars only makes one aspect which is a trine to his Venus lol

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posted September 25, 2018 12:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sassaqua     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes, makes sense with your ruler - Pluto - of 7H in the 7H.

He's not ambitious/powerful/driven enough for you I would say also to ignite attraction. You, with all those planets in the MC.. you need someone who's driven in the outside world.

His chart is lower hemisphere dominant, yours in upper. He'd make a nice stay at home dad though

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posted September 25, 2018 12:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LunaIscariot     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Curious about your opinion on these charts
Another unrequited love situation lol...
This is the ex and I that I mentioned
I was madly in love with him, he was physically and sexually attracted to me... but that's it, he never loved me or had genuine feelings.
I pursed him, he dated me as a rebound after his ex who I'm pretty sure he is still not over to this day almost 3 years later lol

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posted September 25, 2018 01:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sassaqua     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Your Mars is closer aspected to his Sun (Lib 5/Aqu 3). Saturn to his Sun is exact (Ar/Aqu 3).. Also, Saturn is connected to his Pluto and Jupiter: both strong forces. The close aspects and the Saturn connections make a strong attraction that drives to consider commitment.

While the hemispheres are still similar (he's still more lower), because the aspects are generally closer, and also that he has more fire (than the other guy) gives him a greater male presence and the sense that he is driven and has greater power. It drives some attraction.

He might, otoh, be looking to commit to someone softer (Sat/Pis) and less driven/independent or practical than your chart (all your Cap)? His Saturn is not so predominantly aspected as yours is with him either.

I always consider age and stage of life too because hormones can play a role in how and why we are attracted the way we are. Sometimes there is less room to compromise, or the contrary, more compromise made (people put up with bad synastry) because hormones and the goal of looking to build a life.

It's a bit zoomed to see the houses

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posted September 25, 2018 01:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LunaIscariot     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm actually not at all driven or independent though, I wish I was...He actually didn't like that about me, he wanted someone more like that with his cap DSC...
I don't know why I don't relate to my 10th house stellium at all
Maybe because my Saturn is in detriment and in the 12th intercepted it's actually very weak.
Im ridiculously sensitive and emotional and he tell me I was too sensitive all the time lol

I think the main culprit was his Venus which is also his 5th house ruler is only making 1 aspect to my moon and it's a square...
his other intercepted 5th rulers also don't make much aspects or match my chart symbolism wise.
I matched his 7th and 8th very well though. Probably what kept us together so long for 3 years

Oh and I'm sorry, what's wrong with the houses?
I did this with my iPad lol never don that before

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posted September 25, 2018 01:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sassaqua     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
No, I don't think you have to be these things for the planets to sense the vibe. It's about energy exchange on a subtle level.

Yes, the Saturn in the 12H would provide that softening for sure.

"I think the main culprit was his Venus which is also his 5th house ruler is only making 1 aspect to my moon and it's a square..." Yeah.. that's a rough one for sure.

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LunaIscariot
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posted September 25, 2018 01:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LunaIscariot     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by sassaqua:
No, I don't think you have to be these things for the planets to sense the vibe. It's about energy exchange on a subtle level.

Yes, the Saturn in the 12H would provide that softening for sure.

"I think the main culprit was his Venus which is also his 5th house ruler is only making 1 aspect to my moon and it's a square..." Yeah.. that's a rough one for sure.


Makes sense
Thanks for your insight! I like your perspective, haven't considered a lot of what you said about the Saturn thing before so that's interesting 👍

And yes, his poor Venus lol his Mercury was also totally unaspected. We had TERRIBLE communication, we would argue almost everyday and broke up like 50 times and got back together. He was abusive as well, he's a jerk.

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posted September 25, 2018 01:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sassaqua     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ohh no how awful. On both accounts! Bad Mercury is so so bad

Glad you got away.

Both Composites were average anyhow too. Hope you find someone gorgeous soon

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posted October 01, 2018 05:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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