posted October 20, 2018 07:00 AM            

I'm new to this site so I hope this is the right place for my post ..

I have a difficult relationship with my half-sister whom I grew up with from the age 0-4yrs.
She is 12 years older than me and our relationship grew to be really difficutl over the years (especially since the ages of 12 (her: 24) and even more so since the age of 16 (her: 28)

I was wondering if there were specific aspects in out synastry and/or composite that indicate the issues that we have.

Since I am quite new to astrology, the most I could find that seems to indicate negativity was her Saturn on my moon, her Chiron on my Venus and maybe her Uranus on my Pluto (all in synastry)?
I'm not 100% sure how to intepret those aspects and I may also have overlooked others..

That's why I'd like to know if anyone can help me with that

-> The images are linkes in a post down below!

Thanks in avdance !

posted October 21, 2018 01:40 PM            

saturn on another person's moon can restrict them emotionally and be harsh

from what you listed in general i'm getting a sense that she probably attempted to parent you and project a lot of her damage onto you in that process

usually much older siblings get a chip on their shoulder because parents generally treat the younger sibling very different having learned from their mistakes (it's similar to grand children in a sense) so they internalize that and process it negatively sometimes directed at the other child

i imagine her teenage years were hard for her to have started in on you then

posted October 21, 2018 03:04 PM            

I would think the huge age gap has more to do with it than astrology to be honest.

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posted October 23, 2018 03:47 AM            

So here's the synastry + composite ... seems like there are a lot of oppositions in the composite

[IMG]http://i1126.photobucket.com/albums/l604/hu_w_rly_A/Composite_Sisters_zps0zxusxn p.png[/IMG]

[IMG]http://i1126.photobucket.com/albums/l604/hu_w_rly_A/Composite_Sisters_zps0zxusxn p.png[/IMG]

Hope this works!

posted October 23, 2018 03:51 AM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
Welcome!

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posted October 23, 2018 03:56 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
i'm better with pictures, but based on what you said...

saturn on another person's moon can restrict them emotionally and be harsh

from what you listed in general i'm getting a sense that she probably attempted to parent you and project a lot of her damage onto you in that process

usually much older siblings get a chip on their shoulder because parents generally treat the younger sibling very different having learned from their mistakes (it's similar to grand children in a sense) so they internalize that and process it negatively sometimes directed at the other child

i imagine her teenage years were hard for her to have started in on you then

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Thank you!

Saturn on my moon feels like this very much, yes.

It's true - she attempted to parent me. But on the other hand, I never asked for her to do that and I don't see how it's fair that she would resent me for that...

And yes, I feel she does resent me as well because she thinks I had it easier. I don't think that's true though and my mum treated me in a way that she never treated her when she was a teenager - plus I had a step father from the age of 10 who was horrible and she never had that.

posted October 23, 2018 04:02 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Welcome to Lindaland!

I would think the huge age gap has more to do with it than astrology to be honest.

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Thanks a lot!

I just followed the instrcutions and I think it worked ..

I do think the age gap has something to do with it BUT I don't think an age gap between sisters inherently implies a bad relationship. Also, I am quite new, but I didn't think it was astrology vs. other factors?
I just hoped to gain more insight into the relationship issues through astrology - as it's supposed to be a mirror, in a way, isn't that right?

Thank you

posted October 23, 2018 05:45 AM            

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Originally posted by Hu_w_ryl_A:
Thank you!

Saturn on my moon feels like this very much, yes.

It's true - she attempted to parent me. But on the other hand, I never asked for her to do that and I don't see how it's fair that she would resent me for that...

And yes, I feel she does resent me as well because she thinks I had it easier. I don't think that's true though and my mum treated me in a way that she never treated her when she was a teenager - plus I had a step father from the age of 10 who was horrible and she never had that.

PS.
I posted links to the synastry + composite ( I hope they work)

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you don't have to ask, some people take it upon themselves to act that way then get angry if it's not well received

my older brother was like that, but in my case he acted like a violent hypocritical idiot (funny enough though it's my saturn on his moon though, and i find his emotional responses to things idiotic and find him annoying and embarrassing... whereas he tells me he can't stand me, lot of mutual dislike and we can't get along most of the time) then would get angry when i did what i wanted to anyway even if he attacked me for it (i don't take orders, regardless of consequences, even/especially as a child)

https://imgur.com/a/cj32pij (this is mine and his, i'm red, my brother is blue... my parents managed to have one of each fire moon, our younger brother is a leo moon) i'm 7 years younger than him, so it's less of an age gap, but still significant enough to have some of the "parent" issues on the older siblings' part

whether or not you actually have it easier, some people just see different or a few things they wanted and that's enough to set them off, especially of they had issues growing up

it doesn't have to make sense or be fair really, because people don't always make sense and aren't always fair

just kind of how it is

it's easier in some cases to just avoid people whether or not theyre family, like the less i see of my older brother the better

because us having a civil conversation is me just pretending i care while he rambles on about nothing interesting without wanting actual conversation anyway, and if it isnt that it's a fight or about to be

sounds like you're better off avoiding your sister too tbh

posted October 23, 2018 07:00 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
you don't have to ask, some people take it upon themselves to act that way then get angry if it's not well received

my older brother was like that, but in my case he acted like a violent hypocritical idiot (funny enough though it's my saturn on his moon though, and i find his emotional responses to things idiotic and find him annoying and embarrassing... whereas he tells me he can't stand me, lot of mutual dislike and we can't get along most of the time) then would get angry when i did what i wanted to anyway even if he attacked me for it (i don't take orders, regardless of consequences, even/especially as a child)

https://imgur.com/a/cj32pij (this is mine and his, i'm red, my brother is blue... my parents managed to have one of each fire moon, our younger brother is a leo moon) i'm 7 years younger than him, so it's less of an age gap, but still significant enough to have some of the "parent" issues on the older siblings' part

whether or not you actually have it easier, some people just see different or a few things they wanted and that's enough to set them off, especially of they had issues growing up

it doesn't have to make sense or be fair really, because people don't always make sense and aren't always fair

just kind of how it is

it's easier in some cases to just avoid people whether or not theyre family, like the less i see of my older brother the better

because us having a civil conversation is me just pretending i care while he rambles on about nothing interesting without wanting actual conversation anyway, and if it isnt that it's a fight or about to be

sounds like you're better off avoiding your sister too tbh

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Thanks for your reply!

Yes, I've actually been ignoring her on and off the last couple of years ... I just am trying to clear things in my head about it.

Sorry to hear all that about your relationship w/ your brother.. there seem to be a lot of uneasy aspects like Jupiter opp. Saturn., Moon opp. Venus, Mercury + Pluto, Jupiter sq. Neptune, Pluto sq. Mars, Mars sq. Mercury + Venus etc

Do you notice how they affect you in particular? Other that Saturn Moon which you already described..

I am still hoping someone can help me interpret my composite b/c it's full of unfortunate aspects, i.e.:

Sun opp. Moon
Pluto opp. Mercury
Saturn opp. Venus
Mars opp. Uranus
Chiron opp. Uranus
Venus sq. Jupiter
Saturn sq. Jupiter
Lilith opp. Venus
Dejanira sq. Pluto
My name conjunct Dejanira...

posted October 23, 2018 08:56 AM            

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Originally posted by Hu_w_ryl_A:
Thanks for your reply!

Yes, I've actually been ignoring her on and off the last couple of years ... I just am trying to clear things in my head about it.

Sorry to hear all that about your relationship w/ your brother.. there seem to be a lot of uneasy aspects like Jupiter opp. Saturn., Moon opp. Venus, Mercury + Pluto, Jupiter sq. Neptune, Pluto sq. Mars, Mars sq. Mercury + Venus etc

Do you notice how they affect you in particular? Other that Saturn Moon which you already described..

I am still hoping someone can help me interpret my composite b/c it's full of unfortunate aspects, i.e.:

Sun opp. Moon
Pluto opp. Mercury
Saturn opp. Venus
Mars opp. Uranus
Chiron opp. Uranus
Venus sq. Jupiter
Saturn sq. Jupiter
Lilith opp. Venus
Dejanira sq. Pluto
My name conjunct Dejanira...

Wow :O

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i mentioned that particular aspect in synastry just because you have it with your sister and my brother and i have it the other way around so i know how it affects things from my perspective

though because she's older it doesn't surprise me that it came out in a "parenting" manner

my brother and i will do things for each other if one of us needs something, but we're much better off avoiding each other (though in my case he's also done ****** things like hit on my fiancee and one of my friends with benefits... they both hate him, especially my fiancee, but still... the fact that he alternates between trying to fight and **** people i'm involved with on it's own is ******** ...i actually get a lot of people who tell me they cant stand him or about things he did that **** them off etc since everyone i ever end up on good terms with hates him) because it doesnt take much for a fight to start

a lot of the aspects you listed are just further fleshing out how at odds the two of you are, and in all honesty it doesn't really sound like there's necessarily a way to reconcile things or even show her your point of view

too much stubborn taurus energy there i think, and sometimes with some people there's just no point

it's unfortunate though, and it doesn't seem like it's your fault or like you can do much of anything