posted November 09, 2018 09:56 AM            

Thank you
Lisa

Synastry

Composite

posted November 09, 2018 10:43 PM            

53% (5.3/10) overall synastry potential. meh.

35% (3.5/10) midpoint composite potential. Too many challenges for this couple with others.

posted November 14, 2018 02:22 AM            

I can't recall where I've done yours before. If you refresh my memory by bumping, I may be able to recall your natal and tag off that.

Anything you want to say about the dynamics here? Are you the one with all the work associates (or is that someone else)?

Maybe give us some clues so we know where to start and so we don't drain ourselves too much.

posted November 14, 2018 05:19 AM            

My reservations is that I am a mum of two girls under 2, such babies themselves. Their dad isn’t involved in their lives and I don’t wish to be away from them. They will go with a babysitter so I can see him but I don’t feel right palming them off to spend time with a man if that makes sense..
He knows this about me and is very eager to let me know he is happy to help me with them and wants a serious relationship with me. He’s asked me to be his girlfriend numerous times which I told him I still have a whole lot of getting to know him to do.

He wants to take me and my kids out on Friday into London somewhere my toddler would enjoy and then put for a meal. I am excited and anxious. I guess I would just like to know if you can see any Long term potential here with our charts, as I’m not looking to be introducing lots of men to my children if we are not going to be anything lasting.

So far to date I would say I have never been so attracted to a man before, and he is a sensitive Pisces moon with his Capricorn values. I wish not to invest my time if there is anything showing in our chat any violent tendancies etc. That’s my concerns.

Thank you for having a look for me. I’m hopeful this could turn out to be a significant relationship

Lisa

My natal

posted November 14, 2018 05:40 AM            

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Originally posted by comdoc:
Hi Lisa,

53% (5.3/10) overall synastry potential. meh.

35% (3.5/10) midpoint composite potential. Too many challenges for this couple with others.

You can do much better than this.

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posted November 14, 2018 07:09 AM            

[Edit: I am only looking at sign placements here, not the aspects]

are the DOB correct? If so, your horizontal axes are complementary. Not exact, but enough to give a "I know you" vibe.

Also, your Gemini planets fall in his 7th, and we're not just talking one or two but a heap and including Jupiter and Venus (yum).

AND, his mars is conjunct your Venus so, again with the "I know you" vibe. And passionate sex that will see you through a lot of time and tribulations, should you have any biggies in your charts [edit: dependent on the natals of course]. His Mars is sitting in the midpoint there between your Venus and nicely stimulating your Sun also.

His Jupiter too, is sitting nicely with that whole party in Gemini there, which your Jupiter is pretty happy about, as is your Moon. Which is good too because it brings a lightness to the tension your Moon has there in the t-square [edit, yes by element, the synastry really tells a different story though with your Moon].

Also, his Moon is not left out, as it's comforted by your Mars [both in water]. Which, again for you, provides a softness to that t-square that you have.

So, that's a quick glance at the dynamics between the natals on the surface and not looking at degrees [edit - I just looked real quick at the synastry and it's a bit troubling].

What I notice now is that, his Venus is not all that healthy. Like, it really has no outlets for the tension there. This can be a signature for a man with esteem issues, and because it's Venus, he will project this onto women, try to control them, or steal their esteem by putting them down and such (for but some examples).

And, really, your natal doesn't provide too much to soothe that Venus either. Which means you could be a candidate to be the enemy if he wants to blame someone for not making him satisfied. Only your Jupiter at 12 degrees Gemini which is wide, and further, Jupiter can exacerbate his issue anyhow.

His Venus is opposite his own Jupiter which can signature grandiosity and ego inflation to compensate for the esteem issues of Venus. And too it's square Pluto. Not sure if you're up to date with that kind of thing? I think you should google some of these aspects to learn more. Especially the Venus square Pluto which denotes some control issues and with the Venus: control of women.

I kind of get the vibe that he comes across real nice and together, but there's a darker side.

BUT > the squares to Pluto from his Venus and his Jupiter is closer in degrees to the Venus side, and very wide from the Jupiter side. If that makes sense? Which would kind of be better .., but then, your Pluto closes that off - your Pluto is closer in degrees to the Jupiter end. So this really makes an intense T-square. And quite possibly the heightened feels you're having right now with him.

Next issue, is that, his Pluto is opposite your Sun. And the whole lot then adds up to a grand cross with some pretty hairy planets and denoting issues of control and powers struggles. And that, his Venus and his self esteem is involved means that he is challenged in the capacity to "live and let live".

Even though your Moon Venus and Mercury do provide some support.. it's a gamble and I'd be careful. And, if he's wanting to control or manipulate you, your Sun, being in the 12H is a bit defenseless and will be easily undermined and it will be a slow erosion that will happen over time without you knowing.

That's all I've looked at. I like looking at natals because I like looking at these pattern completions. [Edit: If I didn't look at the natals, I would not have seen the condition of his Venus and in the synastry would've just seen an unaspected Venus but the condition of it in the natal is very important]. I am so sorry if I give grim information but, it is reality and it's better to go into these things aware is my belief. There's always going to be challenges (something that I've learned over years), just means you tread carefully.

Edit - I had to come back and edit because that synastry on top of his natal is troubling. I will come back and look further at the synastry soon. Hopefully someone else can chime in, give their views and finish off what I've started

Please keep us updated. It takes a lot of energy and time to read charts. The least people could do is return some of that by keeping the conversation open and updating us all.

posted November 18, 2018 04:40 AM            

How great to be loved up <3

Hopefully others will chime in too.

posted November 18, 2018 04:48 AM            

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Originally posted by HieronymusTush:
Hi comdoc, could I ask how you arrive at these exact numbers?

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posted November 20, 2018 12:52 PM            

First applied to physical bodies of thousands of patients with relationship challenges. Later discovered it also worked with astrological configurations. Began as a 10 scale (1-9) comparison, and developed into a more precise 100 (1-99) scale value.

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Originally posted by HieronymusTush:
Hi comdoc, could I ask how you arrive at these exact numbers?

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posted December 05, 2018 02:25 PM            

So far so good between us. Spot on about the passionate sex and it will definitely see us through any rough patches! I’ve never had such a perfect lover for me and the feeling is very much mutual.
I believe we are close to falling in love, and I am yet to see any controlling behaviour, and am finding it hard to imagine him ever putting me down, he is a true Pisces moon and very kind at heart, I don’t see it in his nature.
I will let you know for sure if this ever plays out though, and I am keeping an eye out for an grandiose behaviour on his part.

I would really like to ask you about my tsquare in my natal chart, I am still a bit miffed as to how this will play out; a few have commented on my synastries and how someone could soften this pattern I have, but I am yet to really understand how it effects me.

Would be ever so grateful when you find the time to dig a little deeper into our synastry, as I feel there is a lot of strength in it, especially out vertex Conjunct descendant. I could see myself falling deeply in love with this man, but having two young daughters, I want to ensure I have a decent man in our lives.

Thank you for all the time you take with peoples charts free of charge. I do try to comment on charts myself if I feel confident in my interpretation, but am not experienced enough to balance in my head the good/bad aspects ratio to come up with a verdict. I hope to improve and be able to be of help to others as well one day.

posted December 07, 2018 01:18 AM            

Oh yes, I remember now your charts and the situation. So good to hear how you are going. Is TOB known btw?

It's very hard to read charts! Weighing it all up is hard. Especially because something may be missed and you give bad or wrong information. And people really take it all seriously so there's a lot of responsibility I feel. Why I have never done it for reals. I also come with my biases - eg, I am a bit funny with hard aspects because of my own experiences. I am learning to loosen up a bit.

I will go over your chart again in the next few days with this new information. And also see if I can go deeper.

Regarding t-squares - yes, I have them too. I don't quite understand them either. I think, when you have them you're so close that you don't see your own issue. Whereas others might. It is one of the most common configurations though. Which, I'm not sure is a good thing because it only means there are more people with t-squares interacting with all their issues. Search it and read is all I can say. But I will have a look at that also.

Did you search some of his aspects?

posted December 07, 2018 04:42 AM            

Yes I am intrigued with my tsquare. can’t find out much information on how this would manifest but would be interested to find out.! Hope things are going well with your man, and if @stonemoon would like to pitch in that would be great! I’ll also update you on what you can pick up.

I’m not sure how to get the degrees to show up sass, but I’ve added some love asteroids and aspects to Chiron & nodes. I’m red, he’s blue. I’ve swapped our overlays over and find it easier to read this way. Hope as he has had his Saturn return he will have overcome those hard Venus aspects in his natal, I am aware of them but yet to see any sign on controlling or grandiose behaviour. I guess it’s too soon to tell!

Please let us know what you find out and I’ll keep you posted 😘

posted December 07, 2018 04:46 AM            

Like the ones I have in my thread. http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum35/HTML/008483.html

See how the planets have the degrees.

And no asteroids please. Much too busy. Just Chiron and nodes, and Juno then. But keep the chart here above, so we can look at asteroids if we want

Make sure to tick the aspects to these in the tick boxes option in the Display and Calculation Options at the bottom of that page, and to the right of where the asteroid adding bit is - it's under "Aspects".

There are two options to tick: 1. to Chiron 2. to lunar node and eclipses

posted December 07, 2018 07:06 AM            

But, yes, repost the natals above so we can see the degrees easier.

posted December 07, 2018 07:19 AM            

Can’t wait to hear back from you, and hopefully @stonemoon too!

posted December 07, 2018 08:40 AM            

I am going to check out your charts, but as I was reading Sass's interpretation I wanted to share a reaction I had. Some men with control issues come in like a knight in shining armor. I have experienced this personally. For months this man was perfect, treated me like a queen, said all the right things, did all the right things... and then slowly, after about four months, he unravelled. His dark side started to show. He very much tried to control me and he became verbally aggressive.

The reaction I had to reading Sass's interp was an alarm bell. A man that comes in hot and heavy and wants to involve himself in your life from day one, taking on two babies that don't belong to him? That's a red flag. I am not saying he might not turn out to be your true knight in shining armor, but moving too fast is a flag.

I don't mean to be a downer and I will read your synastry, but I would heed Sass's warning. This does not mean don't date him, but it means go slow. Do not involve your babies yet. Take time for you to get to know him...