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Hikaru29
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posted December 01, 2018 02:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hikaru29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
There's this girl that I really dislike and recently I found out that her birthday is just one day after me (same year)! So I did up her natal chart and realised that we have almost exact planetary placements (Sun/Mercury in Taurus, Venus in Gemini and Mars in Pisces) except our Moons (she's Cap moon while I'm Sag moon). She's very provocative so I'm guessing her Asc could be a fire sign?

Anyway, she really rubs me the wrong way and I can't believe we have such similar charts! And with so many similar planet placements how come we don't get along? It reminded me of another girl I knew before whom I share the exact same birthday (dd/mm/yy) and we didn't get along either.

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posted December 01, 2018 03:48 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sassaqua     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yeah.. that sometimes happens because you see yourself reflected back! It can bring up questions about your own self acceptance

But it's not always this. If the planets are conjunct quite a bit and closely, there is a competition for space for the planets. There can be this feeling of having someone on your turf. Someone doing your thing.

Great opportunity for astrological study and personal self reflection. Really interesting to watch.

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Hikaru29
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posted December 01, 2018 06:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hikaru29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by sassaqua:
Yeah.. that sometimes happens because you see yourself reflected back! It can bring up questions about your own self acceptance

But it's not always this. If the planets are conjunct quite a bit and closely, there is a competition for space for the planets. There can be this feeling of having someone on your turf. Someone doing your thing.

Great opportunity for astrological study and personal self reflection. Really interesting to watch.


She's flirtatious just like me but I'm not the provocative type, so I guess it must be her Asc.

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posted December 01, 2018 09:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dumuzi     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
i never understood why women care so much if another woman is provocative or flirtacious

aside from that, not everyone would get along with themselves, the things you like arent always the things you are

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posted December 01, 2018 09:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hikaru29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
i never understood why women care so much if another woman is provocative or flirtacious

aside from that, not everyone would get along with themselves, the things you like arent always the things you are


Because she keeps provoking me by flirting with my boyfriend. She would suddenly hug/kiss him then turn to me and smile, then she tells my boyfriend "oh... I think your girlfriend is angry". Does that give me the right to dislike her now?

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posted December 01, 2018 10:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dumuzi     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
Because she keeps provoking me by flirting with my boyfriend. She would suddenly hug/kiss him then turn to me and smile, then she tells my boyfriend "oh... I think your girlfriend is angry". Does that give me the right to dislike her now?

well that's different than her just being provocative so yeah, it's direct disrespect

the way you phrased it before made me think of the way women just seem to hate one another

though i'd say it's more on your boyfriend than her really if it bothers you, she's still ****** up but he could tell her to chill too

she has no reason to try to make you happy or comfortable whereas he does

it is interesting that she's attracted to him though given your similar charts


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posted December 01, 2018 11:21 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hikaru29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
well that's different than her just being provocative so yeah, it's direct disrespect

the way you phrased it before made me think of the way women just seem to hate one another

though i'd say it's more on your boyfriend than her really if it bothers you, she's still ****** up but he could tell her to chill too

she has no reason to try to make you happy or comfortable whereas he does

it is interesting that she's attracted to him though given your similar charts


Well, the thread was simply why we don't get along despite our similar planet placements.

My boyfriend was taken aback and backed away but he's not the type to tell someone off. Once she asked me if she could hug my boyfriend and when I ignored her, she tried to do it but my boyfriend backed away. Her behaviour tells me she's doing this on purpose. She isn't really interested in my boyfriend per se because she does that with every guy. A friend who knows her well says that she became such a flirt after breaking up with her long-term boyfriend and she esp loves to stir **** between couples so I guess I'm not the only "victim".

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posted December 01, 2018 12:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dumuzi     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
Well, the thread was simply why we don't get along despite our similar planet placements.

My boyfriend was taken aback and backed away but he's not the type to tell someone off. Once she asked me if she could hug my boyfriend and when I ignored her, she tried to do it but my boyfriend backed away. Her behaviour tells me she's doing this on purpose. She isn't really interested in my boyfriend per se because she does that with every guy. A friend who knows her well says that she became such a flirt after breaking up with her long-term boyfriend and she esp loves to stir **** between couples so I guess I'm not the only "victim".


well that's easy, moon sign can change a lot to begin with, so can ascendant, and the things you have in common could easily aid in things that drive you apart

i have a virgo sun, but i dont generally spend time with anyone who has virgo in their chart

when i do meet people with virgo in their charts we can have great conversations and enjoy each other's company but we also will leave each other alone a lot

i can think of people who i would say i love who i know have love for me with virgo placements, but when it comes down to the day to day we arent really in each other's lives and get all of our deep connecting out in those moments

the people im drawn to instead who are in my life are often scorpio (i only have pluto here) sag (uranus and saturn are here so nothing personal) or aquarius (no planets or points there) because like i said before what we like and who were are arent typically exactly the same

and sometimes where we're similar to others can be the worst points of friction particularly when there's minor differences

2 people can be equally stubborn and see that as a good trait for themselves, but they'll have a hell of a time getting much of anywhere when they disagree if theyre prone to

i assumed from your initial wording this was a consistent repeated issue with her and your bf rather than something that happened once and then almost happened another time

not defending that sort of behavior, it's still not ok, i'm just trying to build a clear picture

either way though it comes back to being similar not always being good and things that can look like minor differences being the sort of thing that can ultimately alter everything

moon in particular is a big one, it's your emotional responses (in vedic your moon nakshatra and your ascendant nakshatra are more important, this is true in western as far as sign goes too as your ascendant basically sets your life path and your moon is far more personal to who you are than a sign you share with everyone born in that same month colors everything very differently) and it can change a lot of angles in a chart too, aspects also matter

i know a guy whose birthday is exactly a day before my fiancee's and his moon and his ascendant are both in pisces (her ascendant is aquarius her moon is aries), my sun falls almost exactly on his descendant funny enough

anyway, i rub him the wrong way and he frequently alternated between trying to fight with me and pick me apart to being friendly and helpful but ultimately we couldnt actually be friends

my fiancee on the other hand ive been with her 14 years and we were friends for about 20

they have things in common, but ultimately their differences were where the major issues were and the things that they have in commom made him unbearable

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posted December 01, 2018 01:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hikaru29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Dumuzi:

I'm usually not so easily riled up unless a person repeatedly pushes my buttons. But back to the original topic, I believe the different Moons and Ascendants must have made a significant difference but I'm puzzled...I thought Capricorn moons are serious people? And she has a Taurus sun at that.

My boyfriend and I have Moon sextile Moon by signs but he has a square with her. He has told me that sometimes he doesn't really understand her.

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posted December 01, 2018 01:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dumuzi     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
I'm usually not so easily riled up unless a person repeatedly pushes my buttons. But back to the original topic, I believe the different Moons and Ascendants must have made a significant difference but I'm puzzled...I thought Capricorn moons are serious people? And she has a Taurus sun at that.

My boyfriend and I have Moon sextile Moon by signs but he has a square with her. He has told me that sometimes he doesn't really understand her.



fair enough

capricorn moons can be serious people, but they can also be the sort of person who gets what they want regardless of who else it affects (like the sort of behavior you're describing) because capricorns can be harsh in that way

she could be looking at those other women as obstacles rather than people if that makes sense

also ascendant can affect the house the moon is in, and again aspects

her moon in capricorn but that might cause an affliction in her chart you don't have or her ascendant might put her venus in a place like the 12th house etc

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posted December 02, 2018 12:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hikaru29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Dumuzi:

capricorn moons can be serious people, but they can also be the sort of person who gets what they want regardless of who else it affects (like the sort of behavior you're describing) because capricorns can be harsh in that way

she could be looking at those other women as obstacles rather than people if that makes sense


That's a good point. I never saw Capricorn moon like that.

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