posted December 12, 2018 07:17 AM            

And what does it mean when his Nessus conjuncts my Saturn (3°)? Will my Saturn be able to control his "abusive" tendencies?

posted December 12, 2018 07:37 AM            

that being said abusers are often abused so it being in a chart can indicate that, but manifestation is always in other areas of a chart

i would know, i have nessus conjunct sun

i can sense weakness in other people and everything that would hurt them very easily, and it's a choice to not exploit it because i'm not that sort of person

but i know i could and i know i could dig in deeper than most

however, what you're describing is emotional abuse and you shouldn't let that slide and just keep going back hoping that he's going to change because he's likely emotionally immature if it's manifesting that way and that's going to be an issue

posted December 12, 2018 08:43 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
nessus doesnt necessarily indicate an abuser, but rather an intimate knowledge of abuse

that being said abusers are often abused so it being in a chart can indicate that, but manifestation is always in other areas of a chart

i would know, i have nessus conjunct sun

i can sense weakness in other people and everything that would hurt them very easily, and it's a choice to not exploit it because i'm not that sort of person

but i know i could and i know i could dig in deeper than most

however, what you're describing is emotional abuse and you shouldn't let that slide and just keep going back hoping that he's going to change because he's likely emotionally immature if it's manifesting that way and that's going to be an issue

i think you know that already, and if he seems to get pleasure from it he likely does and that's not your imagination or you being too sensitive

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I don't think he gets a pleasure in a sadistic way. I sense a lot of insecurities in him too (like he asks me what I like about him... if I'm happy being with him, etc) and he's very sensitive to what I say/do but he won't admit it. He will act out instead in such a manner. E.g. once he thought I was gonna break up with him (becos of something I said) so he said he was planning to leave the country. When he saw that I got all teary-eyed, he told me it was a joke. I was so angry I smacked his head. He then gave me a long hug and a kiss. I was utterly confused.