posted February 08, 2019 05:47 PM            

On the one hand, we're chalk and cheese. I got the vibe she's a bit "high maintenance" (an Instagram account where she presents herself living this fake aspirational lifestyle, an ex-hubby who looked like a boy-band member and earned a hefty wage). Truth be told, in my worst moments, I felt she came across as a shallow, spoilt brat.

To an extent I get the feeling, the impulse bad reaction was mutual. Whilst I wouldn't call myself a slob, I'm definitely got a reputation as a slightly geeky, boho, "creative" sort who doesn't really give a damn about what's "cool" or "presentable". More than once, I think she's found me exasperating and probably with good reason.

But here's the thing... over the last year, maybe once in a blue moon, we bump into each other by the water cooler, by ourselves and just chat. And we get along. In fact, it feels comfortable and easy and like we really understand each other. We, dare I say it, connect. And then life carries on and from a distance my head thinks "yeah, we've *nothing* in common".

There's even been times when we've flirted, scarily enough. My head tells me she isn't serious, that she only does it for validation because... well, the whole notion of us finding the other attractive screams "does not compute".

So, I wondered... are there any markers or patterns that could indicate this kind of love/hate thing?

If it helps, here's our synastry (I'm inner, she's outer - ignore her houses as I don't know her birth time):

posted February 08, 2019 07:49 PM            

Found this thread: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum35/HTML/005063.html

Not sure if mar1982delta is still around, but they said:

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Oh, a whole bunch of them could do imo, pluto-moon, pluto-sun, pluto-venus, pluto-mars, but at least 2 of them and most probably a DW..Plus, at least one of them a hard aspect, conjunction, square or opposition. That's the way I imagine it at least!

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posted February 08, 2019 08:54 PM            

First of all, let me just say, I've never met my astrological twin before, but here I am looking at your synastry chart and realized that you and I must have the exact same birthday (same year and day). Only our ascendants are different as I'm two hours older than you are.. :-)

posted March 11, 2019 05:48 PM            

(Actually, did you know that Thomas Bangalter of Daft Punk was born the same day as us as well? Not sure what time. I guess that makes us triplets...)

Thanks for your insight. I've been looking up Moon/Mars squares on other threads here too and its spooky: lots of people saying similar "I'm attracted to so-and-so yet they're totally not my type!"

posted April 21, 2019 05:38 PM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:

^ And you have Pluto square Sun in composite. I noticed this shows up in charts where the people involved feel incredibly attracted yet they fight against this feeling because it doesn't make sense. The attraction isn't in a sweet, loving way (unless you have other sweet aspects like Moon-Venus) but rather in a compulsive, sexual way and you can't help but become obsessed with this person or be drawn to them uncontrollably. Should you enter into a relationship, this aspect will cause you to keep testing each other esp if there's any slight hint that the other party may not be as involved/committed/loyal as you.

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Hi Hikaru29 - just realised I never said thanks for noticing this. It's certainly beginning to feel a bit like this more and more although, again, my overriding feeling is of "there can't be any attraction because it wouldn't make any sense, so obviously I should pooh-pooh this as much as I can."

If anything, though, the past few weeks have seen the ante being upped. I'm not deliberately flirting with her or anything. However, its becoming inescapably noticeable that she's now following me around and hovering. So often I say "Hi" and do small talk.

Most of the time she'll react positively - either we'll have a good chat or she'll act coy and flirt in a way that I don't take seriously because it feels too "knowing" - like she has power over me or something. So I don't react to it as if I notice it much. Maybe a bit playfully someimtes. Most often I just react as I would another workmate.

More often recently, she's been reacting in a slightly moody manner - not moody with me, she doesn't ignore me, in fact she'll often say "Hi" to me first - more moody with the world or life at that moment. It's like she constantly buzzes around me but has a face that suggests she's either p**sed off with something or is in the midst of dealing with something serious. Occasionally I'll catch her looking at me from across the office for no reason. Despite all this, bizarrely, we're feeling more comfortable around each other.

posted April 22, 2019 05:24 AM            

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Originally posted by Capguy75:
Took the the plunge and looked up the Composite. Again, her birth time's not known so please ignore houses:

Venus is conjunct NN to within 1 degree. That's... umm... interesting, right?

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posted April 23, 2019 03:46 AM            

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Originally posted by CardinalT-Square:
Hold the phone! @Hikaru29 can you elaborate more on how Sun square Pluto in the composite chart causes attraction to not make sense between the two individuals? Can you also look at the composite chart I posted in this thread http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum35/HTML/008992.html and tell me how it might play out please? I have a hunch I know what you're referring to, but clarification would certainly go a long ways.

Thanks for your time!😀

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I can only speak from my own experience and what others have said about their experience with composite Sun square Pluto.

It's a strangely intense attraction from the onset - the "why can't I stop staring at him or try to be near him" kinda feeling. One thing apparent (which some others have also said) about c-Sun square Pluto is the EYE CONTACT. When we look at each other I feel that he's staring into my soul. This is one reason it feels uncomfortable.

People say this is an attraction/repulsion aspect and some have reported not liking certain things about the other party despite the attraction, but for me the repulsion is more about resisting the intense attraction (like the eye contact I mentioned and the strong desire to be physically near him). I'm a flighty Gemini Venus who loves to flutter around... but whenever he's there, I feel stuck like glue!

I remember the first time we kissed, we were on fire...like 2 ravenous people. This is how we still are if we don't have intimacy for awhile.

This contact digs out strong emotions in us even if unintentional. Somehow, what you say/do will trigger a strong reaction from the other party so we can be super attracted to each other one moment, then super annoyed the next. If you're not in a close r/s you might not feel this. You might just stop at feeling intensely attracted.

Jealousy/possessiveness is part of the package. You might feel upset/insecure if one party suddenly distance themselves or not pay enough attention to you, or worse, if they pay attention to someone else.

We also have c-Pluto square Venus so it adds to the intensity.

posted April 23, 2019 08:48 AM            

I feel extremely hurt if he shows any coldness or if he gets annoyed at me. Similarly, he gets very anxious when I'm upset at him, but I'm not sure if this is entirely Sun/Pluto because we also have Pluto conj Moon in synastry which is more likely what causes our emotional co-dependency.

We have c-Sun/Venus/Mercury conjunct so yes, these all square Pluto (lol). Venus square Pluto is very jealous/possessive love. Sometimes we withhold feelings to test/punish the other person but at the same time, it's also hard to resist each other.

posted May 12, 2019 12:20 AM            

Her venus and mars conjunction oppose his pluto which is opposite his own s/m midpoint. He is mostly contained but has some harsh pluto natally and can bite with aggression verabally, gemini sun lol

The relationship is so weird in the exact way you describe, she is not really his type at all....he is her boss and they have worked together for years and it started suddenly after they broke off previously relationships.

posted June 02, 2019 07:50 PM            

Things escalated a little and she started following me about quite a bit, started calling "Hi" to me - basically made it plain she was trying to get my attention to the point I felt I had to confront my own doubts and tell myself she was probably seriously interested in me.

Now, bearing in mind we work together and our working relationship could be seriously be affected, I couldn't straight out ask her out - so instead of playing it cool as I had been, I just started to give her a bit more attention back to see how things developed.

At this point I just get the coy, flirty acknowledgement again and all the following like a love-sick puppy suddenly stops, replaced by Miss Iceberg. I felt like she'd only been stringing me on for validation and now she'd got that she was no longer interested in me. ****** off with all the blowing hot and cold I decide that's that and have started to blank her from there on.

She's back to acting friendly with me now. But I'm feel I'm done. Except... a mutual friend is trying to convince me she's a person she has a lot of time for - that she's someone with hidden depths and many layers. So now I'm wondering if I'm over-reacting.

She's an Aquarian, and I've heard they're notorious for blowing hot and cold in the early stages. Is this what's going on? Or did she seriously just act like a love-sick puppy around me for a good couple of weeks, just to feel the sense of validation from having "got me" when I finally reciprocate? Because that's seriously pathetic...

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Hi Capguy75,
funny that you dont know her TOB cause the houses look matching the situation :-)
By the way, look at your NN/Neptune/Mars conjunct her Uranus and Saturn sextile her Jupiter... and your Saturn on her Moon... then Composite NN with Venus, Jupiter and Mars, and Saturn/Moon trine Mercury ...
It is an unusual connection for you but behind the surface it seems you might be very close and support each others. It all looks like you might inspire each others on a more open minded level.

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I'd love to believe this is the case. And, truth be told, I do feel this at times. We've both come out of divorces barely over a year ago so that compicated things too. But on the other hand I'm concerned I'm just being messed around.

Does the synastry show any evidence of which way one of these might be more likely?