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Brenda_S
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posted February 27, 2019 01:42 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Brenda_S     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I don't think I ever had a worse night out lol. And what specifically bothered me about him was his Moon setup, and I really can't seem to understand why given the pretty good aspects that should ignite some sort of attraction or 'love'.

I wouldn't say the chemistry was amazing, but it was alright our communication... Nothing out of the ordinary... Till later that night before we parted. His Cancer Moon was so painful to deal with lol I honestly couldn't stand one bit of it. And I hate seeing that my Venus conjuncts it, I was in no way liking it. At all.

Also my Mars on his Venus. God why. I really didn't feel like I wanted any physical interaction with him (despite him being a fairly good looking dude).

He seemed to be all hot and I can't understand why either, his Mars only trines my Uranus and Neptune.

I don't think I've ever been so confused by a synastry chart.

I understand his Saturn squares my Moon, but I shouldn't feel literally turned off by his Moon right? I might feel like my freedom of expression is suppressed and stuff... But I specifically didn't feel my Venus on his Moon/Mercury at all.

If anyone can chime in here I'd greatly appreciate it... I'm specifically curious why he's so involved in this and I'm so not given the pretty good aspects here.

Thanks in advance 😉

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posted February 27, 2019 02:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Bismarck     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Specifically what was it about him that turned you off?

How old is he? I'd say he's a couple years younger than you.

What makes you think it's his moon? Why not Mars in your 12th? Saturn square your Moon? All those hard Mercury aspects?

Better yet, why not consider the fact that he puts no personal planets into your 7th and 8th houses, nor does he aspect them except for squares to his jupiter. Your 5th house ruler is aspected by his moon/mercury/chiron/ASC however.

You should also post the composite/davison. Also, put your/his birth info into this calculator and tell me which nakshatras your moons fall in: https://www.prokerala.com/astrology/birth-chart/

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posted February 27, 2019 04:27 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for EmGem     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I just wanted to point out that I don’t get peoples mars on my Venus!!! Although for you it’s reversed. I actually am kinda repelled mars/Venus conjunction for me lol!
But yeah also the Chiron Venus is supposed to be super romantic Cinderella feels.
Sometimes the chart just doesn’t agree with what’s going on in real life lol.

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posted February 27, 2019 04:32 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SeaGoat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by EmGem:
I just wanted to point out that I don’t get peoples mars on my Venus!!! Although for you it’s reversed. I actually am kinda repelled mars/Venus conjunction for me lol!
But yeah also the Chiron Venus is supposed to be super romantic Cinderella feels.
Sometimes the chart just doesn’t agree with what’s going on in real life lol.

How is your Venus aspected in natal? What sign and house is it in? If you don't mind me asking.

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posted February 27, 2019 04:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for EmGem     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
^^ Don’t mind at all My Venus is in the 9th house and only makes a conjunction to my MC and bml. Could that be why? 🤔

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posted February 27, 2019 04:46 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Bismarck     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by EmGem:
^^ Don’t mind at all My Venus is in the 9th house and only makes a conjunction to my MC and bml. Could that be why? 🤔

From what I understand, people with hard aspects to their mars/venus natally enjoy the hard aspects in synastry.

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posted February 27, 2019 04:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SeaGoat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I was just wondering the status of your Venus in natal as you commented on being repelled mars/Venus conjunction. I know someone that feels the same about Mars conjunct their Venus in synastry. This person has Venus is Virgo conjunct the IC. A hard aspect from Mars to the IC feels harsh and intrusive to them.

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posted February 27, 2019 05:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SeaGoat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
He doesn't seem to be activating you 5th house of attraction by placing personal planets there. But your 5th house ruler Venus is conjunct is Asc ruler Moon, and fairly close to his DSC. You again plant your Moon in his 5th house.

His Sun is not too far from your Asc , and the ruler of you Asc is conjunct his IC. Might be worth looking at the state of the rulers in natal.

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posted February 27, 2019 05:49 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Bismarck     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Bismarck:
Specifically what was it about him that turned you off?

How old is he? I'd say he's a couple years younger than you.

What makes you think it's his moon? Why not Mars in your 12th? Saturn square your Moon? All those hard Mercury aspects?

Better yet, why not consider the fact that he puts no personal planets into your 7th and 8th houses, nor does he aspect them except for squares to his jupiter. Your 5th house ruler is aspected by his moon/mercury/chiron/ASC however.

You should also post the composite/davison. Also, put your/his birth info into this calculator and tell me which nakshatras your moons fall in: https://www.prokerala.com/astrology/birth-chart/


Read this thread to understand house rulership in synastry: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/221321.html

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posted February 27, 2019 05:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Interesting!

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posted February 27, 2019 06:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Brenda_S     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Bismarck:
Specifically what was it about him that turned you off?

How old is he? I'd say he's a couple years younger than you.

What makes you think it's his moon? Why not Mars in your 12th? Saturn square your Moon? All those hard Mercury aspects?

Better yet, why not consider the fact that he puts no personal planets into your 7th and 8th houses, nor does he aspect them except for squares to his jupiter. Your 5th house ruler is aspected by his moon/mercury/chiron/ASC however.

You should also post the composite/davison. Also, put your/his birth info into this calculator and tell me which nakshatras your moons fall in: https://www.prokerala.com/astrology/birth-chart/


He's 3 years younger than me. I've had worse lol this means nothing at this point.

It's not so much about how 'I' felt. It's more of the way he acted and how I felt about that. Thankfully I cut the ties. If he doesn't come back that is. But he was being super sticky, like velcro to put it lightly lol. And that was certainly his Cancer Moon. Note he has Moon conjunct Mercury in aspect to Jupiter close to the seventh house cusp. Talk about being overly chatty/emotional and projecting it unto others. And that Cancer... I felt like I needed oxygen to revive what he sucked up lol. It was overbearing trust me.

My Nakashatra: Rohini
His: Ardra

Honestly I have no clue what this means, would you be able to elaborate on this?

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posted February 27, 2019 06:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Brenda_S     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by EmGem:
I just wanted to point out that I don’t get peoples mars on my Venus!!! Although for you it’s reversed. I actually am kinda repelled mars/Venus conjunction for me lol!
But yeah also the Chiron Venus is supposed to be super romantic Cinderella feels.
Sometimes the chart just doesn’t agree with what’s going on in real life lol.

It's interesting I don't think I've had many people in my life with Cancer Venus/Mars. Besides family so I wouldn't really know. But I wonder why that is so. Perhaps it's your Venus/Mars configuration or theirs?

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posted February 27, 2019 06:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Brenda_S     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by SeaGoat:
He doesn't seem to be activating you 5th house of attraction by placing personal planets there. But your 5th house ruler Venus is conjunct is Asc ruler Moon, and fairly close to his DSC. You again plant your Moon in his 5th house.

His Sun is not too far from your Asc , and the ruler of you Asc is conjunct his IC. Might be worth looking at the state of the rulers in natal.


Note that the planet in aspect to my Venus is Saturn. So even though it's his chart ruler... Dunno I guess it would feel restricting a bit? I wonder.

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posted February 27, 2019 06:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Brenda_S     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Bismarck:
Read this thread to understand house rulership in synastry: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/221321.html

Thanks for this. I already read it but will probably do so again.

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posted February 27, 2019 07:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dumuzi     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Brenda_S:
He's 3 years younger than me. I've had worse lol this means nothing at this point.

It's not so much about how 'I' felt. It's more of the way he acted and how I felt about that. Thankfully I cut the ties. If he doesn't come back that is. But he was being super sticky, like velcro to put it lightly lol. And that was certainly his Cancer Moon. Note he has Moon conjunct Mercury in aspect to Jupiter close to the seventh house cusp. Talk about being overly chatty/emotional and projecting it unto others. And that Cancer... I felt like I needed oxygen to revive what he sucked up lol. It was overbearing trust me.

My Nakashatra: Rohini
His: Ardra

Honestly I have no clue what this means, would you be able to elaborate on this?


i've only known two ardras one i only liked talking to if it was with a punarvasu around, mostly because we'd **** with him and he'd get crazy

otherwise he was pretty boring and mostly just went on about himself

other is my father and we need an extra person too and to be making fun of something otherwise it doesn't work out

i'm revati, and they're not exactly compatible nakshatras though

could definitely see how a date with one is probably off putting though

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posted February 27, 2019 08:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Brenda_S     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
So apparently Rohini is like Taurus. Why can't I make peace with this lol. I really don't feel like I relate.

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posted February 27, 2019 10:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dumuzi     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Brenda_S:
So apparently Rohini is like Taurus. Why can't I make peace with this lol. I really don't feel like I relate.

i find revati relatable, my vedic chart is basically my draconic chart though just a 2 degree difference so everything is in the same signs which could make all the difference i guess as to why i feel like it works just as well as tropical placements

usually people find their moon nakshatras accurate even if nothing else is for them i've noticed

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posted February 27, 2019 11:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Bismarck     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Brenda_S:
He's 3 years younger than me. I've had worse lol this means nothing at this point.

It's not so much about how 'I' felt. It's more of the way he acted and how I felt about that. Thankfully I cut the ties. If he doesn't come back that is. But he was being super sticky, like velcro to put it lightly lol. And that was certainly his Cancer Moon. Note he has Moon conjunct Mercury in aspect to Jupiter close to the seventh house cusp. Talk about being overly chatty/emotional and projecting it unto others. And that Cancer... I felt like I needed oxygen to revive what he sucked up lol. It was overbearing trust me.

My Nakashatra: Rohini
His: Ardra

Honestly I have no clue what this means, would you be able to elaborate on this?


For reference: https://varahamihira.blogspot.com/2004/10/marriage-compatibility.html

Score of 22: https://www.onlinejyotish.com/free-astrology/star-match.php

Anything above 17 is workable for a relationship so long as not afflicted by:

Male moon coming after female moon: negative Stree Deerga and bad Rasi kuta dosha.

Arda male with Rohini female: Rajju dosha(http://www.findyourfate.com/indianastro/10porutham/thiruv.html)

To summarize, this relationship would not be considered functional according to many Vedic astrologers.


EDIT:

To learn more about Rohini: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=99r2hv6NKmQ

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posted February 28, 2019 03:07 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for kani     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Brenda_S:
So apparently Rohini is like Taurus. Why can't I make peace with this lol. I really don't feel like I relate.

Check the moon nakshatras

https://www.vedicmoonastrology.com/nakshatras

I can relate my moon nakshatra, but not really to the sun one.

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posted February 28, 2019 07:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dumuzi     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by kani:
Check the moon nakshatras

https://www.vedicmoonastrology.com/nakshatras

I can relate my moon nakshatra, but not really to the sun one.


with vedic it would be moon, rising, sun in order of importance anyway

i relate better to my vedic leo sun than i do being a virgo sun in western

i don't relate well to having virgo (hasta) venus, but it's 1st house and obscured by ketu anyway and in the moon's pada so it's colored strongly by the revati moon across from it too

my rising nakshatra being chitra and shared with libra helps the virgo rising work though and i find the sag mars easier to relate to than i do a cap one (though the neptune conjunction and other aspects would explain that)

broken down they seem to even out though and you end up with the same person anyway so i don't think it really matters much

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