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Topic: Is our relationship worth saving?
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barbriallen
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posted March 17, 2019 04:12 PM
  
[edited]thanks everyone for the advice!
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Orange
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From: Georgia
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posted March 17, 2019 04:31 PM
You have your Venis in Pisces conjunct his Pusces ASC? How do you feel and experience this aspect, do you find him seductive and attractive ? I'm ever so curious about this aspect because I have it in my synastry being the ASC person myself and I wonder how Venus feels about that ? IP: Logged |
Orange
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From: Georgia
Registered: May 2009
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posted March 17, 2019 04:39 PM
You have synastrical Moon Uranus square and Moon Uranus conjunction, this is a very tough and unpredictable energy to deal with in a long term, both of you are expecting the other to cut the ties so each one of you is keeping an emotional distance in order to prepare for an inevitable break up.
Also, you have already chosen your male friends over him when he said either me ir them, so he got the message loud and clear.
You have a synastrical Mercury - Neptune square, there will be always trust issues, even when there are no reasons to mistrust.
And also - you have natal Neptune square Sun and Mars, you do tend to act in deceptive ways even when you have your own reasons to justify anything unlawful that you do, it's still deceptive energy. His senditive Scorpio Moon might sense all that.
Id say the trust issues between you will be always there, I think. IP: Logged |
todd
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posted March 17, 2019 05:53 PM
hi barbriallenI say by looking at the composite ,with sun and mars opposed to Uranus and Neptune, he is projecting... if anything he is in a hidden affair riht now. and looking at this chart,he is totally controlling with the pluto/Jupiter midpoint conjunct to urnas and with sun square to the node and Neptune, he is deceptive and not to be trusted.
todd he ishas a strong controlling nature which will never change IP: Logged |
barbriallen
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posted March 17, 2019 06:42 PM
Thank you both for your thoughts!Orange, I definitely feel this aspect strongly. I often described him as 'perfect' which he disliked haha. I do find him very seductive and attractive. I've always thought he's better looking than me even though others disagree (not that it matters). In general, I think Venus in Pisces people tend to idealize people and this puts it on steroids. IP: Logged |
Orange
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From: Georgia
Registered: May 2009
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posted March 17, 2019 08:39 PM
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Originally posted by barbriallen:
Thank you both for your thoughts!Orange, I definitely feel this aspect strongly. I often described him as 'perfect' which he disliked haha. I do find him very seductive and attractive. I've always thought he's better looking than me even though others disagree (not that it matters). In general, I think Venus in Pisces people tend to idealize people and this puts it on steroids.
Thank you so much for explaining. There was a long debate here whether the Venus person or the ASC person feels this conjunction more, as if - who feels more attracted to whom. More people said that the Venus person gravitated towards the ASC person viewing them as beautiful ( ASC = outer appearance).
In my synastry, his Venus in Pisces conjuncts my ASC to boot. IP: Logged |
LunaIscariot
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posted March 18, 2019 02:58 AM
Lol wow he has moon in Scorpio, conjunct Pluto in Scorpio all in the 8th house, in Scorpio too! He’s a super Scorpio moon. Forsure his ex wife cheating on him would have destroyed him emotionally with that kind of moon (would hurt anyone but especially him). Given his moon he’s already going to naturally have trust issues and be fearful of betrayal, and having it actually happen would have just send this suspicious and paranoid energy into overdrive.
Weird tho since you have Scorpio DSC with Pluto there, that should have made you more loyal to him and understand his jealousy and possessiveness because you’re the same way.
I have the same DSC with Pluto there and if my partner didn’t want me hanging out someone i would do it without hesitation, I’m super duper loyal that way lol.
Maybe it’s your aqua moon that makes you value your independence and freedom above everything. Your moon is square his by sign, so it’s true when he says you two arent compatible. You’re not deep down. You have totally different and conflicting emotional needs and responses and ways of reacting to situations and also will have a hard time unstanding the other person. The synasty isn’t that great tbh, will most of his planets falling in your 6th.
And the composite is pretty bad. Lots of red flags there and the sun opposite Uranus shows this was going to be a more short term thing. Looks of squares and oppositions in the composite...
the Saturn squares are also always a relationship killer without a strong chart and other mitagating factors. I’d say let it go. You could find someone you’re more compatible with forsure. IP: Logged |
LunaIscariot
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posted March 18, 2019 03:01 AM
Oops sorry just noticed your moon is actually in cap not aqua haha. That’s actually better. IP: Logged |
Hikaru29
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From: Asia
Registered: Nov 2018
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posted March 18, 2019 03:59 AM
Looking at the composite, it seems that the issues are more than him not liking your male friends. There are also issues of unrealistic projections (Neptune), controlling love (Pluto-Venus), erratic energies (Uranus) and cold/blocked feelings and expressions of love (Saturn). You have to decide for yourself if this love is worth pursuing because you're the one actually living it. The chart and none of us can tell you this. The chart shows you potential and challenges. You decide if it's worth it. How much do you love him? IP: Logged |
Orange
Knowflake Posts: 7605
From: Georgia
Registered: May 2009
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posted March 18, 2019 08:29 AM
Well said, Hikaru...IP: Logged |
ana_bee
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posted March 18, 2019 02:33 PM
@barbriallenWith your moon conj his NN/Neptune and his Jupiter conj your NN this definitely seems to be a fated union. Also your composite Sun is in 4th house and the comp NN is in 7th house Libra. Two positive placements combined with your Node contacts in synastry, would probably be the reason why you formed a r/s at all. Other than that the chart looks quite challenging.. In your composite chart your relationship identity(sun) would always be challenged through outside forces (Uranus, Neptune in 10th house)
Also Saturn is in 12th house square Moon, Venus and Jupiter!  ouch
I think this is the ultimate deal breaker. Now to your question.. I think you should go with your gut feeling. From an astrological pov this relationship is not really viable in the long run (in my opinion), but if the purpose of you getting together hasn’t been fulfilled yet, you’ll be stuck with him for a while longer, anyway.  To be honest, I find his reason to break up with you very weak.. so I doubt this is a real reason at all.. more an excuse and the ‘nicer’ way to get out.
His Moon is in Scorpio. If you love him and want to give it a second chance, you should have an emotionally honest conversation with him about it. Be open and vulnerable, that might be the best way to reach him.
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barbriallen
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posted March 19, 2019 07:59 AM
Thanks again everyone, this has been helpful to reflect on.With my scorpio descendent/pluto in the seventh, I do appreciate his depth of commitment. I wonder if transit Uranus conjunct my sun had something to do with my resistance to the controlling behaviour I do really love him. I might try talking to him at least now that we've had some time apart. IP: Logged |
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