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Topic: Synastry & Composite of Stagnant Communication
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Brenda_S Knowflake Posts: 573 From: Registered: Sep 2018
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posted April 07, 2019 09:43 PM
At first, it's not like I wasn't attracted to him. But I was certain that we had nothing in common. It was hard to communicate and there was just mostly silence that felt suffocating. It's interesting that it didn't necessarily bother him the lack of being able to communicate... He has a few Gemini placements and that's mostly what I feel when interacting with him. But anyway he's super chill and it was certainly the fact that he didn't take my rejection to heart that made me be fine with hanging out again. Has no brakes on his Mars lol. And when I was transparent about the reason for not wanting to hang out at all, he's like 'I'm trying to schmooze help me out here'. Anyway but it feels super forced. On text all is cool, like the communication is very fluid. But when we interact in person everything just changes. Anyway I don't know how he managed to go out with me several times thereafter while I feel the same every. single. time. I'm not sure if it's the 12th house placements? I had a similar experience with another dude with 12th house stuff as well and I'm not sure if that is in fact it. But anyway the more I go out with him the more relaxed I am about the idea. But the d@mn communication thingy I just can't get past. Anyway, I don't know I guess I'm just curious if that'll ever change over time? There's something that attracts me to him but I'm not sure what it is. Like the 'outta sight outta mind' is what the situation is here. But each time we hang out I'm attracted to him more, but then we part and I just forget about him. I'm curious why this is so? It's so odd our interaction I'm not sure what to make of it. Like there's a certain intensity. I don't think I ever experienced it before. Like even if we're just sitting quiet together you can feel the thickness in the air. For me at least. Anyway so yeah I don't know if he's just trying to get in my pants lol so was wondering if anyone can shed some light on this one. Thanks! Synastry. I'm on the inside. Composite. IP: Logged |
Brenda_S Knowflake Posts: 573 From: Registered: Sep 2018
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posted April 07, 2019 09:58 PM
To add, we never 'make plans' to go out. When he's in my area or happens to be out he asks me if I wanna join him. And it's not cuz he doesn't have anyone that I'm sure of. He becomes friends with the security guy in under 5 minutes lol I actually witnessed it no clue how he does that. So I'm sure he has plenty of options. But yeah. Dunno what to make of it. (he's actually certain that I'm obsessed with him lol his God d@mn Leo Moon it cracks me up I can't not take him lightly it's just too fun to watch someone actually believe that without proof and not even be apologetic about it lol)IP: Logged |
MMarie Knowflake Posts: 419 From: Registered: Aug 2018
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posted April 07, 2019 10:32 PM
His mercury does fall in your 12th along with sun so that could be it. But you having sun in your own 12th I would think would be used to that energy? You guys probably can connect about that (if that is his birthtime and his own sun is in his 12th) but maybe it would take time to open up? I wonder if the “thickness” in the air is the mars square mars. I had that recently with someone very close orb and it was a definite tension. Like we would be sitting there talking and then just stop talking and we would stare at each other for a long moment trying to figure out what that feeling was. I know we both felt it because it’s like you describe a thickness in the air. Hard to ignore. I’ve never had with anyone else. IP: Logged |
Brenda_S Knowflake Posts: 573 From: Registered: Sep 2018
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posted April 07, 2019 10:49 PM
Interesting what you mentioned regarding Mars square Mars. That might lend to the intensity. But I don't think it's the same as the thickness? It's like a separate feeling lol. I thought the thickness rather felt like Mercury opposite Pluto. Do you have that as well with that guy?IP: Logged |
Brenda_S Knowflake Posts: 573 From: Registered: Sep 2018
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posted April 07, 2019 10:50 PM
His ToB is fairly accurate and it's true that I should be used to this feeling. But I usually feel it alone. Lol makes one a loner really the 12th H Sun. I've never felt this feeling with someone else though. It's weird. IP: Logged |
Brenda_S Knowflake Posts: 573 From: Registered: Sep 2018
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posted April 07, 2019 10:50 PM
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Selenite Knowflake Posts: 1831 From: Lyra Registered: Aug 2013
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posted April 09, 2019 10:15 PM
sun-mercury square saturn in the composite is very telling. there could be a heaviness to your communication that makes you feel like your natural, uncensored self-expression will be scrutinized harshly by the other, so you either censor or don't communicate at all. i've had similar contactsthe 12th house placements definitely add to the paranoia of being 'seen' and judged in a harsh way! because you do 'see' right through each other and you should be careful not to hurt each other. trust and honesty are super important for getting through it, and it might feel hard but saturn contacts can produce amazing rewards if you're willing to do the work. if you're not right for each other then it will probably end bitterly or coldly because of resentment.. not to be fatalistic but that's just the way saturn can be sometimes.
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Selenite Knowflake Posts: 1831 From: Lyra Registered: Aug 2013
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posted April 09, 2019 10:35 PM
positively, DW venus in the 1st is very good. moon conjunct IC is very good! sun-moon square is actually not bad (definitely better than nothing) and he has it natally which makes it even easier. moon-mercury and venus-mercury are amazing for smoothing out the 12 house placements, which can be really beautiful besides the paranoia. hmm pluto and neptune making a yod with his mercury, you definitely have some kind of dramatic effect on his mind! idk what, though. haha and his is quincunx your mercury too (and his uranus is square your mercury), while neither of you have it natally. interesting. oof, just noticed the pluto opposition / t-square in the composite. that definitely adds to the intensity of communication! but the composite trines to uranus-neptune are nice and part of a kite focusing on pluto. jupiter adds a level of good will, and with the moon trine to pluto i'm seeing a lot of potential to learn from each other and either make it work or become good friends. maybe less resentment than i thought. IP: Logged |
Brenda_S Knowflake Posts: 573 From: Registered: Sep 2018
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posted April 09, 2019 11:35 PM
quote: Originally posted by Selenite: positively, DW venus in the 1st is very good. moon conjunct IC is very good! sun-moon square is actually not bad (definitely better than nothing) and he has it natally which makes it even easier. moon-mercury and venus-mercury are amazing for smoothing out the 12 house placements, which can be really beautiful besides the paranoia. hmm pluto and neptune making a yod with his mercury, you definitely have some kind of dramatic effect on his mind! idk what, though. haha and his is quincunx your mercury too (and his uranus is square your mercury), while neither of you have it natally. interesting. oof, just noticed the pluto opposition / t-square in the composite. that definitely adds to the intensity of communication! but the composite trines to uranus-neptune are nice and part of a kite focusing on pluto. jupiter adds a level of good will, and with the moon trine to pluto i'm seeing a lot of potential to learn from each other and either make it work or become good friends. maybe less resentment than i thought.
Thanks so much! I love seeing other people's perspective. Can Jupiter smooth out any Saturnian restrictiveness in the communication; at least over time? And yeah I think friends would be a more ideal situation with us lol. I'm just curious how it can manifest with this restrictiveness. Does the lack of my Saturn contacts to his personal planets make me forget about him as soon as we part? Like usually when I like a person they're more on my mind ya know. And it's not that I like him less than I do others, he just doesn't really take up space in my brain and I wonder why. IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 109614 From: From a galaxy, far, far away... Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 17, 2019 01:50 PM
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