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thatonegirllol
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posted April 21, 2019 12:37 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for thatonegirllol     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I need some major help everyone. I'll post our synastry and composite for reference.

Backstory: I have this one friend who I had to cut off a YEAR AGO. A whole YEAR AGO. But, we reconciled, for some reason we just can't stay apart from each other like that. And tbh, it would feel so wrong for me to cut them out of my life indefinitely. Even when I cut them off, it didn't feel like the right thing to do at the time.

Obviously as much as I hate to say this I regret cutting them off.

Why you may ask? because I liked them and never even realized! and they liked me I'm pretty sure...at one point. They hide how they feel about me from me a lot, which you will see in our synastry.
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Anyways. I'd just like to get over this crush I have. I'm posting this in the hopes that this is an astrological thing. I've written down that I wanna get over this person, prayed that I wanna get over this person, muted their posts and story on social media (out of sight out of mind) yet I STILL get this nagging feeling that they're supposed to be in my life and I in theirs. Kind of like when you wanna sneeze but you cant.

If this is plutonian obsession at work, link me to some articles on how I can get over this please. Also keep in mind I don't constantly message or call them or stalk their social media. They literally just occupy my mind a lot as it stands. I want to get over them so I ignore them. But seriously? Its been a year. I have things to do and new people to meet ugh

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posted April 21, 2019 12:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for thatonegirllol     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Heres our composite and synastry in that order. I dont know how to post photos on here so please just highlight the link and click "go to address":

https://www.astro.com/tmpd/cnbufileQFCKJZ-u1548743777/astro_621gw_m_x.17369.130794.png?130915

and

https://www.astro.com/tmpd/cnbufileQFCKJZ-u1548743777/astro_61gw_m_x.17334.129557.png?129675

the person I cant get out of my head is on the outside in red when looking at our synastry

and you know what, here's my own natal chart. maybe im crazy and dont even realize:

https://www.astro.com/tmpd/cnbufileQFCKJZ-u1548743777/astro_2gw_m.16250.184428.png


if you're having trouble viewing these on iphone just highlight the link and tap on go to address and you should see what i'm talking about

thanks! lol

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Stoika7
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posted April 21, 2019 03:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by thatonegirllol:
I need some major help everyone. I'll post our synastry and composite for reference.

Backstory: I have this one friend who I had to cut off a YEAR AGO. A whole YEAR AGO. But, we reconciled, for some reason we just can't stay apart from each other like that. And tbh, it would feel so wrong for me to cut them out of my life indefinitely. Even when I cut them off, it didn't feel like the right thing to do at the time.

Obviously as much as I hate to say this I regret cutting them off.

Why you may ask? because I liked them and never even realized! and they liked me I'm pretty sure...at one point. They hide how they feel about me from me a lot, which you will see in our synastry.
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Anyways. I'd just like to get over this crush I have. I'm posting this in the hopes that this is an astrological thing. I've written down that I wanna get over this person, prayed that I wanna get over this person, muted their posts and story on social media (out of sight out of mind) yet I STILL get this nagging feeling that they're supposed to be in my life and I in theirs. Kind of like when you wanna sneeze but you cant.

If this is plutonian obsession at work, link me to some articles on how I can get over this please. Also keep in mind I don't constantly message or call them or stalk their social media. They literally just occupy my mind a lot as it stands. I want to get over them so I ignore them. But seriously? Its been a year. I have things to do and new people to meet ugh


Why exactly you want to get over them?

I see an "anger management" issue in the charts... you both have this problem.
Your Composite stellium says "true love" but a challenging one... You have Chiron and Pluto conjunct in synastry, this is a deep karmic bond, especialy for them, in their 12th house. But your Mars square to it, and to your own Chiron. This means that you're not dealing with your "anger management" and prefer to make it all blow up instead of working on your self control. You might not be able to be assertive and so you have impulsive reactions instead.
(oh, I have it too, lol!)
Calm down! This r/s is there for a reason, it's true friendship, this is what the Composite says, at least...
They might help you to know yourself much better than you can do by yourself, and so you do to them. Why waste this all?
You certainly have a challenging communication... You can get on each others nerves easily and easily put a burden to each others... Their Moon/Venus on your ASC trine your Venus is lovely though... why don't you give this a chance? Composite Moon says pretty much the same...
Composite Uranus and Mars are not pretty, you really might need to stay away from each others sometimes, but Composite Saturn says you won't be able easily to break the bond, it looks like family there...
Composite Twelve house and the 11th house ruler says this all depends on your open-mindness, if you want to get over this person, then you have to learn assertiveness and no regret, otherwise just choose love.

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posted April 21, 2019 04:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hikaru29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I don't know the reason you cut him(?) off but I actually don't see very troubling Pluto. Sun trine/sextile Pluto creates intensity in a harmonious way. The only challenge is your Pluto quincunx/square Mars which also shows up as an exact quincunx in Composite + you have the square in natal. One of the highlighted themes of this r/s will be obsessions with power, insistence on your right of ways and volatile tempers. Composite Saturn square Uranus also shows tension buildup leading to conflicts.

However, I personally find Pluto-Moon/Venus aspects more obsessive as they involve love & emotions, so I'm inclined to think that the reason you can't get him outta your mind is your composite love stellium in 12H trining Saturn which also conjuncts Jupiter/IC + Neptune on the Asc.

And with that Moon/Moon-Venus conjunction + composite stellium quintile/sextile Moon, I'm sure you're missing the sweet & loving connection you have.

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posted April 21, 2019 04:32 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for thatonegirllol     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Why exactly you want to get over them?

I see an "anger management" issue in the charts... you both have this problem.
Your Composite stellium says "true love" but a challenging one... You have Chiron and Pluto conjunct in synastry, this is a deep karmic bond, especialy for them, in their 12th house. But your Mars square to it, and to your own Chiron. This means that you're not dealing with your "anger management" and prefer to make it all blow up instead of working on your self control. You might not be able to be assertive and so you have impulsive reactions instead.
(oh, I have it too, lol!)
Calm down! This r/s is there for a reason, it's true friendship, this is what the Composite says, at least...
They might help you to know yourself much better than you can do by yourself, and so you do to them. Why waste this all?
You certainly have a challenging communication... You can get on each others nerves easily and easily put a burden to each others... Their Moon/Venus on your ASC trine your Venus is lovely though... why don't you give this a chance? Composite Moon says pretty much the same...
Composite Uranus and Mars are not pretty, you really might need to stay away from each others sometimes, but Composite Saturn says you won't be able easily to break the bond, it looks like family there...
Composite Twelve house and the 11th house ruler says this all depends on your open-mindness, if you want to get over this person, then you have to learn assertiveness and no regret, otherwise just choose love.


Wow...


Everything you said is correct. We both have anger management issues. I think its better to keep my anger to myself to avoid unnecessary conflict, and they think its better to express it as they feel it no matter what the damage is. In fact, it was my poor anger management skills that resulted in our falling out. I blew up and impulsively cut them off.

Now for some reason I'm deeply missing that connection. Eventhough I have other friends and people who can offer me that same connection its as if I want it from this person specifically.

I came to same conclusion about our composite. But I didn't want to believe it. My friend even did a tarot reading on the situation, and said that same exact thing about "true love" or whatever. My internet friend at that. So she's unbiased on the situation.

The reason I just want to get over it is because 1) I like them and they're dating someone else right now. That relationship will end soon though from looking at their solar return.

2) I just find it really weird. And uncomfortable. This is someone who I can sense is in the same room with me, or when I pass by them. Someone who if they're sad I can feel it and vice versa. Like I can FEEL it, when nobody else can, when they're trying to hide it. And they can do the same for me. I'm a private person when it comes to my emotions so I don't like how they can tell so easily.


If it is good, I went and foolishly severed the connection. So I just want to get over it to give my heart and my mind a break. I know what obsession is. I've been obsessed before. Constantly blowing someones phone up, constantly checking their socials, either one or both of those. But this isn't like that. It's like I'm yearning or...I deeply miss this person, because it feels wrong not having them in my life.

I cant change the past. And I don't know what the future has in store. All I know is right now? I have things to do. They probably don't think about me this often either. That's my biggest issue, that this is all probably one-sided and all in my head. So I need to move on. Somehow.

Sorry its so long. I had to vent my frustration with the way I feel. Thank you for your interpretation. I really appreciate it.

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thatonegirllol
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posted April 21, 2019 04:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for thatonegirllol     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
I don't know the reason you cut him(?) off but I actually don't see very troubling Pluto. Sun trine/sextile Pluto creates intensity in a harmonious way. The only challenge is your Pluto quincunx/square Mars which also shows up as an exact quincunx in Composite + you have the square in natal. One of the highlighted themes of this r/s will be obsessions with power, insistence on your right of ways and volatile tempers. Composite Saturn square Uranus also shows tension buildup leading to conflicts.

However, I personally find Pluto-Moon/Venus aspects more obsessive as they involve love & emotions, so I'm inclined to think that the reason you can't get him outta your mind is your composite love stellium in 12H trining Saturn which also conjuncts Jupiter/IC + Neptune on the Asc.

And with that Moon/Moon-Venus conjunction + composite stellium quintile/sextile Moon, I'm sure you're missing the sweet & loving connection you have.



Yes exactly I'm missing that connection. It WAS sweet and loving..... And all these interpretations are soooo accurate

I miss that connection but I'm sure I can find it somewhere else. It doesn't have to be her. I keep telling myself this multiple times. Yet I can't let go. It feels so wrong?? I need to though...my feelings have gone on for long enough in my opinion

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posted April 21, 2019 05:00 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Wow...


Everything you said is correct. We both have anger management issues. I think its better to keep my anger to myself to avoid unnecessary conflict, and they think its better to express it as they feel it no matter what the damage is. In fact, it was my poor anger management skills that resulted in our falling out. I blew up and impulsively cut them off.

Now for some reason I'm deeply missing that connection. Eventhough I have other friends and people who can offer me that same connection its as if I want it from this person specifically.

I came to same conclusion about our composite. But I didn't want to believe it. My friend even did a tarot reading on the situation, and said that same exact thing about "true love" or whatever. My internet friend at that. So she's unbiased on the situation.

The reason I just want to get over it is because 1) I like them and they're dating someone else right now. That relationship will end soon though from looking at their solar return.

2) I just find it really weird. And uncomfortable. This is someone who I can sense is in the same room with me, or when I pass by them. Someone who if they're sad I can feel it and vice versa. Like I can FEEL it, when nobody else can, when they're trying to hide it. And they can do the same for me. I'm a private person when it comes to my emotions so I don't like how they can tell so easily.


If it is good, I went and foolishly severed the connection. So I just want to get over it to give my heart and my mind a break. I know what obsession is. I've been obsessed before. Constantly blowing someones phone up, constantly checking their socials, either one or both of those. But this isn't like that. It's like I'm yearning or...I deeply miss this person, because it feels wrong not having them in my life.

I cant change the past. And I don't know what the future has in store. All I know is right now? I have things to do. They probably don't think about me this often either. That's my biggest issue, that this is all probably one-sided and all in my head. So I need to move on. Somehow.

Sorry its so long. I had to vent my frustration with the way I feel. Thank you for your interpretation. I really appreciate it.


Looking at the chart, I'm not sure how they feel, but their Moon and Venus on your ASC/Moon, trine your Venus and Chiron/Pluto DW... mmh, I don't know, but I think they miss you too.

I see why you want to get over it... did you ever think that maybe they are in another r/s cause they think have no chance w/ you?
Of course they do express their rage, it's Aries baby! Mmmh, they do so also when they feel frustrated and don't feel appreciated and... loved. (I know cause my sister is Aries, and I've been in a six year unforgettable love story with an Aries!)

Yes, you have a strong psychic link, I'm sure they feel it as well.

Ever considered that if you miss this person maybe it means that it might be worth to try to deal with your anger mngmt instead of losing such a karmic link ? (and that maybe this link is there actually for this purpose of self-development?)

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posted April 21, 2019 05:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for thatonegirllol     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Looking at the chart, I'm not sure how they feel, but their Moon and Venus on your ASC, trine your Venus and Chiron/Pluto DW... mmh, I don't know, but I think they miss you too.

I see why you want to get over it... did you ever think that maybe they are in another r/s cause they think have no chance w/ you?
Of course they do express their rage, it's Aries baby! Mmmh, they do so also when they feel frustrated and don't feel appreciated and... loved. (I know cause my sister is Aries, and I've been in a six year unforgettable love story with an Aries!)

Yes, you have a strong psychic link, I'm sure they feel it as well.

Ever considered that if you miss this person maybe it means that it might be worth to try to deal with your anger mngmt instead of losing such a karmic link ? (and that maybe this link is there actually for this purpose of self-development?)



Sometimes I feel like they miss me too. The brief moments when we do meet, we slowly pull away from the conversation. As if we dont want it to end, because even after everything conversation between us is still effortless. We can just go on and on...usually the aries talks and I'm just happy to listen. Cause to be honest with you, I like the sound of their voice. And their laugh, eventhough they don't like it that much. But to me its like, that laugh is a part of them you know? So I like it.


You're probably right about them being in a relationship cause they think I dont wanna be with them. This point might just be wishful thinking though. But tbh thinking back to their past actions towards me....this holds, it really does


Haha, on the topic of our psychic link I remember they'd tell me they felt like I was the only one who understood them. So I know they could feel it too.

Even if I did deal with my anger management and everything, we still are not so close anymore. So what would be the point in feeling this way for this long?

And wait a minute. I thought karmic links were bad...

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posted April 21, 2019 05:49 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by thatonegirllol:

Sometimes I feel like they miss me too. The brief moments when we do meet, we slowly pull away from the conversation. As if we dont want it to end, because even after everything conversation between us is still effortless. We can just go on and on...usually the aries talks and I'm just happy to listen. Cause to be honest with you, I like the sound of their voice. And their laugh, eventhough they don't like it that much. But to me its like, that laugh is a part of them you know? So I like it.


You're probably right about them being in a relationship cause they think I dont wanna be with them. This point might just be wishful thinking though. But tbh thinking back to their past actions towards me....this holds, it really does

Even if I did deal with my anger management and everything, we still are not so close anymore. So what would be the point in feeling this way for this long?


Because... it is "unfinished". The Composite 12th house where the "true love" stellium falls, is about a karmic bond suggesting something is not over between you two. It might be never over, inside yourself, even whether you finally forget her.

btw, they might believe they have no chance with you cause of your DW Chiron/Pluto in their 12th opposite Jupiter, and Neptune/Neptune square their Jupiter in their 5th.

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posted April 21, 2019 05:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for thatonegirllol     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Because... it is "unfinished". The Composite 12th house where the "true love" stellium falls, is about a karmic bond suggesting something is not over between you two. It might be never over, inside yourself, even whether you finally forget her.

btw, they might believe they have no chance with you cause of your DW Chiron/Pluto in their 12th opposite Jupiter, and Neptune/Neptune square their Jupiter in their 5th.


Ohhhh, you know all that coupled with her venus in my 12th house its most likely true. One time she did ask if we could be more than friends. I said no. She laughed and said she meant bestfriends. Yeah okay. Who asks to be someones bestfriend like that? Lol. At the time I just wasn't interested. I was interested in some other guy. So..

I remember after the whole conflict, I said to one of my friends that I didn't think we were done with each other. And this was last year when I didn't know anything about karmic links or astrology at all.

I still have that feeling of unfinished business. Which is most likely why I cant move on. Sighhh. Did I just prolong years/lifetimes of unfinished business between me and this person? Maybe I should just stop running away from the situation and face it. Our composite north node is in the 6th house though, maybe we're destined to work things out regardless of how stubborn im being

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posted April 21, 2019 06:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by thatonegirllol:

And wait a minute. I thought karmic links were bad...

I dont know who spread such a negative idea about karma! Karmic links are there for a purpose of self-awareness, that's all. then it's all about what you choose to make out of it :-)

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posted April 21, 2019 06:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for thatonegirllol     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Stoika7:
I dont know who spread such a negative idea about karma! Karmic links are there for a purpose of self-awareness, that's all. then it's all about what you choose to make out of it :-)


Ohhh. You've helped me a lot today, thank you so much!

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posted April 21, 2019 06:16 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by thatonegirllol:
I still have that feeling of unfinished business. Which is most likely why I cant move on. Sighhh. Did I just prolong years/lifetimes of unfinished business between me and this person? Maybe I should just stop running away from the situation and face it. Our composite north node is in the 6th house though, maybe we're destined to work things out regardless of how stubborn im being

I don't think you should worry too much about having prolonged lifetimes of unfinished business... I see it more like that whether you carry an unresolved issue (for instance, "rage mngmt") you might face similar situations again and again also with other people... or maybe, after this experience, next time you will think more about it before screwing things up... the thing here is that you still miss this person, so maybe if you can't move on you just need to face it :-)
(Aries are quick in expressing rage as much as they can forgive ;-) your friend though has Mars in Taurus... so they might be a little inflexible. in this case, straight honesty might be highly appreciated from them :-) )

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posted April 21, 2019 06:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for thatonegirllol     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Stoika7:
or maybe, after this experience, next time you will think more about it before screwing things up... the thing here is that you still miss this person, so maybe if you can't move on you just need to face it :-)
(Aries are quick in expressing rage as much as they can forgive ;-) your friend though has Mars in Taurus... so they might be a little inflexible. in this case, straight honesty might be highly appreciated from them :-) )


You've been right so far about everything so i'll definitely take your advice. I did learn something from this situation I cant lie.

Somewhere deep in me i still want a second chance with this person. sort of like a "hey i worked on this issue okay can we be close again" type of thing

i guess if i'll just continue to miss them in silence from here on out. oh well. i've made my bed now i have to lie in it. the way life goes...

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posted April 21, 2019 07:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by thatonegirllol:

You've been right so far about everything so i'll definitely take your advice. I did learn something from this situation I cant lie.

Somewhere deep in me i still want a second chance with this person. sort of like a "hey i worked on this issue okay can we be close again" type of thing

i guess if i'll just continue to miss them in silence from here on out. oh well. i've made my bed now i have to lie in it. the way life goes...


Glad if it helped! Hope you will post updates if you have any :-)

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posted April 21, 2019 09:29 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hikaru29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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It's like I'm yearning or...I deeply miss this person

The r/s I have with the love stellium trine Moon, this is exactly how I feel.. yearning for that person.

If you really still miss her, just reestablish the connection.

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