posted April 22, 2019 02:42 PM            

I find jealousy a turn on, it gets my attention if that person. Makes me work hard. But it’s never in a detrimental way.

posted April 22, 2019 02:45 PM            

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Originally posted by MarsSaturnDelight:
If I am not jealous in a relationship, then I’m not that into you - I will move on.

I find jealousy a turn on, it gets my attention if that person. Makes me work hard. But it’s never in a detrimental way.

I’m never jealous of people or things. I attract that sort of shyte.

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posted April 22, 2019 02:57 PM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by MarsSaturnDelight:
[b]If I am not jealous in a relationship, then I’m not that into you - I will move on.

I find jealousy a turn on, it gets my attention if that person. Makes me work hard. But it’s never in a detrimental way.

I’m never jealous of people or things. I attract that sort of shyte.

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posted April 22, 2019 06:56 PM            

It's not the emotion you have to control. It's ya damn self. Jealousy doesn't last unless you feed it, chase it and ruminate on it- ie NOT letting the emotion run its course. Jealousy instigates us to try and exert a form of control- especially in a Scorpio's case, as it's one of our biggest emotions to overcome.

posted April 22, 2019 08:09 PM            

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Originally posted by implosions:
The trick is that jealousy is just another emotion.

It's not the emotion you have to control. It's ya damn self. Jealousy doesn't last unless you feed it, chase it and ruminate on it- ie NOT letting the emotion run its course. Jealousy instigates us to try and exert a form of control- especially in a Scorpio's case, as it's one of our biggest emotions to overcome.

At the end of the day, we're not invalids. No matter what type of relationship it is, check yourself. Jealousy is an emotion, feel yourself through it, don't act on it.

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posted April 22, 2019 08:09 PM            

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Originally posted by implosions:
The trick is that jealousy is just another emotion.

It's not the emotion you have to control. It's ya damn self. Jealousy doesn't last unless you feed it, chase it and ruminate on it- ie NOT letting the emotion run its course. Jealousy instigates us to try and exert a form of control- especially in a Scorpio's case, as it's one of our biggest emotions to overcome.

At the end of the day, we're not invalids. No matter what type of relationship it is, check yourself. Jealousy is an emotion, feel yourself through it, don't act on it.

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posted April 22, 2019 08:10 PM            

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Originally posted by implosions:
The trick is that jealousy is just another emotion.

It's not the emotion you have to control. It's ya damn self. Jealousy doesn't last unless you feed it, chase it and ruminate on it- ie NOT letting the emotion run its course. Jealousy instigates us to try and exert a form of control- especially in a Scorpio's case, as it's one of our biggest emotions to overcome.

At the end of the day, we're not invalids. No matter what type of relationship it is, check yourself. Jealousy is an emotion, feel yourself through it, don't act on it.

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posted April 28, 2019 03:01 AM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
And I mean any kind of relationship not just romantic. How does one go about controlling their jealousy that they feel in regards to the other person? For example not being jealous of the other persons friends. Or being jealous of the friendships the person has with other people.

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I also always though that jealousy was a part of me and the most telling indicator that i’m really into this person.
But now I see it a bit differently..

When I’m jealous it stems from the fear of losing someone. And of course that fear most likely kicks in when I’m really into someone, but it’s not about that person! The person is in reality interchangeable.
I am jealous because I feel a lack of something inside of me, because I don’t value myself enough. Because I feel that I am not enough.

So in order to overcome that, we should work on our self-esteem. Plutonic people usually focus all their attention on that one person. They become the center of everything. No wonder one is afraid to lose that s.o. because what’s left then?

So when I become jealous without reason, I acknowledge that emotion and turn my attention onto myself again. I meet other people and concentrate on activities that I really like. I do everything to feel good about myself again.

posted April 28, 2019 08:59 AM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
And I mean any kind of relationship not just romantic. How does one go about controlling their jealousy that they feel in regards to the other person? For example not being jealous of the other persons friends. Or being jealous of the friendships the person has with other people.

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I'm also the pluto person in my relationship. Jealousy drives me super crazy, It feels like burning my head and my heart. But I'm in the process of controlling it now. From the first time I know about this pluto thing in our relationship, I put it on my mind.

So, everytime I got jealous and started to manipulate, I dictated my self on my mind "STOP, this is your pluto think. Is it worth it? It's not you, so Be realistic and STOP" lol

Most of the times i stopped. Its my method to "knowing your own emotion". ry it. Sometimes it works.

posted April 28, 2019 07:07 PM            

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Originally posted by ana_bee:

When I’m jealous it stems from the fear of losing someone. And of course that fear most likely kicks in when I’m really into someone, but it’s not about that person! The person is in reality interchangeable.
I am jealous because I feel a lack of something inside of me, because I don’t value myself enough. Because I feel that I am not enough.

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posted May 03, 2019 09:25 AM            

What I've come to accept is, as was said earlier in the thread, jealousy is just another emotion. It's kind of like self-doubt. It's fine if it's there--it's human and it shows an awareness of yourself--but if you start listening to it and feeding into it, it will consume you. I look at my jealousy and tell myself it's normal and human. I don't need to listen to it, nor do I need to feel guilty about feeling it.

If you're jealous of the time someone spending with their other friends, you probably want a deeper friendship with them. See if they want that too and, if not, you might want to distance yourself from them.

posted January 15, 2020 02:44 PM            

I agree.
I also agree with anna that it is because you make this person your whole world so the thought of losing them means, "What then?" but that just means to me that I need someone who feels the same. I've come to see it as almost a wise way to think given the condition of the world, chaotic cosmic energies in play, and the general condition of the souls out there in the world who would monopolize a challenging situation between people for their own gain.
Business has been taking advantage of people in troubled times for ages. This world tends towards becoming an hierarchical corporation in the way people live and view one another. The "way you are supposed to be" is pushed into tired and weak minds through popular culture and media constantly. The majority of humans today seem to be looking to climb the invisible ladder, to get more no matter the cost to others, to protect "what's theirs" in terms of material security. I want to protect my daughter's life and her soul, and her innocence. I want to protect the softness and openness and innocence of my partnership. No one bats an eye if someone wants to protect their belongings with a lock on a locker or a safe or a security system on their car or house... but somehow it is a sign of weakness to want to protect those you love the most?
I have been through the darkest times in my life, sometimes things have been so cloudy and I have felt so down on myself that I feel unlovable and think my closest loved ones might not really love me. Is it true? No. But that doesn't stop the confused or dark thoughts. If this world was filled with people of integrity and honor and cities full of light and love, I wouldn't have to worry about going out into it or my family going out into it. But, it isn't. So if I have to observe the character and integrity of people who are trying to find a way to latch on to my loved ones or family, to wait like spiders for the perfect moment of weakness, I'll do it. Things aren't valuable to me, but people and time ARE valuable to me. So, I will protect those valuables. The world can call it jealousy and a character flaw, but I call it: "I'm WATCHING YOU, Human! You better have true, decent, honorable and FAIR intentions or you are staying away from my loved ones!"

posted August 12, 2022 01:04 AM            

For example my husband has so much earth in his chart as well as detached air signs. So when his jealously/possessive side comes out I kind of get an adrenaline rush.
We have
moon conjunct pluto
pluto conjunct pluto
lilith conjunct pluto
electra conjunct pluto
ic square pluto
Mc square pluto
nn square pluto
sn square pluto

He is more like "no one should be calling you beautiful but me" "im plugging that hole" "hey other guys at the bar shouldn't be buying your drinks, that's my job"