posted April 27, 2019 06:15 AM            

There is this guy that goes to the same uni as I do, same course as well. He've been trying to talk to me for almost 1 year and a half. I kept ignoring him because I knew he was abusive to his ex girlfriend. And I don't want to be with someone who doesn't respect women. He was meant to graduate last year, so I thought I was relieved...BUT he ended up having health problems and he had to re-do the last year with my class. So we're studying together now.

He keeps trying to approach me EVERY SINGLE TIME he finds the chance to. And I think I can see why from our synastry... meh.

I clearly explained to him that I don't want to go out with him because of the things he've done, and he keeps asking me to give him a chance and that he won't give up LOL.

Can you please give me your thoughts on this ? Many thanks xx

posted April 27, 2019 08:18 AM            

I just checked it rn.

posted April 27, 2019 02:10 PM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
He has relationships issues. Chiron is afflicting his 4th house, NN in his 7th, and Saturn in 11th house square his Moon... opposite to Pluto. He has intense feelings and emotions, but he seems not able to manage his emotional life, he's frustrated and might have impulsive reactions... He's not that frightening (natal Pluto square Moon would be much worse in such scenario), but he might have deep self-worth issues and looks a little like a "damaged" person... Now here in the synastry he clearly has a deep attraction to you (Pluto conjunct Pluto in his 7th house, opposite his Moon conjunct your Mars + ASC opposite ASC). In the Composite, Uranus/Neptune in 12th house opposite Mars, forming that kite with Jupiter/Pluto and Saturn... honestly, I don't like it. Someone needs to let an illusion/obsession go here. Composite Saturn in second house square to Venus/Moon in 5th house is a red light, looks like unrequitted love and it talks of self worth again. Maybe, he thinks he's gaining more self-worth this way than by giving up...?

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Everything you said about him is 100% true. He doesn't know how to deal with his emotions in general, either in rs or just in normal sittings. He's not so confident about himself so he tries to shadow that by being aggressive (...abusive in his last rs).

posted April 27, 2019 02:40 PM            

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Originally posted by itsmeyaz:
Everything you said about him is 100% true. He doesn't know how to deal with his emotions in general, either in rs or just in normal sittings. He's not so confident about himself so he tries to shadow that by being aggressive (...abusive in his last rs).

I don't really like him. I don't feel anything towards him tbh. It's very neutral from my part, I feel bad for him because he seems that he had a rough childhood. But he doesn't want to leave me alone, it's getting a bit annoying. He's a bit delusional as well. When I explained to him that I don't want to go out with him and the reason why, he kept telling me how I'm the perfect girl for him and he's not going to give up. LOL Why do I keep attracting people like this...??

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posted April 28, 2019 06:13 PM            

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Originally posted by LunaIscariot:
Where is the synastry? Can you post it

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posted May 01, 2019 08:56 AM            

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Originally posted by todd:
I respect your will power.
with the moon/sun midpoint conjunct the mars/venus midpoint and these opposed to pallas,you seem to be really attracted to him...but I think with mars opposed to Neptune and Uranus you instincts are good, he is a player and with pluto conjunct to Jupiter he might have control issues

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posted May 01, 2019 04:51 PM            

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Originally posted by itsmeyaz:
I'm not really attracted to him, because he has all my red flags, so it was an immediate turn off. And the energy he exudes is very a self-destructive one, and also a manipulative one. He didn't take time to figure himself out and heal from what may have traumatised him, so he tries to showcase a different persona from the one he truly is. I told him all of this too, and he ended up saying that I'm the only one who could see that, that's why he doesn't want to leave me alone. lol. Creepy...

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posted May 01, 2019 05:03 PM            

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Originally posted by todd:
that is creepy. could you add named asteroids to the midpoint composite? though you probably should not give anymore energy to this.
todd

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posted May 01, 2019 07:51 PM            

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Originally posted by itsmeyaz:
Which asteroids should I add ?

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posted May 01, 2019 08:45 PM            

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Originally posted by todd:
I'd use named asteroids.

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posted May 03, 2019 05:30 AM            

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Originally posted by Orange:
your Pluto opposes his Moon, this is a very obsessive aspect in syanstry

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posted May 03, 2019 06:45 PM            

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hi ya
I wasn't clear.i meant you should choose named asteroids for you and him. you have to
look through the list : Asteroid name/number list with 21778 names. at astro.com and choose an appropriate named asteroid.
there may be exact named asteroid .if not look for an asteroid with the same consonants. what is important that the named reminds you of him. it can be an ickname of even a descriptive name that reminds you of him. what is important is that the name,no matter what you choose,makes you think of him.
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum28/HTML/000016.html
Glaucus

really think that it's all synchronicity. I and some astrologers found that even minor asteroids can be significantly placed in people's chart. For example, there is an asteroid called Cynthia. It's conjunct my Imum Coeli within 1 degree. Cynthia is my mother's name. Scotti and Ariadne are conjunct my Sun less than half a degree. I read that Ariadne had to do with abandonment issues. She was abandoned by Theseus. Well..my father abandoned me. I never knew him. His last name was Scott. The asteroids of the names of my father and stepfather conjunct in my 4th house less than 10 minutes of arc. My mother didn't know my stepfather until after I was born. The asteroid,Lancelot is conjunct my Moon in Pisces with 3 minutes of arc. Camelot is conjunct my Mercury within 1 degree. Galahad is square my Virgo Ascendant with 10 minutes of arc. I have Guinevere in Libra exactly semisextile my ascendant. I grew reading about Arthurian Legends.
I have used asteroids since 1999. My mother and I have both have Gunnie in hard aspect to the Moon less than half a degree orb,and we were victims of gun violence. My mom was shot and I was with her at the time. Even ethnic asteroids work. My mother have asteroids in related to blacks in aspect to 5th house ruler Venus square Neptune in 5th, and she did have a child that is part black(me) and had black romantic partners even though she's white. Asteroids are pretty cool stuff. They can really finetune a chart. They work not only in natal charts but all other charts too...Heck...I am even blown away by how they work in solar returns and lunar returns. I believe that everything is connected any way,and so I believe that all the heavenly bodies have an influence. After all, Astrology is about the sky any way. The sky is pretty much infinite. Space - the final frontier. hehehehehe Zane Stein is into asteroids too and not just centaurs and kuiper belt objects. I respect,admire,and love openminded,broadminded astrologers like Zane Stein definitely is. It was my reading his stuff about the centaurs and kuiper belt objects that got me interested in using those objects. That was in 2001. It was interesting that I kept finding the large kuiper belt objects in close aspect to my personal points(Moon square Varuna with 10 minutes of arc,Sun conjunct Ixion wtih 4 minutes of arc) I wish Zane Stein would write a lot of books about these objects. I also admire the insights of Philip Sedgwick who is so well insightful about galactic objects. I like Mark Andrew Holmes work with minor bodies too. I find it interesting how he uses the minor aspects which I feel aren't all that minor but just require smaller orbs. The 7th,11th harmonic are prominent in my chart.

here are some sites about asteroids.

I have Martha Lang-Wescott's asteroid books

www.asteroids.com/ www.astrosoftware.com/Asteroi...ures.htm www.mountainastrologer.com/revi....html www.treehousemountain.com/ www.geocities.com/mahtezcat...eroid.html www.zanestein.com/chiron.htm

posted May 04, 2019 11:01 AM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
I thought it's usually Pluto that gets obsessed with Moon?

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posted May 04, 2019 01:22 PM            

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Originally posted by kani:
Moon is receptive, Pluto is the outer planet and it is usually the receptive, personal planet that gets obsessed when dealing with Pluto, although many times Pluto feels drawn to moon as well, but Pluto usually does have the upper hand.

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posted May 04, 2019 02:11 PM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
I see... it's good to know because as Pluto, I always thought I'm the only one feeling obsessed and Moon just goes la-la-la...

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posted May 04, 2019 02:20 PM            

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Originally posted by kani:
is that your recent ex? Makes sense, he sounded as if he was scared of his feelings for you

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posted May 05, 2019 04:38 PM            

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Originally posted by itsmeyaz:
@Hikaru29 ugh I know.... I just want him to focus on himself rather than on me.. It's crazy how the man I want doesn't focus on me while the one I don't want doesn't want to leave me alone.... What was God thinking....

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