posted April 27, 2019 07:14 AM            

Here are our synastry and composite charts. Thank you in advance

posted April 27, 2019 09:20 AM            

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Originally posted by Plut0nian2:
Who has the beautiful blue planets?

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posted April 27, 2019 10:09 AM            

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Originally posted by aquavelvet:
Do you mean uranus? I'm the aquarius one

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I meant the blue colour chart.
You're that one.
I love your Cap Venus conjunct Saturn
And your Cap Mars and Mercury.
Taurus Moon is good too and it makes an opposition with your Pluto
and you have Jupiter in 8th H.
What a beautiful chart you have
Hope all those planets in your 2nd H don't make your life too difficult.

As for the synastry I see nothing super special to be honest. The only positives are Sun-Moon sextile DW
and Sun-Venus trine.

However I see one of my fav placements which is Venus in 7th H. To me it has a huge impact when someone's Venus falls in my 7th H (that's why I love your Venus) and it is a long lasting aspect for me.
Makes the Venus ideal for the 7th H person.

His Sun is in your 8th H, 8th H is intimate. You probably feel comfortable opening up to him, he might want to kind of take care/help you. This can make both natives obsessed with each other.

His Moon in your 1st make you feel comfortable too like you know each other

His planets in your 11th H give a friendship vibe that your Aqua Sun might like. I have my Saturn in my friend's 11th H and it's been my mist long lasting friendship.

Jupiter in your 12th H: he might read/understand things about you that you have difficulty to understand yourself.

You have both North Node and Sun in 3rd H H which means you have South Node in 9th H. The 3rd being naturally ruled by Gemini and the 9th H by Sag. He has Gemini and Sag in his chart so that maybe another reason but even if this is valid I don't think it's a strong indicator by itself.

I don't have experience when it comes to composites but based on the synastry why you would like that person.

Is his tob accurate? I'm wondering if he/she feels the same as you. Based on the synastry you (the blue person) seems be the one impacted the most by the red person.
Still I believe you have major differences Have you lived together? If yes for how long?

* I just saw that your Neptune squares his Mars by just one orb. Be careful this aspect makes you wanna become one with the other person.. The Mars person appears perfect until it's not. Honestly I see many similarities I'm familiar with most of these placements and Mars-Neptune conjunction. I've been the Neptune person and it's difficult.

Hope he is not doing things secretely. His Mars is weak by sign but it's supported by his Saturn.
Your Saturn squares hia Mars too btw.

To me (I'm not a pro) you are the one who seems to have strong feeling and trouble of letting go.

posted April 27, 2019 10:25 PM            

Your eight year timeline doesn't match up with my "start of a relationship" timing. Thus I not as confident in saying this...

The ending and the beginning are one in the same. The same factors present at the start of a relationship will be mirrored at the close of a relationship.

He was born on the 3rd of July, and at the start of your time together his Sun had progressed to the 2nd of August. You were born on the 2nd of February, that makes it a Sun/Sun numerological conjunction.

You were born on the 2nd of February and now seven years into your relationship your Sun has progressed to the 3rd of March, here it conjunct his natal Sun position.

What I see here is a mirroring effect. At the beginning his number was conjunct your number, years later your number is conjunct his. Predictably the relationship has reached a critical juncture.

What I often see happen in cases like these is relationships are evaluated and if parties are happy, things move to a higher level of commitment - kids, renewed vows, etc...

posted April 27, 2019 11:10 PM            

Stolka7,
Yes i kind of have that thought that he's the one but i feel scared and think that it's too hard for us to be together.
He said he loves me all the time and the last time he visited me, he mentioned serious things like marriage, relocation, kids, he met my mom and how he wants my family and his family to get to know each other more. He introduced me to his family and his family has known me for years.
Those are things that i've been wanted to hear for years but now i'm scared.
He's more emotional than me and he cried more than i did while we're together in person.

posted April 28, 2019 01:40 AM            

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Originally posted by aquavelvet:
Stolka7,
Yes i kind of have that thought that he's the one but i feel scared and think that it's too hard for us to be together.
He said he loves me all the time and the last time he visited me, he mentioned serious things like marriage, relocation, kids, he met my mom and how he wants my family and his family to get to know each other more. He introduced me to his family and his family has known me for years.
Those are things that i've been wanted to hear for years but now i'm scared.
He's more emotional than me and he cried more than i did while we're together in person.

Our relationship was very bumpy, lots of push and pull. I have hurted by him a lot in the past and i think now i just have hard time to really trust him.
I love him and want to be with him but it's all too scary to me. I just kept questioning if this is all for real and if he really meant it when he said and did lovely things to me.

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posted May 02, 2019 05:22 AM            

In synastry you have angles conjunct, Ascendants conjunct + Sun sextile Moon DW which is great for compatibility & attraction and this may be why this r/s feels gluey. He can easily feel like "the one".

The bumps in your r/s may have come from your inconjunct Moons (you don't understand each other deep down), your Mercuries inconjunct (difficulties in communication) + incompatible Venus/Mars (love styles... drives... the way you do things are all different).

You mentioned mistrust which is shown in the 2 Neptune squares in Composite to Mercury & Venus. You sometimes wonder if he's telling the truth and if he really loves you... you may not see his truth & his love. Also you're heavy Cap so you can get cynical & depressed easily.. your Taurus Moon + 2nd house energies make you want things to be direct, simple & straightforward.

posted May 02, 2019 04:32 PM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
ˆ^ But, Stoika, Sun is too far from Venus/Mercury to be conjunct so technically it doesn't form a stellium. They're still all in the house of romance though.

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True! It's in the 5th though, so it looks significant... also, I think Comp. Mars/Saturn/ASC and Pluto in 12th look like the key aspects here.

posted May 03, 2019 05:23 AM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
also, I think Comp. Mars/Saturn/ASC and Pluto in 12th look like the key aspects here.

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Yes, the conjunction to Asc is definitely binding but because Mars is also involved, it gives me the feeling that it's a controlling type of bind + Pluto in 12H opposite Sun again indicates power & control with one sacrificing much more than the other (this resonates with NN in 6H).

posted May 03, 2019 11:33 AM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
Yes, the conjunction to Asc is definitely binding but because Mars is also involved, it gives me the feeling that it's a controlling type of bind + Pluto in 12H opposite Sun again indicates power & control with one sacrificing much more than the other (this resonates with NN in 6H).

Jupiter/Moon on MC/IC looks comfortable and binding as well.

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posted May 03, 2019 03:29 PM            

looking at the compiste ,the attraction is readily apparent . I would say stuck with him is not accurate because with the mars/venus midpoint square to the sun/node conjunction, the emotional and sexual connection is very strong and intimate. with sun conjunct the node there is a air of magic to this relationship. you're still with him because the psychic/emotional. Sexual connections unlike any other you have experienced.as you both have node/sun conjunctions ,you resonate with him of higher planes.
the satrun/moon midpoint is square ot the node also which sows there is a deep devotion and loyalty.it israre to have such a "flowing" emotional connection and also have the deep bonds that you have.

the sense of being stuck seems to be a function of the t square of Jupiter/Saturn/moon. though ,as mentioned, the pluto/sun opposition also can give a obsessive emotional feeling that is very difficult to leave/break .

the t square shows the tensions invilved with establishing a committed relationship/marriage. Saturn square to jupiter,being polar opposites implies a hesitation to commit and with the moon involved there is a vacillation between acceptance with Jupiter influence and rejection with Saturn's influence.

with the sun/moon midpoint conjunct venus, the love is a given . spontaneous attraction is the glue between you. venus conjunct to mercury gives a very enjoyable feeling. it shows happiness and sharing of thoughts and emotins. with saatrun trine to these,as mentioned, the emotional bond isveyr stable. then again the feeling of being stuck canbe part a function of the Saturn/venus trine because sometimes this can lead to taking each other for granted. that is the knowledge of the love between you may take some of the "excitement ' out of the relationship.
here it seems the Saturn/Jupiter/moon t square adds the element of stress which might that gets the "spice" in the relationship.

his pluto/Saturn is at 20 aries 28n and your Venus/Saturn/mercury stellium is between 21cap34 and 18cap32. with the nodal axis squaring his aspects and the south node transiting your stellium,

I would think that he is somewhat distant currently, while your emotions are dealing with the desire for a moiré committed connection. so I would think there is slight tension between you now as he is not really being responsive to these feelings in you.

the south node is moving over your Saturn and mercury , which shows you might be having mental reservations and there is a possibility you might be out spoken about this closed off reactions to you. the Saturn/mercury conjunction can show you might be a bit dejected or despondent about the nature of the relationship overall right now.
the node is moving away from the square his pluto/Saturn midpoint so he will start to be more responsive.

todd

posted May 04, 2019 08:34 AM            

About the control issue, soo true.
I'm a control freak, kind of. And i always want to make sure that everything is ok and under control. That he could tell how it got me so stressed out and giving me anxiety. Which is true.

There is one major thing that holding me back to just let myself totally in to be with him in a more serious term, and that is : drugs.

He's not addicted to it but more like dealing it. And that's a huge problem to me and i just knew about it last year when he just finally told me every single thing about his real life there.
The thing is he said he wants to stop and working on it. And if there's anybody who could help him stop, then it's me.
He has drinking problem too.

So the last time we were together in person, he did a good progress related his alcohol intake. It was way lesser than he usually have and there are many days of him being sober.
He didn't touch any drugs not even weed.
And was a lot more understanding and doing more effort to make our relationship works.

It's still going on now. He drinks less, telling me how much he loves me all the time even though we're in long distance now.

Last time he was here visiting me, i was very stressed out because i felt like i have to be the one who's more in charge.
I was all exhausted as well. We talked about it and he could see how stressed out i am. He knows that i am independent and used to be in charge at work and such. But he doesn't want me to be that way too much as my stress level apparently affecting our relationship bad. He's been doing more to "provide" and makes me feel less stressed out.

I was actually the one who has the hard time to give up my "power".
But now i think i need to do that and trust him more?

He actually has been doing amazing so far. Like he tried to give me no chance to doubt him more and always trying to reassure again and again.

And Stoika,
As someone who tend to sabotage and cut things or relationship off, out of my fear, to read that letting go the control issues and/or fears you said, makes me feel enlightened. Thank you so much for your insights.

posted May 04, 2019 08:52 AM            

We have some difficulties regarding the communication indeed. Language barrier and just how we approach things.
And yes i want things to be just simple, direct and straightforward while he tends to be subtle sometimes especially in the past.
But for these last 2 years and way more lately he's been direct and makes more effort to just make things better, to fix our issues and just told me that he wants to fight for us.

posted May 04, 2019 09:19 AM            

He told me that it feels familiar being with me and i can tell the same.
Just in the beginning of us talking years ago, he said that there's strong connection.
There are things that made me feel like i just want to cut him off out of my life. But for some reasons it's hard to me to really get over him, we're like push and pull. Sometimes it's him who's coming back. So i feel like stuck.

I have some fear that i might be taken for granted, but i still keep him in my life anyway.

He is not distant currently, it's actually more like the opposite.
I've been the one being distant, a lot.
And he's been that person who's trying to keep us to stay close. He even told me boldly of how he doesn't like "this emotional distance between us" when we were in an argument.

posted May 04, 2019 03:24 PM            

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Originally posted by aquavelvet:
Hi Hikaru29,

We have some difficulties regarding the communication indeed. Language barrier and just how we approach things.
And yes i want things to be just simple, direct and straightforward while he tends to be subtle sometimes especially in the past.
But for these last 2 years and way more lately he's been direct and makes more effort to just make things better, to fix our issues and just told me that he wants to fight for us.

He's 8 years older than me and we're in a long distance relationship. So distance is absolutely our big problem. Idk about that one lead and other follow but i kind of want somewhat traditional relationship where the man leads.
But for some reasons i have hard time to give up my ego / control.

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He has more air/fire in his chart while you have a lot of earth so you will feel more grounded, and now that I know the background better, he most likely desires that energy in you. I also have Sag Moon/Gemini Venus like him and some people think I'm a bird with no legs so I imagine people with strong earth like you may sometimes feel a need to rein us in... take care of us... etc. Is that how you feel towards him? You don't trust him to lead?

I also think that you're very likely to play out the Saturn role in your Composite. We were discussing cSaturn conjunct Asc in another thread and saying it feels very binding in a responsible way... like you cannot don't be bothered with the other party. And like I said in my previous post, I find Saturn-Venus people can be VERY self-sacrificing.

I think you've every right to be concerned. Drugs & alcohol are big issues to me too. However, I believe that as long as both parties are willing, everything can be overcome. It's good that he's showing changes and proving his sincerity. I hope he can eventually kick that 2 "monsters" outta his life!

posted May 05, 2019 04:09 PM            

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About the control issue, soo true.
I'm a control freak, kind of. And i always want to make sure that everything is ok and under control. That he could tell how it got me so stressed out and giving me anxiety. Which is true.

There is one major thing that holding me back to just let myself totally in to be with him in a more serious term, and that is : drugs.

He's not addicted to it but more like dealing it. And that's a huge problem to me and i just knew about it last year when he just finally told me every single thing about his real life there.
The thing is he said he wants to stop and working on it. And if there's anybody who could help him stop, then it's me.
He has drinking problem too.

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