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posted May 02, 2019 04:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for EmGem     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Here you go!

Progressed Composite. Interested to know what you think. Do you need to know if anything is hitting our natals?

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posted May 02, 2019 05:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi EmGem, can you post the Composite and synastry too? It would be helpful to better understand how the Prog. plays out at this moment...thanks!

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posted May 03, 2019 12:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for EmGem     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
For sure!

Now he says he was born ‘around’ this time so it’s not 💯 but should be close.

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posted May 03, 2019 02:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for EmGem     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Let me know if you need me to add transits to the composite at the time things broke

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posted May 03, 2019 04:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by EmGem:
Let me know if you need me to add transits to the composite at the time things broke

Hi EmGem, sorry for taking long, I'm trying to understand what has happened here... This looks like a turbolent relationship with a lot of sparkling feelings at first, and it looks like an unusual one... There's a strong bond but at the same time someone acted erratic and maybe deceptfully... especially the blue person in synastry looks distrustful. They look both very independent and creative persons, the red one though seems to have more influence over the blue one. There was a sense of restriction, even though everything looks unconventional somehow... the relationship looks also very "private", maybe even behind close doors... or just they both don't like to share their private life too much with other people... Btw, it looks like a very powerfully intimate one, you probably felt like "merging" with this person on a sexual and intellectual level at the same time. But something prevented a balance here, between freedom and committment. There is "addiction" and rebellion to the relationship.
From the Progressive chart, apparently all those powerful exciting feelings have turned to painful, wasting the idealization you had towards each others. Someone realized that things between them didn't really match as they though... there is a sense of bitter fate now and disillusionment... maybe you feel it's impossible to make this work out. Comp. Venus in first house has moved to 12th house... still it looks like you're willing to keep an open channel between you two, cause you feel the bond is alive (Prog. Mars sextile Saturn and Prog. Sun sextile Jupiter)... Progressive Pluto is still powerful. Unfortunately there's a sense of deceit here with Prog. Sun square Neptune, a strong trust issue.
I'm not sure if what I'm saying makes any sense since I know nothing about your relationship... It looks a significant relationship though, through which one "grows up". Composite NN in first house Virgo points to building up one's individual structure and inner strenght. In the progressive composite NN is conjunct to Sun in 12th house... it looks like it has given awareness somehow.


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posted May 03, 2019 05:03 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for EmGem     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Hi EmGem, sorry for taking long, I'm trying to understand what has happened here... This looks like a turbolent relationship with a lot of sparkling feelings at first, and it looks like an unusual one... There's a strong bond but at the same time someone acted erratic and maybe deceptfully... especially the blue person in synastry looks distrustful. They look both very independent and creative persons, the red one though seems to have more influence over the blue one. There was a sense of restriction, even though everything looks unconventional somehow... the relationship looks also very "private", maybe even behind close doors... or just they both don't like to share their private life too much with other people... Btw, it looks like a very powerfully intimate one, you probably felt like "merging" with this person on a sexual and intellectual level at the same time. But something prevented a balance here, between freedom and committment. There is "addiction" and rebellion to the relationship.
From the Progressive chart, apparently all those powerful exciting feelings have turned to painful, wasting the idealization you had towards each others. Someone realized that things between them didn't really match as they though... there is a sense of bitter fate now and disillusionment... maybe you feel it's impossible to make this work out. Comp. Venus in first house has moved to 12th house... still it looks like you're willing to keep an open channel between you two, cause you feel the bond is alive (Prog. Mars sextile Saturn and Prog. Sun sextile Jupiter)... Progressive Pluto is still powerful. Unfortunately there's a sense of deceit here with Prog. Sun square Neptune, a strong trust issue.
I'm not sure if what I'm saying makes any sense since I know nothing about your relationship... It looks a significant relationship though, through which one "grows up". Composite NN in first house Virgo points to building up one's individual structure and inner strenght. In the progressive composite NN is conjunct to Sun in 12th house... it looks like it has given awareness somehow.


Stoika thank you.

I’m in so much pain over this relationship. I’m going to copy what I wrote in another thread about what’s happened here.

Yes a private and turbulent relationship is right. It was always hard to find that balance between freedom and commitment. But so much deep love between us. I can’t take the pain I’m enduring now. It’s such a bittersweet feeling. I want to see him but he won’t budge.
Our sexual merging was on a level we’ve never ever felt before. Intellectually so much chemistry too. We just loved hanging out together. It felt so natural and right.

I wish I knew what he was feeling and whether we could salvage this. I’m in tears as I write this...

In what way did he have more influence over me?

I’m the blue one but I never deceived him. I was always so loyal, supportive and patient. I felt I couldn’t completely trust him though because of his addictions that he admitted to.
But here’s more info:

We’ve known each other for many years but only reconnected over 2 years ago. He would also say I was his dream girl for so long. But he was with someone whom he broke up with to follow me overseas. He followed me all 3 times I went. He packed up his life to follow me but could never fully give himself to me. He was still healing from his breakup. He felt extreme guilt for ruining her by being with me. We had a very deep connection unlike anything either of us has experienced. He would call it ‘some unique kind of oneness’. But he has so many issues that he isn’t dealing with. Addictions etc etc etc, inability to trust anyone fully, childhood problems with his mom. But my God do I love him. He’s left a big break in my heart.
It all went haywire during mercury retro. He pulled away after we had a talk about all our stuff, us etc. then everything got confusing and I thought he wanted to break up so we ended up breaking up but it was twisted because he made out as if he wanted to, then I prepared myself for it, accepted it etc. then he was like “oh I didn’t know that’s where you were at. I miss you etc etc efc”. Then I was like wtf?! I thought this was what you wanted? And now he’s completely shut down from me. Flirting with other women etc. But I miss him.
Yeah it for sure meant something to follow me overseas, but he would tell me that he couldn’t be in a full relationship with me because he had to fix himself. He claimed he was trying but I didn’t see any action on his part. The guy needs therapy but he’s so apathetic. He’ll not try because he claims he doesn’t deserve it. He has so much self hatred. Doesn’t believe he deserves anything good. I saw the goodness in him though. It was buried beneath his pain. I wasn’t afraid of that darkness either. When we’re together it’s so beautiful and comfortable and so passionate. But when we’re apart it goes to **** . He is a compulsive flirt so to distance himself from our intensity he would flirt with others and I hated it. He would never tell me but I just knew what he was doing. He was always undecided about being with me because he was split. Part of him wanted a life with me, part wanted his old life, part wanted a completely new one. But I know how much he loved me. He even said we might still be here when we’re 60 and you’ll still be waiting for me to get my **** together.
What broke me was when he said to me “a girl asked me out and I didn’t know what to say or do. Made me realise I need to be soely responsible for myself and no one else for a while.” To me that says he felt he couldn’t say yes to her bc of me. Also a few months back he said that if Angeluna Jolie approached him to have sex how could he say no?! These comments hurt me so much. It made me think that he still wants to play around. He’s 40! But yeah....I’m missing him like crazy. I’m leaving LA to go back home for a few weeks and he would always be the one to take me to the airport and pick me up and this time he won’t when I left LA last year we both cried and he had a meltdown. It was awful. Now I think he’s just decided to move on. He has Uranus on his Scorpio stellium of mars, Venus, moon. So yeah...

Edit: that progressed composite mars is applying to conjunct his sun/moon midpoint. What might this mean?

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posted May 03, 2019 06:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by EmGem:
Stoika thank you.

I’m in so much pain over this relationship. I’m going to copy what I wrote in another thread about what’s happened here.
I’m the blue one but I never deceived him. I felt I couldn’t completely trust him because of his addictions.

Yes a private and turbulent relationship is right. It was always hard to find that balance between freedom and commitment. But so much deep love between us. I can’t take the pain I’m enduring now. It’s such a bittersweet feeling. I want to see him but he won’t budge.
Our sexual merging was on a level we’ve never ever felt before. Intellectually so much chemistry too. We just loved hanging out together. It felt so natural and right.

I wish I knew what he was feeling and whether we could salvage this. I’m in tears as I write this...

In what way did he have more influence over me?

I’m the blue one but I never deceived him. I was always so loyal, supportive and patient. I felt I couldn’t completely trust him though because of his addictions that he admitted to.
But here’s more info:

We’ve known each other for many years but only reconnected over 2 years ago. He would also say I was his dream girl for so long. But he was with someone whom he broke up with to follow me overseas. He followed me all 3 times I went. He packed up his life to follow me but could never fully give himself to me. He was still healing from his breakup. He felt extreme guilt for ruining her by being with me. We had a very deep connection unlike anything either of us has experienced. He would call it ‘some unique kind of oneness’. But he has so many issues that he isn’t dealing with. Addictions etc etc etc, inability to trust anyone fully, childhood problems with his mom. But my God do I love him. He’s left a big break in my heart.
It all went haywire during mercury retro. He pulled away after we had a talk about all our stuff, us etc. then everything got confusing and I thought he wanted to break up so we ended up breaking up but it was twisted because he made out as if he wanted to, then I prepared myself for it, accepted it etc. then he was like “oh I didn’t know that’s where you were at. I miss you etc etc efc”. Then I was like wtf?! I thought this was what you wanted? And now he’s completely shut down from me. Flirting with other women etc. But I miss him.
Yeah it for sure meant something to follow me overseas, but he would tell me that he couldn’t be in a full relationship with me because he had to fix himself. He claimed he was trying but I didn’t see any action on his part. The guy needs therapy but he’s so apathetic. He’ll not try because he claims he doesn’t deserve it. He has so much self hatred. Doesn’t believe he deserves anything good. I saw the goodness in him though. It was buried beneath his pain. I wasn’t afraid of that darkness either. When we’re together it’s so beautiful and comfortable and so passionate. But when we’re apart it goes to **** . He is a compulsive flirt so to distance himself from our intensity he would flirt with others and I hated it. He would never tell me but I just knew what he was doing. He was always undecided about being with me because he was split. Part of him wanted a life with me, part wanted his old life, part wanted a completely new one. But I know how much he loved me. He even said we might still be here when we’re 60 and you’ll still be waiting for me to get my **** together.
What broke me was when he said to me “a girl asked me out and I didn’t know what to say or do. Made me realise I need to be soely responsible for myself and no one else for a while.” To me that says he felt he couldn’t say yes to her bc of me. Also a few months back he said that if Angeluna Jolie approached him to have sex how could he say no?! These comments hurt me so much. It made me think that he still wants to play around. He’s 40! But yeah....I’m missing him like crazy. I’m leaving LA to go back home for a few weeks and he would always be the one to take me to the airport and pick me up and this time he won’t when I left LA last year we both cried and he had a meltdown. It was awful. Now I think he’s just decided to move on. He has Uranus on his Scorpio stellium of mars, Venus, moon. So yeah...


Lovely, that is what I meant, the blue one looks like the more committed, the red one more erratic, it's clear from the synastry that you're not the one who could deceit...
His natal Uranus/Mars opposite Chiron and his natal Neptune opposite ASC...
He had influence over you because he's "threatening" your self-worth (synastry Chiron conjunct Chiron opposite your natal Uranus/ASC... also, your natal Sun in 8th house conjunct his ASC, you've idealized him a lot. I'm sorry to say that he looks "manipulative", it doesn't mean he's mean, but he doesn't look reliable though.
Your natal chart ruler Pluto conjunct his Sun/Pluto in 12th house is your glue to him.
You're actually an independent person with a lot of will power. This relationship looks challenging towards your individual balance and life-direction... Composite North Node moving from the 1st house to the prog. 12th house abruptley says to "let go" what is not serving your individual awareness, since it's conjunct Sun in 12th house... Composite Sun in 12th house square Uranus and Chiron unfortuntaley is quite painful, but it still points to gaining awareness about your own individuality... Composite Saturn conjunct ASC is deeply binding, but in the Progressed chart it moved away from the comp. ASC and is sextile to Mars in 1st house... and this is opposite Prog. Chiron in 7th house... it clearly appears that right at this moment it would be very painful for you to stay in this relationship... I'm so sorry cause I know what you're experiencing, I was also deeply involved with someone who had strong addictions in the past and it wasn't easy at all to move on... <3

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posted May 03, 2019 06:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Edit: that progressed composite mars is applying to conjunct his sun/moon midpoint. What might this mean?

I'm not so familiar with midpoints, but it might look like your relationship is being "motivational" for his individual achievements.

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posted May 03, 2019 06:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
sorry, I made a double post

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posted May 03, 2019 07:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for EmGem     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Lovely, that is what I meant, the blue one looks like the more committed, the red one more erratic, it's clear from the synastry that you're not the one who could deceit...
His natal Uranus/Mars opposite Chiron and his natal Neptune opposite ASC...
He had influence over you because he's "threatening" your self-worth (synastry Chiron conjunct Chiron opposite your natal Uranus/ASC... also, your natal Sun in 8th house conjunct his ASC, you've idealized him a lot. I'm sorry to say that he looks "manipulative", it doesn't mean he's mean, but he doesn't look reliable though.
Your natal chart ruler Pluto conjunct his Sun/Pluto in 12th house is your glue to him.
You're actually an independent person with a lot of will power. This relationship looks challenging towards your individual balance and life-direction... Composite North Node moving from the 1st house to the prog. 12th house abruptley says to "let go" what is not serving your individual awareness, since it's conjunct Sun in 12th house... Composite Sun in 12th house square Uranus and Chiron unfortuntaley is quite painful, but it still points to gaining awareness about your own individuality... Composite Saturn conjunct ASC is deeply binding, but in the Progressed chart it moved away from the comp. ASC and is sextile to Mars in 1st house... and this is opposite Prog. Chiron in 7th house... it clearly appears that right at this moment it would be very painful for you to stay in this relationship... I'm so sorry cause I know what you're experiencing, I was also deeply involved with someone who had strong addictions in the past and it wasn't easy at all to move on... <3

Oh.my.God... I can’t believe how good you are at this 😲
That resonated with me so much. The stuff about him triggering my issues of self worth. Yes, yes and yes. This relationship felt like a mirror and I know it did for him too.
It absolutely rocked my world, in both good and deeply challenging ways. I was so thrown by his rollercoaster. I wanted so much for him to heal so we could be together. He said to me that you can meet the right person at the wrong time, but he just doesn’t have the fight in him. Too many self worth issues. He’ll always say “I didn’t deserve it anyway.”

That progressed composite Venus/Pluto/asc conjuncts his natal sun do it must’ve made quite an impact on him. Composite moon on his sun.

My natal SN is currently conjunct the transiting nose so DW of painful 😔

I wonder what this applying pVenus conjunct pPluto will mean.

I know how I’m feeling about all this, but how is it affecting him? Is there any way to tell from these charts??

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posted May 03, 2019 07:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for EmGem     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
P.s. I’m glad you understand, but not glad you went through it too obviously. How on earth did you heal from your situation?

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posted May 03, 2019 11:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Oh.my.God... I can’t believe how good you are at this 😲
That resonated with me so much. The stuff about him triggering my issues of self worth. Yes, yes and yes. This relationship felt like a mirror and I know it did for him too.
It absolutely rocked my world, in both good and deeply challenging ways. I was so thrown by his rollercoaster. I wanted so much for him to heal so we could be together. He said to me that you can meet the right person at the wrong time, but he just doesn’t have the fight in him. Too many self worth issues. He’ll always say “I didn’t deserve it anyway.”

That progressed composite Venus/Pluto/asc conjuncts his natal sun do it must’ve made quite an impact on him. Composite moon on his sun.

My natal SN is currently conjunct the transiting nose so DW of painful 😔

I wonder what this applying pVenus conjunct pPluto will mean.

I know how I’m feeling about all this, but how is it affecting him? Is there any way to tell from these charts??


I think he might have regrets cause pPluto/Venus/ASC is strong, it is not easy for any of you two to stay away from each others, but pMoon is opposite those prog. planets and his natal Sun/Pluto as well, and pChiron opposite pMars and pUranus looks like he has no grit to commit into this cause it would mean to deal with his own issues otherwise he would hurt you a lot, cause Saturn points to the fact that he's certainly aware of this and that he's going to hurt you... basically Mars/Uranus opposite Chiron show that he's not willing to face his issues, his low self-worth keeps him stuck to a pattern of "self-sabotage" or somehow not having the grit to make a step forward to his true self-value... with his natal Sun/Pluto aspect he might certainly make it, but maybe he's not at this development stage right now... You know, when I started looking at your synastry I thought that exact thing, "they might be the right person for each others, in the wrong time though"... so the fact he said this is a confirmation somehow that he's aware of the bond but he's also aware of the fact that he can't make it right now...
You have your natal Saturn square your Uranus/ASC and the Chiron opposition to the ASC as well, your Chiron is in 6th house, so you need to give value to your talent and to your powerful intellectual skills (natal Gemini Sun/Mercury 8th house trine Pluto/NN 12th house) Also, your natal Jupiter in 9th house trine your ASC/Uranus is brilliant, you might have a wonderful creativity and a special personality through which you might achieve a lot, you just need more self-confidence and awareness about your unique potential path. Yout North Node in 12th house looks like waiting for you to make "higher" steps.

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How on earth did you heal from your situation?

It happened about 18 years ago, and I'm not sure I healed, LOL
Well, it was a very harsh situation, I don't know if it was worth since that poweful love was completely destroyed, and that person just sank more and more... I was literally sinking with him in the illusion to save him, exactly cause as you said I just wanted to have him and his love in a "healthy" version of it which I strongly believed to be possible, but it actually wasn't... Eventually, I've learnt a lot about myself and got some awareness of my will power and my limitations, included the fact that I was finding my self-worth through that whole situation, it was partly so, cause I gave everything away for him, but at the same time I needed to face the fact that I was worth much more than that :-)
Of course, at the time I was so madly in love that if anyone would have told me these things, I just wouldnt have listened to one only word.
So just know that I completely understand you <3

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posted May 04, 2019 05:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for EmGem     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I think he might have regrets cause pPluto/Venus/ASC is strong, it is not easy for any of you two to stay away from each others, but pMoon is opposite those prog. planets and his natal Sun/Pluto as well, and pChiron opposite pMars and pUranus looks like he has no grit to commit into this cause it would mean to deal with his own issues otherwise he would hurt you a lot, cause Saturn points to the fact that he's certainly aware of this and that he's going to hurt you... basically Mars/Uranus opposite Chiron show that he's not willing to face his issues, his low self-worth keeps him stuck to a pattern of "self-sabotage" or somehow not having the grit to make a step forward to his true self-value... with his natal Sun/Pluto aspect he might certainly make it, but maybe he's not at this development stage right now... You know, when I started looking at your synastry I thought that exact thing, "they might be the right person for each others, in the wrong time though"... so the fact he said this is a confirmation somehow that he's aware of the bond but he's also aware of the fact that he can't make it right now...
You have your natal Saturn square your Uranus/ASC and the Chiron opposition to the ASC as well, your Chiron is in 6th house, so you need to give value to your talent and to your powerful intellectual skills (natal Gemini Sun/Mercury 8th house trine Pluto/NN 12th house) Also, your natal Jupiter in 9th house trine your ASC/Uranus is brilliant, you might have a wonderful creativity and a special personality through which you might achieve a lot, you just need more self-confidence and awareness about your unique potential path. Yout North Node in 12th house looks like waiting for you to make "higher" steps.

[QUOTE] [b] How on earth did you heal from your situation?


It happened about 18 years ago, and I'm not sure I healed, LOL
Well, it was a very harsh situation, I don't know if it was worth since that poweful love was completely destroyed, and that person just sank more and more... I was literally sinking with him in the illusion to save him, exactly cause as you said I just wanted to have him and his love in a "healthy" version of it which I strongly believed to be possible, but it actually wasn't... Eventually, I've learnt a lot about myself and got some awareness of my will power and my limitations, included the fact that I was finding my self-worth through that whole situation, it was partly so, cause I gave everything away for him, but at the same time I needed to face the fact that I was worth much more than that :-)
Of course, at the time I was so madly in love that if anyone would have told me these things, I just wouldnt have listened to one only word.
So just know that I completely understand you <3 [/B][/QUOTE]

You have such a gift the way you read these charts! I’m so grateful for your input, thank you 💕

I’m so sorry that happened to you. It must’ve taken quite a toll on you. The burn must’ve been so strong. I’m feeling it now and I honestly don’t think I’ll ever get over this.

I just don’t know how to live this life without him. My soul is aching. It’s been 6 days since we’ve had contact and I’m just so distraught. Not in an I can’t be alone way, because others just don’t match up to him. But you know what I mean.

What you say rings very true. If he were to commit to me he’d have to face all these issues.
Honestly, I feel like I want to ask him if he’s willing to give it another go. I don’t know how this strong love can be demolished like that. I don’t want to live with regret and he’s lived that way his whole life. I just want to shake him and wake him up.
I haven’t seen him since mercury retrograde when all this happened and I’m so sad. He can’t face me. He has a strong willpower to hold back but I can feel him so strongly. I’m leaving on Wednesday and I’m afraid I won’t see him beforehand. It aches my heart to no end.

Do you think that there might be hope for us at some point? I mean we have an applying sun/Venus trine in our natal to progressed charts. His pMoon will be moving into Gemini too. Mine will be moving into Aries opposing his Libra planets. Our progressed composite moon will be heading towards my descendant and opposing his Scorpio planets. I dont want this love to be a waste.

I pray that my faith will get me through this.

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posted May 05, 2019 01:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Do you think that there might be hope for us at some point? I mean we have an applying sun/Venus trine in our natal to progressed charts. His pMoon will be moving into Gemini too. Mine will be moving into Aries opposing his Libra planets. Our progressed composite moon will be heading towards my descendant and opposing his Scorpio planets. I dont want this love to be a waste.

I pray that my faith will get me through this.


Darling, I've checked transits. The problem here is not just Mercury, it is especially transit Uranus and Saturn against your Composite. His own transits especially are affected by this, it looks like he's sabotaging himself, he has a very low opinion of himself and he's escaping from any bond triggering his own issues/guilty feelings. He's entering transit Neptune square natal Neptune and soon he will have Saturn squares. He's not able to see things clear and his own direction, he's in a denial state, and he's going to cut people off to stay away from painful situations. Next August/early July, some light is coming for him, it might have to do with a job, maybe, something improving his own confidence... but it seems he won't be able to see things clear until february/march next year, when transit Neptune and trSaturn squares will be gone and trUranus will be conjunct his Chiron... here something might change for him...
trMercury right now is trine your Composite Mercury so communication doesn't look impossible. You might have better conversations around May 15, when trMoon will get closer to trJupiter sextile Comp. Moon and trine Comp. Sun/Mercury... btw, if you feel such urge just talk to him before you leave, don't expect too much since tr.Uranus and trMercury are not going to be favourable for some time, but this week you're supported by tr.Moon and tr. Jupiter... at least you will leave with no regret! And you might hear his intentions...
I'm sorry, I have no easy answer to your question. First thing is that it seems it mainly depends on his will, not yours... even though he was willing to give it another go, I'm not sure you would see much change in short terms, and it's going to be painful. Of course if he's still into this, you have to follow your heart. In this case I would just suggest to try to protect yourself as much as you can, cause from the Comp. and prog.Comp. it looks like this is demanding a lot from you, your life-direction and your balance, and as I said he looks somehow manipulative, even without intention there might be a deceitful dynamic which might furtherly hurt you, so just be careful. <3

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posted May 06, 2019 02:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for EmGem     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Stoika....youve been a blessing here. Both you and Hiraku actually. She’s helping me in another thread too. I needed this because it has placed in front of me what I already knew but couldn’t face. Thank you so so much. You really have a gift, clearly also an intuitive one.

These transits are killers. I hate that tUranus will be opposing his 5th house stellium. But I wonder something. Will he still feel the transit if he has Uranus conjunct his stellium natally??

I sent him a message and told him I’m leaving on wed and he was so shocked and apologized. Says he definitely wants to see me before I go. Would drive me to the airport if he could. But I think he finishes work too late. So I told him to take the day off. We will see what happens. At this point I just burn to see and hug him. I thought it would get easier if I didn’t have contact with him but it makes things feel worse. I can’t fathom leaving without seeing him. I need to protect myself too though, I know that ❤️

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posted May 06, 2019 04:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Stoika....youve been a blessing here. Both you and Hiraku actually. She’s helping me in another thread too. I needed this because it has placed in front of me what I already knew but couldn’t face. Thank you so so much. You really have a gift, clearly also an intuitive one.

These transits are killers. I hate that tUranus will be opposing his 5th house stellium. But I wonder something. Will he still feel the transit if he has Uranus conjunct his stellium natally??

I sent him a message and told him I’m leaving on wed and he was so shocked and apologized. Says he definitely wants to see me before I go. Would drive me to the airport if he could. But I think he finishes work too late. So I told him to take the day off. We will see what happens. At this point I just burn to see and hug him. I thought it would get easier if I didn’t have contact with him but it makes things feel worse. I can’t fathom leaving without seeing him. I need to protect myself too though, I know that ❤️


I'm glad we're helpful and yes, Hiraku is so good! <3
Transit Uranus is currently opposite your Composite and opposite his natal Uranus/stellium, so this is pretty unstable... trJupiter in Comp. 3rd house trine Comp. Moon and sextile Comp. Mercury is supporting you at this moment though, so this is why I suggested you to talk to him, I'm glad you did! yes, I think you'd have felt worse otherwise... so I wish you to see him and hope you will feel a little relieved whilst you're away. <3
Hope you'll give updates!

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posted May 06, 2019 05:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for EmGem     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I will definitely keep you updated love 💕

Thank God for the timing of these helpful communication transits this week!

When you say tUranus is opposite composite, did you mean to write Chiron?! 🤔

And do you think he’s likely to feel the effects of tUranus opposite his own stellium even if he has the conjunction natally?

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posted May 06, 2019 06:03 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for EmGem     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I just realised the progressed composite descendant ruler is opposed tUranus! No wonder
Maybe you picked up on that already.

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posted May 06, 2019 06:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I just realised the progressed composite descendant ruler is opposed tUranus! No wonder
Maybe you picked up on that already.

Yes, that's why tUranus won't be favourable for some time... and btw, it is a fact that you're struggling at the moment. tr.Uranus will be conjunct to Comp. Chiron + pChiron at the end of June/early July, sextile to transit NN conjunct Prog. Sun/Moon midpoint and sextile to Comp. Sun/Moon midpoint + trine to Comp. Uranus... so the period from July to August things might get slightly favourable.

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posted May 06, 2019 06:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I will definitely keep you updated love 💕

Thank God for the timing of these helpful communication transits this week!

When you say tUranus is opposite composite, did you mean to write Chiron?! 🤔

And do you think he’s likely to feel the effects of tUranus opposite his own stellium even if he has the conjunction natally?


Sorry, I meant opposite Comp. Uranus! (widely)... I think transit Uranus is opposite to his whole Uranus/stellium (especially to natal Uranus/Mars), so this is why he's acting erratic, unfortuntaley... (and tUranus heading to natal Chiron might be triggering his issues at the same time...)

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posted May 08, 2019 06:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for EmGem     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks Stoika 🙏❤️

He was set on meeting me and then he admitted that he was scared. So did I:

HIM - “I’m a little scared to see you. Why you too?
Cause it’s too many feelings and I’ve been trying to give some distance cause everything is too intense. And sometimes things need to be off the boil to settles.”

ME - “I get it. I mean, you and I have always been intense. Feelings run deep.
Me too because we haven’t seen each other in so long and yes feelings too. But regardless I still really want to see you. It wouldn’t feel right leaving without that. And you not taking me to the airport would feel totally weird too.”

He texted me the next day about the U.S green card lottery. Then last night I asked when I’d see him (leaving tonight at 22:30). He only just replied today saying “Um f**k.”

So there you go. Too afraid 😔

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posted May 08, 2019 07:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by EmGem:
Thanks Stoika 🙏❤️

He was set on meeting me and then he admitted that he was scared. So did I:

HIM - “I’m a little scared to see you. Why you too?
Cause it’s too many feelings and I’ve been trying to give some distance cause everything is too intense. And sometimes things need to be off the boil to settles.”

ME - “I get it. I mean, you and I have always been intense. Feelings run deep.
Me too because we haven’t seen each other in so long and yes feelings too. But regardless I still really want to see you. It wouldn’t feel right leaving without that. And you not taking me to the airport would feel totally weird too.”

He texted me the next day about the U.S green card lottery. Then last night I asked when I’d see him (leaving tonight at 22:30). He only just replied today saying “Um f**k.”

So there you go. Too afraid 😔


I agree. I think he's scared cause he has deep feelings but doesn't want to commit, for the reasons we've talked about. I don't understand his last reply, I mean, what kind of reply is that ?! So he's not coming to the airport with you? What's about the US green card lottery, you mean he applied?
I'm not surpirsed though, unfortunately... as I said he looks acting erratic and escaping...
Sweetie, you did all you could and you won't have regrets, at least... maybe it is not a bad thing that you're away from him for a while, this might help you to distract and think things through, and test his feelings. I wish you to still spend some peaceful & nice time away <3 Big hugs

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posted May 09, 2019 06:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hikaru29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by EmGem:
Thanks Stoika 🙏❤️

He was set on meeting me and then he admitted that he was scared. So did I:

HIM - “I’m a little scared to see you. Why you too?
Cause it’s too many feelings and I’ve been trying to give some distance cause everything is too intense. And sometimes things need to be off the boil to settles.”

ME - “I get it. I mean, you and I have always been intense. Feelings run deep.
Me too because we haven’t seen each other in so long and yes feelings too. But regardless I still really want to see you. It wouldn’t feel right leaving without that. And you not taking me to the airport would feel totally weird too.”

He texted me the next day about the U.S green card lottery. Then last night I asked when I’d see him (leaving tonight at 22:30). He only just replied today saying “Um f**k.”

So there you go. Too afraid 😔


Ah... saw the update here. Let him be then... you go have a good break to take the tension off as well... I think a little space will help at this point. *hugs*

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posted May 09, 2019 09:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for EmGem     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
We both enter the Green Card Lottery every year.
Our agreement is that if one wins we will marry the other to be able to stay in the U.S lol.
The “um f**k” meant “oh I’m running out of time and I’m at work!”
So no go.
Didn’t see him.
He just texted me while I was at LAX telling me he had a c**t of a day at work. I told him I was sad we didn’t get to say goodbye. He said “you’ll be back quick yeah?” And then talking about the green card lottery etc. he clearly can’t face me. I feel like with the Venus/Pluto I’m progressed composite, it’s only going to get more intense. But even tho he says it’s too intense right now, it seems intensity is what he is attracted to in a relationship? With his Scorpio moon/Venus. Or he’d get bored.

Thanks for your support you two. You’re both so amazing and very talented! Big love ❤️

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posted May 10, 2019 01:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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We both enter the Green Card Lottery every year.
Our agreement is that if one wins we will marry the other to be able to stay in the U.S lol.
The “um f**k” meant “oh I’m running out of time and I’m at work!”
So no go.
Didn’t see him.
He just texted me while I was at LAX telling me he had a c**t of a day at work. I told him I was sad we didn’t get to say goodbye. He said “you’ll be back quick yeah?” And then talking about the green card lottery etc. he clearly can’t face me. I feel like with the Venus/Pluto I’m progressed composite, it’s only going to get more intense. But even tho he says it’s too intense right now, it seems intensity is what he is attracted to in a relationship? With his Scorpio moon/Venus. Or he’d get bored.

Thanks for your support you two. You’re both so amazing and very talented! Big love ❤️


Welcome <3 <3 <3 Well, at least he contacted you and gave an explanation :-) He seems not having a straight direction right now and being very insecure of his future... even though it seems his feelings for you are there. The problem I see here is how you will deal with his erratic behaviour, how much you can accept the situation or how much it is going to hurt you..... Take your time, and I hope that hearing from him gave you some relief at least <3

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