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Topic: Is he leading a double life or am I crazy?
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rayofnight
Knowflake Posts: 30
From: Joyce, WA (go North til you run out of state)
Registered: May 2017
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posted June 23, 2019 04:23 PM
  
I desperately need help. I feel I have been gaslighted by my spouse, who has a lot of
Scorpio in his chart, Sagittarius Ascendant and Mars in Pisces. So much doesn't make sense to me and I feel like it's driving me to the edge of the abyss. For example, he will tell me he's going to the store but Google location history shows he is visiting a personal residence. I have told him that Google has no reason to lie to me and he does but I only get denials. I feel he is leading a double life, and a very immoral one at that. I am overwhelmed by the sheer amount of suspicious activity displayed by him and forget much of it due to overload. There is literally that much. I don't know why I still seek solid proof but I am determined to find it somehow. Any guidance would be greatly appreciated as I feel my judgment has been distorted, along with my reality, for so long that I don't trust it anymore. Please ask any questions you feel is necessary to get a good grasp of the situation - nothing is off limits. I am willing to share text messages exchanged, photos, location history screenshots, anything and everything. This is my last attempt to find help for this before I give up the search for truth.[IMG]https://i86.photobucket.com/albums/k96/rayofnight1/astro_2gw_matt _rm_he.71257.49414_zpskfd5nbtu.png[/IMG] IP: Logged |
athenaia
Knowflake Posts: 1378
From: USA
Registered: May 2015
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posted June 23, 2019 07:30 PM
Well even without the GPS evidence, we have transiting Uranus exactly square his natal Uranus, his natal Chiron and opposite his natal Mercury.Basically transiting Uranus is forming a grand cross, a very stressful aspect, with his own sense of pain (Chiron), his thought processes (Mercury), and his natural sense of rebellion (Uranus) Transiting Uranus will continue to opposite his Scorpio Sun/Moon/Mercury/North Node for the next 7 years. Transiting Neptune is also conjunct his natal Mars and trine his natal Sun. Uranus = shake ups, sudden changes in behaviors, new ways of thinking, erratic decision making Neptune = delusions, flights of fancy, alcholism/drug/sex addiction, etc I'd say now is the time to leave, he'll probably never admit to anything and you shouldn't have to wait for his confirmation if you feel like you're being gaslighted and disrespected. I know it's difficult but you should really sever the connection between you and him. Maybe this is never how you pictured your life - being divorced at whatever stage in your life you are - but you deserve to live a life of peace, with serenity, without anyone psychologically terrorizing you. There is no need to continue to rake yourself over the coals for this selfish person. I see that you've been asking if he's been cheating for the past two years.. I didn't even know that when I looked at his above transits. But even transits mean nothing if this has been going on for a really long time. Either way, on some level you do know the truth, it's just really up to you if you want to act out on this. You don't need his permission to leave the relationship.
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rayofnight
Knowflake Posts: 30
From: Joyce, WA (go North til you run out of state)
Registered: May 2017
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posted June 23, 2019 11:05 PM
Thank you for responding, Athenaia. Actually, I have left him and moved 2200 miles away. My need for the truth is partly based on his insistence that he is being honest with me and that I am totally wrong. Maybe I just can't believe I was so wrong about someone but, honestly, he had everyone fooled. I guess I just really need to know that there are people out there that are this bad. His lying is truly off the charts, if what I believe to be true, actually is. I consider myself quite intuitive and I would really like to know if I'm spot on with what I am sensing. And knowing how much Scorpio is involved in his chart, I'm aware that as bad as I believe his actions have been, the truth is probably so much worse. I'm no prude, believe me, but what I believe he's been doing would humiliate any woman alive. I also need to know how this ended up being my life but I'm sure I have to wait for that answer.IP: Logged |
LunaIscariot
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Registered: Aug 2014
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posted June 23, 2019 11:29 PM
Ugh. I’m sorry! My ex was a Scorpio moon, which was also his ASC ruler, and mercury in his 8th house, mars exact square Pluto (he was highly scorpionic too) and this is giving me so much ptsd lol. He would gaslight me SO much and lie and hide **** all the time. I would literally see in his history or texts/msg too etc. and he would still deny so much and I basically felt the same way as you! Started to doubt my own reality and question myself. It’s horrible! Looking back on the relationship I feel like he was wearing a mask and pretending the whole time. It’s like you never know what they’re really thinking or feeling, they can say one thing and do something else the next or vice versa, and they can hide their true intentions so well and manipulate. I love Scorpio but it seems the men have a harder time dealing with this energy. The only bad experiences I’ve ever had is with men with lots of this energy. All my best friends are Scorpio moons and I adore them, but they’re women lol.
You did the right thing leaving! I put up with this crap for almost 4 years and I wish I would have left sooner!!!!! 👍 it’s very toxic and abusive all this gaslighting and mental and subsequent emotional abuse. Scorpio can be master manipulators when in the lower energy, so don’t feel too bad about it. Just learn from this and move forward 😊 best of luck ❤️! IP: Logged |
rayofnight
Knowflake Posts: 30
From: Joyce, WA (go North til you run out of state)
Registered: May 2017
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posted June 24, 2019 01:13 AM
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Originally posted by LunaIscariot:
Ugh. I’m sorry! My ex was a Scorpio moon, which was also his ASC ruler, and mercury in his 8th house, mars exact square Pluto (he was highly scorpionic too) and this is giving me so much ptsd lol. He would gaslight me SO much and lie and hide **** all the time. I would literally see in his history or texts/msg too etc. and he would still deny so much and I basically felt the same way as you! Started to doubt my own reality and question myself. It’s horrible! Looking back on the relationship I feel like he was wearing a mask and pretending the whole time. It’s like you never know what they’re really thinking or feeling, they can say one thing and do something else the next or vice versa, and they can hide their true intentions so well and manipulate. I love Scorpio but it seems the men have a harder time dealing with this energy. The only bad experiences I’ve ever had is with men with lots of this energy. All my best friends are Scorpio moons and I adore them, but they’re women lol.
You did the right thing leaving! I put up with this crap for almost 4 years and I wish I would have left sooner!!!!! 👍 it’s very toxic and abusive all this gaslighting and mental and subsequent emotional abuse. Scorpio can be master manipulators when in the lower energy, so don’t feel too bad about it. Just learn from this and move forward 😊 best of luck ❤️!
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todd
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Registered: Jun 2009
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posted June 24, 2019 11:06 PM
you might post a midpoint composite of you and he.
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Randall
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posted July 01, 2019 07:06 PM
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HieronymusTush
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posted July 02, 2019 04:31 AM
rayofnight can I just say - your desperate need for solid proof may be you sabotaging yourself & stopping yourself from getting out of this relationship. It's not like you don't have solid proof. You do have solid proof of his dishonesty. He is just not admitting to it. He's not accepting the reality of the situation and presenting you with an alternative one. So you have to go with his made up version.In order to find solace I believe you have to start to work on trusting your own instincts and reality. I believe you when you say he is lying to you. I also fully believe you that you are being totally gaslighted to suspect your own mind and senses. Please don't second guess yourself. Don't expect him to own up to his lying - for whatever reason, he will not. You will not be getting the admission of guilt from him that you seek - perhaps only to lure you back in if you leave him. It may take more than one try to leave him for good. But start planning and do not leave the building of reality to him. He does not get to dictate facts. Facts are universal. I think you also know this because if you did not you would not be so forthcoming in your post. I have a lot of sympathy for you. You are obviously a smart person - do not let him change your view on this. I wish you the best of luck. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted July 06, 2019 11:36 PM
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