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cultstatus
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posted July 05, 2019 11:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for cultstatus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thoughts on this? I met this new guy recently who I'm going to go on a date with tonight.

The sexual chemistry is probably the best I've ever experienced with someone (Mars 8th house DW overlays?), and i'm wondering if its blinding me to the potential (or non potential) of the relationship? I feel strongly toward this person and the things he's said have indicated he sees me as a possible partner.
I've noticed the venus in composite is 18 Libra (same as my natal moon), is this going to be felt on an individual level?
I'm on the inside in the synastry chart:

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posted July 06, 2019 11:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted July 06, 2019 11:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for cultstatus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted July 07, 2019 09:03 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for cultstatus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
He now says he can’t deal with the volatility and fiery energy between us, that it’s not what he’s looking for.

Any opinions would be appreciated!

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posted July 08, 2019 05:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for cultstatus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
And now he’s straight up ghosting me after I finally opened up to him. I’m struggling to understand how he is able to walk away from the connection? Any opinions please!?

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posted July 08, 2019 08:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for athenaia     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well I think this is really fraught synastry. On top of the fact that it's not great, you also have terrible transits leading to the deterioration of the dynamic.

Consider this, both of you have Mars opp. Mars in synastry. That can produce an erotic heat, yeah, but both of you will be working against each other at a certain point. It can create a physical tension, and a mental irritation at a certain point.

You have Moon opposite Mars natally, so you probably love this aspect, while the other person involved does not have this natally, so they could find this energy to be extremely grating and like you guys have different purposes in life, different motivations, so about things completely different ways.. it could be maddening to them at a certain point, especially if they desire harmony (he's the Libra Mars so he probably does)

Also, his Mars is on your SN, so he probably would just be holding you back in your life's purpose. You're a Mars/North Node girl, you don't need someone Mars on your SN, anchoring you down into habits that work against the purpose of your life.

Okay, so with all that being said, complex dynamic on that axis alone (this is happening on the Aries-Libra axis).

What's going on in the sky right now? Transiting Sun opposite Pluto. Transiting South Node conjunct Saturn.

What axis is that? The Capricorn/Cancer axis.

Which is EXACTLY square your Mars/Mars opposition on the Libra/Aries axis.

Basically transiting Pluto is square this opposition
Transiting Saturn is square this opposition
Transiting Sun is square this opposition
Transiting NN/SN is square this opposition

This was gonna be doomed from the start if you ask me.

Frankly I'm not sure what you get out of this relationship...? His Saturn is sitting right on top of your Sun, dampening your irreverent, devil-may-care Aquarius quirks and telling you to settle down, be something lesser than what you are.

His Mars is on your Moon, berating any emotions you ever experience.

Your Venus is square his Mercury, so the way you express affection comes off as totally irrational to him

Yeah all of his stuff falls into your relationship houses so you have this delusion of seeing him as the ideal partner but all of this synastry is.. not great. The bad doesn't outweigh the good.

Plus your composite (both of them) has a YOD in it, the finger of God, a deeply karmic and SUPER stressful aspect which takes so much mental fortitude to try and make something great out of (though it fails more often than not). So.. hopefully you can be at peace with the fact that this was never the guy for you

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posted July 09, 2019 04:42 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for cultstatus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you for reading a bit further into it for me. I feel like the sexual compatibility has definitely blinded me to the glaring incompatibility elsewhere. I haven’t been able to find it with anyone else, ever. Not like this. Also, I’m obsessed with his intellect. He is one of the smartest people I’ve ever conversed with and I like the constant challenge of keeping up with his mind. I don’t want to give it up.

That being said, I said I enjoy the friction between us and he is adamant that he does not.

I am attracted to his ability to ground me, I feel it’s the type of partner I’d be suited to long term. It hasn’t been long enough for me to truely experience him holding me back or damping my spirit, but I suppose I could see how that would become an issue over time.

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posted July 09, 2019 06:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hikaru29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Being an Aquarius, you probably find the friction fun or even intriguing, but not everyone enjoys it. I don't remember Virgo being one that likes too much conflicts.

Also, your composite doesn't look like it has the foundation of a stable loving relationship. Moon only forms a conjunction to Uranus which shows that feelings can change with the wind. Your Venus trine Jupiter is nice (it shows strong affection) but it also simultaneously squares Saturn/Neptune/Chiron (blocked affections...disappointments... hurt feelings...). 1 trine is no match for 3 squares, unfortunately. Venus square Mars shows a r/s with strong sexual chemistry but this is also a love/hate aspect. Also, Mars conjunct the 3 outer planets in 8H looks a little too intense - ego conflicts, competition, etc.

And how long have you known this guy? On 5 July he saw you as a potential partner but on 7 July he was ghosting you already? Forget it. Move on for the next better player.

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posted July 09, 2019 08:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted July 09, 2019 09:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LunaIscariot     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This is such a shame. One of those connections with a ton of attraction (on both ends), you both are each other’s type and match each other’s relationship houses and attraction profile, but majorly lacking in compatibility, understanding and harmony from the synastry.
One look at the composite and there’s no way it’s lasting or going to be an ultimately fulfilling, long-term or stable relationship either.

It looks extremely karmic. Our karmic relationships are people we were meant to meet and serve a big purpose for growth, everyone goes thru one at some point lol. Usually painful in some way but in a way that makes us stronger and better in the end so there’s still really important and inevitable since you both agreed to meet up and work this karma and lessons out.

So really, it’s up to you how to proceed. There’s no way this is lasting longer than a few years if that, but if you’re ok with a passionate fling and some drama/chaos in your life (karmics are always stormy, hot and cold, unstable) go for it. I just suggest not investing too much or getting your hopes up, just live in the moment and enjoy it and let things unfold naturally either way, what’s meant to be will be and whatever happens, happens.

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posted July 09, 2019 10:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LunaIscariot     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Some synastry aspects that are worrying to me is that DW hard mercury-Saturn aspects.
His Saturn conjunct your mercury, and your Saturn square his.
This is going to be a real buzz or should I say “mind-kill” lol over time. Convos will hit a ceiling, someone is going to get critical of the others opinions and ideas. There will be a blockage and restraint felt over time in freely expressing yourself.

Your mercury is only widely trine his sun/mars besides the Saturn conjunction.
His mercury is much happier opposite your Jupiter and square your Venus/Uranus in a t-square, so I feel this mental blockage, insecurity and restraint will mainly manifest on your side.

And then there’s the moon issue, which the moons are most important in any long-term connection, especially if you plan to live together or spend a lot of time alone together. Yours is libra, he’s pisces. Air and water aren’t the best match, but, his moon is conjunct your ASC and in the 7th, matches your libra moon. So there’s a resonance there, but I don’t think this is enough over time, mainly because the lack of aspects to each other’s moon. Mainly his. It’s making no aspects go your personal planets. You’re going to have a hard time understanding him and his needs and feelings and why he reacts the way he does. And he’s going to feel very misunderstood and frustrated over time. The lack of moon aspects in the composite show this emotional disconnect and alienation as well with no aspects to the inner planets to the moon, only a conjunction to Uranus which is a very distant, impersonal planet/energy anyways.

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posted July 09, 2019 04:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for cultstatus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you everyone. You’ve given me so much peace of mind knowing it was never supposed to be, and now I can let it go gracefully.

I spied the lack of moon contacts too, and it definitely concerned me, as I feel particularly with this synastry and composite it needs an abundance to diffuse the negs. My longest relationship was with a Virgo sun Pisces moon (5.5 years) so I felt perhaps the lack of comparability was something to be overcome over time.

Interestingly even though I don’t know him too well, there were already instances where I’d become super frustrated with him not being able to understand or accept me for who I am. Overtime that would’ve become exhausting for both parties.

I’m really intrigued by the yods, still trying to wrap my head around them, I’m curious if they show up in other composites for me, will have to go and check.

I don’t really understand what the point is when you’re brought together with these karmic people, and it never gets off the ground or even has any hope of doing so. Like seriously, what’s the point?

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posted July 09, 2019 08:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LunaIscariot     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Usually to make you realize something about yourself, or what you want/don’t want in a relationship, to promote some sort of change. Usually internal. You’ll figure it out when you’re supposed to after some reflection

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posted July 15, 2019 03:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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