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pocky007
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posted May 12, 2020 10:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pocky007     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi all! First time posting here, and was wondering if I could get some thoughts/opinions on this synastry + composite (hope I uploaded them properly)

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Basically, we ended things about a year ago but he's STILL been on my mind, maybe even more so now than ever. This has honestly never happened to me before, I'm usually the type to get over things relatively quickly (sag rising), so I was just curious if there might be a reason for this?

We actually have the same birthday (month + day), although he is older than me by 9 years. I've been told this could be a potential soulmate/twin flame connection, but I'm not entirely sure if that's true.

I'm still learning a lot about charts/synastry/etc., so any advice at all would be much appreciated! Thank you in advance!!

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posted May 12, 2020 10:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Librapurr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
He hit your moon heavy with Pluto/Saturn. It could be enough to effect you strongly. Also, your nodes are bonding, you have a lot to learn from each other.

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posted May 12, 2020 10:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pocky007     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you for the response, Librapurr!

If you don't mind, can you please explain what you mean when you say our "nodes are bonding"? And since my moon is being hit by his outer planets, does this mean I'm the only one feeling this way? Or could he potentially be affected as well?

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posted May 13, 2020 12:16 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Librapurr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Your North node conjunct his South node. He is affected by this connection too. It’s significant. But Pluto/Saturn person has the upper-hand and can try to manipulate and/or restrict you in some ways. It’s challenging and binding.
I let somebody else to elaborate about soulmate /TF.

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posted June 30, 2020 05:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pocky007     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Bump, please!

I think that moon/pluto exact conjunction is what's making me lose my mind. It probably also doesn't help that his sun and mars fall into my 8th house, while only my uranus and neptune fall into his. Any advice on how to get over this?

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posted June 30, 2020 09:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi pocky007

Your synastry is very strong, the ASC/DSC conjunction with Mars/Juno conjunct Moon/Chiron points to an unbreakable intense bond at emotional and sexual level, but especially his Moon/Chiron (I guess he's the outer one) conjunct to your DSC/Mars/Juno and square to his own Venus in the 4th house suggests you're a strong mother figure at his subconscious level, as it suggests he has an issue with the motherly and feminine figure and in relationships. In fact he also natally has Saturn in Libra opposite Juno in 12th house Aries, square his Mars in Cancer, so his mother might be an authority figure he's strongly attracted to but escapes at the same time for some reason or that caused deep self worth and emotional issues in his childhood. His Saturn/Pluto is conjunct to your Moon in Libra, so again there's a strong emotional attachment which is linked to his own deepest issues though. His Uranus is conjunct DSC/Jupiter and square to his Venus/Mercury, so he's very independent in relationship matters and likely stays as long as he enjoys a happy outgoing and inspiring relationship, but he might get detached if he's confronted by emotional issues... His Neptune in 7th house is conjunct South Node, so even though he might be romantic and creative and easily falling in love, he might also be prone to escapism and deep insecurity as things get very serious and binding.
And your relationship looks extremely binding...

With Composite Sun/Moon square to Pluto the intensity of the relationship at all levels is very deep and with Venus/DSC trine to Saturn it looks again devoted, binding and expected as long term, but Uranus/Saturn in 10th house is an unstable trait, with the opposition to Mars it points to the guy independence and having the upper hand as Librapurr noticed, square to the Nodes it's being felt as strongly fated but such a square also suggests that the future of the relationship is uncertain, and in fact the Venus/Jupiter midpoint is conjunct to South Node in the 7th house and square to Uranus/Saturn in 10th house, this suggests that also the end and the need to get detached was somehow fated......
Composite Chiron/Eros in the 5th house suggests again that there was a strong familiar bond but a wound in your mother/child dynamic at subconscious level creating some kind of unbalance in the relationship and triggering some deep insecurity issues since Neptune is opposite Chiron and Juno square to the Moon.

This whole picture obviously fits with your difficulty to let go... transiting North Node is now conjunct to Composite Mars opposite Uranus and square to Composite Nodes, so this is why you're feeling so strong about him again lately, and he likely is having the same feelings cause the Nodes and Uranus give telepathy, mind connection, dreaming of each other is also possible... As transiting South Node will be conjunct to Saturn you likely will start to finally move on, so I guess you'll have to endure for a few months... hugs.

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posted June 30, 2020 10:05 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pocky007     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Hi pocky007

Your synastry is very strong, the ASC/DSC conjunction with Mars/Juno conjunct Moon/Chiron points to an unbreakable intense bond at emotional and sexual level, but especially his Moon/Chiron (I guess he's the outer one) conjunct to your DSC/Mars/Juno and square to his own Venus in the 4th house suggests you're a strong mother figure at his subconscious level, as it suggests he has an issue with the motherly and feminine figure and in relationships. In fact he also natally has Saturn in Libra opposite Juno in 12th house Aries, square his Mars in Cancer, so his mother might be an authority figure he's strongly attracted to but escapes at the same time for some reason or that caused deep self worth and emotional issues in his childhood. His Saturn/Pluto is conjunct to your Moon in Libra, so again there's a strong emotional attachment which is linked to his own deepest issues though. His Uranus is conjunct DSC/Jupiter and square to his Venus/Mercury, so he's very independent in relationship matters and likely stays as long as he enjoys a happy outgoing and ispiring relationship, but he might get detached if he's confronted by emotional issues... His Neptune in 7th house is conjunct South Node, so even though he might be romantic and creative and easily falling in love, he might also be prone to escapism and deep insecurity as things get very serious and binding.
And your relationship looks extremely binding...

With Composite Sun/Moon square to Pluto the intensity of the relationship at all levels is very deep and with Venus/DSC trine to Saturn it looks again devoted, binding and expected as long term, but Uranus/Saturn in 10th house is an unstable trait, with the opposition to Mars it points to the guy independence, square to the Nodes it's being felt as strongly fated but such a square also suggests that the future of the relationship is uncertain, and in fact the Venus/Jupiter midpoint is conjunct to South Node in the 7th house and square to Uranus/Saturn in 10th house, this suggests that also the end and the need to get detached was somehow fated......
Composite Chiron/Eros in the 5th house suggests again that there was a strong familiar bond but a wound in your mother/child dynamic at subconscious level creating some kind of unbalance in the relationship and triggering some deep insecurity issues since Neptune is opposite Chiron and Juno square to the Moon.

This whole picture obviously fits with your difficulty to let go... transiting North Node is now conjunct to Composite Mars opposite Uranus and square to the Nodes, so this is why you're feeling so string about him again lately, and he likely is having the same feelings cause the Nodes and Uranus give telepathy, mind connection, dreaming of each other is also possible... As transiting South Node will be conjunct to Saturn you likely will start to finally move on, so I guess you'll have to endure for a few months... hugs.


WOW, Stoika7! Thank you so much for the detailed reply!!

Pretty much everything you wrote is spot on. We're both independent when it comes to relationships, but there was just this natural ease and comfort with him that I've never experienced with anyone before - no walls at all.

Unfortunately, he wasn't ready for a full-on commitment, which I think triggered my insecurities and things kind of escalated and broke apart from there. You're absolutely right that he enjoys more lighthearted and happy times and gets extremely detached/uncomfortable when confronted by emotions (something I wish I knew beforehand, as our conversations would have me crying sometimes and I could tell he had no idea how to respond).

With everything you mentioned above, I'm assuming a reconciliation/getting back together between the two of us is impossible, right? You said the need to end things and detach could be fated in the composite? We've been on and off and have tried to go back to being friends a few times, but it never works out, because despite everything, I do truly believe there are still feelings on both sides.

It does feel quite "binding" in that sense - glad to know that he is likely also having a difficult time dealing with this. I assumed I was the only one going crazy!

Again, thank you so so much for your insight!

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posted June 30, 2020 10:27 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You're welcome ❤️

You have Sun/Chiron opposite Saturn in 2nd house, so you might have an insecurity issue on your own about self worth and achievements in your life, but your Sun/Chiron is conjunct to his Sun (and Nessus!) so I bet he triggered a lot of this in you, with Nessus involved he might have acted coldly in such situations and you might have perceived he was somehow "cruel"... ?
But the insecurity issue seems mainly mutual, since Composite Neptune is opposite Chiron...
It's hard to answer your question cause South Node in 7th house square to Uranus (and widely Saturn) usually suggests the relationship is going towards detachment and strong instability, even though it gives a very lasting bond which might stay even life long in different forms...
Getting together again is a possibility, but I doubt this unstable dynamic would change, I guess a very independent relationship based on friendship and affection is what might help you stay connected on long terms basis.

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posted June 30, 2020 10:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pocky007     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes, absolutely! I'm quite self-critical and even though I know I've accomplished a lot, it's hard for me to ever truly feel like it's good enough.

With him, he told me many times that it wasn't me - he simply didn't want to be in a relationship at all at that time, because he had recently gotten out of another long-term relationship not long before we started dating and wanted time for himself. In hindsight, I can understand where he was coming, but at the time it definitely unintentionally triggered my feeling of "not being good enough." I had difficulty properly communicating the extent of how hurt I was feeling as well and acted somewhat coldly, which likely triggered his insecurities as a result.

He seems to be the type who will never really settle down anyway, and as much as I like some Uranian unpredictability and excitement, I'd also appreciate some more stability hopefully as you said, the South Node/Saturn transit will slowly help me to release this <3

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posted July 08, 2020 08:32 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pocky007     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Dear Stoika (if you ever happen to see this!),

You're right - he showed up in my dream last night! And was on my mind SO strongly all day today, it was torture! I can only hope he's being affected as well, even if just a little...

I was wondering if there were any sudden transits that could cause this? Other than what you mentioned before regarding the nodes, because that seems more like a long-term thing?

Also, in your personal opinion, do you truly believe that he'll never settle down? I'm fairly certain he's only ever been in somewhat long-distance relationships before and has admitted to cheating once in the past. I don't think marriage is particularly high on his list either. I know I shouldn't even care, and it's so frustrating that I do! I've just never been so emotionally invested in someone before

Any more of your wonderful insight would be highly appreciated!!

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posted July 08, 2020 02:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi dear pocky007

the transiting North Node conjunct to Composite Mars and heading to a square to Composite Nodes is a strong psychic and fated aspect which might trigger a mind connection cause of the opposition to Uranus... meanwhile transiting Moon on Composite 12th house just went to a square to Pluto, and it is now conjunct to Composite Lilith opposite Composite Moon/Mercury, so this is why you're so obsessed about him these days and dreamed about him... in addition to the strong otherwordly connection given by the Nodes, Uranus and the tr Moon in 12th house, Lilith conjunct tr Moon triggers your subconscious attachment towards him. This might be mutual, so he might have same feelings and dreams these days. Composite Mars involved in the square of the nodes and opposite to Uranus might give strong anxiety and impatience, and the feeling that action is needed.
Transiting Mercury is conjunct Composite Chiron and transiting Sun is sextile Comp Juno as transiting Uranus is square to Composite Sun, so the strong wish of a new contact might be overwhelming right now, and as transiting Sun will be trine to Composite North Node by the end of the month, a contact might be possible.
Even though, transiting South Node is conjunct to Pallas and to Neptune/Saturn midpoint, so this is unfortunately a sign that you two are actually separated or that a definitive detachment is on its way...

He's very unstable romantically and his relationships might be difficult to get stable, cause his nodes are square to his Venus, and especially cause his South Node is conjunct to Neptune in his 7th house, with his Uranus here conjunct to DSC, so he's very very independent in relationship matters and one cant really count on his complete committment and devotion, even though his Neptune is sextile Saturn and his Leo Sun conjunct to IC he might actually wish for getting romantically more stable, he might actually feel the need to have his own family, even though he struggles in such contradiction... his Juno is trine to his Neptune and opposite Saturn/Pluto, so he would find stability only with a very ideal woman which he might find hard to find likely cause it's too idealized and unreal.

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posted July 08, 2020 02:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
PS: transiting Node will be exactly square to Composite Nodes around August 25, as transiting Sun will be exactly conjunct to Composite Venus, so that's when a new contact might actually happen in a more intense way... South Node will be conjunct to Uranus at that moment, so even if it all might be quite intense, this could happen at long distance and it might just be a short lived connection... keep me updated ❤️

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posted July 08, 2020 09:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pocky007     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You are an angel, Stoika!!! <3 <3

He has expressed to me in the past about not wanting to die alone and wanting to have children, but not wanting marriage, so you nailed it again with the whole "family contradiction." Like you said, I'm sure his ideal woman doesn't even exist, it's just an impossible standard he's created in his head.

It's all a little ironic because I had been the one to end things last March when he couldn't give me a full commitment (even though we were basically acting like bf/gf) and back then I hadn't thought much about it. Fast forward to a year later now and I can't believe how much of a mess I've turned into! He never responded to my last message at the beginning of April but will still watch my social media occasionally, which drives me insane. I'm telling myself to stay strong and not be the one to reach out anymore. Our mutual birthday is coming up at the beginning of next month and even though he knows this, I doubt he'll reach out.

Will keep you posted if anything changes, and thank you so much again as always!

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posted July 08, 2020 11:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Transiting Sun conjunct Venus will be sextile Mars, so I wouldnt rule out he might reach out or that you might contact him by impulse around his birthday... Unless the influence of the South Node transit to the Neptune/Saturn midpoint turns out just in giving up the impulse to get in contact again and let it go... Let me know <3

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posted July 12, 2020 08:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pocky007     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Stoika <3

I found out recently through some of our mutual friends that apparently he's been acting out some very passive aggressive behavior towards me on social media (not blocked, but definitely hiding some things). He's probably too stubborn/stuck in his ego to unfollow me completely, so he's resorting to this passive aggressive way of doing things instead (his mars in cancer maybe)?

Either way, after hearing that, it's really turned me off. I keep trying to be the bigger person in this situation, but I don't really see a point in trying anymore. I definitely won't be reaching out to him again. You mentioned "definite detachment" earlier and maybe this was the final straw I needed to get me there, haha.

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posted July 12, 2020 06:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi pocky007 !

Can you explain what you mean by "passive aggressive way" or make an exemple? I can't figure out such a thing from the chart, so maybe I dont understand well what kind of behaviour he's having... maybe it's composite Neptune opposite Chiron, but it's a little wide... by the way the transiting nodes through the Mars/Uranus opposition might also trigger some kind of conflict... sorry about your disappointment ❤️

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posted July 12, 2020 08:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pocky007     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ah sorry! I should have been more specific.

Not sure how familiar you are with instagram, but although we both follow each other, he's hidden his stories from me and I can't see them. I thought he simply hadn't been posting them at all, but apparently that's not the case. The funny thing is, I'm pretty certain his stories don't revolve around other girls, which I could almost understand as him trying to spare my feelings, but on little things like his daily life/work/etc. It's like he's purposefully trying to cut me out, but again is too stubborn or scared to actually unfollow me completely.

Sorry for the mini rant! It just makes me so sad to see the state we're in now given everything we've been through (we were good friends first before our relationship happened). He used to make me feel so safe and understood, and now it's like he's become a total stranger. I really can't see us getting back to anywhere even remotely close to where we started

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posted July 12, 2020 09:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It's such an awful feeling when you find out such a weird behaviour against you for no (apparent) reason! 😢

Thanks for explaining, I do have Instagram, but I didnt know one can hide stories from a specific person, I do know this about Facebook, but didnt realize this is also possible on Instagram!
Did you try to log in with another account so to check if he actually hid those from you? (so to be sure...)

I could not find any specific aspect about this, 'cept again for the Mars/Uranus, triggered by transiting nodes, involving the neptune/saturn midpoint, which is mainly about a possible "incident", conflict, aggressive or impulsive reaction, detachment. Since Neptune is involved, deception, disappointment but also misunderstanding is possible... that's why I'd suggest to make sure that he's actually hiding stories from you... (would it really make sense btw? just wondering....)

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posted July 12, 2020 10:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pocky007     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you as always for your kind words, Stoika!

His account is actually private, so even if I were to try making/signing in from another account, it wouldn't show me if he were posting stories unless I requested to follow him, and I doubt he'd accept from a random account/stranger. I'm honestly not even sure how long he's supposedly been hiding them from me.

If at all possible, could you let me know if there was anything going on earlier this year around February 7th (when we reconnected after roughly half a year) or around April 4th (the first and only time he didn't respond to a message I sent him)? I know beginning of April was when a lot of COVID stuff was picking up, which could be a factor. But I feel like him hiding his stories may have had something to do with him not replying to my message. In my message, I had asked him to talk when he had time, and I'm sure he had felt "burdened" by that in a sense, since, as you said, he only likes happy and inspiring relationships and conversations.

Of course this is only if you wouldn't mind and have the time! I already feel like I owe you so much for all of your responses! I hope to one day be able to read charts and understand transits as well as you do

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posted July 13, 2020 02:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
On February 7th, the Nodes were through the Neptune/Chiron opposition, while transiting Mercury was conjunct Composite ASC along transiting Mars conjunct Comp. Uranus square the nodes and trine to Mercury, so this was a strong transit for communcation and long distance connection and attraction.

On April 4th, transiting Mercury/Neptune was square to Composite Saturn and transiting Pluto/Jupiter was square to Composite Jupiter, so this suggests a block in communication and strong instability... Mercury/Neptune square Saturn might match with him "ghosting you"
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posted July 13, 2020 08:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pocky007     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That makes sense after reading your explanation

Again, will keep you posted on any changes but am going to try my hardest to release this. Thank you for all your wisdom until now and wishing you the best, Stoika! <3

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posted July 13, 2020 08:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You're so welcome pocky007 <3 and wish the best to you too!!
Anyway, just consider that around your birthday it looks a favourable time for reconnect... maybe at least a chance to clear up something?
Big hugs!

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posted July 13, 2020 08:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pocky007     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That's very sweet to hear

I would love that but don't want to get my hopes up! If he reaches out for once then we'll go from there, but otherwise I'm going to stay strong!!!

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posted July 13, 2020 09:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I completely understand ❤️❤️❤️

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posted July 21, 2020 04:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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