posted September 24, 2020 12:17 PM            

In the beginning it was great I never had a connection that felt this natural before, we seemed to be okay
But the more I see his his ways the more I feel turned away or something He’s lazy and seems to be-un driven or content, I’m driven and likes to go out and do things
He comes of as a Aries with No Fire.
I feel like I give more than I receive.
The interesting part is he talks about marriage from time to time and told my mom he wants decide on marrying Me by the end of the year. I’m more of a planner and Get it done, he seems to be too much of a think or dreamer and wait too long to get things done.

I didn’t get excited about it because I wasn’t sure how serious he is about that and there’s ways about him I don’t like, it’s the laziness that’s been getting to me and sometimes he acts like he doesn’t care about his appearance so when we’re out together I look more “put together” than He does.

I’m so stuck in the middle With these feelings because
It it seems like there’s long term potential but sometimes I feel like I’ll be managing a child.

posted September 24, 2020 02:04 PM            

I'm an introvert and I like and need periods of aloneness, but this lack of social connection has even been getting to me.

posted September 24, 2020 03:41 PM            

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Originally posted by AstroFreak114:
Synastry and a Composite of my boyfriend and I

In the beginning it was great I never had a connection that felt this natural before, we seemed to be okay
But the more I see his his ways the more I feel turned away or something He’s lazy and seems to be-un driven or content, I’m driven and likes to go out and do things
He comes of as a Aries with No Fire.
I feel like I give more than I receive.
The interesting part is he talks about marriage from time to time and told my mom he wants decide on marrying Me by the end of the year. I’m more of a planner and Get it done, he seems to be too much of a think or dreamer and wait too long to get things done.

I didn’t get excited about it because I wasn’t sure how serious he is about that and there’s ways about him I don’t like, it’s the laziness that’s been getting to me and sometimes he acts like he doesn’t care about his appearance so when we’re out together I look more “put together” than He does.

I’m so stuck in the middle With these feelings because
It it seems like there’s long term potential but sometimes I feel like I’ll be managing a child.

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astrofreak i feel the same way
in my current relationship
i want t break up but cant
we have venus saturn
and mars saturn like you
i dont know if this matter.
how long are u together?

posted September 24, 2020 11:07 PM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Hi AstroFreak114,

He actually looks very serious in committing with you... his Aries Sun is clearly afflicted by his natal Saturn conjunct Venus, this means he has a sort of block against the typical outgoing and impulsive action of Aries which he seems to subconsciously control a lot, also cause he has Chiron in Scorpio in his 2nd house of self-value opposite Mercury square Neptune, this is an heavy inner issue he carries for a strong lack of self-worth and lack of confidence in relationships, and that can give him depression and deep discouragement. But Saturn/Sun also means he's very serious and that he ponders his choices/moves, and with the Venus conjunction he is serious in committment.
With your Moon/Saturn midpoint conjunct to his stellium in his 7th house he obviously wants to commit with you on long term basis and might want to marry you, this falls in your 10th house, but square to your Venus/Mercury/DSC... this gives me the feeling that you feel this committment too serious as a burden you're not ready of and gives you a lot of doubts and insecurity instead of safe feelings... in fact this happens in your 10th house but you dont have his planets on your 7th, you have his Chiron conjunct to your Chiron in your 5th house, so again this looks more a heavy burden to you than a happy and joyful outgoing relationship... in fact in your 5th house you also receive his Mercury/Chiron opposition square to your/his Neptune... this means that his own inner issues become an issue and a burden to you hindering you to enjoy the romantic and more playful side of the relationship....
Your Nodes are conjunct on his ASC/DSC axis, so you clearly feel the karmic connection and that there's a significant bond.

In the Composite chart you have a strong emotional bond with Moon/DSC, and Mars/North Node gives an initial soul mate feeling, this means that you instantly felt to be meant to be toegther. There's an overall strong compatibility for love and long term, and with Saturn sextile Jupiter, Mars/North Node trine Neptune, and Juno conjunct MC, there's clearly a big potential for long term and his devotion/long term plans.
The problem is that Uranus/Jupiter is square MC/Juno, and square Chiron... this is again a divisive burden and Juno/MC square Uranus/Jupiter is usually a strong divorce/break up aspect or it might suggest that a marriage wouldnt last too long. In addition, the Nodes are trine to Neptune, and this would suggest that there is a karma and a soul connection, this is a very compassionate aspect suggesting that this relationship needs more awareness of where the other stands and feels and that really sharing plans/direction and opening up at a deeper level is required.

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posted September 24, 2020 11:38 PM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
It plays out that you can support him and he actually needs your support to find his self-worth, but that this also becomes a burden to you. I think there are elements of true love and a strong emotional bond, but this requires you to take such burden and accept his issues/support his healing. I think you should honestly open up about all this with him.

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No wonder it feels like I’m carrying 50 lbs on My back, i feel like I’m the happy go lucky striving for romance but yet I’m his Soul Repairman,
Hopefully I can talk to him about this without him being sensitive defense because he can’t take constructive criticism.
He even wants to start a family but something infertility related seems to block that. I have chiron in 5th and his chiron is my 5th so that’s probably why

posted September 25, 2020 10:11 AM            

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Originally posted by efaki94:
astrofreak i feel the same way
in my current relationship
i want t break up but cant
we have venus saturn
and mars saturn like you
i dont know if this matter.
how long are u together?

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posted September 25, 2020 03:06 PM            

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Originally posted by AstroFreak114:
No wonder it feels like I’m carrying 50 lbs on My back, i feel like I’m the happy go lucky striving for romance but yet I’m his Soul Repairman,
Hopefully I can talk to him about this without him being sensitive defense because he can’t take constructive criticism.
He even wants to start a family but something infertility related seems to block that. I have chiron in 5th and his chiron is my 5th so that’s probably why

But what you said explains my feelings in ways I couldn’t even explain it

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If he doesnt take constructive criticism there's nothing you can do about it, but I think opening up would be good for both of you, and he should appreciate your honesty (he's still an Aries Sun/Saturn :-) so I am sure he prefers honesty than you holding back your doubts and feelings...). The main thing here is that if you feel the love bond, you should try to understand each others' issues, rather than just express criticism, and understand if it's possible to support
each others' need, otherwise the Composite Uranus/Jupiter square MC/Juno is a bad omen and I doubt his plans for marriage would work out...