posted May 30, 2021 09:53 AM            

Now we’ve been married for two years and are both very happy. In my opinion astrology can give us insights, but what’s most important t in relationships is the maturity and commitment of the two people.

posted May 30, 2021 08:34 PM            

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Originally posted by virgoscorpio:
Honestly if I were you I wouldn’t worry about it. When I was dating my husband I was obsessing about our chart and had an astrologer tell me he just saw me as a friend.

Now we’ve been married for two years and are both very happy. In my opinion astrology can give us insights, but what’s most important t in relationships is the maturity and commitment of the two people.

My advice is if you like her then just enjoy her company and see where it goes.

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posted May 31, 2021 07:27 AM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Hi planetpublica,

Pluto opposite Venus and Sun square Pluto is why you are obsessed :-)
Honestly the chart looks mainly attraction/sexually based and Saturn square to Uranus/Neptune/MC is not favourable for long term. Could you post a Composite chart (from astro.com)?

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Would you say the obsession appears one sided? I think it’s mutual but then again you never know

Here’s the composite
http://flic.kr/p/2m2MCu8

here’s our natal I’m blue
http://flic.kr/p/2m2HnB3

posted May 31, 2021 02:40 PM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
You have ASC-DSC ruler aspects DW which is strong attraction. Your DSC ruler Pluto square her ASC ruler Sun and her DSC ruler Uranus trine your ASC ruler Venus. Pluto-Sun hard aspect is known to be obsessive and in addition your Pluto trine her Venus which sits in her 8H having that Scorpio flavour which fits your image of an ideal partner. Your 5th ruler Mercury creates a grand trine in her chart (to her Mercury/Mars) and your Venus forms a t-square with her Pluto/Mercury... pattern formations are glue.... plus your angles conjunction etc... I can totally see the attraction.

Your composite doesn't look as stable though with Uranus/Neptune/Chiron forming a t-square with your stellium although Moon-Jupiter mp conjunct midheaven may show an optimistic outlook.

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posted May 31, 2021 06:53 PM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Hi planetpublica,

Pluto opposite Venus and Sun square Pluto is why you are obsessed :-)
Honestly the chart looks mainly attraction/sexually based and Saturn square to Uranus/Neptune/MC is not favourable for long term. Could you post a Composite chart (from astro.com)?

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Also why are those aspects not favorable ? Currently right now she’s not talking to me she randomly does this then she comes back idk why

posted May 31, 2021 08:59 PM            

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Originally posted by planetpublica:
Also why are those aspects not favorable ? Currently right now she’s not talking to me she randomly does this then she comes back idk why

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Because they give unstable energies and point to difficult committment.

posted June 02, 2021 12:58 PM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Because they give unstable energies and point to difficult committment.

The composite chart is not bad but Sun/Venus square to Uranus looks unstable and on-off, and with Mars quincunx to Neptune it looks more like friends with benefit or that you may share and enjoy together a social environment... Moon/Jupiter midpoint is conjunct MC so actually there may be potential committment and if so it can be very romantic and loving cause of Sun/Moon midpoint conjunct to Venus. Pluto quincunx to Moon shows an obsessive side again, this can be very passionate but also a bit controlling and overwhelming at emotional level.
Basically there's a lot of attraction and potential romance, even so it may have a difficult taking off cause Saturn is in the 10th house square to DSC, or it's possible that it will take some time to take off, and there can be an underlying instability given by periods of emotional distance and other periods of passion and excitement.

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Is the attraction one sided like am only I feeling the passion?

posted June 02, 2021 06:13 PM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Attraction seems mutual to me cause her Pluto is opposite your Venus and Sun/Moon midpoint is conjunct Venus, but she may be the one more difficult to commit cause her Mars is quincunx to your Saturn and her Saturn is square to your Neptune, also Composite Chiron is opposite Venus/Moon, so she may have uncertainties.

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posted June 02, 2021 06:15 PM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Attraction seems mutual to me cause her Pluto is opposite your Venus and Sun/Moon midpoint is conjunct Venus, but she may be the one more difficult to commit cause her Mars is quincunx to your Saturn and her Saturn is square to your Neptune, also Composite Chiron is opposite Venus/Moon, so she may have uncertainties.

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One more thing because I actually looked up Mars quincunx Saturn and couldn’t find that much info
But is it as bad as google says? Can’t it be worked through?

posted June 02, 2021 07:53 PM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
The quincunx aspect can be worked out, but it can also be as bad as a square... even so, one aspect doesn't say everything, but Mars quincunx to Neptune and opposite Jupiter, and neptune square to Venus in the composite chart usually suggest a non-exclusive relationship, i.e. it is usually a very open and not fully committed relationship, or friends with benefit aspect... so I think your chart has some contradiction, cause it has potentiality for long term but at the same time it doesn't look like a fully committed relationship. Maybe she's very independent, or a "free lover" kind of person, or she has issues in having a committed relationship at this time?

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How does that Mars quincunx Saturn play out ? I read it means bad sex or something along the lines

But currently she just got out of a 4yr relationship so I don’t think she would be looking for any commitment at this time

posted June 03, 2021 01:26 AM            

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Originally posted by planetpublica:
Interesting I am going to look all that up Im very new to astrology and reading synastry and understating aspects would you say she feels any of the attraction or is it just me ?

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With the ASC-DSC rulers connected both ways I would say 'yes' she feels the attraction too. Her DSC is although in Aquarius but a large part of it is in Pisces with Sun/Venus in that sign as well so I would say she likes a strong Neptunian partner. Your Moon in 12H widely trine Neptune and Neptune opposite Sun probably fits the bill.

Just that I'm concerned with the lack of Saturn in your charts (unless I'm missing something?). In long-term relationships, I usually see Saturn contacts both ways OR it will show strongly in Composite. Your Composite stellium indicates a lot of feelings/passion but Uranus/Neptune squares look really unstable/ideals not fitting reality... so I'm not confident of long-term.

No matter what astrology says, you need to also take circumstances into consideration. You said she just got out of a 4-yr relationship and is not ready for another serious commitment so why don't you relax and see how it goes? Don't be too invested for now. Give her space to miss you.

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How does that Mars quincunx Saturn play out ? I read it means bad sex or something along the lines

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posted June 03, 2021 04:50 PM            

Well see the thing is they broke up a yr ago and she said was ready to move on we literally talk everyday and we’d see each other everyday too if she didn’t live an hr away BUT.

What made me ask about the synastry is she thinks that I’m distant and I don’t really make an effort to be with her and in my head I feel like I express that

She usually will stop talking to me for 1 week and come back so I guess that’s her taking her space but I definitely play it cool with her I feel like I’m secretly obsessed like she’ll never know directly

Here’s a list of are aspects she’s on the left I’m on the right it shows we have Saturn aspects that I’m not sure if they’re significant tho in terms of being long term
http://flic.kr/p/2m3jt4q

posted June 03, 2021 05:01 PM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
With the ASC-DSC rulers connected both ways I would say 'yes' she feels the attraction too. Her DSC is although in Aquarius but a large part of it is in Pisces with Sun/Venus in that sign as well so I would say she likes a strong Neptunian partner. Your Moon in 12H widely trine Neptune and Neptune opposite Sun probably fits the bill.

Just that I'm concerned with the lack of Saturn in your charts (unless I'm missing something?). In long-term relationships, I usually see Saturn contacts both ways OR it will show strongly in Composite. Your Composite stellium indicates a lot of feelings/passion but Uranus/Neptune squares look really unstable/ideals not fitting reality... so I'm not confident of long-term.

No matter what astrology says, you need to also take circumstances into consideration. You said she just got out of a 4-yr relationship and is not ready for another serious commitment so why don't you relax and see how it goes? Don't be too invested for now. Give her space to miss you.

[QUOTE][b]How does that Mars quincunx Saturn play out ? I read it means bad sex or something along the lines

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I know lotsa long-term couples with Mars square Saturn. Not sure why the association with bad sex. 🤨 What's more likely to happen is that Saturn will be critical/disapproving of Mars' behaviour which will result in resentment. [/B][/QUOTE]

posted June 18, 2021 02:14 AM              

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Originally posted by planetpublica:

....we literally talk everyday and we’d see each other everyday too .....

.....She usually will stop talking to me for 1 week and come back so I guess that’s her taking her space but I definitely play it cool with her I feel like I’m secretly obsessed like she’ll never know directly

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I feel a bit confused. In the same message, you have contradicted yourself by first saying you guys talk every day and then you go on to say there are periods when you don't talk for a week.

Also, a serious red flag is you caring about her but not mentioning it to keep it a "secret". This either means immaturity or manipulation. Sorry if there are no nice words to put it!

If she doesn't consider you guys an official couple, then it isn't helpful to look at the composite.

Usually a couple can rarely go on without talking for a couple of days in this digital age. This tells me she doesn't consider this an actual relationship.

I see your Neptune being activated by her Venus. Maybe you are more obsessed with the image of her you have in your mind than the actual her in person, hence why you hold back on expressing feelings?

Also you activate her Uranus with your Mars, when she's acting on and off and distant you are more attracted.

For men your age being attracted/obsessed to/with women who have their Moon square to your Sun is pretty common. Although with both her Moon and Venus being more than 7 signs away from yours (only counterclockwise counts), I'm afraid she will often feel unsupported by you. And without her AC being favorably aspected by you Venus or Moon in time you may feel out of sync with her, and the attraction may wear off.

Although there is an affinity between the charts with aligned angles, I'm not so sure. But please keep us updated and all the best to you!