posted November 12, 2021 10:13 AM            

I'm interested in your thoughts on my recent connection with this man.

I am still on good terms with the other guy (here's the link to our relationship analysis for your reference: linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum35/HTML/011409.html) but a few weeks ago I got tired of him taking too long to do something to move our relationship forward. I have disappeared mostly from his life apart from occasionally responding to his messages in a friendly way.

Here are the charts. Let me know if you need me to add an asteroid or something else.

Thank you!

My natal

His natal

Our Synastry

Composite

posted November 13, 2021 05:12 PM            

your angles are aspected, and your composite is nice! Saturn aspects the ASC and Venus. I really like this. And the composite hits both your natal charts.

posted November 13, 2021 05:44 PM            

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Originally posted by StoneMoon:
Not Stoika!!! But I popped in to say- Venus Moon!!!! I love this aspect. You have it DW, though the one side is out of sign and wide... but this is a beautiful aspect. I had it once and I love love love it. And this shows up in composite as a result.

your angles are aspected, and your composite is nice! Saturn aspects the ASC and Venus. I really like this. And the composite hits both your natal charts.

How does this relationship feel, not withstanding your moments of wanting to jump ship? Mars square Pluto in the composite and DW in synastry is something to keep an eye on.
I have had the conjunction and I would say power struggles are very real. Being older, maybe you both have more maturity?

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posted November 13, 2021 06:19 PM            

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Originally posted by StoneMoon:
Would you say that your Mars Chiron conjunct ion in the 12th is likely playing i here as to why you are attracted to the moon inconjunct Chiron in composite? But with your venus involved in his moon opposite Chiron in natal it has to be a soothing balm for him!

I do think there is some lovely potential. I don’t know how the Mars Pluto will continue to manifest, but if he’s spiritually inclined and growing then there is some good hope here as well.

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posted November 13, 2021 06:26 PM            

To give you a bit of a perspective on the power struggles, basically, I have already told him some specific things I require in sexual contact, and also the place I'd like to live in for the next few years. As well as the way I would like to raise my children!

Once I made those comments about my expectations, he was surprised even though he said he'd be open but thinks it's best to wait and see what the future brings with which I agreed. Although I think he's looking forward to me softening a bit haha. We shall see!

posted November 13, 2021 07:19 PM            

You have heavy 12th house activity, so you can offer him this awareness for himself. Meanwhile his sun Neptune conjunction feels comfortable and right for you. You have a lot of outer planets in Capricorn as well, again filling this energy out for him.

And for you, … you have that Mars Chiron in the 12th, and he has strong 6th house. I see this as resonance, and maybe just affinity? It may be subtle, but it’s a layer.

posted November 20, 2021 08:05 AM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
This is a very otherworldly composite chart. North Node is conjunct Vertex and square to the Sun... so there is definitely a soul connection or a karmic unfinished business of some kind. The Moon/DSC opposite Jupiter with Juno/Jupiter midpoint square Moon/DSC gives a strong expectation for long term committment, but Venus/Mars midpoint is square Saturn and Venus is square Uranus, and Mars is quincunx Neptune... so I think that after initial attraction or love at first sight, it may turn out as unrequitted love, as one of the two, likely the guy, is not up for committment or definitely not devoted to the reltionship.
So I believe this may be a temporary or fleeting situation, even though it looks intense, with strong attraction, and with a deep psychic connection.

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Stoika thank you very much, you are spot on about the unrequited aspect.

Initially, I was attracted to him, because of his astrology and other esoteric knowledge! Also his dark looks were a plus!

He tried to force the physical intimacy part too soon though and it was a red flag for me. I felt disrespected. I ignored him and dodged his calls for a few days. Time and time again I am proved that I'm not compatible with Scorp suns and moons. ACs are easier for me to handle.

He wanted to us to talk on the phone several hours a day, and by that I mean him talking and me listening. When I told him I have a lot of work to do and can't talk for so long, he tried to manipulate me in a subtle way probably thinking to himself I wouldn't notice, by telling me I have to relax more and maybe take some time off! And I'm like, WTH dude! Firstly you barely know me and can't lecture me, secondly I love my job and thirdly I have bills to pay!

It was also such a turnoff that he kept talking about himself in such a narcissistic way.

After getting to know this man, I find myself being skeptical and having little respect for people who boast about their spiritual knowledge or journey. It was also a lesson for me not to pressure myse;f into forming a commitment! Because then life would throw people like him onto my path. I wish him well though and hope that he'll get over his obsession and find himself a lasting partner. He did also carry a lot of baggage from his previous relationships and at one point tried to get me to spill some tea about my exes. When he realized he had been unsuccessful at getting me to trash talk people I've been involved with, he started lashing out at them (my exes)! Even though he had no idea who they are!