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ChildofVenus
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posted March 26, 2023 08:48 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ChildofVenus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yet things have never worked out between me and people who I have good synastry with. I get told how I am not compatible with certain people. Yet the people who I am compatible with still doesn't work out. I've had good compatibility with men Moon conjunct Moon (which feels like a sibling connection). And other good aspects but it feels boring to me.

I know people think Aquarius Moons don't want stability but it's not true for me. I want someone who offers the stability that I lack. Maybe it's due to my childhood? I've always felt taken care of and I feel like if I don't have stability in a partner then it won't work for me. My ex of seven years is a Gemini Moon (which is supposed to be compatible with Aquarius Moon). Yet I never felt emotional fulfilled by him.

I guess I just don't know what to really do anymore. I'm attracted to men with earth Moons because they are stable. My mom is a Virgo Moon and I feel like this could be why I'm attracted to men with this placement. I notice that I tend to be attracted to men who have similar placements as my parents. For example the Cancer guy has Moon in Virgo with Cancer planets and Mars in Aries with Gemini Venus. Both of my parents have Cancer planets. My dad has an Aries Mars with Gemini Venus. I feel that this is probably why I like him because he reminds me of my parents in a way.

I am a Taurus Sun and I do crave stability yes, my Aquarius Moon can be detached but still I know what I need regardless of the planets in my chart.

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posted March 27, 2023 04:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for frida     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Dating sucks Especially in this day and age. I think it has more to do with most people being so independent, many not knowing what they want since they don't need a relationship to survive, paradox of choice etc... than with synastries.

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posted March 27, 2023 05:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted March 29, 2023 01:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for StoneMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I don't think you should limit your dating options or focus your ideas based on what others tell you to look for...

if earth moons feel better, do it. If you like Cancer placements, go for it. At the end of the day, you decide. Go with what feels right.

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posted March 29, 2023 05:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for anthy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Where's your Chiron and what is aspecting it?

One thing that can be a total blind spot for people with challenging romantic lives is when their Chiron isn't in an immediately obvious romance placement.

For example, let's say you have Chiron in Cancer, 4th house. On the surface that doesn't seem like it'll have much to do with your love life, right? Well, consider this: Chiron in Cancer, 4th house, means your wound has a lot to do with whether or not you feel loveable or worthy of love. Cancer/4th indicates nurturing and love so if your Chiron is placed there, it means you didn't get it growing up.

Even if this Chiron doesn't aspect anything significant in your relationship houses, it's still going to weigh heavily on you. It'll become something you need to heal or understand and release pain from to be able to move forward successfully in relationships.

(Casually used my own Chiron placement as an example—I can definitely say that while my Chiron isn't an obvious romance factor, it was certainly a *personal* factor that lead to the souring of past romances.)

Sometimes good synastry doesn't mean much if your personal natal placements indicate that you have areas liable to have you get in your own way.

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posted April 13, 2023 06:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ZenaidaRva     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by anthy:
Where's your Chiron and what is aspecting it?

One thing that can be a total blind spot for people with challenging romantic lives is when their Chiron isn't in an immediately obvious romance placement.

For example, let's say you have Chiron in Cancer, 4th house. On the surface that doesn't seem like it'll have much to do with your love life, right? Well, consider this: Chiron in Cancer, 4th house, means your wound has a lot to do with whether or not you feel loveable or worthy of love. Cancer/4th indicates nurturing and love so if your Chiron is placed there, it means you didn't get it growing up.

Even if this Chiron doesn't aspect anything significant in your relationship houses, it's still going to weigh heavily on you. It'll become something you need to heal or understand and release pain from to be able to move forward successfully in relationships.

(Casually used my own Chiron placement as an example—I can definitely say that while my Chiron isn't an obvious romance factor, it was certainly a *personal* factor that lead to the souring of past romances.)

Sometimes good synastry doesn't mean much if your personal natal placements indicate that you have areas liable to have you get in your own way.


That's super true!
I have Chiron in Cancer in the 4th house - less than a degree from my 5th so it kindof applies there, too. It's compounded by my Rx Venus in Capricorn in the 11th, which conjuncts my Saturn squares my Moon. Annd my Moon is in Aries in my 1st so it squares my Chiron. It takes a lotta introspection!

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posted April 14, 2023 11:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ChildofVenus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by anthy:
Where's your Chiron and what is aspecting it?

One thing that can be a total blind spot for people with challenging romantic lives is when their Chiron isn't in an immediately obvious romance placement.

For example, let's say you have Chiron in Cancer, 4th house. On the surface that doesn't seem like it'll have much to do with your love life, right? Well, consider this: Chiron in Cancer, 4th house, means your wound has a lot to do with whether or not you feel loveable or worthy of love. Cancer/4th indicates nurturing and love so if your Chiron is placed there, it means you didn't get it growing up.

Even if this Chiron doesn't aspect anything significant in your relationship houses, it's still going to weigh heavily on you. It'll become something you need to heal or understand and release pain from to be able to move forward successfully in relationships.

(Casually used my own Chiron placement as an example—I can definitely say that while my Chiron isn't an obvious romance factor, it was certainly a *personal* factor that lead to the souring of past romances.)

Sometimes good synastry doesn't mean much if your personal natal placements indicate that you have areas liable to have you get in your own way.


This person I know he has Chiron in Cancer but in the 9th house. Because you also have Chiron in Cancer do you know how it might impact him person?

As for me, I have Chiron in Gemini in the 10th house it conjuncts my Mars.


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posted April 18, 2023 12:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for 93nov     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
“Good” is relative lol.

A lot of the time, the “best” relationships are/ were the most toxic. Delusion also plays a major role.

We gravitate towards relationships that challenge our sore spots and inspire growth (as a user basically mentioned with Chiron as a perfect example), but that won’t necessarily bring us the peace and fulfillment we need.

You say you’re a Taurus Sun/ Aquarius Moon. Okay. Great start. But we need more details to paint a clearer picture. What aspects do your Sun and Moon make to other planets? Is your Moon really in Aquarius? Birth time is extremely important here. The moon changes signs every 4 hours I think? Someone correct me if I am wrong.

You see where I’m going with this? And let’s not get into midpoints, progressions, transits, etc. You might view a chart as horrible but someone else might see it as just the perfect fit.

I use Astrology sort of like a really good guide or blueprint. Always take the instruction/ directions with a grain of salt, but still pay close attention.

If I’m getting good vibes from someone but our synastry is a little iffy, i still might go through with it. If the person is iffy but the synastry is good, I still might go through with it. If the person is iffy AND the synastry is iffy, automatic deal-breaker.

Not sure if this method has been working for or against my overall growth/ relationships, but it has kept me relatively safe and sane so I’ll take it.

Just adding a different perspective. Hope it helps.

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posted April 18, 2023 10:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ChildofVenus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by 93nov:
“Good” is relative lol.

A lot of the time, the “best” relationships are/ were the most toxic. Delusion also plays a major role.

We gravitate towards relationships that challenge our sore spots and inspire growth (as a user basically mentioned with Chiron as a perfect example), but that won’t necessarily bring us the peace and fulfillment we need.

You say you’re a Taurus Sun/ Aquarius Moon. Okay. Great start. But we need more details to paint a clearer picture. What aspects do your Sun and Moon make to other planets? Is your Moon really in Aquarius? Birth time is extremely important here. The moon changes signs every 4 hours I think? Someone correct me if I am wrong.

You see where I’m going with this? And let’s not get into midpoints, progressions, transits, etc. You might view a chart as horrible but someone else might see it as just the perfect fit.

I use Astrology sort of like a really good guide or blueprint. Always take the instruction/ directions with a grain of salt, but still pay close attention.

If I’m getting good vibes from someone but our synastry is a little iffy, i still might go through with it. If the person is iffy but the synastry is good, I still might go through with it. If the person is iffy AND the synastry is iffy, automatic deal-breaker.

Not sure if this method has been working for or against my overall growth/ relationships, but it has kept me relatively safe and sane so I’ll take it.

Just adding a different perspective. Hope it helps.


Yes, I am an Aquarius Moon I checked my birth certificate. I have Moon square Pluto so I know that makes a difference. And my emotions tend to be unstable. I've been doing therapy for two months now and it seems to help.

This is my chart


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posted April 18, 2023 06:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for vansio     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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The moon changes signs every 4 hours I think? Someone correct me if I am wrong.

the moon changes signs every 2.5 days (every sixty hours).

moves about 0.5 degree per hour

on her birthdate, irregardless of the time, the whole day was aquarius moon

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posted May 11, 2023 09:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for manderin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Your comment is an onion with a lot of layers.

First layer: What do you mean by "good compatibility"? I've known plenty of people who think they have great compatibility with people they actually have very poor compatibility with. They tend to mistake "spark" for compatible, which it is most certainly not. They have nothing to do with each other.

2nd layer: You can easily have two people who are perfect for each other, but one person doesn't see it because they grew up in an abusive home or mistake control for love, or they are seeking more excitement or a million other things. Just because two people are great for each other doesn't mean that they are both psychically healthy enough for a meaningful and adult relationship.

3rd layer: We are living in a time of instant gratification and people just don't see relationships as 'forever' as easily as they did decades ago. People today will often jump ship at the first sign of trouble and will often not give a relationship a chance that they absolutely would've had they been alive decades earlier.

4th layer: The stuff that people see as "great compatibility" IN AN ASTROLOGICAL CHART, can really be surprising. There were so many times someone told me - "Our astrology charts have amazing synastry and it still didn't work". Then I'd ask them to send me the chart and I would see such horrible aspects that I can't for the life of me understand where they got the idea they had amazing synastry in the first place. So people just read charts differently too.

Plenty more layers.

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I have an aquarius moon sq pluto, and many of my friends as well. Therapy has helped them quite a bit (i personally never tried). One in particular had a difficult time dating, always trying to find the right guy and be in a relationship. After 2 years of therapy and seeing a guy on and off, she's happy being single. Maybe I'm wrong but it sounds like you have some control issues over your romantic life. You say you don't know what to do anymore--but what is pushing you to do anything? Are you in a rush to be tied down or? The right one comes when one least expects...

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posted June 07, 2023 07:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ChildofVenus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by angryant2021:
I have an aquarius moon sq pluto, and many of my friends as well. Therapy has helped them quite a bit (i personally never tried). One in particular had a difficult time dating, always trying to find the right guy and be in a relationship. After 2 years of therapy and seeing a guy on and off, she's happy being single. Maybe I'm wrong but it sounds like you have some control issues over your romantic life. You say you don't know what to do anymore--but what is pushing you to do anything? Are you in a rush to be tied down or? The right one comes when one least expects...

I've read that it's good for people who have Moon square Pluto to get therapy. And I do agree because it's hard to express emotions properly. Lashing out and being irrational. Or not caring at all.

It's not that I am always trying to find the right guy. I'm just saying It seems like even if I have great synastry. Or the aspects that people claim indicate long-term romance. It still doesn't seem to work out.

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posted June 07, 2023 08:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ChildofVenus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by manderin:
Your comment is an onion with a lot of layers.

First layer: What do you mean by "good compatibility"? I've known plenty of people who think they have great compatibility with people they actually have very poor compatibility with. They tend to mistake "spark" for compatible, which it is most certainly not. They have nothing to do with each other.

2nd layer: You can easily have two people who are perfect for each other, but one person doesn't see it because they grew up in an abusive home or mistake control for love, or they are seeking more excitement or a million other things. Just because two people are great for each other doesn't mean that they are both psychically healthy enough for a meaningful and adult relationship.

3rd layer: We are living in a time of instant gratification and people just don't see relationships as 'forever' as easily as they did decades ago. People today will often jump ship at the first sign of trouble and will often not give a relationship a chance that they absolutely would've had they been alive decades earlier.

4th layer: The stuff that people see as "great compatibility" IN AN ASTROLOGICAL CHART, can really be surprising. There were so many times someone told me - "Our astrology charts have amazing synastry and it still didn't work". Then I'd ask them to send me the chart and I would see such horrible aspects that I can't for the life of me understand where they got the idea they had amazing synastry in the first place. So people just read charts differently too.

Plenty more layers.


I don't know why I am just seeing this sorry for the late reply. Someone told me that you need to have Sun or Moon on the angles in a synastry chart. For long-term compatibility. I had that with my ex of seven years. And he turned out to be abusive. And he wanted to marry and have a family with me. Yet I didn't want the same with him. So obviously this isn't always the case. But I guess since the relationship lasted so long. That means we were compatible right? In the end, I realized he and I weren't actually compatible. And that I was just comfortable with him after being with him for so long.

Yeah, I agree that it depends on the people involved regardless of whether or not the two people are good for each other.

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I do believe that a good Synastry is important. With all those friends that stuck, we all have Sun-Moon-ASC compatibility. But I must also say that having this is not a guaranteed success. My ex and I have Sun-Moon in the same sign and Moon-ASC same sign but our rs was horrible due to the other aspects in the chart. We have Mercury-Mars square DW.

Nonetheless, I still believe in having compatible big 3s because it is evident in my other relationships, bringing about a harmonious blending of basic characters. There are a lot of strong long term couples out there with compatible Suns, Moons and angles and this does not just happen.

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I do believe that a good Synastry is important. With all those friends that stuck, we all have Sun-Moon-ASC compatibility. But I must also say that having this is not a guaranteed success. My ex and I have Sun-Moon in the same sign and Moon-ASC same sign but our rs was horrible due to the other aspects in the chart. We have Mercury-Mars square DW.

Nonetheless, I still believe in having compatible big 3s because it is evident in my other relationships, bringing about a harmonious blending of basic characters. There are a lot of strong long term couples out there with compatible Suns, Moons and angles and this does not just happen.


I don't think it has to be because I'm a Taurus sun at the early degree. So anyone with an Aries DSC my Sun falls in their 7th house. I'm sure that still counts because it's in the 7th house. And with some people, part of their 7th house could be occupied with two signs. For example, my 7th house is in Aquarius but someone with Pisces placements (depending on the degree) falls into my 7th house. Someone I know was friends with someone who had her Moon sign in his DSC and she ended up assaulting him. My ex was a Leo Sun which is compatible with my Leo rising. And he ended up threatening my life. So yeah, I don't think it's just that simple. But I guess it's ok if it's long term even if the people are both physically and verbally abusive. Every single couple doesn't have a compatible big three's. And just because someone doesn't have compatible big threes doesn't automatically mean things won't work out.

There are other houses that are also important not just the 7th house. Someone having personal planets in your 4th house can feel like family. I'd rather have 4th house synastry over 7th house. Because 7th house can also be your enemies.

This guy I've been talking to is a Sag Sun he has many Sag placements. We don't have the same big three. But my Venus is in his 7th house conjunct his North Node and he's been wanting to see me for a year.

With one of my friends from my childhood (I'd say she used to be) her Sun is the same sign as my Moon and my Sun is the same as her Moon. We used to talk a lot now she won't even get on the phone. And we barely even talk.

The people that I enjoy and consider friends now do not have the same big three. I feel more comfortable talking to my neighbor (who I consider a friend) than the girl from my childhood. My neighbor is a Scorpio Sun (her sun is in my 4th house) and an Aries Moon (her Moon is in my 8th house). I feel comfortable talking to her. So no, I guess that big three thing doesn't apply to me.

With the Cancer guy I don't think I'd ever stop being his friend we don't have Moon/Sun or Moon dsc. And that doesn't mean that we can't be friends for a long time. My Sun is in his 7th house and my Moon is in his 4th conjunct his North Node. We had a good talk the last time we saw each other a couple of days ago it seems like communicating is getting easier. Yet many people have said we aren't emotionally compatible because I'm an Aquarius Moon and he's a Virgo Moon. I'm not going to lie I do feel somewhat awkward and uneasy about sharing certain things. But that's just something that I need to work on personally hence the reason why I'm going to therapy.

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I did say it’s not a guaranteed success, didn’t I? Because you still have to consider the other planets. If your Mercury and Mars clash badly with other planets you’re still gonna fight. But does it mean Sun-Moon-ASC compatibility is not important? Of course not! Your neighbour has Scorpio Sun which is the opposite sign to your Sun (opposites attract, yeah?); Aries Moon is sextile your Aqua Moon. The Cancer guy has Sun sextile Sun with you. My childhood bestie has Sun trine my ASC, our Sun-Moon also in sextile signs. Who says it has to be only conjunction? But our Moons are square so truthfully our habits and temperaments are very different.

You mentioned the gal who assaulted the guy…. I’m sure it’s NOT because of her Moon conjunct his DSC. People whose basic personalities gel also can quarrel and fight, they also will have bad days, like I said it’s dependent on other aspects too. How’s your Mercury/Mars matching up with the other person’s Sun/Moon/Mercury/Mars/Saturn/Uranus/Pluto? And how is that person’s natal? Is it showing a more pleasing and easy going personality or someone who can snap?

I ever fell out with a Taurus gal, same Sun sign as me. We got along ok until she decided to be a **** stirrer. I also cut off another gal who has Sun-Moon conjunct and Moon-ASC conjunct with me. Also because of backstabbing. She’s a Sag Sun, Gemini Moon. You can’t then make a negative conclusion because I also have good friends with these in their big 3, supported by several other nice aspects. Example with my v good friend of 30yrs, we have Moon-Moon conjunct, Sun conj ASC, Sun-Moon trine… plus lotsa Jupiter.

The guy with lotsa Sag placements will sextile your Aqua Moon, trine your ASC. This shows compatibility too. If you’re keen to meet him you should just do it.

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