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T O P I C R E V I E WLousianagrlWell I just recently started dating a virgo (sun, moon, venus, Mercury, Mars - yeah; I know ) and I have some questions about him.When I ask flirtatous questions (Like "what do you like about me?") He seems kind of uneasy or like that's not what he wants to talk about. I'll tell you how it went:Me: "So what do you think is most attractive about me?"Him: (awkward silence) "um.."Me: "...Did you understand what I said?"him: "I'm thinking"*20 seconds later*Him: "I don't know...?"Me: ( -but doesnt let it show) "My Personality..?"Him: "Sure I guess."What is THAT supposed to mean??I know he likes me because I can just tell and all our friends can too. Oh and then I asked him about my hair: Me: "What if I cut my hair short?"Him: "what about it?"Me: "Would you still find me attractive?"Him: (Awkward Silence..again) "How..short?Me: "Likes Yours."Him: (gasp) "That's like tomboy Darlene. No I wouldn't like it. At all."I used to date a libra and he would have said : "I wouldn't care I love you for who you are" I guess he spoiled me Should I just not ask a virgo those kind of questions? Is that how they will always respond?Is it annoying to them?------------------aquarius sun, pisces rising, scorpio moonAnd let it be Christmas everywhere Let heavenly music fill the air Let anger and fear and hate disappear Let there be love that lasts through the year And let it be Christmas Christmas everywhere...WaterNymphAll his personal planets are in Virgo I’m no Virgo Sun, but I do have a Virgo Moon singleton.Think he’s taking your questions literally lol if a guy asked me that, I'd think he’s being serious. I doubt he knows your just playing around.lol @ I don‘t know I say that a million times, irritates the hell outta people. So the culprit is not my Sun…good to know dorkus_malorkusVirgo Sun, ASC and Merc here. I personally have been asked similar questions. My boyfriend can be such a chick sometimes lol. Like he will say "Do you find me attractive?" and ask me all sorts of questions of that nature. Of course I I respond in almost the same way as your guy, so maybe that is a Virgo thing! Or maybe I don't know how to respond to my bf's insecurities? But in any case I respond to most questions with "of course" "yeah" or "i guess."I don't think it means your guy cares any less, that's just the way we Virgos operate steelroseWell, I suppose we are not very good at flirting... I only started being able to do it a few years ago and I’m almost 30… And I have a lot of fire in my chart…If he is very Virgo (and this guy is), he’s bound to feel uncomfortable about it… Virgo qualities are about modesty and a bit of shyness… Virgos are not made for complimenting or praising… Especially if you corner him almost making up his words… If you want a jester to cover you with beautiful (and almost surely empty) bulls*t go for a Libra or even a Leo… That, obviously, doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you… I bet he likes you a lot… He is just a bit shy… And retreats if confronted… He feels inadequate when you pressurise him for an answer… For him it feels like a test, like a academic test, one that he can fail… And that makes him feel nervous… Virgos are secretely very insecure and natural worriers. We undermine ourselves… He must have felt dumb and unable to express what he felt because you caught him unaware…Virgos are not made for pretending either. He probably adores the femenine simbolism of your long hair… and he is sincere and unpretentious enough for cutting the rubbish short and avoiding the sickly very libran statement "I wouldn't care I love you for who you are"… THAT would have made me wary… *yeah, OK, sure… so you don’t like it, or worse, you don’t even care… but you are not brave enough to tell me*A Virgo man won’t be all day overpraising you… He is more pure-minded and if you like, more practical than that… But when he gives you a compliment, girl, it may not be very florid but it will come straight from his heart… It won’t be cheap flattery… It will touch you to the core…Virgos are gentle souls, you need to be patient with their insecurities. Let him praise you his way at his own pace, don’t push him because he’ll make a mess… You need to detoxify from affected Libra manners before you can start to appreciate Virgo subtleties…Good luck, sweetie!!! Stargazer"Don't push him because he'll make a mess"....love that... it's true too!And.. i agree that Virgo's aren't big on the compliments... you'll have to engage his mind... the heart will follow....and sincere flattery....he'll be more open once he trusts you.....I would be suspicious of your motives asking those types of questions ... since you just started dating.. i'm guessing less than 5 dates?... Move in slow...BTW... I'm a virgo sun, merc, venus, uranus and pluto...But... my moon is Aries... Mars in Scorpio ... goes a long way in the flirt dept....Lousianagrllol I just automatically thought he knew I was only being half-serious But thanks ya'll for answering my questions And I give him space, I worry that I give him too much space. Like I don't really wait for him much and I usually wont go looking for him like most Scorpios I know would Oh and he DID say he liked my SMILE Ok well I learned not to call a virgo moon at night:Well I called him at 10:00 which was when I got home from shopping. He was tired and so his cranky virgo moon started showing. He asked me if I bought anything, and I told him I bought a pink button-up blouse. Then I looked at the buttons and they had started coming loose so I said "Ugh I just bought this and the buttons are already coming off. No wonder it was on the sale rack."And he responded: "Well maybe you should have checked the shirt before you wasted your money on it. Take it and get your money back."me: "nah I'll just re-sew the buttons on."Him: (snickers) "Why would you do that when it's a cheap shirt."Oh and also tonight while we were talking about one of my friends (who is sort of just a girl I have to hang out with), he said:"I never thought Emily was that pretty."me: "Yeah her style is too plain in my opinion."him: "I like her style. It's not skimpy like that shirt you wore last week." (his idea of skimpy is not YOUR idea of skimpy, trust me)I said Okay Yeah I think it's time for us to hang up..Goodnight!lalalindaOMG nerdgirl do you really ask him that? I guess it could be flirtykind of like rod stewart singing "do ya think I'm sexy"Hes a Mercury sign, hes probably thinking "is she joking? should I be honest? is this a test?" allatonce (all/at/once)you can't do that to a Virgo unless you want his health to suffer Good News is all those Virgo planets fall in your 7th house which will make you 2 connect.p.s. you're not really a nerdgirl if you can laugh about all of this steelrose Oh, gosh… That reaction about the shirt is so typical… We can’t stand cheap things that look cheap!!! And we can’t stand wasting money either… A shirt whose buttons get off the first day you wear it is not what we understand for good quality clothing!!!We LOVE good quality. Clothes we wear and like are classic, well cut and stitched, and yes, what many other sun signs would consider plain and boring… They are more elegant that sexy… Their beauty is subtle, never exaggerated… It comes from what you can guess underneath but never dirctly see, from the exquisite combination of colours, from the neat appearance and small details…Well, you see??? He likes your smile… If he told you that, he probably ADORES your smile… It must have had an impact on him, an everlasting one…Lousianagrllalalinda LOL when I asked the Libra ex and the cappy ex, they both seemed to like answering it..So I thought I would try it out. Probably wont ask again He once told me he liked the way I dress. I've always been the kind to dress up for everything. Even to go to the flea market I will wear a fancy shirt with (fake) diamond jewelry I mean about the cheap shirt I bought, he went on and on about it! I was like "OK I didn't dig it out of a trash can in some dark alley " Is it typical for Virgos to mutter under their breath? He does this all the time. One time I actually caught what he said and it was "kids these days"wilsontcLousianagrl,Remember that Venus (relationships) in Virgo is Virgo in the sign of its fall (very challenging energy). People with this placement have to work VERY hard at relationships. Since Virgo has to do with daily work they want relationships to become some type of ROUTINE. Of course, as you know, relationships are NOT routine, but need constant nurturing, some flirting , and continual attention. This is challenge for the Virgo Venus person, because it seems to them too random and unpredictable. For you that is a GOOD thing, but for the Virgo Venus that might be a SCARY thing.Remember that Virgos like to analyze (looking at something again and again and again), so they are continually evaluating, deciding, comparing, and contrasting. And with a Virgo Mercury (thinking, also talking), it sounds as though this person is continually talking about what they are analyzing, which could be challenging in a relationship...particularly if they are analyzing YOU.But that is the way Virgos ARE and HE certainly is not going to change who he IS. The question is: Are YOU comfortable being around someone who wants to turn a relationship into a routine and who is continually analyzing everyone and everything around him? If so...you've found the right man for you! Analytically,Tim------------------For information on basic astrological chart interpretation see:http://www.geocities.com/wilsontctclalalindalousianagrl, Just saw your picture.What a beautiful young lady you are.a "classic" example of Piscean (Asc.) beautyLousianagrlLaLaLinda thanks girl! Yeah he does like to analyze things..Sorta how I like to analyze people (not in a bad sense of course )If he breaks something, he HAS to put it back together. I would just fiddle with it for a few seconds then- Eh. I lose interest.lioneye68louisianagirl, I simply adore Virgos. All my long term relationships (all 3 of them) have been with Virgos (one a Cancer with a Virgo moon)If you want to ask them their opinion on anything, expect an honest, slightly cynical answer. They are quite shrewd thinkers and have too much integrity to lie. You may not always like what they have to say, but you can count on it being honest and it would probably be wise to heed it. No, they're not good flirters, simply because they won't say anything they don't mean if they really do like you. If they don't care about you whatsoever, they can be real dishonest snakes, but if they like you and respect you, no way. And the more you ask him for affirmations, the less he'll respect you, because it will seem like you have no confidence in yourself. He will show you his affections for you in other ways. The way he looks at you. The way he listens to and responds to what you say. The way he always honors his word. You won't get showy displays of affection or sweet nothin's, but you will get someone who is real, and has integrity. That's not a bad deal. alanabelle86this is interesting. i've never gotten along with virgo females that well.HOWEVER ive liked so many virgo men. no offense, but based on the personality differences i'd rather go with the libra/leo tendency to flatter. even if it is shallow.though, that doesnt mean i dont want anything to do with virgos. i just cant CATCH one. and being a scorpio that says a lot in the confidence section. because i hate settling for something i didnt decide on my own. usually if i want a guy i wont stop till i have em.but for some reason, theres just no cutting it with virgos.OR caps for that matter. i'd say its a Mercury thing but Gem boys make me very happy. so that can't be it....astro junkieLousianagrl -Wouldn't it be a hoot if this Virgo thought YOU were being too analytical?------------------ ... it's better to light a candle than curse the darknessmars446Virgo Sun, Mercury, and Mars (moon and venus in leo, and asc in aries)Anyways, yeah, u already know that virgos are analytical. Virgo guys like grls, not grls who look or act like guys.If he's the insecure type, be patient, he'll appreciate it alot (I know I do when I realize I've driven people crazy with my cranky nature, and that takes years...lol)Oh, if u've just started dating.....move extremely slow. (It took months until my best friend got me to open up to him, and I'm not a virgo moon or venus)Yeah, don't do anything at inconvenient times...try to limit the phone calls to 9, or 9:30 at the most. That bugs virgos a lot. Make sure its the right time and move in on him, don't do anything too early or too late.What will get to virgos the most is that if u ask them a lot of questions about what they like and don't like, and remember it. Now, if u ask, u have to ask and make sure u get detailed answers, because they don't give of themselves that easily.Even if u write it down on paper (just don't show them that ur doing that), to remember, they'll be smitten.What did he mean by skimpy?When he said that he liked what u wore, what were u wearing that day? I suggest that continue wearing that type of clothes.What's his asc? If I were u, I'd consider his asc as well, just in case there's a lee way somewhere to get to his heart faster or easier. But if its downright virgo, well, just go by the book.
When I ask flirtatous questions (Like "what do you like about me?") He seems kind of uneasy or like that's not what he wants to talk about. I'll tell you how it went:Me: "So what do you think is most attractive about me?"Him: (awkward silence) "um.."Me: "...Did you understand what I said?"him: "I'm thinking"*20 seconds later*Him: "I don't know...?"Me: ( -but doesnt let it show) "My Personality..?"Him: "Sure I guess."
What is THAT supposed to mean??I know he likes me because I can just tell and all our friends can too.
Oh and then I asked him about my hair: Me: "What if I cut my hair short?"Him: "what about it?"Me: "Would you still find me attractive?"Him: (Awkward Silence..again) "How..short?Me: "Likes Yours."Him: (gasp) "That's like tomboy Darlene. No I wouldn't like it. At all."
I used to date a libra and he would have said : "I wouldn't care I love you for who you are" I guess he spoiled me
Should I just not ask a virgo those kind of questions? Is that how they will always respond?Is it annoying to them?
------------------aquarius sun, pisces rising, scorpio moon
And let it be Christmas everywhere Let heavenly music fill the air Let anger and fear and hate disappear Let there be love that lasts through the year And let it be Christmas Christmas everywhere...
Think he’s taking your questions literally lol if a guy asked me that, I'd think he’s being serious. I doubt he knows your just playing around.
lol @ I don‘t know I say that a million times, irritates the hell outta people. So the culprit is not my Sun…good to know
I don't think it means your guy cares any less, that's just the way we Virgos operate
If he is very Virgo (and this guy is), he’s bound to feel uncomfortable about it… Virgo qualities are about modesty and a bit of shyness… Virgos are not made for complimenting or praising… Especially if you corner him almost making up his words… If you want a jester to cover you with beautiful (and almost surely empty) bulls*t go for a Libra or even a Leo…
That, obviously, doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you… I bet he likes you a lot… He is just a bit shy… And retreats if confronted… He feels inadequate when you pressurise him for an answer… For him it feels like a test, like a academic test, one that he can fail… And that makes him feel nervous… Virgos are secretely very insecure and natural worriers. We undermine ourselves… He must have felt dumb and unable to express what he felt because you caught him unaware…
Virgos are not made for pretending either. He probably adores the femenine simbolism of your long hair… and he is sincere and unpretentious enough for cutting the rubbish short and avoiding the sickly very libran statement "I wouldn't care I love you for who you are"… THAT would have made me wary… *yeah, OK, sure… so you don’t like it, or worse, you don’t even care… but you are not brave enough to tell me*
A Virgo man won’t be all day overpraising you… He is more pure-minded and if you like, more practical than that… But when he gives you a compliment, girl, it may not be very florid but it will come straight from his heart… It won’t be cheap flattery… It will touch you to the core…
Virgos are gentle souls, you need to be patient with their insecurities. Let him praise you his way at his own pace, don’t push him because he’ll make a mess… You need to detoxify from affected Libra manners before you can start to appreciate Virgo subtleties…
Good luck, sweetie!!!
And.. i agree that Virgo's aren't big on the compliments... you'll have to engage his mind... the heart will follow....and sincere flattery....he'll be more open once he trusts you.....
I would be suspicious of your motives asking those types of questions ... since you just started dating.. i'm guessing less than 5 dates?... Move in slow...
BTW... I'm a virgo sun, merc, venus, uranus and pluto...But... my moon is Aries... Mars in Scorpio ... goes a long way in the flirt dept....
But thanks ya'll for answering my questions And I give him space, I worry that I give him too much space. Like I don't really wait for him much and I usually wont go looking for him like most Scorpios I know would
Oh and he DID say he liked my SMILE
Ok well I learned not to call a virgo moon at night:
Well I called him at 10:00 which was when I got home from shopping. He was tired and so his cranky virgo moon started showing. He asked me if I bought anything, and I told him I bought a pink button-up blouse. Then I looked at the buttons and they had started coming loose so I said "Ugh I just bought this and the buttons are already coming off. No wonder it was on the sale rack."And he responded: "Well maybe you should have checked the shirt before you wasted your money on it. Take it and get your money back."me: "nah I'll just re-sew the buttons on."Him: (snickers) "Why would you do that when it's a cheap shirt."
Oh and also tonight while we were talking about one of my friends (who is sort of just a girl I have to hang out with), he said:"I never thought Emily was that pretty."me: "Yeah her style is too plain in my opinion."him: "I like her style. It's not skimpy like that shirt you wore last week." (his idea of skimpy is not YOUR idea of skimpy, trust me)
I said Okay Yeah I think it's time for us to hang up..Goodnight!
I guess it could be flirtykind of like rod stewart singing "do ya think I'm sexy"
Hes a Mercury sign, hes probably thinking "is she joking? should I be honest? is this a test?" allatonce (all/at/once)
you can't do that to a Virgo unless you want his health to suffer
Good News is all those Virgo planets fall in your 7th house which will make you 2 connect.
p.s. you're not really a nerdgirl if you can laugh about all of this
Oh, gosh… That reaction about the shirt is so typical… We can’t stand cheap things that look cheap!!! And we can’t stand wasting money either… A shirt whose buttons get off the first day you wear it is not what we understand for good quality clothing!!!
We LOVE good quality. Clothes we wear and like are classic, well cut and stitched, and yes, what many other sun signs would consider plain and boring… They are more elegant that sexy… Their beauty is subtle, never exaggerated… It comes from what you can guess underneath but never dirctly see, from the exquisite combination of colours, from the neat appearance and small details…
Well, you see??? He likes your smile… If he told you that, he probably ADORES your smile… It must have had an impact on him, an everlasting one…
He once told me he liked the way I dress. I've always been the kind to dress up for everything. Even to go to the flea market I will wear a fancy shirt with (fake) diamond jewelry
I mean about the cheap shirt I bought, he went on and on about it! I was like "OK I didn't dig it out of a trash can in some dark alley "
Is it typical for Virgos to mutter under their breath? He does this all the time. One time I actually caught what he said and it was "kids these days"
Remember that Venus (relationships) in Virgo is Virgo in the sign of its fall (very challenging energy). People with this placement have to work VERY hard at relationships. Since Virgo has to do with daily work they want relationships to become some type of ROUTINE. Of course, as you know, relationships are NOT routine, but need constant nurturing, some flirting , and continual attention. This is challenge for the Virgo Venus person, because it seems to them too random and unpredictable. For you that is a GOOD thing, but for the Virgo Venus that might be a SCARY thing.
Remember that Virgos like to analyze (looking at something again and again and again), so they are continually evaluating, deciding, comparing, and contrasting. And with a Virgo Mercury (thinking, also talking), it sounds as though this person is continually talking about what they are analyzing, which could be challenging in a relationship...particularly if they are analyzing YOU.
But that is the way Virgos ARE and HE certainly is not going to change who he IS. The question is: Are YOU comfortable being around someone who wants to turn a relationship into a routine and who is continually analyzing everyone and everything around him? If so...you've found the right man for you!
Analytically,
Tim
------------------For information on basic astrological chart interpretation see:http://www.geocities.com/wilsontctc
Just saw your picture.What a beautiful young lady you are.a "classic" example of Piscean (Asc.) beauty
Yeah he does like to analyze things..Sorta how I like to analyze people (not in a bad sense of course )
If he breaks something, he HAS to put it back together. I would just fiddle with it for a few seconds then- Eh. I lose interest.
If you want to ask them their opinion on anything, expect an honest, slightly cynical answer. They are quite shrewd thinkers and have too much integrity to lie. You may not always like what they have to say, but you can count on it being honest and it would probably be wise to heed it.
No, they're not good flirters, simply because they won't say anything they don't mean if they really do like you. If they don't care about you whatsoever, they can be real dishonest snakes, but if they like you and respect you, no way.
And the more you ask him for affirmations, the less he'll respect you, because it will seem like you have no confidence in yourself. He will show you his affections for you in other ways. The way he looks at you. The way he listens to and responds to what you say. The way he always honors his word. You won't get showy displays of affection or sweet nothin's, but you will get someone who is real, and has integrity. That's not a bad deal.
HOWEVER ive liked so many virgo men. no offense, but based on the personality differences i'd rather go with the libra/leo tendency to flatter. even if it is shallow.
though, that doesnt mean i dont want anything to do with virgos. i just cant CATCH one. and being a scorpio that says a lot in the confidence section. because i hate settling for something i didnt decide on my own. usually if i want a guy i wont stop till i have em.
but for some reason, theres just no cutting it with virgos.
OR caps for that matter. i'd say its a Mercury thing but Gem boys make me very happy. so that can't be it....
Wouldn't it be a hoot if this Virgo thought YOU were being too analytical?
------------------ ... it's better to light a candle than curse the darkness
Anyways, yeah, u already know that virgos are analytical. Virgo guys like grls, not grls who look or act like guys.
If he's the insecure type, be patient, he'll appreciate it alot (I know I do when I realize I've driven people crazy with my cranky nature, and that takes years...lol)
Oh, if u've just started dating.....move extremely slow. (It took months until my best friend got me to open up to him, and I'm not a virgo moon or venus)
Yeah, don't do anything at inconvenient times...try to limit the phone calls to 9, or 9:30 at the most. That bugs virgos a lot. Make sure its the right time and move in on him, don't do anything too early or too late.
What will get to virgos the most is that if u ask them a lot of questions about what they like and don't like, and remember it.
Now, if u ask, u have to ask and make sure u get detailed answers, because they don't give of themselves that easily.
Even if u write it down on paper (just don't show them that ur doing that), to remember, they'll be smitten.
What did he mean by skimpy?
When he said that he liked what u wore, what were u wearing that day? I suggest that continue wearing that type of clothes.
What's his asc? If I were u, I'd consider his asc as well, just in case there's a lee way somewhere to get to his heart faster or easier. But if its downright virgo, well, just go by the book.
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