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T O P I C R E V I E WJMommaSlimI (Scorpio Female) was born 11/12/1981 and he (Cancer Male) was born 07/22/1983. He seems very distant and I understand that he’s a Cancer, but after a while I'm starting to think it's not worth it. One minute he seems to like me, then the next... well, you know. I'm starting to loose interest. My question is... was it doomed from the beginning? Any help would be greatly appreciated. HimSun Cancer 29°00'11 in house 1 direct Moon Capricorn 0°24'43 in house 6 direct Mercury Leo 12°43'47 in house 2 direct Venus Virgo 6°46'45 in house 3 direct Mars Cancer 15°24'42 in house 12 direct Jupiter Sagittarius 1°08'30 in house 5 retrograde Saturn Libra 28°04'48 in house 4 direct Uranus Sagittarius 5°17'20 in house 5 retrograde Neptune Sagittarius 27°01'59 in house 6 retrograde Pluto Libra 26°46'25 in house 4 direct True Node Gemini 24°50'58 in house 12 retrograde MeSun Scorpio 20°14'53 end of house 9 direct Moon Gemini 1°36'06 in house 4 direct Mercury Scorpio 4°40'42 in house 9 direct Venus Capricorn 7°19'16 end of house 11 direct Mars Virgo 12°52'44 in house 7 direct Jupiter Libra 27°04'59 in house 9 direct Saturn Libra 17°17'00 in house 8 direct Uranus Scorpio 29°46'05 in house 10 direct Neptune Sagittarius 23°20'52 in house 11 direct Pluto Libra 25°17'16 in house 9 direct True Node Cancer 24°35'15 in house 6 retrograde Planets at the end of a house are interpreted in the next house. thedividedskydefinitly not doomed, but cancer men seem to move VERY SLOW when getting into relationships......due to rejection issues, fear of letting themselved fall in love.You synastry looks quite good from what i glanced at....JMommaSlimBelieve me they're not the only ones. I try to tell him how I feel as often as possible so he'll kind of open up a little, but I get nothing. Sometimes I even think he's a little mean. He accused me of cheating, which is weird because me being a Scorpio, I usually blow it off, or get even, but he actually hurt my feelings. I think he sensed it though because after the fact he put his arms around me to hold me. thedividedsky ** Since I have no birth time/location.....DO NOT pay attention to the moon/asc aspects/house information....1st person is scorp, 2nd person cancerJMommaSlimI'm sorry; I'm new to all of this. Could you please translate for me? PLEASE!thedividedskyI am learning astrology also.....I would try googling the following keywords to find out what each aspect means, including the word "synastry" after each aspect ie: "sun trine sun synastry"These are some of the aspects your planets are making with the cancer man.Sun trine sunSun trine marsMercury square mercuryVenus trine venusVenus opposite marsvenus conjunct neptuneMars sextile marsmars square uranusjupiter sextile neptuneJMommaSlimWow! You're such a Sweet Heart, thank you so much. pseudofemmeThere are definitely some nice things going on with your synastry, including Sun trine Sun (good for basic compatibility) and his Sun trine your Moon (indicating that you naturally mesh with each other). You have a number of Venus/Mars aspects indicating sexual attraction and affection for each other--Venus trine Venus (with a very tight orb--0'07 degrees), his Venus conjunct your Mars, his Mars opposition your Venus, and your Mars sextile his. Those are great to have in a romantic relationship.However, it looks like communication may be a problem here. Even if you don't intentionally try to hurt each other, it's very possible that it happens anyway, through misunderstandings or just being on different "wavelengths." Your Mercuries are square each other -- basically, your ways of thinking and expressing yourselves are COMPLETELY at odds. Even with great effort, it's hard for either of you to understand where the other is coming from. He may withdraw when you feel like opening up, or vice versa... you may unintentionally offend or hurt each other... etc. It's probably not on purpose -- just that you have vastly different communication styles that aren't in synch with each other.On top of this, there is a double whammy of Sun square Mercury, another indicator of difficult communication. He may have trouble expressing certain parts of his identity to you, and is unsure how to communicate his ego needs (sun) in a way you'll understand. You might be the same way towards him. You'll say things to each other that the other finds insulting or offensive, without realizing what you've done wrong.One other difficult thing: your Saturn square his Mars. He may feel like you're trying to "discipline" him in some way, like a parent ruining his fun and criticizing him -- even if you aren't doing this intentionally at all. This might make him reluctant to open up to you, because he is afraid you won't approve of his true self.Lastly, Venus square Uranus can cause some romantic instability -- feelings that come and go on a whim, changing without warning. This is tough for a relationship, unless you give each other a LOT of room and don't expect things to be constant and stable.However, there really are some good synastry aspects, too, so I wouldn't say things are doomed. It all depends on whether overcoming the communication hurdles are worth it for both of you, or if it's more trouble than it's worth.Do you know his birth time and yours? That would give a few other things to look at in your synastry.JMommaSlimWow, thank you very much. Well, I know I was born around 12:30 PM, Columbus ,GA. I don't know the time he was born, but I know he was born in the Bronx (NY). Does that help at all? I'm a little nervous now when it comes to getting to close; I'm scared I'm going to get hurt. I was already in a long term relationship with an Aries and I tell you the arguments were endless. luna*tic12Check out the Cancer Men thread!!!Those Cancers, man... they sure are difficult...------------------Cancer Sun/Leo Moon/Leo Rising/Sun and Moon in 12th House.
MeSun Scorpio 20°14'53 end of house 9 direct Moon Gemini 1°36'06 in house 4 direct Mercury Scorpio 4°40'42 in house 9 direct Venus Capricorn 7°19'16 end of house 11 direct Mars Virgo 12°52'44 in house 7 direct Jupiter Libra 27°04'59 in house 9 direct Saturn Libra 17°17'00 in house 8 direct Uranus Scorpio 29°46'05 in house 10 direct Neptune Sagittarius 23°20'52 in house 11 direct Pluto Libra 25°17'16 in house 9 direct True Node Cancer 24°35'15 in house 6 retrograde Planets at the end of a house are interpreted in the next house.
You synastry looks quite good from what i glanced at....
** Since I have no birth time/location.....DO NOT pay attention to the moon/asc aspects/house information....
1st person is scorp, 2nd person cancer
I would try googling the following keywords to find out what each aspect means, including the word "synastry" after each aspect ie: "sun trine sun synastry"
These are some of the aspects your planets are making with the cancer man.
Sun trine sunSun trine marsMercury square mercuryVenus trine venusVenus opposite marsvenus conjunct neptuneMars sextile marsmars square uranusjupiter sextile neptune
However, it looks like communication may be a problem here. Even if you don't intentionally try to hurt each other, it's very possible that it happens anyway, through misunderstandings or just being on different "wavelengths." Your Mercuries are square each other -- basically, your ways of thinking and expressing yourselves are COMPLETELY at odds. Even with great effort, it's hard for either of you to understand where the other is coming from. He may withdraw when you feel like opening up, or vice versa... you may unintentionally offend or hurt each other... etc. It's probably not on purpose -- just that you have vastly different communication styles that aren't in synch with each other.
On top of this, there is a double whammy of Sun square Mercury, another indicator of difficult communication. He may have trouble expressing certain parts of his identity to you, and is unsure how to communicate his ego needs (sun) in a way you'll understand. You might be the same way towards him. You'll say things to each other that the other finds insulting or offensive, without realizing what you've done wrong.
One other difficult thing: your Saturn square his Mars. He may feel like you're trying to "discipline" him in some way, like a parent ruining his fun and criticizing him -- even if you aren't doing this intentionally at all. This might make him reluctant to open up to you, because he is afraid you won't approve of his true self.
Lastly, Venus square Uranus can cause some romantic instability -- feelings that come and go on a whim, changing without warning. This is tough for a relationship, unless you give each other a LOT of room and don't expect things to be constant and stable.
However, there really are some good synastry aspects, too, so I wouldn't say things are doomed. It all depends on whether overcoming the communication hurdles are worth it for both of you, or if it's more trouble than it's worth.
Do you know his birth time and yours? That would give a few other things to look at in your synastry.
------------------Cancer Sun/Leo Moon/Leo Rising/Sun and Moon in 12th House.
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