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T O P I C R E V I E WVioletFlyerHas anyone else ever been caught between two men (or two women, or two lovers of whatever gender)? I always thought this was ridiculous...until it happened to ME! Oddly, they both have almost the same birthday- only 1 day apart - so many of their stuff is the same (though of course moon/asc and placements differ). I am recently married to one of them (it was a mistake and I knew it was a mistake when I went through with it. Saturn Return in Libra - I panicked). I ran into the 2nd one at an international conference in April. We'd worked together but never met in person for several years about 5-6 years ago. I didn't even know he'd be there. It was one of those "boom" moments when we met.Anyway, he seemed to wake me up from my stupor of trying to kid myself that I was happy - and I seem to have done the same for him. It's a really intense connection - but since he is also married (also unhappily) hey, we've not ever crossed the line with each other and had a physical affair. (we're on opposite sides of the globe most of the time anyway - which is lucky because the physical and spiritual connection is huge and I doubt my will power to resist it). We fell in love almost instantly - and remain so, never being out of contact for even one day since we met - being supportive of each other's lives in whatever way we can.But even though I am very unhappily married, I still find it very difficult to leave the first Taurus, (his Pisces moon keeps guilting me back into it because he's practically suicidal at the mere mention of me leaving). But I equally cannot walk away from this other one either (whose asc and moon are more compatible). We have a really strong psychic connection and feel each other all the time. Husband is an atheist - haha, of course!Anyhoo...just wondering if anyone else has ever been in a situation where they feel torn between two.... it's a weird ride! I'm a Scorpio Sun, Cap Moon, Aqua RisingDeux*AntaresWere they born in the same year?Will he leave his wife?VioletFlyerYes, born the same year - but in different hemispheres. I have no idea if he will leave his wife. Hard to say. I don't know yet for 100% sure that I will leave my husband either so, I'm not really in any position to make demands... ! I have learned not to ever second guess a Taurus. In my experience, they may say "no, no, no" and then wake up one day and not only say "yes" but get out of bed and roll right into whatever new decision they've made in life on the spot! I think Taurus men have to come to decisions in their own time/way and so I could never hypothesize about it.peachbeigeblueThats true. About Taurus men. What is the moon/asc of the second one? ThefishI would just leave your husband period regardless of what your relationship is with this other guy. Sure I'm a firm believer in working things out and I believe in commitment, and I feel too many people are weak when it comes to understanding what a commitment is and the pitfalls/difficulties of being committed.However, with that being said if you are really unhappy and given your sentiment on how your husband would react why stay?Why stay married unless you're going to work on it.Otherwise it sounds like both of you aren't married for love but for fear and obligationsexyaqua30Your side taurus is not going to leave his wife. They're complacent even when unhappy and are usually dumped instead of being the one walking out. He will have an emotional connection even a sexual one outside the marriage but will come right back home portray the doating husband and father. They may tell you they mirror your unhappiness but it's usually an attempt to feed their insatiable appetite for getting what they want.......indulgent as hell. YoursTrulyAlwaysSorry to be a harsh jacka$$ but I'm not one to mince words. Hate to point this out. You are married and your primary obligation is to your wedded husband. You have zero business toying with another man. Period. It is incumbent on you to work through the issues in your marriage. This other guy shouldn't even factor in, and he's equally guilty messing when he is also married. The idea that both of you are cohorting daily nauseates me. On the other hand, I'm not the one with the unhappy marriage, so what do I know?Nine quote:The idea that both of you are cohorting daily... RegardesPlateroIf I can ask:Could you possibly talk to your husband about your issues? Could you try to find with him what you find with this other guy?I'm going to be honest: very, very rarely will a guy leave his wife. Men who cheat want their cake and to eat it, too. Sometimes, a marriage simply doesn't work out, and these things are complicated. However, another way of looking at this whole thing is that maybe this experience is meant to help you realize what you need and aren't getting from your marriage. Maybe this could be chance for you to get closer to your husband.If it really does not work out with your husband and cannot be worked out, I would say that it would be best not to jump into another relationship right away, and to give yourself time. Also, since you don't really know this guy well: how do you know that he really has the qualities that you like and that you aren't projecting them onto him? Since you've only worked with him and only recently met in person, how do you really know that you're seeing him for who he is and not for who you want him to be? After all, everyone has their good points and bad points: could you actually live with this new guy after the honeymoon period wore off?Whatever you decide, I really hope that it would be best for all involved. Even though neither of you are happily married, you do still have to consider your spouses' feelings. That said, though, you are NOT responsible for their feelings, just that it's still good to treat them kindly, unless they're abusive and likely to harm you and you need to be not-so-nice. ariesdragonIf you're unhappy in your marriage then tell your husband you've been cheating.... See what he thinks about it & see if he'd stil want you & the marriage. That's the easy solution.
Oddly, they both have almost the same birthday- only 1 day apart - so many of their stuff is the same (though of course moon/asc and placements differ). I am recently married to one of them (it was a mistake and I knew it was a mistake when I went through with it. Saturn Return in Libra - I panicked). I ran into the 2nd one at an international conference in April. We'd worked together but never met in person for several years about 5-6 years ago. I didn't even know he'd be there. It was one of those "boom" moments when we met.
Anyway, he seemed to wake me up from my stupor of trying to kid myself that I was happy - and I seem to have done the same for him. It's a really intense connection - but since he is also married (also unhappily) hey, we've not ever crossed the line with each other and had a physical affair. (we're on opposite sides of the globe most of the time anyway - which is lucky because the physical and spiritual connection is huge and I doubt my will power to resist it). We fell in love almost instantly - and remain so, never being out of contact for even one day since we met - being supportive of each other's lives in whatever way we can.
But even though I am very unhappily married, I still find it very difficult to leave the first Taurus, (his Pisces moon keeps guilting me back into it because he's practically suicidal at the mere mention of me leaving). But I equally cannot walk away from this other one either (whose asc and moon are more compatible). We have a really strong psychic connection and feel each other all the time. Husband is an atheist - haha, of course!
Anyhoo...just wondering if anyone else has ever been in a situation where they feel torn between two.... it's a weird ride!
I'm a Scorpio Sun, Cap Moon, Aqua Rising
Will he leave his wife?
I have learned not to ever second guess a Taurus. In my experience, they may say "no, no, no" and then wake up one day and not only say "yes" but get out of bed and roll right into whatever new decision they've made in life on the spot! I think Taurus men have to come to decisions in their own time/way and so I could never hypothesize about it.
Sure I'm a firm believer in working things out and I believe in commitment, and I feel too many people are weak when it comes to understanding what a commitment is and the pitfalls/difficulties of being committed.
However, with that being said if you are really unhappy and given your sentiment on how your husband would react why stay?
Why stay married unless you're going to work on it.
Otherwise it sounds like both of you aren't married for love but for fear and obligation
Hate to point this out. You are married and your primary obligation is to your wedded husband. You have zero business toying with another man. Period.
It is incumbent on you to work through the issues in your marriage. This other guy shouldn't even factor in, and he's equally guilty messing when he is also married.
The idea that both of you are cohorting daily nauseates me.
On the other hand, I'm not the one with the unhappy marriage, so what do I know?
quote:The idea that both of you are cohorting daily...
Could you possibly talk to your husband about your issues? Could you try to find with him what you find with this other guy?
I'm going to be honest: very, very rarely will a guy leave his wife. Men who cheat want their cake and to eat it, too.
Sometimes, a marriage simply doesn't work out, and these things are complicated. However, another way of looking at this whole thing is that maybe this experience is meant to help you realize what you need and aren't getting from your marriage. Maybe this could be chance for you to get closer to your husband.
If it really does not work out with your husband and cannot be worked out, I would say that it would be best not to jump into another relationship right away, and to give yourself time.
Also, since you don't really know this guy well: how do you know that he really has the qualities that you like and that you aren't projecting them onto him? Since you've only worked with him and only recently met in person, how do you really know that you're seeing him for who he is and not for who you want him to be? After all, everyone has their good points and bad points: could you actually live with this new guy after the honeymoon period wore off?
Whatever you decide, I really hope that it would be best for all involved. Even though neither of you are happily married, you do still have to consider your spouses' feelings. That said, though, you are NOT responsible for their feelings, just that it's still good to treat them kindly, unless they're abusive and likely to harm you and you need to be not-so-nice.
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