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T O P I C R E V I E WLibreoI put up a post about the full moon but I'm putting up this 2nd one as well because it just occured to me that the moon may not be the problem. I'm in a newish relationship and to date we have been so happy. People comment on how sickeningly in love we are and the other night we were at a barbeque and probably happier than ever, all over each other, I left early and then a few hours later he came home and told me how his best friends wife had cheated on him that night and that theyr'e breaking up etc etc. His words were "women, you can't trust them", I said "I hope you don't believe that" and he said "no I'm kidding". But he wouldn't touch me, then the next day, all day he would hardly speak to me and sure as hell didn't initiate any physical contact or barely respond to mine. I got a bit fed up with it last night because it's almost as if I'm the one who'd cheated and was being punished. We had a brief chat throughout the day about his friend and cheating in general and I was honest with him earlier in our relationship and admitted to cheating once, a long time ago, and that I believe what goes around comes around and would never do it again, anyway yesterday he bought that up again. Just said "you did it once" and I said "yes I did, I was younger and I regret hurting him so bad and I believe I paid for it in other ways". He remained quiet and distant all day though, went to sleep with his back facing me. What gives? He has his Mercury in Cancer could this be the culprit? Insecurity? An even worse possibility is he has his Venus in Gemini and I can't help but wonder if he's gone and changed on me and become bored with me and ready to move on to someone else. Any ideas?hannaramaaOne, stop freaking out. Calm down and look at him as a friend. A friend wouldn't leave you - would they (I mean a best friend)? There's no reason he would either. Air/Water combinations are fickle and picky. Anything with Cancer immediately adds moodiness. No, I'm not saying that's bad and we need to take a stand against Cancers, but I'm saying you should prepare yourself for this kind of reaction. What's his sun? Aries?Also I can totally see him relating and sympathizing with his friend a whole lot. Mercury in Cancers tend to have quite a lot of empathy, and if he's trying to support his friend he's probably impressionable right now. The timing of it just sucks because if it's a newish relationship then you're still figuring out the rhythm to things and figuring out each other. You don't need all this crap to go in with it.LibreoThanks Hanna...his sun is Gemini also, Virgo Mars and Taurus moon. And yes, I did know this about him (with his empathy) Iv'e never seen anyone become so affected by other people's problems. I had forgotten though until you pointed it out to me. A few months ago his brother was having dramas and anyone would have thought it was he himself having those very dramas, was very quiet back then too. I do hope this is all it is. I don't see why he needs to not touch me with a 10 foot pole though, but whatever floats his boat I guess. aquaguy91 I'm sorry libreohannaramaa quote:Originally posted by Libreo:Thanks Hanna...his sun is Gemini also, Virgo Mars and Taurus moon. And yes, I did know this about him (with his empathy) Iv'e never seen anyone become so affected by other people's problems. I had forgotten though until you pointed it out to me. A few months ago his brother was having dramas and anyone would have thought it was he himself having those very dramas, was very quiet back then too. I do hope this is all it is. I don't see why he needs to not touch me with a 10 foot pole though, but whatever floats his boat I guess. Because of the empathy... he's basically living his life through his friend's eyes right now. It's a great trait but obviously also a curse. Maybe sit him and down and gently be like "Look, it's great you can support your friend but let me support you as well. Your friends problems are not your problems." Maybe that will snap him out of it.Gemini with Virgo... two Mercury ruled signs. Hmm. You'd think that earth would help anchor him down, but then again Virgos tend to bottle up, same with Cancers. Just give him time and be nice but not a scaredy cat of his reactions, I guess.LibreoI will, thanks.... damn Cancer. hannaramaa quote:Originally posted by Libreo:I will, thanks.... damn Cancer. Oh I know lol. Luckily I'm blessed with an awesome moon and awesome aspects to it or I wouldn't have the patience for all their moods.RunAroundScreamingI'm a cancer with mercury in cancer and I think that's pretty unfair treatment :/He's obviously mad at you for having cheated once, but he doesn't have to make you suffer about it! Sleeping with his back to you, etc? He's obv trying to make you feel guilty on purpose. In a relationship where I cared about someone a lot it would hurt me too much to see them sad, so I wouldn't try to make them suffer. That's messed up.He's playing immature games and I dont know what to say lol. It's a little bit funny. But I guess in a relationship the most important thing that should be there if you truly love each other is compassion and putting each other's feelings first. I'm not saying to try to force it if it's not there, if you dont really feel that way. Compassion shouldnt be forced lol. But yeah, maybe in a few days you might realize how much it's worrying him that you cheated once? Maybe. I dunno what to tell ya. Good luck tho ------------------Imagination is intelligence having fun.—George Scialabba$3.50 ebay compatibility readingshannaramaa quote:Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:I'm a cancer with mercury in cancer and I think that's pretty unfair treatment :/He's obviously mad at you for having cheated once, but he doesn't have to make you suffer about it! Sleeping with his back to you, etc? He's obv trying to make you feel guilty on purpose. In a relationship where I cared about someone a lot it would hurt me too much to see them sad, so I wouldn't try to make them suffer. That's messed up.He's playing immature games and I dont know what to say lol. It's a little bit funny. But I guess in a relationship the most important thing that should be there if you truly love each other is compassion and putting each other's feelings first. I'm not saying to try to force it if it's not there, if you dont really feel that way. Compassion shouldnt be forced lol. But yeah, maybe in a few days you might realize how much it's worrying him that you cheated once? Maybe. I dunno what to tell ya. Good luck tho I second this! Kind of annoyed I didn't catch that lolLibreoWell it's true what they say about Cancer needing reassurance. Yesterday I put up a status on facebook that only he could see, saying that my kids and I love him and wer'e very happy that he came along, and that I hope he had a good day, well well, I got a very different person walk through the door at the end of the day. RunAroundScreamingYayyy!------------------Imagination is intelligence having fun.—George Scialabba$3.50 ebay compatibility readings
Air/Water combinations are fickle and picky. Anything with Cancer immediately adds moodiness. No, I'm not saying that's bad and we need to take a stand against Cancers, but I'm saying you should prepare yourself for this kind of reaction. What's his sun? Aries?
Also I can totally see him relating and sympathizing with his friend a whole lot. Mercury in Cancers tend to have quite a lot of empathy, and if he's trying to support his friend he's probably impressionable right now.
The timing of it just sucks because if it's a newish relationship then you're still figuring out the rhythm to things and figuring out each other. You don't need all this crap to go in with it.
quote:Originally posted by Libreo:Thanks Hanna...his sun is Gemini also, Virgo Mars and Taurus moon. And yes, I did know this about him (with his empathy) Iv'e never seen anyone become so affected by other people's problems. I had forgotten though until you pointed it out to me. A few months ago his brother was having dramas and anyone would have thought it was he himself having those very dramas, was very quiet back then too. I do hope this is all it is. I don't see why he needs to not touch me with a 10 foot pole though, but whatever floats his boat I guess.
Because of the empathy... he's basically living his life through his friend's eyes right now. It's a great trait but obviously also a curse. Maybe sit him and down and gently be like "Look, it's great you can support your friend but let me support you as well. Your friends problems are not your problems." Maybe that will snap him out of it.
Gemini with Virgo... two Mercury ruled signs. Hmm. You'd think that earth would help anchor him down, but then again Virgos tend to bottle up, same with Cancers. Just give him time and be nice but not a scaredy cat of his reactions, I guess.
quote:Originally posted by Libreo:I will, thanks.... damn Cancer.
Oh I know lol. Luckily I'm blessed with an awesome moon and awesome aspects to it or I wouldn't have the patience for all their moods.
He's obviously mad at you for having cheated once, but he doesn't have to make you suffer about it! Sleeping with his back to you, etc? He's obv trying to make you feel guilty on purpose. In a relationship where I cared about someone a lot it would hurt me too much to see them sad, so I wouldn't try to make them suffer. That's messed up.He's playing immature games and I dont know what to say lol. It's a little bit funny. But I guess in a relationship the most important thing that should be there if you truly love each other is compassion and putting each other's feelings first. I'm not saying to try to force it if it's not there, if you dont really feel that way. Compassion shouldnt be forced lol. But yeah, maybe in a few days you might realize how much it's worrying him that you cheated once? Maybe. I dunno what to tell ya. Good luck tho ------------------Imagination is intelligence having fun.—George Scialabba
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quote:Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:I'm a cancer with mercury in cancer and I think that's pretty unfair treatment :/He's obviously mad at you for having cheated once, but he doesn't have to make you suffer about it! Sleeping with his back to you, etc? He's obv trying to make you feel guilty on purpose. In a relationship where I cared about someone a lot it would hurt me too much to see them sad, so I wouldn't try to make them suffer. That's messed up.He's playing immature games and I dont know what to say lol. It's a little bit funny. But I guess in a relationship the most important thing that should be there if you truly love each other is compassion and putting each other's feelings first. I'm not saying to try to force it if it's not there, if you dont really feel that way. Compassion shouldnt be forced lol. But yeah, maybe in a few days you might realize how much it's worrying him that you cheated once? Maybe. I dunno what to tell ya. Good luck tho
He's obviously mad at you for having cheated once, but he doesn't have to make you suffer about it! Sleeping with his back to you, etc? He's obv trying to make you feel guilty on purpose. In a relationship where I cared about someone a lot it would hurt me too much to see them sad, so I wouldn't try to make them suffer. That's messed up.He's playing immature games and I dont know what to say lol. It's a little bit funny. But I guess in a relationship the most important thing that should be there if you truly love each other is compassion and putting each other's feelings first. I'm not saying to try to force it if it's not there, if you dont really feel that way. Compassion shouldnt be forced lol. But yeah, maybe in a few days you might realize how much it's worrying him that you cheated once? Maybe. I dunno what to tell ya. Good luck tho
I second this! Kind of annoyed I didn't catch that lol
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