chargeomentum
My biggest fear would be to be unknown after I die. I will simply have to find a way how to be known. Since I'm a weakling in astrology I don't know how this connects to 8th house. Where is the cusp of your 8th house?
I think what I am trying to do is stay grounded in what the crux of the Sun in eighth house person is.
In my asking what your fear is and associating it with the position your 8th house cusp is in, I would find a connection with the 8th house and the individual's fear.
For instance, I have eighth house in Sagittarius and my fears are closed spaces/restrictive practices or limited freedom.
Most sites make the Sun in 8th house position sound like a mythical wizard or some grand master etc.
You read of Sun in 4th and you automatically associate that person with a love of home, roots, family and tradition etc.
You read of the Sun in 3rd house person and you associate the individual with communication, short distances, siblings etc.
But when you read of the Sun in 8th, it sounds so far-fetched, so vague, so unrelatable.
IndigoDirae
Is your Sun in the 8th house?
I know you spoke of your partner but perhaps , if it is, the crises that you experienced may have been through your partner? After all, the Sun in 8th does overlap with the 7th house -with regards to partnerships.
Violets
I think that it adds a certain amount of trauma for me, but I have a conjunction with asteroids and my Sun in 8th, and Jupiter in 8th as well.
So when Saturn touches my Sun in conjunction or opposition, it can get really difficult. There have been times when I've experienced very traumatic events when Saturn was conjunct my Sun, and a lot of hardships with the opposition and square.
My husband has Sun in 8th as well, but he doesn't seem to experience this. I tend to think it has a lot to do with the asteroids that are conjunct my Sun, in addition to other placements in my chart.
Because I have Saturn trine Sun, I have to wonder if it has something to do with that, in addition to my Sun placement.
When Saturn is making an aspect to my Sun, it's possibly making an aspect to my natal Saturn as well. As Jupiter also resides in my 8th, Whatever is making an aspect to my Sun will also make an aspect to my Jupiter soon after.
So...I'm not sure that having Sun in 8th necessarily guarantees a life full of crisis and trauma, but mine has definitely fit that description.
Also, my 8th house/sign/planets are intercepted, which I think tends to make the transits more difficult until we can figure out how to channel them more positively.
I'm not an astrologer, but that's my vague hypothesis.
I actually followed everything that you said.
I have quite a number of asteroids conjunct my Sun.
Natally , I have Sun-Jupiter-Neptune in conjunction(Sun/Neptune orb is by far the most potent as it is less than 1 degree orb)
I also share a conjunction with Persephone/Kaali/Vertex each varying in orbs but colletively less than 2 Degrees.
What I do notice,however, is that people tend to tell me their secrets. Especially secrets of a sexual kind i.e sexual abuse, sexual desires, sexual longings etc.
My natal Sun will probably start interacting with Saturn in the next two years. All those conjunctions with transiting Saturn as well as transiting Neptune in Pisces square should be an interesting combustion for my Sagittarian planets.
As far as loss is concerned, I think the 8th house theme could be with regards to surrendering things that are out of your control.
As an 8th house person, I find it diffciult to "surrender" and just be "out of control". And having Saturn in Scorpio(7th house) also adds to this.
The sudden death of someone close to me could make me very vulnerable and leave me feeling angry and confused-perhaps searching for explanations as to why it had to occur?
Could the meaning of the event, in the instance of your husband's friend passing away,be a re-inforcemnet to "accept" and let go of things that are beyond our control?
The "sudden" circumstances of the death may not be a co-incidence.Perhaps forcing him to just "surrender" instead of being bitter and asking the age old question of why? Why? Why?