Chiron is just so strange, but so utterly important in our lives. I think it is one of the most important parts of us at the deepest, deepest level. It's the pain in us that we can't touch, so we can't heal it ourselves. It's usually something or someone outside of ourselves that triggers the healing of our Chiron wounds. With Chiron, the healing comes through pain. It is painful healing in the most literal sense.My Chiron is in Aries in the 10th, in a wide conjunction with my Midheaven.
Here's an example of how Chiron heals:
My husband's Moon trines my Chrion 0°. He has helped me heal my pain of emotional abandonment. My Dad died when I was 6, and my Mom emotionally neglected me as a child, and eventually physically abandoned me when I was a teenager to run off to Mexico with her 5th or 6th husband. I've tried to have a relationship with her many times, but she truly just does not want one. She just doesn't have any maternal attachment to me at all. It's strange, but I've learned to just accept the fact of it. It is what it is.
It caused me a lot of pain, but I could never see it myself. I guess I was in denial. My husband saw it clearly and was always trying to convince me that I needed to admit to myself how much it hurt me that my own mother didn't love me. I just didn't want to even think about it, really. I just tried to put it out of my mind, but whenever I would hear other people talking about their close relationship with their Mom or would watch movies or shows that had a strong Mother-daughter bond in them, it would hurt. I would wish I knew what that felt like.
One night, a particularly tough night, my husband and I were having some argument. I was thinking of leaving him because I just felt like I needed to pull away. I could feel my attachment to him was too strong, and I felt my self defenses starting to kick into gear. I have Uranus in 4th conj. IC 3°, so I don't like feeling emotionally vulnerable due to past disappointments and hurts. I always try to shield myself from feeling too deeply for someone, which is a paradox in itself because I have Moon-Pluto conj. 3°. The only way I know how to feel is deeply.
Anyway, my husband knew I loved him and didn't really want to leave him, but I was wanting to run out of fear. He started yelling at me and telling me he knew I was just afraid and I couldn't run away from people just because I was afraid of getting hurt. We were both crying and it was very intense, but I felt trapped. I felt like I was waiting for the other shoe to drop all the time, waiting for the rug to get yanked out from under me.
He wouldn't let me shut him out, though. He confronted me with my fear and hurt, and told me, "This is because of your Mom. This is because that bitc* couldn't love anyone but herself, so now you think you can't be loved. You think no one can really love you. What do you want?! This is never gonna stop. You're never gonna get over this until you admit how much she hurt you. What do you want me to do? You want me to hurt you like she did so you'll feel right? Ok, fine... you're right! You're not worth loving. What the hell is wrong with you?! You're so damn awful that even your own Mother couldn't love you. What kind of person is so bad that even their own Mom doesn't love them? What a piece of shi* you must be!"
When he was saying the words... each one felt like a dagger. EACH - WORD felt like a knife directly piercing my heart... but at the same time, they were some of the most healing words anyone had ever said to me. I cried so hard and so deeply it shocked me to my core. I was balled up in the fetal position on the bed just crying and crying. My husband grabbed onto me and just held me so tightly. He said, "That's what you've been holding inside. That's the pain you didn't want to feel. You have to feel it so you can let it go." He told me he loved me and made sure I knew he'd only said those things because those were the things I was thinking deep inside, but wouldn't admit to myself. He made sure I knew he didn't actually think any of that was true.
The whole experience was so painful and hurt so much, but it was so, so deeply healing. It just released so much of the pain my mother had caused me, because he was right. Those were all subconscious thoughts I had deep inside myself and hearing them actually spoken made me realize they were lies. They were not true. Whether my Mom loved me or not wasn't the measure of what I was worth.
It was a very Chiron moment in my life. I was healed through pain.