I like to be on top Venus/Mars midpoint is on my natal Pluto.Venus/Pluto aspects "power together"
Mars/Pluto aspects "power over"
My ex had the Venus/Pluto opposition. A very sweet guy who often "submitted" to my wishes. Hardly ever pushy.
But if he wanted something(Pluto),he would use his looks and charm to get it(Venus).
I think this aspect plays out like Venus in Scorpio/ Mars in Libra actually.
Another ex had Mars/Pluto conjunct.A very disturbed individual indeed.Jealous and controlling.
He liked to dominate a lot. I couldn't stand it !
The hard and soft aspects work much in a similar way. Pluto is hard to "tone down".