So spoiler alert, I’ll give you more about his background. I’m actually surprised at the good vibes you all are picking up from him lol. My mom and her sisters don’t really have many good things to say about him. He was an alcoholic and would yell and slam doors in the house. He came home drunk often and my mom hardly could have friends over after school because she didn’t know what kind of mood he’d be in when he would come home.
He worked in sales as I mentioned above. But he spent a lot of the money on himself, booze, and women. He’d often come home with lipstick on his shirt. My grandmother had to work until she physically and mentally could no longer work, into her 80s because she couldn’t afford not to. He left no savings for her and she still had to pay off the house, even though they had lived in it since the early 1960s. She passed away a few years ago.
He had been married three times before marrying my grandmother. I don’t mean all of this to sound bad. I heard he had a really rough childhood, he was terrified of his mother who was emotionally and probably physically abusive. He would come home from school as a young child and sit on the curb outside until his father came home from work because he was too scared to go inside to be with his mother. I think this upbringing did numbers on him, drove him to drink, and have issues with women. He would leave money as amends to my mom and her sisters to make up for the yelling.
As a grandfather, I don’t really remember him much. He wasn’t that healthy when I have memories. He smoked a lot and his voice was very rash. I remember him calling me up to see him and I’d sit on his bed and we’d talk. To me, he was kind but looking back on it, I can sense he really didn’t know how to interact with me. He tried even though he wasn’t sure what to do. I am the only one in the family who didn’t have negative view on him. Which is important in what I’m about to tell you.
I had a dream of him a few years ago. I was in a cabin overlooking the mountains on a sunny day and I walked into the kitchen/living room and there he was. He called me over and I sat on his leg. I saw the lines in his face, and could smell his scent. He had on a crisp white button up shirt. And I heard his voice without the smoker’s raspiness. It was him, only a happier and healthier him. He asked how I was and told me to tell my grandmother and my mom and her sisters how sorry he was for how he treated them. I played stupid and acted like I didn’t know what he was talking about. He didn’t explain what to apologize for, because he knew that I knew. He just said that he loves them very much and that he’s sorry for everything and that he misses them. I woke up in awe, I think that dream changed the way I viewed him. He wasn’t a bad person, he may have did some bad things, but he had a kind soul. It was just clouded.
I was speaking with my grandmothers sister a few months ago, and she said he actually had a very big heart and was a bit shy. My great aunt said that even though he had his issues, he was a gentle soul at the core. Which pretty much solidified how I felt about him in the dream.
When I look at his chart, I see the kind nature (minus the alcohol) is the Pisces, the explosive temper is the mars-pluto, his love of material items is the Taurus ascendant, his attraction to my grandmother (Scorpio) which is in the 7th house, and his sternness is the Saturn in the 1st.
Anyways, super long post. Sorry about that! Just wanted to share with whoever is reading this a bit of his history and me trying to figure out his chart