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deep_waters | “[...] They have very high standards and are very selective. If they have chosen you, then you have already passed a bunch of their secret tests. They may be the types to have sex on the first date. Its important for them to know if they can deal with you sexually before they can proceed to any deeper emotions with you.” What include these so called ‘secret tests’ mentioned above exactly? Can you give me some examples for it?
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ash20 | From what i know they like to push away the people they love to see how much the person cares about them. |
deep_waters | You know... I know a man (libra sun) with venus in Scorpio who did exactly what you mentioned above. I visited a good friend of us. He was there a short time before I arrived and left! :'( He knew I'd be there just a few minutes later. I don't know what I did to him - I've never been rude to him. I know that he googled for information about me on the Internet, too. Another man (libra sun) with venus in Scorpio engages me in conversations with him whenever we meet. He isn't normally that talkative, keeps himself in tha background, observes situations. Sometimes my impression after a conversation with him was, that he says one things and thinks another thing?! He has a sharp mind and notices things other ppl wouldn't even pay attention to. The third example I know with venus in Scorpio is my younger cousin (sun in Sagittarius). He never asnwers my e-mails. My father told me that he admires me deeply and often talks about me. Nevertheless - he seems to ignore me. IS THIS NORMAL??? |
PlutoSurvivor | This makes sense with men I know. . Come to think of it, my son has Venus in Scorpio. He never acknowledges me but in grade school the teachers singled me out as the best mom in the school because of the way he depicted me to others. And, yes, he still tests me to see how much I care about him. He never says "I love you". In response to Anyone saying this to him , he says "Uh-huh" Maybe that is 12H placement. |
deep_waters | The question is: What to do when they start to ignore you? |
deep_waters | What is the problem? Are they afraid of being hurt or afraid that their feelings aren't valued in the right way or misunderstood? |
ash20 | When they ignore you keep trying to talk to them. Nothing extreme like texting them all day but at least every few days reach out to them so they know they're not forgotten. They want to feel special. For example, my cousin has this placement and she told a guy she liked to leave her alone (she was mad at him) and when he did and didnt try anymore she told me she felt hurt that he didn't try harder. And she thought he didn't care about her at all |
jenny415 | Ash20 nailed it! I have this venus and I definitely play this game...I didn't realize it was so common with us! I hate when people stop interacting with me and "get over me". I used to do this with my mom often-she is almost all aquarius and she really killed me!!!! |
deep_waters | Thanks for your answer! I have 8th house prominent in my chart. So my alarm bells ring early when a venus in Scorpio tries to test me The problem is: Last time when a venus in Scorpio ignored me, I was ...realy hurt So I started to ignore him, too. I don't know how to go now. It's definitely not my intention to hit him. |