Look at a Man's Mars imo if you want to see how he will pursue you if interested.Often when we are "nice". It is our Venus that we are showing. And that is not showing much because its not painful to be nice.
We tend to flirt with everyone and anyone with our Venus. Its all superficial and doesn't mean anything.
Venus is the placement that sends out "feelers" because it is curious i.e what kind of person are you? Are you friendly? Do we have anything in common? Can I bring you closer to me?
Venus in Gemini is chatty , witty and always has something to say that is clever and smart. So you will have to learn to catch up to how quick their mind works.
When they learn that you are indeed a sharp tool and pick up on the many double meaning jokes they drop and can clap back when they say something offhand to you. They are intrigued.
Even if you are not super fast and just put on the charm, are eloquent/well spoken and can tell really funny anecdotes, they will still be moved
Venus is the eternal flirt(especially in air signs). Mars is energy and pursuit of what you want and is more resolute.
We don't tend to waste our energy in fruitless endeavors(Mars).But we do tend to waste our charms because its not as taxing(Venus)
If Mars/Venus is in aspect, we tend to feel like we are spoiled for choice and may go after anything that sparks our interests.
Sometimes even having many suitors because the (chase) is inextricably combined with the piqued interest(Venus).
So falling in-love overnight or in lust everyday can happen-with differing people and for differing reasons.
Mars in Cancer may suggest that he will go about getting what he wants in a very roundabout way.
He may not like people knowing about his intentions(including you) and will go out of his way to do nice things for you,take care of you and show you how much he cares for your well-being.
Mars in Cancer when after you will express it by babying you(even the men); taking you out to eat, doing small favors for you, giving you lots of hugs and touching your stomach often when they can,acting like a gentleman or being the supportive ear when you feel down.
Often they will try to get you alone and spending time revealing their innermost thoughts, their more tender side or showing you their domestic capabilities.
If they invite you to their house to cook for you, invite you to join them with their friends/siblings or family etc. you are waaay in there. The seal of approval is when they hold your hand or come behind you to touch your hips or try to touch your forehead.
The more annoying thing that you will notice when they like you is when they "mother" you and tell you what to do(even the men).
They can also ask you "what's wrong?" when upset and be genuinely interested in fixing it.And even when not upset about something, the ritual "are you okay?", making eye contact and being ready to listen is how they demonstrate that .This is the extension of the "babying"/"mothering"part.
Cancer Mars men will often try to demonstrate the following;
-Look how I can take care of you
-Look at how I always remember important dates i.e birthdays, when your Mom gets home from hospital, when your dog died etc.
-Look how I am there for you emotionally
-Look how thoughtful I am
-Look at how perceptive I am when it comes to your feelings
-Look how well I know what you want
-Look at how I really listen when you talk
etc.
They will get aggressively caring when they are sure that you are missing the signals. But don't go easy on to them, play a little hard to get. Every man appreciates having to "work" for what they want, but within reason.