Interesting, you keep asking about this aspect.
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum35/HTML/002450.html
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/227086.html Quincunx, inconjunct means you have to give something up. You have to let it go. If you have a quincunx with someone you'll not understand where they're coming from. I've had a quincunx with a person between our communication planets, specifically Mercury and Uranus.
We just did not understand what the other person was saying. It took a lot of work to just get what the heck they were going on about. Our communication styles were so incredibly different, our topics we desired to discuss were incredibly different.
The inconjunct when not attached to anything else, at least, is about confusion and having to just let whatever is creating the confusion go. You can fight against it by going another route to understand but it's never going to be as easy as if you were to have any other aspect.
Mars quincunx Moon. Mars doesn't understand where Moon is coming from, what makes Moon feel safe, what Moon needs. Moon can't understand what makes Mars act that way, what Mars desires, why Mars keeps taking those actions.
Eventually, Mars just has to go "Okay, I see that you need this (after an incredible amount of understanding) and it doesn't make sense but okay, you need it." And Moon does the same "You act this way, I can't understand it but okay.."
If it's anything like what I experienced it's like two ships passing at night in a fog, trying to get some answers from each other. A guy who can't see is trying to help a guy who can't hear (or read lips).
When it's attached to a yod in synastry I think it's a whole other kettle of fish.
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No aspect is more frustrating than the inconjunct (or quincunx). This tense 150-degree angle links two signs that have absolutely nothing in common. Each sign is in a different element (fire, earth, water, air), a different modality (cardinal, fixed, mutable), and a different polarity (positive and negative). And yet, when two planets (five signs apart) fall within orb of the inconjunct, they connect even though they have zero understanding of each other. The result is a struggle between unrelated energies that have no way of finding a middle ground. This is difficult enough to handle by transit or in the natal chart, but imagine if you have to deal with this aspect in synastry.
Inconjuncts in Synastry: Agree to Disagree