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Iqhunk | What Women Want from Men By Dr. Kevin Leman1. She's important. Treat her that way! 2. Let her know that you want to understand how she feels. 3. Ask her opinion. 4. Don't surprise her with arbitrary, unilateral decisions. 5. Give her frequent hugs, especially if she is feeling down or depressed. Just hold her, no lectures or advice. 6. Talk to her about how she spends her day at work or at home. Be interested. Handle her with care in every way. 7. Accept her as she is; change you, not her. 8. Get rid of habits that annoy her. 9. Help around the house, and don't expect a twenty-one-gun salute when you do. 10. Let her know how proud you are that she is your wife.Call her if you're going to be late. 11. Surprise her with a card or some flowers. Besides remembering birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays, surprise her with a card or some flowers for no special reason except that you love her. 12. Don't fix it. When she shares a problem with you, don't immediately jump in to be The Great Fixer. Chances are she knows how to solve the problem already and just wants you to listen and empathize. 13. Never give her a toaster on any special occasion, not even a four-“slicer”. And that goes double for frying pans, waffle irons and can openers.
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Azalaksh | Most of these could reside on a list of What Men Want From Women, too -- yes?? Thanks, Og! 'Z |
LeoSweetHeart | Yesss, especially the empathizing with us one. SOOOO true! |
Happy Dragon | *3. Ask her opinion* .. .. WHAT !!!!!!! I only got handed out the 12 point version .. !! * * |
sweetlibra | good ones Is point 7 feasible |
geminstone | Azalaksh... I am thinking that same way,.. yes! ~ geminstone |
peace | The way to my heart is my stomach .LOL. *burp* |
mysticaldream | I especially like the top 3! |
lioneye68 | No wonder I was so miserable in my last 'thingee' (can't even bring myself to call it a relationship ) He must have read the sarcastic version of this list, and took it all literally. |
26taurus | yep. We need lotsa hugs, lotsa hugs. The best gift I got was a shortwave radio. I mentioned wanting one once and got suprised on my birthday with it. *sigh* I just want my Best Friend back. He doesnt have to do anything except Be there. Someday, someday. |
aqua | here comes the HUGGINGGG............ MACHINE !!!!!!!!!! |
fayte.m | What Women Want from Men By Dr. Kevin Leman 1. She's important. Treat her that way! >>>OK. 2. Let her know that you want to understand how she feels. >>>OK. 3. Ask her opinion. >>>OK. 4. Don't surprise her with arbitrary, unilateral decisions. >>>HUH? 5. Give her frequent hugs, especially if she is feeling down or depressed. Just hold her, no lectures or advice. >>>Advice is fine. 6. Talk to her about how she spends her day at work or at home. Be interested. Handle her with care in every way. >>>Do not baby me! 7. Accept her as she is; change you, not her. >>>OK. 8. Get rid of habits that annoy her. >>>I DO NOT AGREE. 9. Help around the house, and don't expect a twenty-one-gun salute when you do. >>>But expect a thank you and reciprocation. Same as you would give her. 10. Let her know how proud you are that she is your wife.Call her if you're going to be late. >>>OK..but expect the same. 11. Surprise her with a card or some flowers. Besides remembering birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays, surprise her with a card or some flowers for no special reason except that you love her. >>>Unnessessary, but appreciated. I do not require "proof". 12. Don't fix it. When she shares a problem with you, don't immediately jump in to be The Great Fixer. Chances are she knows how to solve the problem already and just wants you to listen and empathize. >>>Advice is welcome. 13. Never give her a toaster on any special occasion, not even a four-“slicer”. And that goes double for frying pans, waffle irons and can openers. >>>Honey! Give me toasters, pans, power tools, hand tools, USEFUL stuff! Do not give me junk! After the useful stuff...a knick knack or treasure is fine. But useful practical comes first! However books are always welcome!
------------------ ~I intend to continue learning forever~"Fayte" ~I am still learning~ Michangelo The Door to Gnosis is never permanently locked...one only needs the correct keys and passwords. The pious man with closed eyes can often hold more ego than a proud man with open eyes. Out of the mouth of babes commeth wisdom that can rival that of sages. In the rough, or cut and polished..a diamond is still a precious gem. -NEXUS- |
AcousticGod | Your Scorp/Cap combo is showing Fayte! Love it! I don't really like number 8. Everyone has a certain habit of being themselves, and if that's annoying then perhaps they shouldn't be together. If I give number 7, then I want number 7 back. This talk of numbers reminds me of a That 70's Show episode where Foreman becomes enamored with George Carlin's "Seven Dirty Words You Can't Say on Radio or Tv." |
fayte.m | Hey AG! |
lovely* | *cuts & pastes* thanks for the list~ |
Iqhunk | Hi 26T <<sigh* I just want my Best Friend back. He doesnt have to do anything except Be there. Someday, someday.>>Care to write more about this? The more who know about your deepest wish, the more human brain antennae to transmit the info and make such a wish of love come true.
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Swerve | Quite frankly I don't see how that list could possibly be gender-biased in any way or one-directional. All it seems to boil down to is respect each other in all situations. Thats about the hardest thing to do though isn't it? Swerve |
1scorp | Edit________________________________________ Scorpio sun, venus, mars, mercury, and uranus Libra moon, pluto, and asc.
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fayte.m | I totally agree with both of you! Swerve "Quite frankly I don't see how that list could possibly be gender-biased in any way or one-directional. All it seems to boil down to is respect each other in all situations." 1scorp Totally agree with ALL you said! And this is percfect! "Don't expect more from someone than what you're willing to put in yourself." Exactly! ------------------ ~I intend to continue learning forever~"Fayte" ~I am still learning~ Michangelo The Door to Gnosis is never permanently locked...one only needs the correct keys and passwords. The pious man with closed eyes can often hold more ego than a proud man with open eyes. Out of the mouth of babes commeth wisdom that can rival that of sages. In the rough, or cut and polished..a diamond is still a precious gem. -NEXUS- |
WaterNymph | Ditto zala - everyone should feel special
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26taurus | Very insightful of you, Iq. Youre right. We should be as clear as we can be about what we want. My ideal man will have these two qualities: He will have trancended his ego. So that anything I ever said or did, would be incapable of hurting him. Beause he would know why I do and say, everything I do and say. He would understand that I'm only human.....well, not really actually but, you know what I mean. He would know that we are all loving beings and that's all we are here to help each other be. I, in turn would understand the same things about him. And together we would understand everyone else and make our own heaven on earth. The other quality he needs - or has, is a strong sense of humor. My divine man knows that life is for the laughing. And loving. And that is it. That this Life is a divine comedy. And is meant to be Joyful. That we should laugh, sing, dance more. Be a little crazier. That only mad people can afford to be joyful and happy...(Osho says something along those lines...and it's Truth.) People who have trancended the ego are able to see this. They can laugh at themselves and everything else because they know it's all a game, a play of sorts. He would understand that it's all about living in and following your bliss. Being. Together we would walk hand in hand, laughing at the beauty of it all. Two little laughing buddhas. We would be in capable of hurting one another because we would understand each other fully. We would be divine equals. Okay. Soooo, my ideal man is an Ascended Master. ....a Paramahansa Yogananda of sorts. So what. One can dream and hope cant they? Is that too much to ask? I dont think so. |
Iqhunk | May your wish come true 26T... I aint no angel but if enough people can sincerely wish something good for someone, it will just have to occur. |
26taurus | Wishing more power for your wishes to come true too. |
sweetlibra | 26T, That is a beautiful wish May your wish come true |