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23 | I didn't know where to put this but today I was in changeroom of a department store and next to me based on voices was a mother and her daughter (maybe about 4-5 years old?) trying on clothes obviously. She was getting annoyed at her daughter for not getting clothes on and when her daughter finally put on her skirt, her mum said to her, "nah, that makes you look fat, take it off'. I mean, WTF? Do you think that's responsible to say that to a girl of that age? I almost had a heart attack in the changeroom! How irresponsible! |
fieryscales | That is downright irresponsible Do you know how old the mother would be? |
GemLover | That's awful. |
23 | Fireyscales - of average again I guess, 30s or so. I didnt see them but heard the entire conversation because they were very noisy (no criticism of that) and she had a mature voice. |
AceNeerav | i think the mother is just conscious about her daughter's looks. what's so irresponsible of her? |
fieryscales | 23-was just wondering what the mom's age was. If she was in her early-mid twenties, I could see why she would say that to her child but not if she is in her thirties. |
BlueRoamer | If the daughter is fat it's most likely the mother's fault anyway....my guess is the mother was fat |
23 | AceNeerav - what annoys me is that there are terrible body images that people have out there. We have on one end of the spectrum obesity, on the other hand anorexia and Hollywood. I just don't think it was a very appropriate thing to say to a child. Say it enough times, it gets internalised by the child. She could've said, "it doesn't suit you". BR - well I can't really speculate myself, I never saw them. But you may be on a point where the mum might be projecting something that is internal in her on her daughter and passing on that behaviour. |
23 | http://www.news.com.au/story/0,23599,24349158-36398,00.html
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zenwarner | Oh, that just makes me so angry. Whether or not the child was overweight is beyond the fact. A child that age is learning habits she will keep with her the rest of her life. At her age, a child needs their confidence built. She should be told they're beautiful. NOT that they are fat. Things like that dont just roll of kids backs like some people may asume. Im disgusted with that woman. There are many less hurtful ways to say a skirt dosnt look good. What a flippant way of doing it. |
sunshine_lion | mean mamma! Chubby kids are way cute anyway. mean mamma! |
The Mutable Night Force | What?! That's so unbelievable!23, I'm not doubting your credibility, but I have to ask if there's any possibility the girl could have been older?! Some people have very young voices... at least I sure hope so. To be honest a child that age won't take it in that much, but it's worrying cos it indicates the mother will carry it on into pre-teens years where it'll be fatal. |
23 | No, it was definitely definitely a young child. It was a toddler's voice without a doubt. Anyway, in the country I live in, there would be some sort of regulation for children of a certain age that can go into a changeroom with mum. It's for example seven and under for a male child to attend a female toilet with mum. I'd say something like that would be applicable here but it makes it hard because it was a girl. |
23 | The child's articulation wasn't highly developed. The way she reacted to her mother by her voice indicated a low level of maturity. I can only assume that the child was of average intelligence and did not have any form intellectual disability. |
blue moon | quote: To be honest a child that age won't take it in that much
The more she hears that kind of comment, the more chance she will take it in and get a complex connected to it. I bet if we did a survey, most people on LL could think of one negative thing that got instilled into them by their parent(s) and that gave them a confidence problem that took years to resolve. And there's every chance it won't have been done on purpose. Maybe this woman thinks her daughter knowing early on what makes her look fat is a helpful thing, who knows? |