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T O P I C R E V I E WlistenstotreesDoes anyone else suffer from this or know what might cause it? I've had for most of my life and it has chronic effects on my self esteem.Why is it so hard to love ones self?WinkAwayDippy? That's funny LTT because from what I've read of your threads and responses, you seem very intelligent. Why do you feel that way about yourself? DervishI don't know what you mean because there are so many ways to be impractical and dippy. But one thing I know is that by concentrating on letting go of the Shoulds ("I should," "People should," "Life should," etc) for a single day and just live it as if it were the last and without responsibility (remember, no "shoulds"!), I find it helps me get through life a lot. Obviously it would be destructive to have too many days like that, but I think it's destructive to never have days like that, too.And in general people tend to become bitter because they EXPECT better and are continuously disappointed. But once you can accept people/life/etc aren't the perfect diamonds we like to think of them as then it's much easier to shrug off the flaws. I know I handle mine that way because I'm part of an imperfect species in an imperfect society in an imperfect life (granted, "perfection" is a subjective value rather than an objective state), so as I became more forgiving and accepting of all the imperfections around me I came to accept the same in myself, too. That doesn't mean I simply stopped trying, just that I don't beat myself up anymore when I fall short of my own arbitrary standards (at least not most of the time). listenstotreesI am very dippy and slow when it comes to remembering and learning practical things. DervishWe have different definitions of practical. For example, a guy I know believes it's practical to put off his writing so he can work jobs he hates. Why? It's practical. I disagree because he hates his jobs and he can't write which means he hates his life (so what's the point of living it). If he were practical IMO then he'd consider the domestic stuff he does at home (which professionals, at least the legal kind, charge a lot for) with the royalties he still gets from novels sufficient, or at least needing no more than a part-timer while he writes because that's what he IS, a writer. But to him (and his wife), if it doesn't make money then it's not practical. Others believe "practical stuff" is handling money, the ability to fix cars, and things like that.Others still consider practical stuff being people smart and not letting others take advantage of you, and how not to spend more than you make. Others believe it's practical to be corrupt & amoral (seriously, I've heard this from more than one person!).And so on. So how do you define practical?LyraI live with 2 apparently very dippy people, though in some instances I think they're being passive-aggressive/ lazy. Like, they NEVER clean the house, and even when you have made the point that plastic bags are not to go in the food waste recycling bin (even to the extent where there are *posters on the wall telling them quite clearly what to do*) they STILL DO IT!!! AAARRGGHHH!!!!! this was the nearest I could get to a jumping-up-and-down smilielistenstotreesI define "practicality" as spatial intelligence, remembering things, and being able to perform tasks quickly and efficiently. I am very forgetful. But I was talking to someone last night and apparently it is well known that stress and depression impair cognitive ability. I was very impractical as a child, but I think the reasons were slightly different back then. I was a daydreamer who spent most of her time in a "world of her own".bunniesI don't see that as a flaw.I am considered intelligent and creative but if it was left up to my practical knowledge, the human race would still be squatting on its haunches hitting one rock with another (decoratively and with a certain artistic flourish nevertheless!)But still just banging two stones together.Never quite hard enough to make fire though. Dammit DervishI'm not sure what causes it, but I know it's quite common. Even many professors are actually quite "dippy." It's normal, IMO.Rare, however, are those who come to realize it. Maybe making a list or "cheat sheet instructions" to check can help? GypseeWindAhh, I've been called:DippyDitzyBlonde RootsNot All ThereNo Common SenseBlah blah blah.Know what? It doesn't bother me at all!People say, "you always seem so far away!"Most times I am.I feel fortunate that I can 'go to my happy place' in my head, yet still function.I can drive somewhere, and have no idea what route I took.But I always get there.Were you really good in school, LTT? I was from an early age. I even skipped a grade, which always made me younger than my classmates, and I didn't like that.I had a perfect 4.o in college for a long time, until I had to take a math class, and that dropped it down a little bit.I guess my point is that alot of "dippy" people are actually smart, and our minds are not on mundane things, which can make us appear to others as dippy.
Why is it so hard to love ones self?
But one thing I know is that by concentrating on letting go of the Shoulds ("I should," "People should," "Life should," etc) for a single day and just live it as if it were the last and without responsibility (remember, no "shoulds"!), I find it helps me get through life a lot. Obviously it would be destructive to have too many days like that, but I think it's destructive to never have days like that, too.
And in general people tend to become bitter because they EXPECT better and are continuously disappointed. But once you can accept people/life/etc aren't the perfect diamonds we like to think of them as then it's much easier to shrug off the flaws. I know I handle mine that way because I'm part of an imperfect species in an imperfect society in an imperfect life (granted, "perfection" is a subjective value rather than an objective state), so as I became more forgiving and accepting of all the imperfections around me I came to accept the same in myself, too. That doesn't mean I simply stopped trying, just that I don't beat myself up anymore when I fall short of my own arbitrary standards (at least not most of the time).
For example, a guy I know believes it's practical to put off his writing so he can work jobs he hates. Why? It's practical. I disagree because he hates his jobs and he can't write which means he hates his life (so what's the point of living it). If he were practical IMO then he'd consider the domestic stuff he does at home (which professionals, at least the legal kind, charge a lot for) with the royalties he still gets from novels sufficient, or at least needing no more than a part-timer while he writes because that's what he IS, a writer. But to him (and his wife), if it doesn't make money then it's not practical.
Others believe "practical stuff" is handling money, the ability to fix cars, and things like that.
Others still consider practical stuff being people smart and not letting others take advantage of you, and how not to spend more than you make.
Others believe it's practical to be corrupt & amoral (seriously, I've heard this from more than one person!).
And so on.
So how do you define practical?
Like, they NEVER clean the house, and even when you have made the point that plastic bags are not to go in the food waste recycling bin (even to the extent where there are *posters on the wall telling them quite clearly what to do*) they STILL DO IT!!! AAARRGGHHH!!!!!
this was the nearest I could get to a jumping-up-and-down smilie
Rare, however, are those who come to realize it. Maybe making a list or "cheat sheet instructions" to check can help?
DippyDitzyBlonde RootsNot All ThereNo Common Sense
Blah blah blah.
Know what? It doesn't bother me at all!People say, "you always seem so far away!"Most times I am.I feel fortunate that I can 'go to my happy place' in my head, yet still function.I can drive somewhere, and have no idea what route I took.But I always get there.
Were you really good in school, LTT? I was from an early age. I even skipped a grade, which always made me younger than my classmates, and I didn't like that.
I had a perfect 4.o in college for a long time, until I had to take a math class, and that dropped it down a little bit.
I guess my point is that alot of "dippy" people are actually smart, and our minds are not on mundane things, which can make us appear to others as dippy.
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