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T O P I C R E V I E WEmpressMendezPlease now I'm the one who is seeking some help from you all. Newbies, seniors, enemies, friends..come one. Come all..I need someone to be blunt to me about this Tarot draw I just did.Question: What is the best course of action to take regarding my ex? We decided to remain living together after our break up, but now I'm just ready to be independent.2 of Cups:Page of Swords rx:Hierophant rx:I was honestly expecting cards to tell me to just let go. I wanted advice on how to fully deal and move on. Seems the cards have a mind of their own.Please help. Thanks in advancelittlecloudI really wanted to help but I don't do rx cards!!! I will try but someone else will likely have a better answer.In short you need to act quickly and bluntly to end the pleasantry of your situation to be able to break away from the 'traditional' part of it. Also, maybe, make sure you are ready to be fully independent?TwirlIs it your house he lives in Empress? EmpressMendezYes, it's mine he's not on the lease.He can always go to his mother's (not the first time it happens). Plenty of room for him there, & afterwards he can easily get his own apartment if he wantsEmpressMendezThanks littlecloud . They aren't really reversed, just ill-dignified ;3TwirlOkay... And did you by any chance mention this to him before (time to really move on?)What I see: bring it nicely, from base of friendship/love, but be firm with seperating the cups. I'm in doubt over page swords rx. How do court cards come up for you? I think it may very well represent him instead of you (he will be thinking you do not mean it that serious/plenty of time idea). Be bold though. Give him an ultimatum and follow through with the plans. So overall, yes, make a clean break. It seems the right time to focus on yourself. (Also, with this card combination, (don't take this too serious please): I can see you clearing out his stuff right out on the street if he isn't taking it serious and just stays on the day he should leave). EmpressMendezLol Twirl. I have done that soo many times before . Even threw a lot of his belongings down the trash chute. No recovering that!Well, yes he had plenty of time to move. He chooses to spend that time online playing games instead. He told me before this reading that he will leave tonight & his brother was going to come pick up the rest of his stuff tomorrow.I wanted to see if I was making the right decision, so asked Tarot fr advice. As a way to just get over it.Ps: I have told him this wayyy before I traveled, and again the 6th of this month. Told him to please start packing his things, and just moving slowly, but made it clear he had to go..hannaramaaI read the cards as saying you can let go? The Page of Swords rx is an unexpected move, but the Hierophant rx seems symbolic of him moving out which will obviously mess with the routine of living together hence why it's unorthodox and you get the Hierophant rx.Twirl quote:Originally posted by EmpressMendez:Well, yes he had plenty of time to move. He chooses to spend that time online playing games instead. He told me before this reading that he will leave tonight & his brother was going to come pick up the rest of his stuff tomorrow.I wanted to see if I was making the right decision, so asked Tarot fr advice. As a way to just get over it.Ps: I have told him this wayyy before I traveled, and again the 6th of this month. Okay, in that case I say page reversed is him not taking it seriously and you should follow up with you move in a 'revolutionary' way. Enough is enough. Want me to pull some additional cards? EmpressMendezHey Twirl, thanks for your offer. Well, not about this situation. Just about what's coming up in the love front for me. I can return the favor if you want .But has to be later on today when I leave the country ^^TwirlYes, I can do that for you later. Either today or tomorrow I remember the other cards you drew also: new man will come into your life after ending it completely with the ex(him out of your house). You are travelling today? Have a good trip ChryseisThe relationship has a lot of attraction still in it. You seem to know each other very well and are quite comfortable with each other's presence.The guy is a bit lost, he's been put on hold because he's trying to work out how to do the relationship as well as move on in life with his own things he has to do. Once he works out how to do this, he will do very well, he has a strong personality with a lot of natural business ability and is able to connect well with other people.i think he has been trying to work in with what you are trying to achieve in life but it keeps falling back to nothing because you don't really know what you want and are waiting for something to magically come together. You will do better once you let him take the lead. I know that sounds chauvanistic, but that is what it seems.Its like your relationship will improve and you will feel better about your own situations when you knuckle down, recognise the relationship as important and valid, and show due respect for each other's roles - and I think that this includes recognising traditional male and female roles to some extent.Not totally - as you are both modern people, but yes, you need to respect his male energy more and then he will be able to manifest a better situation. It feels like you are holding him in a position that is not his natural situation but he is doing it out of love and caring for you - like he has a gut instinct that you might eventually 'get over it' and value what is valuable about your relationship.You have some sacrifices to make and that involves a degree of service to those dependent on you and to support him like I said via traditional female energy. Others around you will feel relief if you can become more cohesive as a couple.It is hard to mother or be a wife/partner to others in this day and age because everything around us tells us we are a failure unless we are acquiring, go-getting, independent, and cutting a glamourous image. I don't know about your future though, there is a sensation of lateral branches, but yes, initially I would say, instead of trying to control him - recognise the value in him and the relationship and let him take the lead more - I don't think he will oppress you and become a dominating maniac - though he might at times seem a bit too blokey but this is part of the male psyche and their standing with other guys/society.EmpressMendezHey Chryseis, thanks.Well, there's no relationship left & he has officially moved out. He has an online gf that he's planning to go visit in the Summer.I actually do know what I want. I was willing to stay with him for the rest of my life. He's the one who chose to stray..Hmm, what lead? He's the one who left me o.o. I do respect his male energy. In fact, I freely let him flirt with girls online, watch porn, hang out with friends, etc..There's just nothing left & he chose another girl over me. No choice but to move on.ChryseisYeah I guess soChryseisYeah I guess soTwirlHey Empress, Drew some cards for you and adjusted the questions a bit, especially focussing on what it actually is you need from a relationship & what would do you well. In general I get the impression you are drawn to relationships which are fierce, but also dramatic in a way. Different opinions, personality clashes, your basic movie where person A. And person B. are very much into each other, but cannot seem to make it work and get into a battle, because of the differences, etc. Point is, I get the feeling you think that is how the love should be (deep down) and I・m not convinced that is what actually suits you. Because it will get you into a lot of arguments (and I'm sure the 'make up' 'kitchen table'is great ;-), but...you can・t both be the boss. Especially if you both feel very convinced about different matters. For the type of man you need: a character who enjoys independent women, but will also be busy enough with his own life and is independent. He knows exactly where he stands in life and he would enjoy the same qualities in you. You need more equality in your relationships. Then you can love on an equal level. And that would be the relationship suiting you: one where things between you are cleared up instantly and both speak your mind loud and clear (if needed), and then you will just continue. In other words: an all calm, balanced, fair relationship, where both of you are just equally involved in with the same agenda/on the same page. Also, a more mature relationship than before. If this sounds boring, it's not, because it will deepen the love on all levels and make things easier. So, what you need to do, to attract that kind of love: have a clear look at your definitions of .togetherness・ and joy together. It needs reviewing. Where does this come from? Have a look at what you learned about relationships in the past (perhaps even go as far back as the one your parents had, what did they teach you about love?) & redefine your outlook. I saw someone else is also looking into your love life through cards, so just drew a few cards. Two knights popped up again. Question: 'what you need to know about your love life': knight swords + 6 cups. Are you too much in a hurry after, determined to get a lovely man, right here and now? If you need some time to adjust to the new situation, take it.Edit: forgot to mention, or is someone from the past/past lover trying to take you by storm? This is not the same man as mentioned after this -end of EDIT- Upcoming (this reading style is generally around a month-6weeks): 4 pents, which I read as not able to completely let go of past/not able to really open up at an emotional level just yet. Knight pents on top. A calmer love interest entering your life with whom there is a possibility to .grow・ into the love more. More stable, and more directed at building (and maintaining) a future. Hope this resonates. Love to hear. Also please update! But I know you will Work on redefining your outlook on 'being together'/'love' first though. If you deal with that, you attract the more stable & responsible guy. littlecloudOooooooo!!! Twirl can you so a reading like that for me? That sounds like exactly the type of reading I was looking for!! I've recently started out on a path of self-discovery to try and make better/healthier decisions. So pretty pretty pretty please, could you do this for me? Empress, sorry for jacking your thread :-( EmpressMendez quote:In general I get the impression you are drawn to relationships which are fierce, but also dramatic in a way. Different opinions, personality clashes, your basic movie where person A. And person B. are very much into each other, but cannot seem to make it work and get into a battle, because of the differences, etc. Point is, I get the feeling you think that is how the love should be (deep down) and I・m not convinced that is what actually suits you. Because it will get you into a lot of arguments (and I'm sure the 'make up' 'kitchen table'is great ;-), but...you can・t both be the boss. Especially if you both feel very convinced about different matters. Hmm, I'll have to disagree with this a bit. I hate, hate, hate arguing with a significant other. I even block anyone online that tries to have a personal relationship with me, but wants to argue and doesn't properly communicate. I just hate disagreements & arguing when it comes to romantic relationships. I agree 100% with the equality paragraph. That is what I want! Lol. Venus in Libra Yes, someone from the past. He always comes up as Knight of Swords (Aquarius) and always get 6 of Cups also when asking about him. He's stubborn, lol. Rushing me into seeing him, but I'm still taking my time.I think I am able to let go of the past. The opening up part is accurate. Could also mean I don't feel as secure as I should, or I'm trying to feel more secure before I get involved with someone. Knight of Pentacles sounds like my kind of guy, lol. Hopefully, I'm not this Knight?! For some reason Tarot loves to describe me as a Knight sometimes . I have even gotten described as Kings before -_-Thanks Twirl. Will definitely update TwirlHey Little, Yes, sure Will be somewhere in the weekend though. Earliest on Friday First on list. Just post your questions. Maybe we can use your other thread for it? Twirl@empress: love to hear the updates. I actually have the feeling knight of pents is a guy, not you in this case. I'll also expect after you meet (and spend more time together), you will feel secure in opening up with this man. On the arguing bit: I also received the emperor reversed there. Who is the one in relationships overbearing? If that's you (blocking people online, lol), I really think some flexibility would help. Do you listen to what your partners say, or do you listen and then dismiss it completely. If it really doesn't resonate, just dismiss that bit of course, but perhaps it may fall into place a bit later. quote:Originally posted by EmpressMendez:Yes, someone from the past. He always comes up as Knight of Swords (Aquarius) and always get 6 of Cups also when asking about him. He's stubborn, lol. Rushing me into seeing him, but I'm still taking my time.)Lol, okay. I'll wonder how this will evolve then.Any news about the proposal yet?EmpressMendezI try to be reasonable, but if someone is immature (M, for example always come up as Emperor) I can't deal with that. Of course I listen to their side, and try to work something out, always, but if we can't agree on something, then I can't really continue arguing, etc.A couple of days ago M lied to me about something, and naturally I found out & confronted him. He kept lying about it when I already knew the truth. Then, the next day I asked him why he was ignoring me and he said I was a jerk/ass**** so you see..that I cannot tolerate, lol. I said fine..& just deleted everything that had to do with him. Why deal with someone like that? They are wrong, so why can't they just come clean about it?No proposal yet. Trust me I will update if it happens, heheTwirl quote:Originally posted by EmpressMendez:I try A couple of days ago M lied to me about something, and naturally I found out & confronted him. He kept lying about it when I already knew the truth. Then, the next day I asked him why he was ignoring me and he said I was a jerk/ass**** so you see..that I cannot tolerate, lol. I said fine..& just deleted everything that had to do with him. Why deal with someone like that? They are wrong, so why can't they just come clean about it?Lol, yes! I agree. And it also so fits the description of what relationship you actually need I hope the right knight rides in soon
I need someone to be blunt to me about this Tarot draw I just did.
Question: What is the best course of action to take regarding my ex?
We decided to remain living together after our break up, but now I'm just ready to be independent.
2 of Cups:Page of Swords rx:Hierophant rx:
I was honestly expecting cards to tell me to just let go. I wanted advice on how to fully deal and move on. Seems the cards have a mind of their own.
Please help. Thanks in advance
I will try but someone else will likely have a better answer.
In short you need to act quickly and bluntly to end the pleasantry of your situation to be able to break away from the 'traditional' part of it.
Also, maybe, make sure you are ready to be fully independent?
He can always go to his mother's (not the first time it happens). Plenty of room for him there, & afterwards he can easily get his own apartment if he wants
What I see: bring it nicely, from base of friendship/love, but be firm with seperating the cups. I'm in doubt over page swords rx. How do court cards come up for you? I think it may very well represent him instead of you (he will be thinking you do not mean it that serious/plenty of time idea). Be bold though. Give him an ultimatum and follow through with the plans. So overall, yes, make a clean break. It seems the right time to focus on yourself.
(Also, with this card combination, (don't take this too serious please): I can see you clearing out his stuff right out on the street if he isn't taking it serious and just stays on the day he should leave).
Well, yes he had plenty of time to move. He chooses to spend that time online playing games instead. He told me before this reading that he will leave tonight & his brother was going to come pick up the rest of his stuff tomorrow.
I wanted to see if I was making the right decision, so asked Tarot fr advice. As a way to just get over it.
Ps: I have told him this wayyy before I traveled, and again the 6th of this month. Told him to please start packing his things, and just moving slowly, but made it clear he had to go..
quote:Originally posted by EmpressMendez:Well, yes he had plenty of time to move. He chooses to spend that time online playing games instead. He told me before this reading that he will leave tonight & his brother was going to come pick up the rest of his stuff tomorrow.I wanted to see if I was making the right decision, so asked Tarot fr advice. As a way to just get over it.Ps: I have told him this wayyy before I traveled, and again the 6th of this month.
Ps: I have told him this wayyy before I traveled, and again the 6th of this month.
Okay, in that case I say page reversed is him not taking it seriously and you should follow up with you move in a 'revolutionary' way. Enough is enough.
Want me to pull some additional cards?
But has to be later on today when I leave the country ^^
The guy is a bit lost, he's been put on hold because he's trying to work out how to do the relationship as well as move on in life with his own things he has to do. Once he works out how to do this, he will do very well, he has a strong personality with a lot of natural business ability and is able to connect well with other people.
i think he has been trying to work in with what you are trying to achieve in life but it keeps falling back to nothing because you don't really know what you want and are waiting for something to magically come together. You will do better once you let him take the lead. I know that sounds chauvanistic, but that is what it seems.
Its like your relationship will improve and you will feel better about your own situations when you knuckle down, recognise the relationship as important and valid, and show due respect for each other's roles - and I think that this includes recognising traditional male and female roles to some extent.
Not totally - as you are both modern people, but yes, you need to respect his male energy more and then he will be able to manifest a better situation. It feels like you are holding him in a position that is not his natural situation but he is doing it out of love and caring for you - like he has a gut instinct that you might eventually 'get over it' and value what is valuable about your relationship.
You have some sacrifices to make and that involves a degree of service to those dependent on you and to support him like I said via traditional female energy. Others around you will feel relief if you can become more cohesive as a couple.
It is hard to mother or be a wife/partner to others in this day and age because everything around us tells us we are a failure unless we are acquiring, go-getting, independent, and cutting a glamourous image. I don't know about your future though, there is a sensation of lateral branches, but yes, initially I would say, instead of trying to control him - recognise the value in him and the relationship and let him take the lead more - I don't think he will oppress you and become a dominating maniac - though he might at times seem a bit too blokey but this is part of the male psyche and their standing with other guys/society.
Well, there's no relationship left & he has officially moved out. He has an online gf that he's planning to go visit in the Summer.
I actually do know what I want. I was willing to stay with him for the rest of my life. He's the one who chose to stray..
Hmm, what lead? He's the one who left me o.o. I do respect his male energy. In fact, I freely let him flirt with girls online, watch porn, hang out with friends, etc..
There's just nothing left & he chose another girl over me. No choice but to move on.
Drew some cards for you and adjusted the questions a bit, especially focussing on what it actually is you need from a relationship & what would do you well.
In general I get the impression you are drawn to relationships which are fierce, but also dramatic in a way. Different opinions, personality clashes, your basic movie where person A. And person B. are very much into each other, but cannot seem to make it work and get into a battle, because of the differences, etc. Point is, I get the feeling you think that is how the love should be (deep down) and I・m not convinced that is what actually suits you. Because it will get you into a lot of arguments (and I'm sure the 'make up' 'kitchen table'is great ;-), but...you can・t both be the boss. Especially if you both feel very convinced about different matters. For the type of man you need: a character who enjoys independent women, but will also be busy enough with his own life and is independent. He knows exactly where he stands in life and he would enjoy the same qualities in you. You need more equality in your relationships. Then you can love on an equal level. And that would be the relationship suiting you: one where things between you are cleared up instantly and both speak your mind loud and clear (if needed), and then you will just continue. In other words: an all calm, balanced, fair relationship, where both of you are just equally involved in with the same agenda/on the same page. Also, a more mature relationship than before. If this sounds boring, it's not, because it will deepen the love on all levels and make things easier.
So, what you need to do, to attract that kind of love: have a clear look at your definitions of .togetherness・ and joy together. It needs reviewing. Where does this come from? Have a look at what you learned about relationships in the past (perhaps even go as far back as the one your parents had, what did they teach you about love?) & redefine your outlook.
I saw someone else is also looking into your love life through cards, so just drew a few cards. Two knights popped up again. Question: 'what you need to know about your love life': knight swords + 6 cups. Are you too much in a hurry after, determined to get a lovely man, right here and now? If you need some time to adjust to the new situation, take it.Edit: forgot to mention, or is someone from the past/past lover trying to take you by storm? This is not the same man as mentioned after this -end of EDIT-
Upcoming (this reading style is generally around a month-6weeks): 4 pents, which I read as not able to completely let go of past/not able to really open up at an emotional level just yet. Knight pents on top. A calmer love interest entering your life with whom there is a possibility to .grow・ into the love more. More stable, and more directed at building (and maintaining) a future. Hope this resonates. Love to hear. Also please update! But I know you will
Work on redefining your outlook on 'being together'/'love' first though. If you deal with that, you attract the more stable & responsible guy.
Empress, sorry for jacking your thread :-(
quote:In general I get the impression you are drawn to relationships which are fierce, but also dramatic in a way. Different opinions, personality clashes, your basic movie where person A. And person B. are very much into each other, but cannot seem to make it work and get into a battle, because of the differences, etc. Point is, I get the feeling you think that is how the love should be (deep down) and I・m not convinced that is what actually suits you. Because it will get you into a lot of arguments (and I'm sure the 'make up' 'kitchen table'is great ;-), but...you can・t both be the boss. Especially if you both feel very convinced about different matters.
Hmm, I'll have to disagree with this a bit. I hate, hate, hate arguing with a significant other. I even block anyone online that tries to have a personal relationship with me, but wants to argue and doesn't properly communicate. I just hate disagreements & arguing when it comes to romantic relationships.
I agree 100% with the equality paragraph. That is what I want! Lol. Venus in Libra
Yes, someone from the past. He always comes up as Knight of Swords (Aquarius) and always get 6 of Cups also when asking about him. He's stubborn, lol. Rushing me into seeing him, but I'm still taking my time.
I think I am able to let go of the past. The opening up part is accurate. Could also mean I don't feel as secure as I should, or I'm trying to feel more secure before I get involved with someone. Knight of Pentacles sounds like my kind of guy, lol. Hopefully, I'm not this Knight?! For some reason Tarot loves to describe me as a Knight sometimes . I have even gotten described as Kings before -_-
Thanks Twirl. Will definitely update
Yes, sure Will be somewhere in the weekend though. Earliest on Friday First on list. Just post your questions. Maybe we can use your other thread for it?
On the arguing bit: I also received the emperor reversed there. Who is the one in relationships overbearing? If that's you (blocking people online, lol), I really think some flexibility would help. Do you listen to what your partners say, or do you listen and then dismiss it completely. If it really doesn't resonate, just dismiss that bit of course, but perhaps it may fall into place a bit later.
quote:Originally posted by EmpressMendez:Yes, someone from the past. He always comes up as Knight of Swords (Aquarius) and always get 6 of Cups also when asking about him. He's stubborn, lol. Rushing me into seeing him, but I'm still taking my time.)
Yes, someone from the past. He always comes up as Knight of Swords (Aquarius) and always get 6 of Cups also when asking about him. He's stubborn, lol. Rushing me into seeing him, but I'm still taking my time.)
Lol, okay. I'll wonder how this will evolve then.Any news about the proposal yet?
A couple of days ago M lied to me about something, and naturally I found out & confronted him. He kept lying about it when I already knew the truth. Then, the next day I asked him why he was ignoring me and he said I was a jerk/ass**** so you see..that I cannot tolerate, lol. I said fine..& just deleted everything that had to do with him. Why deal with someone like that? They are wrong, so why can't they just come clean about it?
No proposal yet. Trust me I will update if it happens, hehe
quote:Originally posted by EmpressMendez:I try A couple of days ago M lied to me about something, and naturally I found out & confronted him. He kept lying about it when I already knew the truth. Then, the next day I asked him why he was ignoring me and he said I was a jerk/ass**** so you see..that I cannot tolerate, lol. I said fine..& just deleted everything that had to do with him. Why deal with someone like that? They are wrong, so why can't they just come clean about it?
Lol, yes! I agree. And it also so fits the description of what relationship you actually need I hope the right knight rides in soon
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