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T O P I C R E V I E WblueskyI suffer with these and have had a breakdown every other year since 2013 starting around August time. Typically the time before then has been one of heightened activity - then comes the crash. Due to relationship/ job loss. Not this Thursday, but a week ago, I drank too much, broke some teeth. I could be looking at 4 root canals and just don't have the money. Come from a broken family and my father does not have any money. Ex-husband tried to strangle me, although I am pushing for a lawsuit against him and my evil mother. Cannot work now - I worked 7 days a week for a year, nearly killed me. Then I lost my job. When is this going to stop? Like I said, there is a pattern, exactly the same time of year every 2 years. I am getting some counselling but it seems the pattern is more cyclic than anything else - I have been told I need HRT. Can anyone explain? RandallBump!JazabelJust stay strong and try to stay out of trouble. 70% of what you said above could be avoided if you stay grounded and soberblueskyI was told yesterday it was likely I had a brain tumour. I feel like I have been shot. These last 5 years (from 37/38y) I have felt like someone was out to kill me. Whatever, I'm not having treatment. Ain't no-one operating on my brain. I have taught people who were operated on because of brain tumours, and I don't want to end up like that. I'd rather take a crowdfunded one-way trip to Dignitas, thanks very much! mirage29{{{{{Bluesky!! }}}}} *hug-hold* PixieJaneIt's not unusual for people with PTSD to have "anniversaries" where things get really bad. I was an example of that, though it was annual, not every other year. I was attacked in October which set off yearly nightmares that made it hard to sleep. Because of that I tended to act out or with little sense in those times due to being sleep-deprived and anxious (causing me to second-guess myself when I shouldn't have even as I treated others as a threat who were not), which then compounded that time with more trauma in a vicious cycle. Naturally, being in a broken home or other vulnerable situation makes you an attractive target to users and abusers because you're much less likely to seek help, or to get it even if you do (and some are experts at making you feel the love you don't get at home). And if you wind up on the streets or locked up (especially as a kid) as I did for both, which is real easy to have happen in that situation, then it just gets so much worse, which in turns makes you even more attractive as a target to most users and abusers.I personally did not find psychiatry helpful (ironically, part of my PTSD comes from having been locked up in an abusive mental hospital that was scamming the insurance of parents, though I was picked because I kicked a boy in the face as he wouldn't stop goosing me during the October month when I was sleep deprived and adrenaline flooded, thus one more layer to my October nightmares and such), but I did find a PTSD support group helpful as we found ways to encourage each other to overcome our demons and destructive patterns. And the most helpful to me was when I tried self-hypnosis to stop terrible nightmares (not only terrible in of themselves, but causing me to wake up in a state of adrenaline and panic which was dangerous to me and those around me). This took years (and got creepy, as if my nightmares were fighting back to keep their power over me) but it eventually worked, and at the same time my PTSD also waned. I came to realize that my PTSD was my brain "stuck in time" so to speak. In the nightmares that meant doors couldn't lock (as I couldn't lock people out as a child), weapons didn't work (which I was not able to make ample use of as a child for the most part), I couldn't really run (as I couldn't as a child), and as I realized that my nightmares were stuck in that childhood position I changed my self-hypnosis from trying to change the scripts of my nightmares to helping my inner-child grow up who had the power I lacked as a child, to help that part of my brain become "unstuck," and I believe that was what helped me the most, more than I expected it to. It still took years, though.mirage29I am 100% behind what you just said, PJ.*PJ ... dropped the mic* blueskyHmmm.... Thinking on what y'all just said. My PTSD may take police/ legal intervention in order to get me some vindication, it may take some time, but I can wait. Also looking to move somewhere which will be cheaper for me. Verbal promises of work... but I need the black and white printed version. I agree PTSD continues to play in your mind. It is like a neverending record. The only way of curing it is by talking to people who can help talk you out of it. People who can help move you on. People who will be kind to you and not hurt you. Seek out these people and resist those who would not...or act towards those who would not in such a way that they do not harm you...mirage29Forgot!! that you said you were diagnosed with a brain tumor... I am sooo deeply sorry for that.I hope you will get the funding to go to the hospice that you mentioned. blueskyNobody is operating on my brain. They need to do an MRI scan to confirm the nature, but they also said it could have been there for a long, long, long time. Right frontal lobe (which deals with emotional regulation, so could explain why I am the way I am). Tumours can cause psychiatric ailments and this could in fact be the reason why I was so depressed recently and why I had a fall. I am very glad to see the back of 2017. The last day today, hurrah!blueskyAnother thing...I wouldn't really want to go to Dignitas either...only if living got actually practically impossible. Lots of people have brain tumours and don't know about them. Many times they have been found only through post mortems. Frontal lobe tumours can be silent in the brain for many years. They don't have to cause headaches, but can cause symptoms which mimic other diseases and in fact can be misdiagnosed. Everyone who mistreated me because of this condition, I'm sure has a lot of karma coming their way!mirage29Wishing you good and Positive change of fortunes, Bluesky. Happy New Year 2018 to you.. blueskyI had another faint/ fall just over a week ago, and they did another CT scan. They said " you have no such thing as a brain tumour, but your jaw is fractured in 2 places. But we can't do anything, because we didn't pick it up the first time". No wonder I couldn't eat anything for 5 days. That is the NHS (UK) for you. People are saying I should sue for negligence, but several weeks and 1 root canal later, on balance I think my own self-care has been better, I think, than the prospect of getting my jaw wired shut under the preserve of the NHS. Probably one of the most nightmare Merc retro cycles I had in years (last root canal, in my other front tooth, was in Merc retro). Very interesting how some of the confusion starts to clear once these damned phases are over (I am ruled by Merc, as my Asc is in Virgo and this retro was likely squaring my Asc). blueskyA work colleague of mine also suicided during this time, by throwing himself off the top of a car parking garage at 3 am, which nearly sent me off the rails. I spent 2 weeks trying to rationalize why he might have done what he did, and at the end of it just broke down in tears. He was a very clever and quiet Sagittarius, foreign but with perfect English and a flawless employee, the last time I saw him he was witty and funny and I thought, beginning to come out of his shell. You just have to ask yourself why. mirage29 ... ~absurd irresponsibility (medical).and, omg!! sooo tragic about your coworker--I 'know' how that feels.. Makes an impact, for sure...Sends you back in the past, regarding that relationship, where you scrounge and pick at every memory, wondering ...Stay Strong, Bluesky.We're pluggin' for you!! Do you practice a belief system?Prayers?Whether or not you 'belong' to them, there ARE some strong prayer support places there in the UK.I've mentioned one of those in this DivDiv thread-- this page.- http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum21/HTML/000686-2.html I happen to know that there are non-denominational churches there who might be of assistance with some of the things you've mentioned.Get PrayerConnected. RandallBump!
Typically the time before then has been one of heightened activity - then comes the crash. Due to relationship/ job loss.
Not this Thursday, but a week ago, I drank too much, broke some teeth. I could be looking at 4 root canals and just don't have the money.
Come from a broken family and my father does not have any money. Ex-husband tried to strangle me, although I am pushing for a lawsuit against him and my evil mother. Cannot work now - I worked 7 days a week for a year, nearly killed me. Then I lost my job.
When is this going to stop? Like I said, there is a pattern, exactly the same time of year every 2 years.
I am getting some counselling but it seems the pattern is more cyclic than anything else - I have been told I need HRT.
Can anyone explain?
These last 5 years (from 37/38y) I have felt like someone was out to kill me.
Whatever, I'm not having treatment. Ain't no-one operating on my brain. I have taught people who were operated on because of brain tumours, and I don't want to end up like that. I'd rather take a crowdfunded one-way trip to Dignitas, thanks very much!
*hug-hold*
I was an example of that, though it was annual, not every other year. I was attacked in October which set off yearly nightmares that made it hard to sleep. Because of that I tended to act out or with little sense in those times due to being sleep-deprived and anxious (causing me to second-guess myself when I shouldn't have even as I treated others as a threat who were not), which then compounded that time with more trauma in a vicious cycle.
Naturally, being in a broken home or other vulnerable situation makes you an attractive target to users and abusers because you're much less likely to seek help, or to get it even if you do (and some are experts at making you feel the love you don't get at home). And if you wind up on the streets or locked up (especially as a kid) as I did for both, which is real easy to have happen in that situation, then it just gets so much worse, which in turns makes you even more attractive as a target to most users and abusers.
I personally did not find psychiatry helpful (ironically, part of my PTSD comes from having been locked up in an abusive mental hospital that was scamming the insurance of parents, though I was picked because I kicked a boy in the face as he wouldn't stop goosing me during the October month when I was sleep deprived and adrenaline flooded, thus one more layer to my October nightmares and such), but I did find a PTSD support group helpful as we found ways to encourage each other to overcome our demons and destructive patterns.
And the most helpful to me was when I tried self-hypnosis to stop terrible nightmares (not only terrible in of themselves, but causing me to wake up in a state of adrenaline and panic which was dangerous to me and those around me). This took years (and got creepy, as if my nightmares were fighting back to keep their power over me) but it eventually worked, and at the same time my PTSD also waned. I came to realize that my PTSD was my brain "stuck in time" so to speak. In the nightmares that meant doors couldn't lock (as I couldn't lock people out as a child), weapons didn't work (which I was not able to make ample use of as a child for the most part), I couldn't really run (as I couldn't as a child), and as I realized that my nightmares were stuck in that childhood position I changed my self-hypnosis from trying to change the scripts of my nightmares to helping my inner-child grow up who had the power I lacked as a child, to help that part of my brain become "unstuck," and I believe that was what helped me the most, more than I expected it to. It still took years, though.
*PJ ... dropped the mic*
Thinking on what y'all just said.
My PTSD may take police/ legal intervention in order to get me some vindication, it may take some time, but I can wait.
Also looking to move somewhere which will be cheaper for me.
Verbal promises of work... but I need the black and white printed version.
I agree PTSD continues to play in your mind. It is like a neverending record. The only way of curing it is by talking to people who can help talk you out of it.
People who can help move you on. People who will be kind to you and not hurt you.
Seek out these people and resist those who would not...or act towards those who would not in such a way that they do not harm you...
I am sooo deeply sorry for that.
I hope you will get the funding to go to the hospice that you mentioned.
They need to do an MRI scan to confirm the nature, but they also said it could have been there for a long, long, long time. Right frontal lobe (which deals with emotional regulation, so could explain why I am the way I am). Tumours can cause psychiatric ailments and this could in fact be the reason why I was so depressed recently and why I had a fall.
I am very glad to see the back of 2017. The last day today, hurrah!
Lots of people have brain tumours and don't know about them. Many times they have been found only through post mortems.
Frontal lobe tumours can be silent in the brain for many years. They don't have to cause headaches, but can cause symptoms which mimic other diseases and in fact can be misdiagnosed.
Everyone who mistreated me because of this condition, I'm sure has a lot of karma coming their way!
Happy New Year 2018 to you..
They said " you have no such thing as a brain tumour, but your jaw is fractured in 2 places. But we can't do anything, because we didn't pick it up the first time".
No wonder I couldn't eat anything for 5 days. That is the NHS (UK) for you.
People are saying I should sue for negligence, but several weeks and 1 root canal later, on balance I think my own self-care has been better, I think, than the prospect of getting my jaw wired shut under the preserve of the NHS.
Probably one of the most nightmare Merc retro cycles I had in years (last root canal, in my other front tooth, was in Merc retro).
Very interesting how some of the confusion starts to clear once these damned phases are over (I am ruled by Merc, as my Asc is in Virgo and this retro was likely squaring my Asc).
I spent 2 weeks trying to rationalize why he might have done what he did, and at the end of it just broke down in tears. He was a very clever and quiet Sagittarius, foreign but with perfect English and a flawless employee, the last time I saw him he was witty and funny and I thought, beginning to come out of his shell.
You just have to ask yourself why.
~absurd irresponsibility (medical).
and, omg!! sooo tragic about your coworker--I 'know' how that feels.. Makes an impact, for sure...Sends you back in the past, regarding that relationship, where you scrounge and pick at every memory, wondering ...
Stay Strong, Bluesky.We're pluggin' for you!!
Do you practice a belief system?Prayers?
Whether or not you 'belong' to them, there ARE some strong prayer support places there in the UK.
I've mentioned one of those in this DivDiv thread-- this page.- http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum21/HTML/000686-2.html
I happen to know that there are non-denominational churches there who might be of assistance with some of the things you've mentioned.
Get PrayerConnected.
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