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T O P I C R E V I E Wbrowneyes42I am a Capricon female with Venus in Scorpio and in an awkward relationship with a Pisces male with Venus in Aquarius.We met almost 3 years ago (online). We decided to meet after 2 and half years and we met. We enjoyed our first face-to-face meeting and hung out for couple of days. We didn't have any physical activities nor any emotional talks, but we held hands and a kiss on the cheek.Afterward, he said he felt pushed to take on the next step which he really don't want to. I tried to confront him with talks about what went wrong, but nothing works. We're still pretty much talking to each other everyday, but I'm having a big question mark in my head.Please advise. browneyes42I also want to add these...- when he is really happy, he comes to me- when something good happened, he text me right away- when he wants to chat with me, he won't let me do anything elseHe used to ask me things about me, my opinions about things, my opinions on how he should decide on things... sounded like I was his girlfriend. These days, he stopped telling me what he was thinking, only told me about it if I asked him.Have he lost all the interests in me? Why he acts distant one minute and then acts really concern another minute? Maybe it's Pisces trait, but what can I do to let him know that I feel so confused and want something solid but won't scare him away?Please help.amelia28 quote:Originally posted by browneyes42:I also want to add these...- when he is really happy, he comes to me- when something good happened, he text me right away- when he wants to chat with me, he won't let me do anything elseHe used to ask me things about me, my opinions about things, my opinions on how he should decide on things... sounded like I was his girlfriend. These days, he stopped telling me what he was thinking, only told me about it if I asked him.Have he lost all the interests in me? Why he acts distant one minute and then acts really concern another minute? Maybe it's Pisces trait, but what can I do to let him know that I feel so confused and want something solid but won't scare him away?Please help.I think that aquarius in venus and the fact that he is pisces is why he has stepped away ever since the relationship has becomed more real. He probably did have feelings for you because it was safe to have feelings for you since you lived far away so there was not a real threat to his freedom. He probably still has feelings for you but he will make his feelings for you decrease on purpose bec his freedom is been challenged and he is not uncomfortable with been single so he will consciously or unconsciously make himself have less feelings for you now that things are more real so that he can keep his freedom. The more serious he thinks you are the more he is likely to back off now. He is not a bad person and probably good as friend and lover but some people are born to be single. This opinion is based on my recent experience with an Aquarius who has sun-moon midpoint in Pisces, moon in aries conjunct his mars, sag in venus, NN in aries, and eros in aries. Given that this person has a lot of aries in him this advice may or may not apply to your situation but I decided to share it with you in case advice helps you in any way.Koda1969I had a (somewhat) similiar experience with Pisces that I asked advice on not that long ago. Never having dated a Pisces, I wasn't used to his demeanor so I too was confused. For me, the lack of intimacy clinched that it wasn't going to work. I'm not saying that a man should want to bed you immediately, but I do think there is something to be said for when after a decent amount of time, the intimacy doesn't progress (for whatever reason). For me, it was only two short-lived months, and then he stopped calling. I never called him, and haven't heard from him since. My advice would be to go with your gut, because if you feel something is off, it just may be. I hope in your case, it isn't, but for me, his glaring inability to be intimate told me to get out before my heart was broken!browneyes42Thanks for the advice, amelia28 and Koda1969.These days, I have been going with the flow. I think he doesn't know what he wants in a relationship (due to his never had any before, but just an attempt to start one, and got rejected and humiliated).I think he was disappointed the turn out of our meeting. He had this romantic picture in his mind and it didn't match, so he kind of giving up.I told him that my romantic side has been shut off for a while so it's kind of rusty. So, I told him that I would like to meet him again and we could try once more in October. He agreed immediately but seems a bit pull away these days. Seems like his work occupy most of his time (some drama happened at his work and forced him to step up to take on more work), he talks about what happened at work to me everyday and he feels really drained from it, so I don't want to add more pressure about our situation. I feel like he wants me to just be there for him right now and that's what I am going to do right now.Thanks for the kind advice again and let's hope there will be light at the end of this road. Koda1969 quote:Originally posted by browneyes42:I think he was disappointed the turn out of our meeting. He had this romantic picture in his mind and it didn't match, so he kind of giving up.For some reason, this quote struck me, and I wanted to comment. I, too, have felt the way you do and made statements similiar to you. But, you know. At a very base level, and it has nothing to do with a person's sign, we should be able to be who we are and liked for that. I know that in the past, my insecurity got the better of me, and each time, I wound up unhappy because I felt I didn't measure up.We DO measure up, as we are. Flaws and all, and the RIGHT person will actually enjoy being with us when we are honest and not trying to live up to other's expectations. If he had an image in his head, and you (or the date) didn't match that, well, the truth is, HE is the one with the problems. A good person sees a person's soul and likes them for who they are, not imagined scenarios.The only reason I say this, is do not berate yourself. You seem like a good person, and you deserve to be happy and with someone who is emotionally mature enough to respect you. If you are good with going with the flow, then let it flow, I did that too. But, don't ever sell yourself short browneyes42 quote:A good person sees a person's soul and likes them for who they are, not imagined scenarios.The only reason I say this, is do not berate yourself. You seem like a good person, and you deserve to be happy and with someone who is emotionally mature enough to respect you. If you are good with going with the flow, then let it flow, I did that too. But, don't ever sell yourself shortThanks! I will keep your advice with me everywhere I go, or flow in this case browneyes42Hey Koda, I just went to look for your post and read it. We are very close at age, although our Sun signs aren't the same but we are both having a Pisces problem (if you are still in touch with yours). Maybe we can share more about our Pisces men. What do you think? Koda1969 quote:Originally posted by browneyes42:Hey Koda, I just went to look for your post and read it. We are very close at age, although our Sun signs aren't the same but we are both having a Pisces problem (if you are still in touch with yours). Maybe we can share more about our Pisces men. What do you think? Well, I'd be glad to offer my insight, although my problem is no longer a problem because he's gone. I started dating an Aries, and am MUCH happier hehe He is the exact opposite of the Pisces I dated...he was upfront when we met that he liked me, we had great chemistry and so far, it's been loads of fun to date him. The Pisces guy just vanished (and I'm not pursuing him). I guess that's why I offered the earlier advice I did, because all too often I've ended up with men who were non-demonstrative and I blamed myself, which is why I ditched the Pisces finally. But I'd be glad to share an insights I may have come across. Also, I have a good friend at work whose partner is Pisces and when I told him what I was dealing with, he said he knew exactly what I was talking about, so I'd be glad to share what I learned from him.browneyes42Lucky you, you have found someone you are very happy with. quote:Also, I have a good friend at work whose partner is Pisces and when I told him what I was dealing with, he said he knew exactly what I was talking about, so I'd be glad to share what I learned from him.I would love to hear from your friend's experience.starzy54When i first read your post up at the top,I thought i wrote it.I am a Cap female,with a Venus in Scorpio,and i am in a relationship with a Pisces male who has a Venus in Aquarius also! talk about similarities.Though he also has a Mars in Scorpio and is a bit more aggressive with his feelings.He has actually been the one to push his feelings on me quite strongly,from the get go.I may have been lucky in this situation as i hear Pisces men are usually very confusing and odd to make out.But he has been clear fortunately,but does have his nights where he is more of a "friend" than a actual partner/lover..he needs his space,and when i give it to him,he comes running back to me.We'r engaged now for just about 2 years,and have been a actual couple for over 4 years.My advice to you,is sometimes you just have to set them free,and if they truly care for you,they will come back.I can definetly see you mean something to him as he shares his mind with you,and asks for your opinions,and calls you.Go with the flow and keep your spirits up. browneyes42Wow, starzy54! My Pisces has a Mars in Libra, and I thought Libra is very open about their feelings. Or I am wrong. I am glad to learn that there are successful relationship between Capricorn and Pisces (like yours). I am still learning as I go and go with the flow, good times and bad times.Thanks for sharing such positive experience browneyes42I need some advice, please help!Last night, he asked me if I could go visit him in October, he said he needs someone to help him study for a test which will get him up the ladder at work. I don't know if that's a call for help from a friend or is a romantic call. What's with that?More interesting thing is, I haven't been pushing about our second meeting in person for at least a month, and I mentioned I would like to see him again in October. Maybe he is reminding me what is my plan for the meet up?I am so confused.
We met almost 3 years ago (online). We decided to meet after 2 and half years and we met. We enjoyed our first face-to-face meeting and hung out for couple of days. We didn't have any physical activities nor any emotional talks, but we held hands and a kiss on the cheek.
Afterward, he said he felt pushed to take on the next step which he really don't want to. I tried to confront him with talks about what went wrong, but nothing works. We're still pretty much talking to each other everyday, but I'm having a big question mark in my head.
Please advise.
- when he is really happy, he comes to me- when something good happened, he text me right away- when he wants to chat with me, he won't let me do anything else
He used to ask me things about me, my opinions about things, my opinions on how he should decide on things... sounded like I was his girlfriend. These days, he stopped telling me what he was thinking, only told me about it if I asked him.
Have he lost all the interests in me? Why he acts distant one minute and then acts really concern another minute? Maybe it's Pisces trait, but what can I do to let him know that I feel so confused and want something solid but won't scare him away?
Please help.
quote:Originally posted by browneyes42:I also want to add these...- when he is really happy, he comes to me- when something good happened, he text me right away- when he wants to chat with me, he won't let me do anything elseHe used to ask me things about me, my opinions about things, my opinions on how he should decide on things... sounded like I was his girlfriend. These days, he stopped telling me what he was thinking, only told me about it if I asked him.Have he lost all the interests in me? Why he acts distant one minute and then acts really concern another minute? Maybe it's Pisces trait, but what can I do to let him know that I feel so confused and want something solid but won't scare him away?Please help.
I think that aquarius in venus and the fact that he is pisces is why he has stepped away ever since the relationship has becomed more real. He probably did have feelings for you because it was safe to have feelings for you since you lived far away so there was not a real threat to his freedom. He probably still has feelings for you but he will make his feelings for you decrease on purpose bec his freedom is been challenged and he is not uncomfortable with been single so he will consciously or unconsciously make himself have less feelings for you now that things are more real so that he can keep his freedom. The more serious he thinks you are the more he is likely to back off now. He is not a bad person and probably good as friend and lover but some people are born to be single. This opinion is based on my recent experience with an Aquarius who has sun-moon midpoint in Pisces, moon in aries conjunct his mars, sag in venus, NN in aries, and eros in aries. Given that this person has a lot of aries in him this advice may or may not apply to your situation but I decided to share it with you in case advice helps you in any way.
These days, I have been going with the flow. I think he doesn't know what he wants in a relationship (due to his never had any before, but just an attempt to start one, and got rejected and humiliated).
I think he was disappointed the turn out of our meeting. He had this romantic picture in his mind and it didn't match, so he kind of giving up.
I told him that my romantic side has been shut off for a while so it's kind of rusty. So, I told him that I would like to meet him again and we could try once more in October. He agreed immediately but seems a bit pull away these days. Seems like his work occupy most of his time (some drama happened at his work and forced him to step up to take on more work), he talks about what happened at work to me everyday and he feels really drained from it, so I don't want to add more pressure about our situation. I feel like he wants me to just be there for him right now and that's what I am going to do right now.
Thanks for the kind advice again and let's hope there will be light at the end of this road.
quote:Originally posted by browneyes42:I think he was disappointed the turn out of our meeting. He had this romantic picture in his mind and it didn't match, so he kind of giving up.
For some reason, this quote struck me, and I wanted to comment. I, too, have felt the way you do and made statements similiar to you. But, you know. At a very base level, and it has nothing to do with a person's sign, we should be able to be who we are and liked for that. I know that in the past, my insecurity got the better of me, and each time, I wound up unhappy because I felt I didn't measure up.We DO measure up, as we are. Flaws and all, and the RIGHT person will actually enjoy being with us when we are honest and not trying to live up to other's expectations. If he had an image in his head, and you (or the date) didn't match that, well, the truth is, HE is the one with the problems. A good person sees a person's soul and likes them for who they are, not imagined scenarios.The only reason I say this, is do not berate yourself. You seem like a good person, and you deserve to be happy and with someone who is emotionally mature enough to respect you. If you are good with going with the flow, then let it flow, I did that too. But, don't ever sell yourself short
quote:A good person sees a person's soul and likes them for who they are, not imagined scenarios.The only reason I say this, is do not berate yourself. You seem like a good person, and you deserve to be happy and with someone who is emotionally mature enough to respect you. If you are good with going with the flow, then let it flow, I did that too. But, don't ever sell yourself short
Thanks! I will keep your advice with me everywhere I go, or flow in this case
quote:Originally posted by browneyes42:Hey Koda, I just went to look for your post and read it. We are very close at age, although our Sun signs aren't the same but we are both having a Pisces problem (if you are still in touch with yours). Maybe we can share more about our Pisces men. What do you think?
Well, I'd be glad to offer my insight, although my problem is no longer a problem because he's gone. I started dating an Aries, and am MUCH happier hehe He is the exact opposite of the Pisces I dated...he was upfront when we met that he liked me, we had great chemistry and so far, it's been loads of fun to date him. The Pisces guy just vanished (and I'm not pursuing him). I guess that's why I offered the earlier advice I did, because all too often I've ended up with men who were non-demonstrative and I blamed myself, which is why I ditched the Pisces finally. But I'd be glad to share an insights I may have come across. Also, I have a good friend at work whose partner is Pisces and when I told him what I was dealing with, he said he knew exactly what I was talking about, so I'd be glad to share what I learned from him.
quote:Also, I have a good friend at work whose partner is Pisces and when I told him what I was dealing with, he said he knew exactly what I was talking about, so I'd be glad to share what I learned from him.
I would love to hear from your friend's experience.
I am a Cap female,with a Venus in Scorpio,and i am in a relationship with a Pisces male who has a Venus in Aquarius also! talk about similarities.Though he also has a Mars in Scorpio and is a bit more aggressive with his feelings.
He has actually been the one to push his feelings on me quite strongly,from the get go.I may have been lucky in this situation as i hear Pisces men are usually very confusing and odd to make out.But he has been clear fortunately,but does have his nights where he is more of a "friend" than a actual partner/lover..he needs his space,and when i give it to him,he comes running back to me.We'r engaged now for just about 2 years,and have been a actual couple for over 4 years.
My advice to you,is sometimes you just have to set them free,and if they truly care for you,they will come back.I can definetly see you mean something to him as he shares his mind with you,and asks for your opinions,and calls you.Go with the flow and keep your spirits up.
I am glad to learn that there are successful relationship between Capricorn and Pisces (like yours). I am still learning as I go and go with the flow, good times and bad times.
Thanks for sharing such positive experience
Last night, he asked me if I could go visit him in October, he said he needs someone to help him study for a test which will get him up the ladder at work. I don't know if that's a call for help from a friend or is a romantic call. What's with that?
More interesting thing is, I haven't been pushing about our second meeting in person for at least a month, and I mentioned I would like to see him again in October. Maybe he is reminding me what is my plan for the meet up?
I am so confused.
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