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Originally posted by tgem:
What's all your thoughts on soulmates coming into your life after some sort of tragedy to assist in smooth sailing? I have read God brings soulmates into our lives when we are physically, mentally and emotionally ready....does anyone have experience with this sort of thing happening?
Yes I believe soul mates come into our lives at a specific time, when they are some how needed..
Sometimes, it's short term just to kick ur butt into gear, sometimes it's longer to resolve some sort of karma..
I will share what I think is a short term soulmate story...
I don't have any aspects for the life of me, I can't remember his bday.. I just remember he's an Aries, his birthday is in early April.
I was at one if the worst times in my life, I was 20 with a 1yr old, I had just left the physically abusive relationship....
I was living in a hotel, with barely enough money to cover the room.. Struggling..
My mom had gotten into drugs.. And was basically useless.. I had no where to go.
I was extremely down on my self, from all of the physically and mental abuse I went through, plus I was struggling to survive and take care of my daughter.
I wanted nothing to do with men, or relationships... I was stuck, and not sure how to get my self out of this hotel... No job, no nothing, no self esteem...
My friends invited me to go to a wedding, to get away for a bit...
I didn't really want to go, but felt I needed some time just to forget...
So I went..
The wedding was pretty boring, we stayed for a while...
One if my friends said, lets just go back to my house and kick back in the garage and drink..
So we left....
Right when we were about to pull away, a car full of guys appeared... They talked to us, we told them where we were going... ( I was driving that night)
So they followed us back to my friends..
All my friends were in ahhhhhhh over this one guy... But not me, I saw this other guy, my eyes just locked on to him... I was immediately fascinated with him.. I could feel the gulp in my throat...
I felt odd about it, so I didn't really pay much attention to him... I tried not to stare.. Lol...
But I kept looking at him with the corner of my eye..never speaking to him directly I was only talking to the group.
A while later, one of my friends asked me to take her home... I said yes... We got up, she said I'm going home.. I said I'll be back going to drop her off..
That guy stood up and his very first words to me were "I'm going with you!!!!!" And he looked me dead in my eyes.. ( ha ha Aries)
I said ok...
We left,when we got to my car, someone had broken all the windows on my car, and on all the cars on the block.. I think my knees buckled...
I was devasted, with everything else going on, how in the world was I going to get new windows...
I broke down and just cried.. I couldn't take anymore.
He (a stranger basically) he hugged me... (him not knowing what else I was going through)
He said, it's ok.... It will just work out... He comforted me..
We took my friend home, and me and him spent an hour or so cleaning up all the glass...
We went back to my friends, and we talked all night..
At the end of the night, he asked me for my number, I didn't want to give it to him, cuz I was at a hotel and I was embarrassed... You have to go through the front desk to get the room..
I thought how can I tell this man, I'm homeless..
I was to ashamed to give him my number.
So I said, give me your number, I'll call u...
I called him,we set up plans to go out... He picked me up at a friends house..
I went to get in the car, I reached for the door, he said what are u doing?
I said I'm getting in the car, (ill never forget what he said)
He said look I'm the man, and it's up to me to show u respect and open the door for such a beauty.. He said a true man will show respect, haven't you been shown respect before????
I said, I don't think so....
We continued to date and go out, each time he showed me how your truly suppose to be treated, not only as a female, but as a person... He gave me my self esteem back, and the strength to get my butt in gear to get out of the hotel..
I did tell him, my whole story, the abuse,me being homeless... Everything....
He guided me to a new path of self discovery....
After about 2 months it ended between us, but it was necessary for it to end, so I can move forward with getting myself together...
When it ended, I was sad, I felt the loss, and I didn't want to be in the hotel anymore.. I didn't want to live that way...
I got my butt in gear and got the heck out of that h e l l hole of a hotel...
I still cherish this man, I cherish what he did for me, and him showing me the light..
That your not "suppose" to be abused or treated bad, there ARE men in this world that don't treat women like that... He gave me my faith back...
I've never let anyone abuse me ever again, and I am no ones victim..
The way I see it
He found me wondering in the tunnel of darkness, he came along held my hand, and showed me the way out of the tunnel.. He took me to the light at the end of the tunnel, he stayed with me until I reached the light..
Once I came out of the tunnel, I saw birds and bees, trees, and rainbows...
I saw a whole new world... Besides what was in the tunnel of darkness.
Then I turned to look for him and he vanished into thin air, cuz he had done his job, what he was meant to do...
Maybe it's delusional, but that's ok... I need that...
My knight in shinning armor!!