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Jessica2407 | What would you do in the name of love? How selfless you are prepared to be? and Has love changed you from the person you were before he/she/it came into your life? |
12muddy | I've been thinking about similar topics since yesterday. I don't want to admit this, but in the name of "love" I'd pretty much do anything. Being in love has changed me. It has almost erased my sense of self. That makes me feel vulnerable but oddly empowered at the same time. I kinda dislike it sometimes, coz it makes me feel like I'm a slave to my emotions.
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Kerosene | To me love is when you would do anything for that person.. and I have done that in the past. I've been in a lot of my relationships and in the back of my head I always thought.... I like this person but they are so replaceable... and eventually I would get bored.
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PixieJane | quote: Originally posted by Jessica2407: What would you do in the name of love? How selfless you are prepared to be?
Offhand I can't think of a way to answer that which isn't TLDR so I'll just say I'm prepared to be selfless in all sorts of way, even up to dying (and possibly killing when it wouldn't be legal to do so in extreme and/or vigilante circumstances) and not even demand the favor be returned (I might even forbid it), OTOH there are still other limits (for example, I have yet to meet someone I love someone so much that I'd overlook habitual or extreme cruelty to pets or children) or that I wouldn't THINK about what I was doing quote: Originally posted by Jessica2407: Has love changed you from the person you were before he/she/it came into your life?
Yes. And not just friends, lovers, and kids, but even a cat has changed to how I'm used to thinking at times. |
Barbiegirl19 | To me love is doing anything for a person and being there for the person when they need it. It's waking up next to the person and telling them you love them every morning. Or going to your nieces kindergarten graduation or to your grandmas 80th birthday party. To me love is all of the smaller things in life that you get to share with a person. I thought I was in love a few times and those few times have definitely changed me and made me a stronger and somewhat more protective person of my feelings. I let people grow on me now and don't ever let them in until they've earned it. Hope this makes sense to someone |
PixieJane | It occurs to me that I'm changing and growing all the time anyway. People I love are part of that growth, of course, but not necessary for it. I'd have gone down another path without them, however, and thus changed differently. I have contemplated the idea of living the life of a hermit one day, especially as I get older. It's not in the cards right now, but if something were to happen to many whom I love or otherwise felt I was unnecessary to them I think I might just to see what it was like and how THAT would help me grow as well (and I have some ideas of what I'd like to try). |
Ami Anne | quote: Originally posted by Kerosene: To me love is when you would do anything for that person.. and I have done that in the past.I've been in a lot of my relationships and in the back of my head I always thought.... I like this person but they are so replaceable... and eventually I would get bored.
Yes, I hear you K
I have a few relationships that are totally non replaceable, though. My grandmother has never been replaced. She died many years ago and I still cry every time I talk about her. She gave me as pure of an unconditional love as you can get. I am crying as I write this. To me, when I am weak and vulnerable and someone helps me, I never forget it. Everyone can be your friend when you are riding high.
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Odette | I would do anything in the name of love - for my dog, and for my closest friends/family. I don't feel like I would do more or less for a friend who I am also in love with.... which is basically my definition of "romantic partner".I never really romanticise love-relationships.. because they are not more meaningful to me than friendships and the relationships I have with family members. I'm not the girl who puts her partner on pedestal.. I'm the opposite of that girl! But I'm very loving - I just don't discriminate. For instance, I wouldn't say that I love my partner more than I love my parents... or vice versa.. or that I love my dog more than I love my best friend. Although they are different kinds of love but one is not lesser than the other. |
Zander916 | I've been pretty selfless in the past but it bit me in the @ss too. That was kind of my fault in a way too. I let them take advantage. I think there is a line to be drawn there. I have Venus square Neptune so I think that might play into it??? |
YoursTrulyAlways | Perpetual shameless promotion. I did defend her against a hoodlum of eight. Even though I had skills, they still beat me up pretty well since there were eight of them. But I stood my ground against small knives for my wife to be. |
Kerosene | You promote yourself all the time. |
Jessica2407 | Do you all want to know how I test if a guy is kindhearted or not? I introduce him to my dog If I can't actually do that I'll talk about my dog for hours with him
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Zander916 | quote: Originally posted by Jessica2407: Do you all want to know how I test if a guy is kindhearted or not?I introduce him to my dog If I can't actually do that I'll talk about my dog for hours with him
Ha! I happen to love dogs and the only dogs that I've found to not like me are the tiny little yappers that don't like anyone. LOL Even then I've gotten a few to come around.
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Randall | Love takes work like anything else. A relationship requires nurturing. |
Randall | Love can be both selfish and selfless. |
Jessica2407 | ^ Yes, very true. But isn't it human nature? |
libraschoice77 | Have done alot in the name of love, almost to much so where I lost apart of myself within relationships, my middle name should be selfless...for me love is incredibly important, if that aspect of my life doesnt go well then I really feel it in other areas. Sometimes I wish it wasnt so important to me as I would have avoided heartache in my life. But because of this constant romantic mentality I did find someone to love that actually loves me back. Dont know if anyone here has seen the movie Splash(1980s) where Daryl Hannah is a mermaid and falls in love with a human man(cue Tom Hanks) and becomes human herself for a few days just to be with him...almost that extent of love, even though its just a movie and I was never a mermaid. I feel like something is missing without love in my life, I point the finger at my Libra with many Cancer placements making me this way. Along with too many Danelle Steele novels in my time. |
Lexxigramer | quote: Originally posted by Randall: Love takes work like anything else. A relationship requires nurturing.
True. |
Randall | Is love strength? Or weakness? |
Ceridwen | Allowing yourself being weak in front of someone is one of the greatest strengths and takes a lot of courage imo. But probably i do not even mean "weakness" (don`t like the judgementalism of the term anyway), but I guess what I really mean is vulnerability. Personally I think that only love can make me do that. So I`d phrase it this way: "Weakness is the strength of love"
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Ceridwen | dp |
MetalAphrodite | Love seems like strength to me. Two peoplewho are evenly matched with the same skills, one has nothing to live for and the other is defending someone else, I believe the one who is protecting another person will exert self beyond his or her limits to protect the other person. My kid is my saving grace. She keeps me proactive and on the ball when it comes to trekking through stormy times. Even if I feel like collapsing, I always find that extra bit of strength to keep moving forward. I want to be someone she can always rely on through the good and the bad. It's because of her that I find the courage to seek balance. |
MetalAphrodite | I wanted to add that I believe love is supposed to be a positive experience. If a person or situation causes you to behave in a negative manner, that "love" may be some form of insecurity. |