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T O P I C R E V I E WcharlieNot only do my friends have issues like no other but I have a brother I have never met and my mom refuses to give me info.He is supposedly 5 years older than I, so 42.My Q is: if you were someone´s brother/sister (unknowingly) and then this sister/brother popped up out of the blue, would this be a good or bad thing for you??I have kinda felt his presence for a year (I have NEVER met him, seen him once when I was 12 or so) and I am wondering why this feeling is in me. Maybe he needs help or somehow knows I exist??Oh...I also think my view on men and how I treat them would change for the better if I had a brother or someone to look up to. I can be wrong in this. 12muddyI always like having siblings but mine didn't survive so I guess I'd like if one suddenly popped out. Wait... well he/she would have to be my full brother/sister, otherwise it would cause complications. My parents would seriously try to off each other. It'd be cool, especially if he/she liked me too... YoursTrulyAlwaysYour life isn't a joke.A male role model would be nice but isn't necessary.Your life is what you make of it. Be strong.ScorpiocatCharlie is there anyone else you could get some information from? Seeing as you were told about him, you have a right to know more, If it were me I'd want to find him.StarlightSmileSupremeIf an unknown sibling appeared out of the blue and into my life would I be okay with it? I cannot give a concise answer. If he was a trouble making, no good cretin I wouldn't be okay with it. If he was a wonderful, kind, caring person I would be thrilled to know I am related to at least one person who is. That would please me to no end and I would be happy to know such a relative.So, it is a matter of what this unknown sibling is all about because I have had my share of encounters with people who appear sorta heartless and unconcerned. It's like I am a patch of super glue for these types and they will put on a false front at first, appearing to be concerned and nice only to get something out of it which I don't really feel like giving a lot of the time, then they hold it against me. A genuine type who has no ulterior motive would indeed be a refreshing change over the bitter, what's-in-it-for-me self servers.Desiring ShadowsThis is a good thing for you!! It means you have a brother. How wonderful is that?? I wouldn't be mad at my mom for not telling me. I would just respect her decision and inquire more about him!If she doesn't tell you, I would be hurt. and probably, knowing me, not want to take no for answer, but still it is her decision and you should respect it. I think you shouldn't place who you look up to on somebody you don't even know. It's not wise, no offense. He could be a crazy person for all you know!!Anyways, goodluck! my 2 cents ------------------My Chart!" Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why it is called the present." -Joan Rivers"Be who u rand say what u feelcuz those who matter dont mind& those who mind don't matter" -Dr.Seuss"Never mistake silence for ignorance, calmness for acceptance, or kindness for weakness." -Carson KolhoffPlutoSurvivorEven though some say blood is thicker than water, it is relationship that makes family. I have mixed feelings about being contacted by a long lost sibling. If it were a half-brother/sister I would be less eager to want to be tracked down, yet i have to admit that the thought of meeting an additional family member with the exact same genetic history would intrigue me. For you, if it is so important to know who this person is you should follow your heart to find out. That's the first step. It doesn't involve the other persons feelings or choices. Then, after finding out, you can see how you feel about making contact, what feels right to you, and not to him. What feels right to you is most important at the time. If you have mixed feelings than there is an unalignment within you and that has to be sorted out in order to move forward with ease. PlutoSurvivorYour life is not a joke. Nobody but you can decide that. There is a movie for you to watch, about this, sort of (dont want to give away the details) with Sharon Stone. It's an older movie where she fulfills her mother's dying wish which in the end reveals a family relationship secret that was hidden from her. It's called, Tears In The Rain.
He is supposedly 5 years older than I, so 42.
My Q is: if you were someone´s brother/sister (unknowingly) and then this sister/brother popped up out of the blue, would this be a good or bad thing for you??
I have kinda felt his presence for a year (I have NEVER met him, seen him once when I was 12 or so) and I am wondering why this feeling is in me. Maybe he needs help or somehow knows I exist??
Oh...I also think my view on men and how I treat them would change for the better if I had a brother or someone to look up to. I can be wrong in this.
Wait... well he/she would have to be my full brother/sister, otherwise it would cause complications. My parents would seriously try to off each other.
It'd be cool, especially if he/she liked me too...
A male role model would be nice but isn't necessary.
Your life is what you make of it. Be strong.
So, it is a matter of what this unknown sibling is all about because I have had my share of encounters with people who appear sorta heartless and unconcerned. It's like I am a patch of super glue for these types and they will put on a false front at first, appearing to be concerned and nice only to get something out of it which I don't really feel like giving a lot of the time, then they hold it against me. A genuine type who has no ulterior motive would indeed be a refreshing change over the bitter, what's-in-it-for-me self servers.
I think you shouldn't place who you look up to on somebody you don't even know. It's not wise, no offense. He could be a crazy person for all you know!!
Anyways, goodluck! my 2 cents
------------------My Chart!" Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why it is called the present." -Joan Rivers
"Be who u rand say what u feelcuz those who matter dont mind& those who mind don't matter" -Dr.Seuss
"Never mistake silence for ignorance, calmness for acceptance, or kindness for weakness." -Carson Kolhoff
For you, if it is so important to know who this person is you should follow your heart to find out. That's the first step. It doesn't involve the other persons feelings or choices. Then, after finding out, you can see how you feel about making contact, what feels right to you, and not to him. What feels right to you is most important at the time. If you have mixed feelings than there is an unalignment within you and that has to be sorted out in order to move forward with ease.
There is a movie for you to watch, about this, sort of (dont want to give away the details) with Sharon Stone. It's an older movie where she fulfills her mother's dying wish which in the end reveals a family relationship secret that was hidden from her. It's called, Tears In The Rain.
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