It's to BE with yourself IN the pain, and be Still, and Breathe, and take care of your needs (food, warmth, comfort), sit WITH your Innerchild and 'allow' things to process.You might write in a journal, draw, listen to some music (not the kind that urge you to destroy yourself), get out in nature and look at little creatures, the children, the Beauty of foliage and bark on the trees. Pick out small artistic details in your environment outside, or indoors enjoy how the lines of walls come together, the texture of the tile or carpet, the little dust lint... a little ant.
While you look at that, let your inner senses let go, be 'soft' inside, and let the throbs take their course. Focus down in your belly. Be in the quiet place inside it.
Self care, self care, self care....
Let go of stress,
let go of 'needing' to think (if you can).... Keep releasing the thoughts, and stay inward. Just "be" ... Move, sit, walk around, Be.
Some other people like to go the physical route of exercise, cleaning projects.... As you clean, clear your head.... 'wax on, wax off' (ref Karate Kid)
Some people like to take salt baths, sweats. Good hot showers... Then wear clothing that feels good to you.
Sometimes for me, I'll turn the television on without the sound, and just watch the scenery. The pretty colors, lines.
If you believe in God, spend time saying prayers, asking God to help. Read The Psalms (very comforting) in the Bible. (Read whatever inspirational literature that belongs to your own belief system.)
And Waiting. ..... Knowing that 'this too shall pass'. There's another day coming. This is only temporary and in a few days or weeks and months (hopefully-- depending on the transit?) it WILL have gone by. There WILL be some new sense that will come out of things....
Write a poem--- and come post it in the Yellow Wax Forum. There are some wise kind and gentle souls there who will 'hold space' with you and your words.
Just a few ideas..... Blessings!
Yota13--- I LOVED what you said!! "Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
(You must be an eastern religion? ... I think I Understand what you meant. There's that very small quiet still deep deep InnerOuter place.)
Omg, reminds me of this older song--- I remember hearing stories that she wrote this about a guru she had found. (re Krishna Csness?)
You showed me how to turn down the noise in my mind...
Now I haven't got time for the pain.
Suffering was the only thing made me feel I was alive;
Thought that's just how much it 'cost' to survive in this world--
Until you showed me 'how' to open up and drink in all that white light
Pouring down from the Heavens...
(music) Haven't Got Time For The Pain (Carly Simon, 1974) [3:54] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RuMLBhrKHsA
This is another piece of music from a Christian-type background (which has been my own base-expression and filter).
This particular song is not overtly "religious", but if you are a person of Faith (and sensing subtle-energies), you can sense a warm Presence of Comfort within it.
Cloak yourself with the comfort of the palpable energetic robes of Faith.
Into ascended-masters?, you'll like this one.
This has a lightening bittersweet effect, for those in the throes and darker part of their pain still....
After you've done ALL you can,
you just Stand.
(music) Stand (Donnie McClurkin) [5:20] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RuMLBhrKHsA
Peace! ....